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Author: Eliza Fricker

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A podcast about how the school system is failing autistic children


Everyone goes to school – but what happens when your child struggles to go? Often as a parent there is a sense that something more is going on causing the distress. A hard-won diagnosis of autism promises to bring the understanding and support families need. Instead, many feel like they are dropped off a cliff edge, and trauma grows in it wake.


In this powerful four-part podcast, Eliza Fricker shares her experience, and that of others, to reveal the difficult process of getting an autism diagnosis, what this means in our current education system, and asks, can we find a better way?


With the help of leading autism experts Eliza explores the pressure to “fix” children to fit in and how many children are masking their true self to survive at school. She looks at alternative ways to educate children who don’t thrive in the mainstream model. And in light of the growing mental health crisis among young people, asks how far the UK school system is out of date and in need of reform. Are schools failing not just autistic children, but everyone? 


My child wasn't broken, they didn't need to be fixed. Why was the onus on my child to fit the system – and not the system, to fit my child?” 


Currently almost two million children are regularly absent from school. Many of these will have special needs – making going to school a stressful and distressing experience. But in a system that prizes attendance over wellbeing, autistic children are forced into an environment that makes them unwell. Parents who want to safeguard their children are fined for non-attendance, and face an expensive uphill struggle to find alternative ways to educate their children. Yet there are other ways, including schools that focus on strength-based and autonomous learning. It’s in a setting like this that Eliza has seen her child heal and thrive.


How many children are being disabled by the system, not their disability?                  

                       

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The implication is that there's a gold standard human being that everybody's measured up against and if youre perceived to have flaws then you're broken in some way and you need to be fixed. But we can reframe those weaknesses” and see them as strengths. Which is rarely done with autistic children.” Kieran Rose, autistic consultant and trainer. 



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4 Episodes
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Seeing The Future

Seeing The Future

2022-05-1635:07

Seeing the FutureIn episode 4 Eliza looks at how our broken school system is not just failing autistic young people but everyone. What can be done to make it better?All children want to learn, but sometimes the school environment makes this difficult. The pressure of league tables and efficiency and standards can mean children’s needs and wellbeing take a backseat. The focus is “content”, not the child, and the fallout is growing psychological distress among young people. Reports show children in the UK are doing extremely poorly in terms of their school satisfaction, life satisfaction and subjective wellbeing. A high number of our prison population have been failed by the education system.How far is the current school system out of date and fit for purpose in the 21st century? How far is school reflective of children’s lives and their lives outside school any more? Is it time to think more creatively about how we educate?  “Lots of people don't thrive in our current educational system. We need to think about education in a much wider way. What if when children are going to school age four or five, it's not a question of which school they go to, it's a question of how are they best going to learn.” Featuring:Eliza Fricker (@_MissingTheMark)Harry Thompson (@FidgetyF_cker), author of The PDA ParadoxKieran Rose (@KieranRose7), The Autistic AdvocateDr Naomi Fisher (@naomicfisher), author of Changing Our MindsTom Vodden (@TVodden), teacher and trainerLiz Soper (@ASeatAtTheTabl4), A Seat At The TableDr Chris Bagley (@hiddendepths), Director of Research at States of MindGraham Brown-Martin (@GrahamBM), author of Learning ReimaginedResources:eliza@missingthemark.blogFacebook MissingTheMark1Missing the Mark blog Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Finding Other Ways

Finding Other Ways

2022-05-0933:04

Finding Other WaysIn episode 3 Eliza finds out what happens when you leave the school system, what recovery looks like, and what alternatives there are to mainstream education when you know you need something different. For some children the consequences of trying to go to mainstream school is devastating, and the first step when they leave is healing. Eliza talks to mum of two autistic children, Lindsey, about slowly rebuilding their children’s wellbeing and capacity to grow. She discusses homeschooling, and “special schools”, and how interest-based learning is key. Eliza visits the Self Managed Learning Centre to find out about putting autonomy first as the basis for learning, and shares her journey to finding the perfect place to learn for her child.“What if we reconceptualised “dropping out” of education as “dropping in” to a different kind of education because that’s what you need, and for that to be empowering.”Featuring:Eliza Fricker (@_MissingTheMark)Harry Thompson (@FidgetyF_cker), author of The PDA ParadoxKieran Rose (@KieranRose7), The Autistic AdvocateDr Naomi Fisher (@naomicfisher), author of Changing Our MindsDr Chris Bagley (@hiddendepths), Director of Research at States of MindDr Ian Cunningham, founder of the Self Managed Learning College Resources:eliza@missingthemark.blogFacebook MissingTheMark1Missing the Mark blog Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
A Bad Morning

A Bad Morning

2022-05-0228:36

A Bad MorningIn episode 2 Eliza looks at the tensions around school attendance, how traumatising this can be, and how children are masking their true self to survive. Currently almost two million children are regularly absent from school. Many of these will have special needs - making going to school a stressful and distressing experience. But in a system that prizes attendance over wellbeing, autistic children are forced into an environment that makes them unwell.Attendance becomes the first obstacle of many to overcome - school want children to attend regardless of their mental state, but parents know school is creating distress. Teachers want to help, but are under resourced and under pressure to maintain standards. Parents are sent on parenting courses, and get lost in a labyrinth of bureaucratic “support”. To cope at school, children learn to mask their real feelings, leading to exhaustion and burnout. Until eventually the family is at breaking point.“I saw my child closing down. She was using every element of herself to cope with getting through each day. Then eventually came a complete shutdown, the body and the mind can't do it anymore. And they are too unwell to do anything.” Featuring:Eliza Fricker (@_MissingTheMark)Tom Vodden (@TVodden), teacher and trainerLiz Soper (@ASeatAtTheTabl4), A Seat At The TableKieran Rose (@KieranRose7), The Autistic AdvocateDr Chris Bagley (@hiddendepths), Director of Research at States of MindResources:eliza@missingthemark.blogFacebook MissingTheMark1Missing the Mark blog Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Wrong Fit

The Wrong Fit

2022-04-2526:14

The Wrong FitIn episode 1 Eliza hears what it’s like to struggle to go to school and why getting a diagnosis of autism doesn’t always bring the support and understanding families need.For children with autism, school can be an overwhelming and traumatic place. Sensory overload, the requirement to sit still for hours on end, can result in behaviour that’s misunderstood as naughty. Many children become too unwell to go to school, leading to fines and threats for prosecution for parents. Families can wait years for a diagnosis of autism, which promises to be the gateway to the help they need. Too often this isn’t the case, and the onus is on the child to be “fixed” to fit the system, not the system to support the child. “My child wasn't broken, they didn't need to be fixed. Why were we trying to do this?”Featuring:Eliza Fricker (@_MissingTheMark)Harry Thompson (@FidgetyF_cker), author of The PDA ParadoxKieran Rose (@KieranRose7), The Autistic AdvocateDr Naomi Fisher (@naomicfisher), author of Changing Our MindsDr Chris Bagley (@hiddendepths), Director of Research at States of MindGraham Brown-Martin (@GrahamBM), author of Learning ReimaginedResources:eliza@missingthemark.blogFacebook MissingTheMark1Missing the Mark blog Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Megan Gazdik Stoaks

Amazing... so well done!!! Thank you, Eliza. Your artistry in this podcast is truly apparent, and as a neurodivergent artist with 3 neurodivergent girls, I can completely relate to your journey. 👍❤

May 28th
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