Sometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Episode 85 was titled Insecurity and Comparisons and was about being worried about having feelings about your partner interacting with pictures of others. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
What happens when you start off polyamory liking it but start feeling resentful towards your partner when they go on dates? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
What happens when you feel incredibly anxious about any new partner your partner has even though you are very experienced in polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
You want your partner to be more supportive in helping you find more partners or being a better wingman because you’re struggling to find new partners in an open marriage. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Everybody messes up in relationships but making amends isn’t always a one sided action. You have to work together to rebuild trust. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Questions for this week's Q&A episode include: How do I address friends who don't ask about or invite your partner to things? Friends who say they are supportive but only talk about that partner if you bring them up. How do I find out what I actually feel when my spouse is out with others? What do you do if you're feeling burnt out by emotional conversations? My partner is always recommending stuff to me that was recommended to him by a metamour. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
If you frequently don’t follow your boundaries with action, your brain could respond with anxiety because of the self-sabotage. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Trying to work out intentional time together when life circumstances and sleep schedules get in the way without taking it personally can be a challenge. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Check out Chill Polyamory's new podcast "I Could Never..." on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Your partner is making decisions about your relationship based off of your metamour’s feelings and resentment is building. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Looking for a great way to connect with a partner? Try the Paired app. Get 25% off and a 7 day free trial by using my Paired link. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
If you don’t want any other partners sharing your bed, is this jealousy or just a reasonable boundary? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
You’ve done all the studying but still can’t shake the negative feelings when your partner dates others and you think you may be monogamous by nature. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Seeing yourself as “traumatised” may actually be causing yourself more stress and difficulty than if you allowed yourself the permission to feel. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Coming at a crossroads in your relationship with compatibility can make you feel a pressure to open your relationship, but rethinking that might help. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
If you feel too uncomfortable to ask for what you want from your partner then holding resentment towards them for not meeting your needs may not be fair. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Can you move from cheating to a “successful” polyamorous relationship and what needs to happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
How do you keep things equal between your partners especially when it comes to introducing them to family? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
Sometimes long distance is difficult and the emotions it makes you feel aren’t always jealousy. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
If you know you’re being deprioritised and you just feel you can’t leave, can you actually make it work. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
You can’t live your life only making decisions based on what will or won’t disappoint other adults. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact
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Lost me with the repeated harping that “nonmonogamy” doesn’t need the “ethical” qualifier on it, as if nonmonogamy is inherently ethical. It’s not. Nonmonogamy by definition literally just means “not being monogamous”, and cheating is absolutely one way of not being monogamous. Cheating IS a form of nonmonogamy, one that isn’t isn’t ethical, and that’s why the qualifier is needed - to clarify when someone IS being ethical and isn’t cheating. It’s an important distinction, considering that the only form of nonmonogamy most people are aware of is cheating, and the idea of being *ethical* with it is the form that is rather revolutionary and unheard of for most people. I think it’s important to consider how people understand the words we use, and their actual definitions, not what we wish they meant in an ideal world.