Neurotic Nourishment

Neurotic Nourishment Season Three, Episode 15: Part Two: The Strength to Move   In this second part of our two-part series about Jan and Alan Canty, Jan discusses the fallout of life as she knew it. Jan candidly explores with me the times when she kinda should have maybe known that something was up with her husband of so very many years who turned to a young prostitute for love and affection after Jan -- well, after Jan grew up, for lack of a better wording.    Spoiler alert: Today Jan is an amazing bad-ass, working on her second book, and very much ready to tell the story that once defined her, but no longer does.   If you want to learn more about Jan -- and you should -- you should check out her current book, A Life Divided, and keep an eye out for her second book, which will be released within the next 12 to 18 months.    To find out more about Dr. Canty, you can find her at jancantyphd.com.

Season Three, Episode 14: Part One: My Husband Died Living A Life I Never Knew Existed When Jan met Dr. Alan Canty, a well-known, well-respected Detroit Psychiatrist, he was eighteen years her senior and quickly became not only her employer, but her biggest cheerleader as well. She proposed to him, suddenly and out of the blue, and their wedding was picked at random when Jan pointed her finger at a calendar. Under Al's guidance, Jan would go from receptionist to college student to a licensed psychologist completing a post-doctorate fellowship.  Join me as Jan and I have a painfully candid conversation about what the fuck you do when you discover that your husband has a mistress who is in the sex industry -- and that he has handed over close to $140,000 to her and her pimp. And when Al runs out of money? He dies.  This is a two-part episode, the second half of which will be released next week. But...if you would prefer not to wait a week, feel free to join our Patreon at the $5 level and you will have immediate access to the rest of Dr. Jan Canty's story as well as 20 other bonus episodes. 

Season Three, Episode 13: Murder, Margaritas and Mayhem: Talk Murder to Me You all know about my rapidly growing true crime addiction, so you can only imagine how friggin' excited I was when my guest of a few weeks ago, Dr. Marianne Matzo, happened to mention that her niece hosted a true-crime podcast -- and holy crap, her niece is Nicole LaPorte Perry, one of the three co-hosts of one of my favorite podcasts, Talk Murder to Me! Listening to their podcast is a lot like sitting around a campfire listening to one of your friends tell ghost stories. Jon Perry does the research and editing and then tells the story to the incredibly in the dark and unknowing Nicole and their former roommate, Jen Collins.  Have a listen as I scare the crap out of Jon and Nicole with my creepy stalking/intimate knowledge of their podcast. Find out more about the Talk Murder to Me podcast at talkmurder.com,  on Twitter at https://twitter.com/talkmurder,  on Stitcher at https://www.stitcher.com/show/talk-murder-to-me ,  and on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdyQTnX-4da3gPSyxAwitwA

Neurotic Nourishment Season Three, Episode 12: All Expert Testimony Is Opinion Warning: If you're not into bloody crime scenes, this episode *probably* isn't for you. Seriously. Maybe you just skip this one, just this one time, of course. In today's episode I get to geek out with Anita Zannin, an expert in Blood Spatter Pattern Analysis. Seriously, guys, don't call it blood spatter, that's just a sign of a newbie, or nub as my kids annoyingly and seemingly randomly say.  If you're wondering how Anita came to be an expert in scientific gore, the answer is pretty simple: Kinda by accident. She majored in chemistry, didn't like it, worked in the medical field, still not quite the right fit, was interested in law but not so much being a lawyer, and when an opportunity came up to work with Herb McDonnel, one of the foremost experts in crime scenes who just so happened to testify in the O.J. Simpson case, and no biggie, also trained Henry Lee, a name you might recognize from, oh, I don't know, the Jon Benet Ramsey case, Laci Peterson, and Caylee Anthony, Anita was up for the challenge! Also, if you are into true crime and you haven't listened to Unraveled, hosted by Billy Jensen and Alexis Linkletter, it's time to pause this podcast and head on over there. Seriously, I won't be offended. They are absolutely fucking amazing. In their first season they tackled the Long Island Serial Killer case in a way that *actually* made me interested. And in their latest season, season number three, Anita Zannin appears on the show to explain the facts of forensic evidence -- which are much less glamorous than the story the prosecutors like to weave them into.  I guess what I'm saying is that *technically* since Anita came on my podcast and Anita knows Billy and Alexis -- holy shit, my street cred just skyrocketed by association! Anita's website, az-forensics.com is fantastic, and a perfect resource for the student, the teacher, and the creepy-ass true-crime podcaster like me!

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Season Three, Episode #11: How Do You Recover From A Stroke: Marcia Moran Marcia Moran is the survivor of a massive stroke that caused her to lose the ability to speak (also known as aphasia) and resulted in limited control over the movement in the right half of her body. But, these days Marcia isn't just surviving, she is seriously thriving. Thanks to her hard work, the advocacy of her husband on her behalf, and large amounts of time spent with neurologists specializing in EMDR and brain mapping,  Marcia Moran is an outspoken advocate on stroke awareness, the author of Stroke Forward, the autobiography she penned about the process of recovering from a stroke and advocating for proper medical care -- specifically, the medical care and medical practitioners that are right for *you.* You can find out more about Marcia at: http://www.StrokeForward.com LinkedIn URL https://www.linkedin.com/in/marciamoran/ Facebook URL https://www.facebook.com/StrokeForward/ Twitter URL https://twitter.com/Stroke_Forward

Season Three, Episode 10: How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes Melinda Wenner Moyer is an award-winning journalist whose research-based articles have appeared in pretty much every publication that has rejected my own work. She is a contributing editor at Scientific American magazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Her first book, How To Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, was published in July 2021 by J.P. Putnam’s Sons. Go to her website www.melindawennermoyer.com to subscribe to her newsletter in order to receive a weekly dose of insight, information, and amusing anecdotes. You can also find her on Twitter @lindy2350 and on instagram @MelindaWMoyer Link to purchase the book

Season Three, Episode #9: How Do We Talk to Our Kids About Death With Dr. Marianne Matzo To hear Dr. Marianne Matzo tell the story, it sounds like she has always wanted to work with the elderly, and from the early days of nursing school, she quickly noticed a difference between the way the doctors attended to elderly, declining patients, and the way the nurses did. Maybe that was because doctors intended to fix and cure, while nurses...well, they tend to spend enough time around the patients to get to know them in a way that puts comfort and concern ahead of numbers and success rates.  Dr. Matzo threw herself into the field of gerontology wholeheartedly, as she went on to achieve a Doctorate in Gerentology, became a licensed and registered Nurse Practitioner, and wrote one of the foremost books about palliative care in nursing.  These days, Dr. Matzo likes to call herself "retired," although between you and I, dear listener, she is kind of full of crap. But in a good way.  Dr. Matzo didn't actually retire, she just found a few new "side hustles" to keep her busy.  Dr. Matzo is the host of the podcast "Every 1 Dies" (www.ever1dies.org), a weekly podcast where Dr. Matzo invites guests to come discuss all aspects of dying, whether it be hosting a pet psychic, or interviewing a death doula, or speaking honestly and openly to someone who might be struggling to come to terms with their own mortality.  Dr. Matzo is also the author of Everyone Dies (www.everyonediesthebook.com), a children's book that is meant for both caregiver and child to help all of us find the words to use to discuss death.  In addition, Dr. Matzo has an educational website that provides resources related to understanding, coping, and accepting death. That website is https://every1dies.org One last quick note: I was so intrigued with Dr. Matzo's explanation for how simple it is to talk to children about death that as a bonus Patreon episode -- just $5 a month and you get 3-4 extra behind the scenes episodes! -- I will be releasing an episode where I talk to my 10 and 12-year-old using Dr. Matzo's explanations. Join Patreon and you'll hear that and so much more!

Season Three, Episode 8: Can Murderers Learn to Be Mediators? Doug Noll and the Prison of Peace Project Say Yes! This week's Patreon episode: Season Three, Patreon Episode #3: More about the woman whose letter started Prison of Peace! Doug Noll spent 22 years as a trial attorney before getting his Master’s Degree in Mediation and accidentally stumbling into an opportunity to make a difference in the California prison system. Doug Noll is the co-founder of Prison of Peace (www.prisonofpeace.org), training murderers in maximum-security prisons how to be peacemakers and mediators in their prison communities. Mr. Noll has written four books, his latest released on September 12, 2017, entitled De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less (Atria/Beyond Words). He is the creator of online video courses in legal negotiation and emotional de-escalation and has conducted dozens of webinars. His video offerings on YouTube have garnered over 87,000 views. You can find Doug Noll On Twitter @DougNoll, on Facebook @Douglas Noll, and on his website dougnoll.com Link to his YouTube Channel https://dougnoll.com/podcast/weisner/

Season Three, Episode 7: A Kardashian, a Kidnapping, and Kicking Addiction Evan Jarschauer, the Kardashian Interventionist, makes it his job to reunite families who have been torn apart by substance abuse. Perhaps part of his motivation and talent for repairing families comes from his own childhood kidnapping, although his description certainly left me with more questions than answers. Join Evan and I for a brutally honest discussion about addiction, recovery, and mental health. To find out more about Evan, you can find him on  Facebook and Twitter @Behavioral Help Solutions and on his website, Behaviorhelp.com

Season Three, Episode 6: Jaimie Beebe is the co-host of Strictly Stalking, along with Jake Deptula, a true-crime podcast that gives the survivors of stalking the opportunity for their story to be heard. I use the word survivors deliberately because labeling someone as a victim after they live through an awful ordeal just seems wrong.  Jaimie is annoyingly gorgeous and upbeat and truly passionate about using her platform as a resource for anyone who may be struggling with domestic violence, stalking, or in any other way feels unsafe.  You can find Jaimie:  Instagram @feathergirl77 Instagram @strictlystalkingpod Facebook @Jaimie.Beebe Twitter @JaimieCasting            

This is nothing more than a brief, adorable explanation for where I have been and what my children think I spend all my time doing...and they're not wrong. Tons of exciting guests to look forward to!

Season Three, Episode 4: What Can You Live With? In this episode, I talk to Dr. Alan Winder, Psychologist and Certified Divorce and Family Mediator, about the state of relationships during the pandemic. How have things changed? Are there more people getting divorced? Are there more couples seeking therapy in light of quarantine and Corona anxiety? Have a listen as Dr. Winder tells us how to keep our marriages together, and how to know when to walk away. For more information about Dr. Winder, you can find him at the following places: Website: https://www.drwinder.com/ Blog: https://www.drwinder.com/blogs/ Psychology Today: https://www.facebook.com/itspsych/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drwinder?lang=en Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drwinder/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwindersessions/

Today’s episode was made for you, the listener. You, personally, I mean. You see, my dear listeners, I know who you are and what you struggle with. I know that you constantly strive to make your outside prettier than your inside, because damn, although mental health is important – and you know this – but, you live in a time or a town or a world where women are not supposed to age at all, and certainly not gracefully. You juggle a million hats. You have an idealized version of mom and wife and friend and daughter that you will never quite achieve. You don’t get sad, you go to the gym. You don’t get angry, you weigh your food and count your macros. You shrug off the shame that still lingers from your childhood or adolescence or 20something life. Maybe the shame is the result of something you did. Maybe it was something that was done to you, through no fault of your own. And yet, you power on. But for how long? Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a seasoned psychologist and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. As psychologists, and as people, we have been taught what depression looks like. And if your outside doesn’t match your inside, if our view of depression doesn’t match what a person is putting out there, than these people, these feelings, maybe even your feelings, dear listener, are left overlooked and untreated. Dr. Rutherford’s book, and my conversation with her, proved to be an eye-opening experience. I now ask my patients not only “Have you had thoughts about suicide?” but also, a follow up question, “Would you tell me if you did?” For more information about Dr. Rutherford and this syndrome of Perfectly Hidden Depression, check out the links in the show notes. Usually I say that I hope you enjoy this episode. In this case, I hope you hear this episode with an open mind, and a new perspective on what you and/or your loved ones may be going through. Website:  https://drmargaretrutherford.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMargaretRutherford Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmargaretrutherford/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/doctor_margaret

Season Three, Episode 2: What Would You Do To Save Your Child’s Life? In today’s episode, I struggle not to cry – because tears would do Jordan Ogman very little good. And my tears would probably be even less helpful to David Ogman, my current guest, new friend, and Jordan’s father. To understand this episode I think it helps if I explain how I connected with David: A few weeks ago I posted on my Facebook feed, asking if anyone had a story to share about living their best life during the pandemic. Or something along those lines. You see, as much as I bitch and complain about remote learning and never having a free moment to myself, the truth is that I have gotten to spend more time with my ten and twelve-year old children – who, yeah, are sometimes huge pains in the ass – than I would ever have spent otherwise. I have had the opportunity to complete my 200 hour teacher training, I have made some incredible friends on the other end of the universe, and I have managed to purchase more snarky shirts with funny phrases on them than I would have ever thought possible. But, I have also had a lot of bad, crappy, garbage-y days. So many of us discuss the bad, the isolation, the loneliness, the dear-god-what-I-wouldn’t-give-for-a-year-with-a-lot-less-excitement – it made me wonder, who out there is winning right now. Someone, somewhere, deserves to have a win. David’s answer shocked the sh@# out of me. David’s son, Jordan, is currently five years old. But, will he make it to age six? After a normal pregnancy and a slightly difficult birth that resulted in a week at the NICU, Jordan’s first year of life went…normally. But shortly after Jordan’s first birthday it became clear that there was a developmental delay that no one could fully diagnose. That’s because the disease that Jordan had been born with, TECPR2, was so new, and so rare, that the Jewish Genetic Screening that most Jews of Ashkanazi descent decide to undergo, had yet to develop a way to identify TECPR2 until a year after Jordan was born. The good news is, Jordan’s smile, charisma, and devotion to the Florida Gators managed to win over the heart of a researcher at Shands Hospital in Gainesville, Florida. But research takes time. And money. And the pandemic – although it has been an economic blow for so many, has also given David a platform to raise awareness about Jordan’s condition. And more awareness means the potential to raise more money. To find our more about Jordan, or to donate money to Shand’s Hospital’s Research on TECPR2, visit www.savingjordan.org