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Author: Tash Gershfield,Carly Harris

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When two single mums come together to talk about the realisation of their marriages ending. Chatting all about the new challenges faced as a single parent, coparenting, dating again in your 30s and everything in between. We love hearing from you about your stories, dilemmas, dating disasters, happy endings (both kinds) so email us on notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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We answer some intrusive questions we always get asked… also sharing our biggest icks, green flags and teaching men what women really likeProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to a brand-new era of Not As We Planned - and our very first episode in the NEW studio! 💖 It’s a total pinch-me moment, and we’re so excited to share it with you. Same raw honesty and bestie vibes, but with a fresh new space and energy.In this opener, we dive deep into the realities of love, heartbreak, and fresh starts. You’ll hear the jaw-dropping story of a woman who stayed in a toxic relationship for 30 years before finally breaking free, an empowering reminder that it’s never too late to put yourself first. We also answer listener questions about cheating, red flags, and “should I have stayed?” moments. Plus, catch up with us as we share the highs and lows of single life, dating apps, co-parenting, and everything in between.If you’re ready for real talk, belly laughs, and conversations that feel like therapy with your best friends, you’re in the right place.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes from our new studio!#newstudio #podcastseasonpremiere #toxicrelationships #divorcerecovery #singlewomen #datingafterdivorce #relationshipredflags #breakupadvice #selflovejourney #empowermentpodcast #podcast #youtubepodcast #womensupportwomen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We discuss the difficulties of splitting your time with the kids over the holidays, someone who needs some serious tough love from us, a clear comparison with how your life could look when leaving or staying and the man who was sleeping with 9 women!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We have an honest conversation about the financial pressures of being a single mum, when you catfish your partner by pretending to be the other woman, and a hard story of emotional abuse whilst managing to break the trauma bondLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mr British airways by who took so many women for a ride, when the man you’ve been dating lied about EVERYTHING… even his name! And when you compare notes with the other woman to find that he shat on both your beds!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You guys share your most embarrassing date scenarios, when your partner informs you that he wants to watch you sleep with other men, when his memory of you is taken away and a thanks for the podcast making you not feel alone through your divorce.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We hear from an absolute queen showing just how to handle being cheated on, when you think you’re over your husband but don’t want to leave because of the kids and an unexpected turn of events when we get told off by a listener….Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER ONELink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequences means no changesLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready for this changeLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and watching your partner VANISH out of nowhere!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update from the woman who was comparing herself to the girl her partner cheated on her with.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!!The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spiders over you, having sex in his single bed and we share some weird prompts on the dating appsLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penisLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and realising he’s not going to change!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yourself to the other womanLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for divorce, and how a cheeky bit of milk can go a long way!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Finally getting confirmation that your cheating suspicions were correct, being the new partner and having to deal with an uncomfortable coparenting relationship, and being torn whether to leave my partner although there’s been no pinnacle event!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
84. How To Text a Guy

84. How To Text a Guy

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We discuss how it’s sometimes better raising a child on your own than allowing a toxic parent to be a part of their life, realising you’re not yet ready to date yet and never settling for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We talk about how you shouldn’t blame yourself for him cheating, finding out he had a whole other family, we see the definition of bread crumbing and for the first time we feel uncomfortable to give advice…..Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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