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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and we're dedicating this episode to a critical, yet often unseen, aspect of abuse: coercive control and its devastating financial aftermath.While the UK and Spain have introduced progressive laws—the UK's Controlling or Coercive Behaviour offence (Serious Crime Act 2015) and Spain's pioneering gender violence legislation (Law 1/2004)—recognising psychological manipulation as a severe form of abuse, the gap between the law's intent and practical use is huge. In this episode, your host shares her five-year survivor's ordeal navigating legal intimidation and litigation abuse within the Spanish system. Exposes how an abuser's financial power and flawed judicial ruling can lead to re-victimisation and poverty, as civil property laws often override the safety and welfare mandated by gender violence legislation.Key Takeaways Coercive Control is a Pattern, Not an Incident: Effective prosecution requires proving a "course of conduct"—a sustained pattern of psychological and financial abuse. When the justice system reduces a long-term pattern of control to a single, minor offence, it allows the severe abuse to escape proper classification.Financial Power Weaponises the Law: Abusers use litigation abuse (legal bullying) in civil courts to continue control post-separation. Financially powerful perpetrators can overwhelm survivors, forcing them into resource-intensive legal battles where courts prioritise property rights over the underlying context of gender violence.The Systemic Failure to Implement Law: Both the UK and Spanish legal systems struggle with low conviction rates. This stems from a lack of in-depth professional training for police, prosecutors, and judges on coercive control theory. This failure grants abusers impunity while leaving survivors broken and often destitute.The Necessity of Documentation: Since perpetrators often leave no physical evidence, gathering comprehensive evidence is crucial. The survivor documented their journey using emails, texts, and diary entries to highlight the gaps and failures in the system.Best Moments "The UK law was introduced to fill a *gap in the legal system**. Campaigners... argued that [traditional laws] failed to capture the insidious, sustained pattern of non-physical abuse that defines coercive control." "My experience highlights the gap between the law’s intent and its real-world impact. While the law itself was a huge step, its practical implementation has faced significant challenges." "The legal system (particularly the civil courts) often defaults to traditional interpretations of property rights and financial contracts over the survivor’s welfare and safety mandated by the 2004 law." "For the survivor, the process itself... becomes a devastating act of state-sanctioned re-victimisation."ResourcesIf you are experiencing institutional sexist violence, the Observatory of Institutional Gender Violence Against Women (OVIM) provides a channel to document cases and stories anonymously.For more information on coercive control, consult organisations like Women’s Aid and Refuge (UK), and SEA Surviving Economic Abuse.

Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine welcomes Dr. Cornelia Kawann, an electrical engineer turned Personal Energy Strategist. Cornelia works to show busy women how to manage their energy—their most precious asset—instead of merely focusing on time management. They discuss the power of energy hacks, the challenges of writing a book quickly, and why addressing energetic blocks is essential for long-term success. Cornelia explains that by managing their energy, women can ensure they have the vitality needed to follow their goals, make an impact, and live the life they truly desire. Best MomentsScience of Personal Energy: Cornelia, a scientist by background, explains she found many similarities between electric energy principles, like Ohm’s law and resistance, and personal energy, leading her to experiment and develop her energy strategies. Rapid Writing Process: After figuring out it made sense to compile her developed exercises into one place, Cornelia completed the first draft of her book in just 16 weeks. However, she found that the editing, formatting, and publishing process took just as long, if not longer. Overcoming Blockades: The guest highlights that long writing processes often result from "energy blockades" and limiting beliefs (like shame or fear of failure) holding authors back. She stresses the importance of looking into and removing these internal blocks to allow flow. Heart-Brain Exercise: Cornelia shares a practical, easy energy hack for achieving an optimal state of efficiency: place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your forehead, and state, "I bring my heart and brain into coherence now." This exercise helps synchronise the heart and brain cycles to "calibrate the system". Healing Trauma Without Reliving It: Cornelia notes that her energy work is particularly effective for people with traumas because the method focuses on removing problematic frequencies and stored emotions without requiring the client to re-enter the difficult situation, thus avoiding re-traumatisation. Key Takeaways Energy Management: If you feel miserable, focusing solely on time management is ineffective. Energy is your most precious asset, and managing it ensures you have the power to live the life you want. Root Cause: Affirmations and positive beliefs can raise frequency, but they often act as a "band aid" over underlying limiting beliefs. For a sustainable shift, it is necessary to identify the root cause of the problem—which manifests as a low frequency—and remove it from your energy system. Internal Blockages: If things are not working out as expected in life or business (such as publishing delays), it's important to look inward and address internal fears or energies that may be preventing progress. Links To Connect to Dr Cornelia Kawann Check out my book “Change Your Energy – Change Your Life”Get my complementary e-book: Energetic Stress Management - The New Way to Deal With StressWebsite LinkedInPodcast Host Loraine Support My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In This weeks episode Loraine covers Mindset shift (Permission to start over), Practical strategy (The zero-based restart), and New beginning (Taking confident action).5 Best MomentsRedefining Your Enough: Loraine shares that recovery isn't about dwelling on what you've lost, but about redefining your enough. Instead of focusing on past numbers, we must redefine success based on a feeling of security and peace, identifying our "current enough" starting today.The Forced Financial Declutter : Financial setbacks should be viewed as a forced financial declutter, not a failure. The upside is gaining total clarity and the wisdom of experience, which becomes a vital asset.The Wisdom Bank and Zero-Based Approach : The concept of the Experience and Skills Audit, or "Wisdom Bank," is introduced. This involves thinking about skills unconsciously mastered over the past 40 years—through employment, hobbies (like gardening or cooking), or creative pursuits—which can be monetised by becoming a niche content creator.Low-Cost Launch Strategy : The true zero-based approach involves getting started with a low-cost launch, utilising tools you already possess, like your mobile phone camera and existing knowledge. The only investment required is time and consistency.AI as Your Digital Mentor : Loraine suggests using AI tools (like Gemini, Google, or Perplexity) as a free business mentor and problem solver, providing clarity and guidance to overcome blocks. A powerful prompt example is shared to analyse time tracking against 90-day goals and suggest effective changes.5 Key TakeawaysPermission to Start Over: When facing financial devastation, emotional thinking is often driven by fear and uncertainty, screwing up decision-making capacity. Grant yourself permission to let go of the past and start over, moving away from dwelling on what you’ve lost.Success via Small Decisions: Success is achieved through a series of consistent small decisions made daily, not through one big leap or single finish line. Use a Decision Audit to ensure your daily actions are moving you closer to your goal of consistent monthly income ("your current enough").Monetise Your Expertise: Leverage your unique experience, resilience, and knowledge—your most valuable assets—and turn them into shareable content. There are many ways to monetise, even before reaching traditional follower counts, such as offering coaching or selling digital products.Strategic Content Batching: Plan your daily actions in advance and schedule them. A practical step is to choose one day per week to batch create short videos (7, 15, or 60 seconds) to ensure you have a week's or month's worth of content scheduled and ready to post.Define and Achieve 90-Day Goals: Clarity on what you want to achieve in the next 90 days makes it easier to determine the necessary actions you should be taking on your journey toward financial security. The goal is to use the clarity gained from the zero-based restart to fuel intentional movement towards your new financial goal.LINKSSupport My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me A CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

IntroductionOn this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall tackles the journey of recovering from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse. Drawing on her own story and others, Loraine explores post-separation "litigation abuse," the systemic challenges survivors face, and how to turn trauma into a powerful force for advocacy and change.5 Best MomentsThe Vow to Write: The night her relationship ended, Loraine made a vow: "I'm going to write the book". She shares how this pivotal decision was the first step in reclaiming her story, leading to her book's publication.Vindication in Court: Loraine recounts her stunning legal victory in a Spanish court, where she faced serious criminal allegations that carried a potential 17-year prison sentence. She reveals the moment of ultimate triumph when all charges were completely dismissed.The Birth of an Advocate: Learn the inspiring story of Tina Swithin, who started her blog "One Mum's Battle" in 2011 to document a decade-long family court struggle. Discover how her personal battle transformed into a global educational resource, helping thousands of women.The Unmarried Woman's Plight: Loraine exposes a critical legal loophole, explaining how family laws in the UK and much of Europe often fail to protect unmarried women. This legal gap leaves many financially devastated after a long-term, controlling relationship ends.From Survivor to Coach: An empowering call to action reveals how lived experience with trauma is a valuable asset. Lorraine explains how survivors can channel their journey into positive action, becoming certified coaches and advocates to help others who are struggling.5 Key TakeawaysEmpowerment Begins with Education: Abusers often work to destroy a partner's self-esteem. Reclaim your independence by educating yourself through books, online courses, or volunteering to gain new skills, increase earning potential, and rebuild your self-worth.Recognise the Multiple Faces of Abuse: Abuse isn't just emotional; it often involves financial entrapment that makes leaving feel impossible. After separation, it can become "litigation abuse," where the legal system itself is weaponised to maintain power and control.Your Story Has Power: Sharing your experience through a blog or book, as both Lorraine and Tina Swithin did, is a profound form of healing. Your story can create a community and become a vital educational resource for others who feel alone.Understand the System's Shortcomings: Be aware that family courts are often ill-equipped to handle cases involving parents with personality disorders who manipulate the process. If you are unmarried, you may lack the financial and legal protections given to married couples in the UK and much of Europe.Transform Your Trauma into a Positive Force: Your lived experience is an asset that can be transformed into something positive. With training and support, you can use your unique insights to become a certified coach or advocate, helping other women overcome the very traumas you have survived.Support My Recovery and Content Creation Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this episode, your host, Loraine Marshall, covers the subject of post-separation abuse, drawing on her own experiences over the last five years. Loraine structures the episode by asking and answering seven questions, exposing what this form of abuse looks like, who is most at risk, and its profound impact on a survivor's life.5 Best Moments1. Loraine contrasts a typical breakup with post-separation abuse. Most couples can negotiate terms through discussion or mediation, but post-separation abuse occurs when a dominant, high-conflict personality is determined to use litigation and control from the outset, offering their ex-partner no say in the matter. It's their way or no way at all.2. Loraine shares how she only realised her own relationship had been abusive at its end. The most shocking point was when her lawyer advised her to file a complaint of gender violence with the police, a moment that was a "massive shock" and highlighted the hidden nature of coercive control.3. Loraine offers a transformative perspective on the psychological aftermath of abuse. She argues that post-traumatic stress (PTS) from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse should not be seen as a "disorder". Instead, it should be classified as a "personal injury"—a natural response to trauma, just as a broken bone is an injury from physical violence.4. The manipulative tactic abusers use is known as DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. Loraine explains how abusers deny any wrongdoing and attack the real victim, twisting the narrative so completely that the victim is portrayed as the abuser. She shares that she was personally caught up in this type of situation.5. How the legal system can re-traumatise survivors. Loraine highlights how some solicitors advise women not to mention the abuse in family court proceedings, leaving them unable to speak about what happened. This, combined with a lack of understanding of high-conflict personalities by judges and legal professionals, can lead to prolonged litigation abuse that traps women for five to ten years.5 Key Takeaways1. The period after a breakup can be the most dangerous time for a victim of a controlling relationship. The abuser's need for control can heighten when they feel they are losing their "possession," leading to escalated aggression, threats, and intimidation.2. The legal disparity between married and unmarried couples. In the UK and across much of Europe, cohabiting partners are not covered by family laws for financial settlements unless they have a prior written agreement. This leaves the economically weaker party, often the woman, with little legal recourse.3. Post-separation abuse is not a single act but a pattern of behaviour. It can include intimidation through texts and emails, stalking (both in-person and online), threats of litigation, and financial coercion through derisory settlement ultimatums with no room for negotiation.4. The chronic stress from post-separation abuse has severe consequences for a survivor's well-being. It can lead to psychological impacts like loss of self, PTSD, and anxiety, as well as physical manifestations such as a weakened immune system and heart or stomach issues.5. Survivors are often stuck in "survival mode" and cannot begin to rebuild their lives until all litigation is over. The constant stress erodes self-confidence and affects memory, making it incredibly difficult to find employment, manage finances, or even perform daily tasks like getting out of bed.Support My Recovery and Content Creation Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Host Loraine Marshall returns after a break, revisiting a chapter from her first book. She shares the transcript of a deeply personal meeting held five years ago. What was intended as a discussion about financial proposals after a breakup quickly escalated, leading to civil and criminal litigation for various offences, including defamation, harassment, and theft. Loraine reflects on this harrowing experience, highlighting the one-sided nature of the meeting and the verbal aggression she endured.Key Moments & TakeawaysThe meeting was not a negotiation; it was an imposition of demands. From the start, Loraine's ex-partner shut down her alternative proposals, stating she "hadn't listened" to what he wanted. He then told her to "go away and think about it," despite her already having a detailed proposal prepared. This demonstrated his complete disregard for her input.Loraine reveals a history of control and verbal abuse that preceded the meeting. She reflects on her inability to communicate effectively with him, a pattern that began after he confessed to an affair. She realised he consistently used verbal aggression—raising his voice, saying "nasty" things, and getting angry—to silence her. This created a dynamic where her voice was suppressed.The severity of his behaviour was underscored when a Spanish solicitor, after hearing a recorded clip of the meeting, advised Loraine to file a gender violence complaint. In the clip, her ex-partner is heard using aggressive and threatening language, while banging his fist down on the glass table, shouting, "I'll make it the 15th of fucking November if I want to. Don't fuck about with me. I've told you 4 months.".Throughout the meeting, he employed threats and belittling remarks to maintain dominance. He warned her, "You've had one strike already," and told her to "just be careful how you tread," suggesting her future security depended on him. He further escalated his aggression by calling her a "fucking bleeding heart, post-menopausal, sad old bitch."This single meeting didn't bring about an amicable end to the relationship. Instead, it marked the beginning of legal intimidation for Loraine, who was left in confusion, fear, trauma, and financially vulnerable. She describes being left without work and limited savings, with her ex-partner referring to her as "collateral damage." The situation post-discard ultimately led to her ex-partner taking both civil litigation for eviction and criminal allegations for defamation, slander, harassment, revealing secrets, misappropriation, theft, and damages.Support My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me A CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Listener discretion is advised *Language Warning* strong, potentially offensive language.In this deeply personal episode, Loraine shares her experience of psychological and economic abuse within an intimate relationship in Spain. Drawing on her lived reality and reflecting against the GREVIO report on Spain’s implementation of the Istanbul Convention, she uncovers the systemic failings of legal, judicial, and social support structures meant to protect women. From conflicting legal advice to court-appointed lawyers who failed her, and the trauma of eviction proceedings where her voice was silenced, Loraine exposes how women, especially foreign nationals, can be retraumatised by institutions meant to help them. This episode is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the hidden dynamics of financial control and legal manipulation in abusive relationships.Best Moments“Stay in the property. Call the police if threatened. Negotiate.”— The legal advice Loraine received, which contrasts sharply with what she later learned about prohibited mediation in abuse cases.“You’ll leave with nothing.” A chilling shift from an agreed financial settlement to hostile legal actions by her ex-partner.“I was denied a voice to speak.” Loraine’s description of the eviction hearing, where, despite securing a translator, no one asked her to testify or present her evidence.“Imagine you’re struggling in the sea…” A powerful metaphor captures the despair of economic abuse, likening it to an abuser snatching away a lifeline while watching the victim drown.“He said: ‘Your future security depends on having me on your side." A direct quote that exemplifies coercion, power imbalance, and the emotional manipulation central to economic violence.Key Takeaways Legal Systems Often Fail to Protect Survivors - inconsistent legal representation, poor communication, and ignorance of international conventions leave survivors vulnerable.Economic Abuse Is a Hidden, Ongoing Form of Control - Post-breakup financial manipulation—like withdrawing settlement offers or initiating costly litigation—can trap survivors in prolonged trauma.Mediation in Abuse Cases Is Prohibited—But Still Happens - Despite Article 48 of the Istanbul Convention, survivors are often pushed into negotiation with abusers under the guise of “amicable” settlements.Being a Foreigner Adds Layers of Vulnerability - Language barriers, lack of support networks, and discriminatory treatment from legal and social systems increase risks for migrant women.There Must Be Accountability and Continuity in Legal Support - Survivors need consistent legal help from professionals trained to identify abuse patterns—not just procedural conflict, so they are not silenced or misrepresented.Research Documents“Spain – Istanbul Convention Action against violence against women and domestic violence”STUDY OF ECONOMIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARTNERS OR EX-PARTNERS PDFSEA: https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Will The Real Victim Please Stand Up? How can professionals tell who is the real victim after a relationship with the Narcissist ends?In this powerful episode, Loraine looks at the aftermath of narcissistic abuse—how professionals, courts, and even loved ones often struggle to identify the "real victim" when a toxic relationship ends.Let me tell you about Skool. https://successwithloraine.com/skool-sign-up Narcissists are master manipulators, rewriting history, gaslighting, and playing the victim to evade accountability. Meanwhile, actual survivors are left traumatised, isolated, and struggling to articulate their pain. Drawing from personal experience, expert insights (like Dr. Ramani’s), and harrowing case studies, we expose the stark differences between a "false victim" (the narcissist) and an "actual victim" (the survivor). If you’ve ever wondered why victims aren’t believed—or how abusers weaponise the system—this episode is for you. Best Moments from the Episode: 1. Dr. Ramani’s Stark Truth: "All domestic abusers are narcissistic. Zero empathy, incredible arrogance—that’s narcissism." 2. The Survivor’s Fog: Why true victims often sound "chaotic" when recounting abuse, while narcissists deliver smooth, calculated lies. 3. DARVO Exposed: How narcissists *Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender* to manipulate professionals. 4. Courtroom Betrayal: The shocking reality of how survivors are re-traumatised by legal systems that dismiss covert abuse. 5. Life After Abuse: Why true victims isolate themselves, while narcissists move on instantly—new relationships, social media bragging, and no remorse. Equality Now - Human Rights Issues https://equalitynow.org/news_and_insights/weaponizing-defamation-lawsuits-against-survivors-violates-international-human-rights/ Key Takeaways: 1. Spot the Patterns: True victims show PTSD symptoms (anxiety, confusion); false victims appear detached, entitled, and hyper-articulate. 2. Trauma vs. Tactics: Survivors self-blame and grieve; narcissists weaponise victimhood to "win" at all costs. 3. Systemic Failure: Courts often mistake a survivor’s anger for instability while believing the narcissist’s charm. 4. Silence Isn’t Consent: Many victims don’t report abuse due to fear, trauma bonds, or shame—not because it didn’t happen. 5. Healing is Possible: Recovery starts with therapy, community, and the realisation that you were never the problem. Support the Mission: Help raise awareness of hidden abuse—share this episode, grab a copy of my book, or donate to support survivors. 💛 #justiceforsurvivors Buy My BookWhat Type Of Man? The updated 2024 Version.Amazon US : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDHIf you live in the UK https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxSupport LifeChangePlans https://donorbox.org/support-life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Narc Narc Who's There - Podcaster and Author Dana Diaz. In this powerful episode, Loraine sits down with bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker Dana Diaz to discuss the harrowing yet transformative journey of surviving narcissistic abuse. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships, Dana shares her story of resilience, healing, and reclaiming self-worth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who’s experienced manipulation, gaslighting, or emotional abuse—and seeks the strength to break free.5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:Narcissistic Abuse Follows a Predictable CycleLove-bombing, devaluation, and discard phases keep victims trapped in hope and confusion.Childhood Trauma Sets the StageDysfunctional upbringing (e.g., parentification, emotional neglect) primes individuals to tolerate abuse in adulthood.The Physical Toll of AbuseProlonged stress can manifest as autoimmune disorders, chronic illness, or extreme weight loss (Dana’s lung syndrome).Financial Control as a WeaponNarcissists exploit financial dependence to maintain power, then blame victims for "using" them.Healing Requires Rebuilding Self-TrustSetting boundaries, therapy, and writing (like Dana’s journal-to-book journey) are critical to recovery.5 BEST MOMENTS:"He was trying to kill me without getting his hands dirty."Dana’s chilling realization about her ex-husband’s psychological warfare."I internalized the words: ‘Nobody will ever love you.’"How childhood verbal abuse shaped Dana’s vulnerability to toxic relationships.The COVID Journal of SurvivalDana hid a journal under the couch during lockdown, fearing her ex would murder her and stage it as an accident."If my daughter told me this, I’d rescue her—yet I stayed."Dana's reflection on the disconnect between self-worth and protecting loved ones."Abuse is abuse, and an a-hole is an a-hole."The blunt truth about narcissists’ universal playbook, regardless of geography or laws.You can discover more at https://danasdiaz.com/Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineSuccess By Loraine Merch is Sold on AmazonNarcissist Aware and SelfCare Collectionshttps://successwithloraine.com/merch/Zoom coaching sessions are 1:1 or appear on my podcast.I’ll spend forty minutes with you to help guide you or listen to your story.Or join me on Mindset, Money, SuccessLet's chat & record a Podcast Episode together. Let's Go!https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine/e/385914Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine shares her four-year battle with a legal system that failed her as a survivor. Through her lived experience, she reveals misguided legal advice and legal barriers faced by women seeking justice. If you’ve ever felt silenced by the system, this episode is for you.Survival Funds - Support the Podcast5 Key Takeaways: Legal Systems Often Fail Survivors: How victims are frequently dismissed, given conflicting advice, or pressured into actions they’re uncomfortable with. Advocacy: Without a lawyer who truly listened or advocated for her needs, survivors face bureaucratic dead ends—highlights the critical need for trauma-informed legal representation. Hidden Abuse Goes Unrecognized: Her case was downgraded from psychological abuse to minor verbal abuse by the courts, exposing how systems minimize non-physical violence. Financial Coercion as a Weapon: Manipulation continued through broken financial promises (reneged offers for a monetary settlement), a tactic many survivors face. :Staying Strong: Despite setbacks, Loraine persisted—researching laws, writing a book, and fighting for her rights—proving survival is possible even when systems work against you. 5 Best Moments: Solicitor’s Shocking Advice (0:13–4:12) The lawyer insisted she file a gender violence complaint, ignoring her plea for negotiation—a pivotal failure in the system. Triggering Legal Threats (10:47–11:17) The gut-wrenching email from her ex’s lawyer: "The judge will order your eviction—you have no rights in this country."Courtroom Betrayal (19:02–20:21) A lawyer dismissed evidence, reducing years of abuse to "one minor verbal incident"—a stark example of systemic failure. Appeal Denied (22:44–23:48) The free lawyer wouldn't appeal —another institutional failure. Systemic Failures (26:09–26:26) “These are the systemic failures in the system. There should be a set process in place so that when someone presents with the issue, they can go through this or that. There should be a flow chart of how to proceed.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wellness, Writing, and Winning: A Conversation with Katie Gauthier #mindset #money #success In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall sits down with Katie Gauthier, an international bestselling author, wellness coach, and yoga teacher. Katie shares her journey of co-authoring the book Becoming the Manifesting Diva: Making Ripples While You Flow, which became an instant bestseller across multiple countries. Together, they dive into the power of mindset, overcoming trauma, and how to reframe limiting beliefs to create a life of success and fulfilment. Katie also opens up about her unique approach to coaching, blending yoga and mindset work to help clients release emotional blockages and thrive. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, collaboration, and the importance of moving forward, no matter the setbacks.5 Key Takeaways:Mindset is Everything: Katie emphasizes that most challenges stem from negative self-beliefs or mindset blocks. By addressing these, individuals can unlock their potential and create lasting change.Trauma-Informed Coaching: Katie’s approach combines mindset coaching with yoga to help clients release emotional and physical blockages, especially those rooted in trauma.The Power of Collaboration: Katie’s journey as a co-author highlights the importance of collaboration and how working with others can lead to incredible opportunities, like becoming an international bestselling author.Reframing Setbacks: Both Loraine and Katie discuss how setbacks can be reframed as opportunities for growth. By asking, “What is this trying to teach me?” you can turn challenges into stepping stones.Resilience in the Face of Adversity: Loraine shares her personal story of overcoming trauma and legal battles, emphasizing the importance of persistence and self-belief in the face of life’s toughest challenges.5 Best Moments:Katie’s Bestseller Journey: Katie shares how she became a co-author of an international bestselling book, Becoming the Manifesting Diva, and the serendipitous connections that made it possible. (00:02:00)The Intersection of Yoga and Mindset: Katie explains how she blends yoga with mindset coaching to help clients release emotional blockages and reconnect with their true selves. (00:10:00)Loraine’s Story of Resilience: Loraine opens up about her traumatic experiences, including a toxic relationship and legal battles, and how she found the strength to keep moving forward. (00:25:00)Reframing Limiting Beliefs: Katie discusses her process of helping clients reframe limiting beliefs, turning self-doubt into empowerment. (00:15:00)Celebrating Failure: Both Loraine and Katie talk about the importance of learning from failure and how it can be a powerful tool for growth. (00:40:00)Find Katie on Instagram @therealkatieofalltradesTips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏Support the Podcast - https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineAmazon Merch - https://successwithloraine.com/merch/Connect on other Platforms: https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsIf you’re interested in being a guest on the podcast or booking a 1:1 Zoom session with me, head over to: https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine/e/38591 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine emphasizes the key role of mindset in achieving financial freedom, particularly for women over 40 facing life-altering events. Drawing from her personal experiences of financial insecurity after betrayal and loss, Loraine identifies common blocks such as fear, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma, and financial dependency. Loraine then offers practical steps and mindset shifts to overcome these obstacles, encouraging listeners to adopt an abundance mindset, hold onto courage, take financial ownership, and develop self-worth. An encouraging guide for women seeking to rebuild their lives and achieve financial independence by focusing on internal strength and proactive steps.5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:* Mindset is the fundamental key to achieving financial freedom, especially for women over 40 navigating significant life changes like divorce, loss, or betrayal. Financial freedom encompasses how we think, believe, and act, not just the amount of money we have.* Overcoming financial trauma involves recognizing and addressing common blocks such as fear and self-doubt, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma from events like betrayal and loss, and being financially dependent on others.* Shifting your mindset is crucial for building financial independence. This involves moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset, from fear to courage, from dependency to ownership of your financial decisions, and from self-doubt to self-worth.* There are practical steps you can take to shift your mindset for financial security, including using journaling prompts and daily affirmations, building a supportive network, and actively improving your financial literacy.* No matter your current circumstances, you have the power to change your financial story by making a conscious decision to shift your mindset and take control of your future. Even amidst trauma and setbacks, focusing on skill development and future plans can be empowering.5 BEST MOMENTS:* Loraine's opening, where she shares her personal experience of her planned secure financial future vanishing, immediately highlights the real-world importance of mindset in the face of unexpected life changes.* The article's direct acknowledgment that fear in these situations can stem from external sources beyond negative thoughts, adding a layer of complexity to the common advice to "feel the fear and do it anyway".* The powerful and relatable statement: "Betrayal, abandonment, and loss can shatter our sense of security and self-worth", which underscores the significant emotional impact on financial well-being.* Maya Angelou's impactful quote: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them,” offering a message of resilience and empowerment in the face of adversity.* The inclusion of concrete, actionable steps like specific journaling prompts and practical tips for improving financial literacy, providing listeners with tangible ways to start their journey towards financial freedom.Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️Merch is Sold on AmazonNarcissist Aware and SelfCare CollectionsConnect on other Platforms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall dives into the inspiring story behind her Amazon Merch t-shirt collections under the brand Success With Loraine. With two powerful collections—Narcissist Aware and Self Care—Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming emotional and financial abuse, and how she turned her pain into purpose. These collections, available on Amazon ES, UK, and US, are more than just apparel; they are wearable messages of empowerment, awareness, and self-care. Tune in to learn how Loraine created these collections to support her podcast, YouTube channel, and website while raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse.5 Key Takeaways:Raising Awareness Through Wearable Messages: Loraine’s t-shirt collections, Narcissist Aware and Self Care, are designed to spark conversations about hidden forms of abuse, such as emotional, psychological, and financial manipulation.Personal Healing Through Creativity: After experiencing a toxic relationship, Loraine channelled her pain into creating slogans like "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person" to empower victims and help them recognize their worth.Multiple Streams of Income: Loraine emphasizes the importance of diversifying income streams, especially for those rebuilding their lives after trauma. Her merch collections are one way she supports her podcast and online presence.The Importance of Boundaries: One of the slogans, "Boundaries Begin Here," highlights the need for setting clear boundaries in relationships to protect oneself from emotional harm and manipulation.Self-Care as a Path to Healing: The Self-Care collection encourages victims to prioritize their well-being through activities like journaling, yoga, and painting, reminding them that happiness is the highest form of success.5 Best Moments:The Story Behind "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person": Loraine shares how this powerful slogan reflects her experience of being treated as an object in an abusive relationship and how it resonates with many victims of hidden abuse.Creating the Narcissist Aware Collection: Loraine discusses the emotional process of designing t-shirts like "Narcissists Destroy Lives" and "Enough is Enough," which reflect the pain and empowerment of leaving toxic relationships.The Importance of Multiple Income Streams: Loraine opens up about her financial struggles after leaving her business and how creating the merch collections became a way to rebuild her life and support her podcast.The Healing Power of Self-Care: Loraine explains how the Self-Care collection was born out of her own healing journey, with slogans like "Remember You Are Amazing" and "Happiness is the Highest Form of Success."A Message of Empowerment: Loraine closes the episode with a heartfelt reminder that victims of abuse are stronger than they think, and every small step toward self-care and self-love is a step toward reclaiming their power.Don’t forget to check out the Narcissist Aware and Self Care collections on Amazon ES, UK, and US, and support Loraine’s mission to empower victims of hidden abuse.Tune in to next week's episode. Loraine is covering "Why Mindset is the Key to Financial Freedom" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming significant setbacks, including betrayal, legal battles, and emotional trauma. She offers practical advice and key lessons on how to stay motivated even when progress feels slow. Loraine emphasizes the importance of focusing on your "why," celebrating small wins, reframing setbacks, building a support system, and taking things one day at a time. Key Takeaways:1. Focus on Your "Why": Remembering your core reason for pursuing your goals can serve as an anchor during tough times. Loraine shares how her "why" kept her motivated through legal battles and emotional trauma.2. Celebrate Small Wins:Acknowledging and celebrating small victories, no matter how insignificant they seem, can boost your confidence and keep you motivated. Loraine celebrated moments like publishing her book and successfully delaying eviction.3. Reframe Setbacks as Opportunities:Instead of seeing challenges as obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth. Loraine reframed her legal battles as tests of her strength and determination.4. Build a Support System:Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Loraine found strength in online communities and support groups, which helped her feel less isolated.5. Take It One Day at a Time:Focus on the present moment and take small, manageable steps. Loraine emphasizes the importance of breaking down goals into daily tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Best Moments:1. Loraine's Personal Story of Betrayal and Resilience: Loraine opens up about the emotional and financial betrayal she faced from a former partner, setting the stage for her journey of overcoming adversity.2. Reframing Setbacks as Opportunities: Loraine discusses how she turned her legal challenges into opportunities to learn Spanish law and take control of her situation, proving her strength and determination.3. Finding Support in Online Communities:Loraine highlights the importance of finding support through online groups like "Griefhab," which helped her connect with others and even contributed to a collaborative book.5. The Power of Affirmations and Visualization: Loraine shares how she used affirmations and attended motivational seminars to stay positive and focused during her recovery journey.Practical Tips:• Create a daily routine with small, achievable goals.• Use affirmations and visualization to stay positive.• Keep a journal to track progress and reflect on your journey.• Seek inspiration from books, podcasts, coaches, or mentorsMotivational Quote:"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop"Support the Podcast: Support at buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine to help upgrade her Apple Mac laptopCheck Out Loraine's Merch: Visit [successwithloraine.com/merch] to explore Loraine's Self-Care and Narcissist Aware t-shirt collections, designed to spread awareness about hidden forms of abuse and the importance of self-care.Next Episode Teaser:In the next episode, Loraine will share the story behind her slogan t-shirts on Amazon Merch and how they tie into her mission of raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse and the importance of self-care. Stay tuned!Engage with the Podcast: If you enjoyed this episode, please like, comment, and share it with someone who might need a boost of motivation. Don’t forget to tune in next week for more inspiring content on Mindset Money Success! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine focuses on managing stress and improving mental well-being. She explores the negative impacts of stress on physical and mental health, offering practical advice such as exercise, diet, journaling, and meditation to alleviate it. The creator also discusses the importance of positive affirmations and mindful responses to criticism, promoting self-improvement and the Law of Attraction. The piece concludes by suggesting seeking professional help if needed.Key TakeawaysStress Reduction is Essential: Stress can negatively impact both mental and physical health, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and physical ailments like heart disease. Managing stress is crucial for overall well-being and achieving personal goals.Multiple methods for stress relief:  Physical exercise, a healthy diet, journaling, social interaction, setting boundaries, and meditation. A combination of these strategies may be the most effective.Mindset Matters: Maintaining a positive mindset and focusing on what is important in life can help to navigate stressful situations. Reframing negative thoughts and practising gratitude can reduce stress and improve emotional well-being.Dealing with Criticism Constructively: Learning to accept criticism and using it as an opportunity for growth can be beneficial. When facing criticism, it's important to consider the source, ask for factual evidence, and avoid reacting emotionally.Self-Awareness is Key: Recognizing when stress is overwhelming and seeking help from professionals, such as therapists, can be beneficial. Understanding one's emotional state and identifying the need for support is crucial in managing stress effectively.Best MomentsThe Importance of Movement: Physical activity as a potent stress reliever. Even small amounts of exercise, like chair yoga or dancing, can help to release tension and increase energy levels.The Power of Journaling: Focusing on the positive and gratitude, when journaling, can shift your mindset from negative to positive. This practice is noted as a tool for reducing stress and anxiety.The "I Am" Affirmations: The "I am" affirmations, combined with meditation or deep breathing exercises, can be a powerful way to circulate positive energy throughout the body.The Value of Social Connection: Having strong social ties can provide support during stressful times and reduce anxiety. Socialising can include meeting new people in person, networking online, or engaging in group activities.The Need to Say "No": Setting boundaries and avoiding overcommitment is a way to control stress and prioritise one's well-being. Learning to say no when your workload is too much is crucial. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mindset Money Success.Finding Love Again – Healing, Growth & Attracting the Right Relationship- Finding love again after loss or abandonment.- It is absolutely possible to find love again, and not just any love, but the right love.- identifying the kind of relationship you truly want- feel hopeful, empowered, and ready to take your next step toward love.- The Impact of Trauma on Relationships- Shifting the Mindset: Believing in Love Again- Your past does not dictate your future.- The right relationship is about quality, not quantity.- Healing doesn’t mean waiting for someone to rescue you.- “What do I need to do to prepare myself for the right relationship?”- "What Type of Relationship Do You Really Want?"- Practical Steps for Dating After Trauma- Love is possible for you.- The most important step? Believe in yourself first.- Takeaway for today: Write down three qualities you truly want in a partner and three ways you can start preparing yourself for that kind of relationship.If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who might need to hear this message!And if you’d like to support my work, Buy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit AssociationWatch Three D's in Relationship EndingsPodcastMerch Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Title: The Trauma of Being Falsely Accused: My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation Abuse.My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation AbuseBeing falsely accused can shatter a person’s sense of self, creating waves of emotional, mental, and even physical trauma that linger for years. I know this all too well. As an author who dared to share my truth through my self-published book, Post Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment, What Type of Man?, I never imagined the level of retaliation I would face.5 Key Takeaways:* The Devastating Impact of False Allegations – Being falsely accused can lead to severe emotional, psychological, and financial distress, often leaving victims trapped in a legal nightmare.* The Role of the Legal System in Re-Traumatization – Navigating the courts while dealing with trauma is overwhelming, especially when lawyers and professionals dismiss or ignore key evidence.* Emotional and Social Isolation – Facing accusations can result in PTSD, emotional dysregulation, and being ostracized by the community, leaving victims feeling abandoned and powerless.* Post-Separation Abuse as a Form of Control – False accusations are often used as a tactic by abusers to maintain control, discredit the victim, and inflict further harm long after the relationship ends.* The Importance of Advocacy and Support Networks – Finding the right support system, raising awareness, and speaking out about post-separation abuse can help survivors reclaim their power and heal.5 Best Moments:* The Moment of Betrayal – Discovering that a former partner had fabricated multiple criminal allegations, weaponizing the legal system as a means of revenge.* Standing Before the Court – The emotional turmoil of facing a judge while knowing the accusations were baseless, yet feeling powerless in a flawed system.* The Impact on Mental Health – The sheer exhaustion, anxiety, and trauma of fighting for justice while struggling with PTSD and isolation.* A Small Victory Amid the Chaos – The relief of having allegations dismissed, yet grappling with the long-term consequences of the ordeal.* Turning Pain Into Purpose – Using the experience to raise awareness about post-separation abuse, advocate for survivors, and inspire others to fight for justice.Grab a copy of the recommended reading: How Many More Women?https://amzn.to/42BmgXOMore Recommended Reading:https://lifechangeplans.com/shop/Read "Silencing Survivors Through Defamation"https://lifechangeplans.com/silencing-survivors-through-defamation-lawsuits/🎧 Listen now and join the conversation on how we can support survivors of false accusations and post-separation abuse.Subscribe to the Video Podcasthttps://youtu.be/k7odfQ1ETvA?si=CbBOvTM3DvDLCLw7No 1 in Self-Help For Abuse. October 2024Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man? Loren KeelingAvailable on Amazon UK: https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxOr Amazon US : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDH(This content contains affiliate links. We may earn a commission if you use these links to purchase something. Thanks.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The unlevel playing field and power imbalances.Are these power imbalances an indication of something more sinister going on?A high-conflict personality will rather litigate divorce and separation than come to the table to discuss things in a civilised adult manner. They will hide behind the legal process and have the lawyer do all the work, abuse by proxy. The high-conflict personality will have deep pockets they don’t mind spending on legal fees as they want to win at all costs. They lack empathy, have zero morals, and refuse to accept any responsibility for the abuse and psychological damage they are causing. If you do happen to engage them in mediation if the mediator is not knowledgeable about “coercive control” or “narcissistic abuse” then they will manipulate the mediator and will move the goalposts on the offers made before you can even sign an agreement they will have changed their mind again and gone one step backwards. It is so frustrating for everyone.QuoteIt is not just another high-conflict divorce or separation. There are people who can ruin your life. They will destroy your reputation, your self-esteem or your career. High-conflict personalities will think nothing of leaving you emotionally and financially devastated.https://lifechangeplans.com/not-another-high-conflict-divorce-or-separation/One Moms Battlehttps://www.onemomsbattle.com/aboutNo 1 in Self-Help For Abuse. October 2024Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?Available on Amazon UK: https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxOr Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDHStory Time Podcasthttps://youtu.be/Anu758ffGJkMy recommended readingInvisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal Systems.Amazon: https://amzn.to/4e54y1cIT’S NOT “HIGH CONFLICT” IT’S POST-SEPARATION ABUSE: When Abusers Weaponize the Courts as a Form of Retaliation Amazon: https://amzn.to/3YjID0d(This content contains affiliate links. We may earn a commission if you use these links to purchase something. Thanks.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SummaryIn this podcast episode of 'Mindset Money Success', host Loraine Marshall shares her personal experience regarding a protracted legal battle following a relationship breakdown. Loraine details events starting from January 2022, when she received an email from her former partner regarding property matters. She describes how she sought legal advice and faced eviction proceedings in Spain. Loraine explains the complexities of her situation, including the challenges of navigating Spanish legal systems, dealing with allegations from her former partner, and her efforts to negotiate a settlement. She discusses the emotional impact of these events, particularly regarding the timing of eviction notices and their connection to personal anniversaries. Loraine also shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization to help others in similar situations, detailing her business plan and funding needs. Throughout the episode, Lorraine emphasizes the importance of legal protections for non-married couples and the challenges dependent partners face in property disputes.Initial Contact and Legal ThreatsLoraine describes receiving an unexpected email from her former partner on January 6, 2022, regarding property viewing arrangements. After consulting a relationship coach, she emailed the former ex-partner to agree to accommodate the viewing under the condition that he would honour his initial financial proposal of 50% of the property value. Shortly after, she received threatening communications about potential eviction.Property Negotiations and ChallengesLoraine explains the failed property sale negotiations in mid-2021, including a three-hour meeting with her former partner. She discusses how the prospective buyers backed out due to concerns about potential eviction proceedings.Ongoing Legal Battle and Future PlansLoraine discusses the ongoing legal battle, including two attempted eviction dates in 2024 that were suspended due to social services intervention. She shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization and details her business strategy, including funding needs and project goals.Loraine's Action ItemsPlans to raise 2,400 euros to establish a nonprofit organizationIntends to launch a new business venture related to her experiencesAims to complete her second book and expand her online presence through various platforms.Continues to document her story and raise awareness about legal protections for non-married couples.When Four Months Turns Into Four Years.Join Loraine In A No Cost, Zero Commitment Support Community For Women https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we delve into the inspiring journey of Candice Mason, founder of Mother Cuppa, a herbal tea brand dedicated to women's health. Candice shares how her personal experiences, including early menopause, motivated her to create a business that empowers women through wellness-focused teas. She discusses her challenges, launching a brand in her 40s, and offers insights into her crowdfunding event when she successfully raised over £7,000 towards launching a new blend for Mother Cuppa and building a purpose-driven business.5 Key Takeaways:Mother Cuppa is a brand of herbal tea that supports women's health; Candice originally took up a UK business start-up loan to get started.Candice wanted to launch a new herbal tea blend in her product range. Asking for help from the customer base to find out what they would like. Crowdfunding was the way forward, as Candice didn't like the idea of angel investing.Support came from her husband, who assisted with the management of the rewards-based side of the campaign where there were nearly 60 female entrepreneurs who offered products and services to be sold during the campaign. Success. The target of £7,000 was achieved within two days of the end date. In fact, they exceeded the target.Candice highlights that she did not have vast numbers of followers on her Social media when she launched her crowdfunding campaign. It was all organic marketing. 5 Best Moments:Being a female founder is a bit more tricky. There are barriers for women finding funding in a more male-dominated business world.Candice launched three options to get involved in crowdfunding, straightforward donations, pre-sales and orders, and rewards offered for sale, donated by other female business founders and coaches.The crowdfunding got off to a really good start; it made £1,500 in the first three hours on launch day.Candice opens up on how she had to overcome her fears of failure before she launched. The original launch plan was January 2024. The launch opened in October 2024. The strategy was organic marketing, social media, and a teaser to pique people's interest. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.