What Do You Do If Your Parent Didn’t Really Parent You? Tiamatti Ruiz has a question that haunts so many young people, and so many older people who were once young. What Do You Do If Your Parent Didn’t Really Parent You? Tiamatti takes care of her brother and sister when her mother does not. Now she’s 18, but she’s been watching over her younger siblings since she was a little girl. Child abuse and neglect constitute a public health crisis in the United States. The Centers for Disease Control report that 1 in 7 children has experienced abuse or neglect in the past year, which they say is likely an understatement. Childhood trauma can have long-lasting effects, such as emotional dysregulation and difficulties trusting other people. We know from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study that neglect and abuse are correlated with physical health outcomes, like diabetes and high blood pressure. “I hear you talk about your little brother and sister. But what about you?” - Chalice Jenkins, speaking with Off Mic producer Tiamatti RuizOn today’s show, Tiamatti Ruiz talks to someone who tackles these issues for a living. Chalice Jenkins is an Assistant Professor at the Marriage and Family Therapy program of Drexel University.Throughout their conversation, Professor Jenkins continually asked Tiamatti about how her experiences had affected her - not just the others around her. “In minority communities, there's this strong black woman archetype, right? We see it in our grandmothers, we see it in our mothers, and then we start feeling like we got to do that...but is that healthy?” - Chalice JenkinsListen to this episode to hear their conversation.