Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Ever open your laptop to work on that big project and suddenly find yourself deep in a TikTok scroll? Or decide that right now is the perfect time to snack instead of finishing that report? Yep, we've all been there, right? That's because procrastination isn't laziness, it's humanness.  In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing the story behind my first tattoo: my late mother's heartbeat and my late sister's initial, permanently inked on my wrist in honour of them both taken too soon and as a reminder that we only get a limited number of heartbeats on this earth. But this isn't just a tearjerker (though you might want tissues). It's a wake-up call wrapped in a pep talk you can return to again and again. Because every heartbeat is a countdown. And most of us don't realize it… until we're suddenly out of time. So why do we waste so many of heartbeats waiting to "feel ready"? We delay the workout. We postpone the dream. We distract ourselves from the discomfort of growth. We let the toddler brain in our head call the shots. But here's the truth no one teaches us: You don't need motivation to start. You just need movement. Inside this episode, I'm giving you 20 powerfully simple mantras that snap you out of procrastination and into action — even on the days you're tired, overwhelmed, or completely stuck in your own way. You'll learn: • Why resistance is actually a sign you're on the right path • How to show up even when you don't "feel like it" • The mindset shift that will change how you respond to discomfort • How to make future-you proud instead of panicked • How to use your heartbeats on what truly matters This isn't about hustle culture or perfection. This is about honouring your life. Honouring the people you love. Honouring the moments you still have left. Because the clock is ticking… and today is too precious to postpone. If you're stuck, listen. If you're scared, listen. If you're done wasting your heartbeats… press play now. Save this episode. Seriously. You'll want to come back to it every time procrastination creeps in. Jot down your favorite mantras, write them on sticky notes, put them where you'll see them when your brain starts negotiating with you about doing the hard thing. Because future you deserves a high five, not a headache. Resources I mentioned: Book a free clarity call with me: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching Connect with me on Instagram: @kategladdin Remember: Done is better than perfect. Progress over perfection. Always.

What if I told you that the rejection you fear most isn't coming from other people? Most of us spend our lives trying to avoid hearing "no." We don't send the email. We don't make the call. We don't start the business, ask for the promotion, or put ourselves out there—because we're terrified of being rejected. But here's what nobody talks about: there's a type of rejection that's far more painful than anything the world can throw at you. And chances are, you're experiencing it right now without even realizing it. In this episode, I'm sharing a lesson my late sister taught me about rejection—one that completely changed how I approach fear, failure, and putting myself out there. She faced constant rejection as a professional dancer, yet somehow, she never let it stop her. And what she understood is something that successful people like J.K. Rowling, Oprah, and Steven Spielberg all figured out too. In this episode, you'll discover: The two types of rejection we all face (and why one is guaranteed to keep you stuck) What your fear of failure is really costing you The one question that will change how you make decisions forever Why the most successful people are also the most rejected people How to finally stop playing small and start going after what you really want If you've been holding back on something—whether it's a career move, a difficult conversation, or a dream you've been sitting on—this episode will shift everything for you. Ready to stop letting fear run your life? Book a free 20-30 minute coaching call with me and let's talk through what's keeping you stuck and what your next step forward looks like. Schedule your clarity call here: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching 

You know those full-body, can't-catch-your-breath, snotty, ugly cries? The ones that leave you physically exhausted on the floor? Yeah, let's talk about those. Because here's what nobody tells you: crying isn't you breaking down - it's how you break through. In this episode, I'm getting real about grief, tears, and why apologizing for crying is actually working against your mental health. Fresh off World Mental Health Day (and deep in my own grief journey), I'm breaking down the actual science behind why your body ugly cries—and why that's not only normal, it's necessary. You'll discover: What's actually happening in your brain and body when you cry (spoiler: your body is way smarter than you think) Why those gulping, gasping sobs aren't a sign you're losing it - they're literally cooling your brain The three different types of tears your body makes (and why emotional tears are in a league of their own) How crying physically flushes stress hormones out of your system What it means if you're a "highly sensitive person" (15-20% of us are - and it's not a weakness) Why resisting tears actually keeps you stuck in pain longer I'm sharing my own raw experience with grief - the morning floor cries, the wailing in nature, the moments where I literally can't breathe - because I want you to know: this isn't me falling apart. This is me healing. Whether you're grieving a loss, navigating a breakup, dealing with work stress, or you've just hit your limit - your tears aren't weakness. They're your body doing exactly what it needs to do. So next time you feel that lump in your throat? Let it out. Your nervous system will thank you. Ready to stop apologising for being human? If you're struggling to navigate intense emotions and wish you had support to help you process what you're going through in healthy ways, I offer one-on-one personalized coaching for women who are ready to stop stuffing their feelings down and start healing for real. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching for more info on how we can work together!

I'm grateful to be back after taking time off following the loss of my beautiful mum - and 2025 has been a year. Everyone talks about gratitude when you're going through grief and hard times. "Just be grateful for what you have and still remains." And sure, gratitude is powerful. But I've discovered something deeper, something more perspective-shifting that's actually been saving me on my darkest days. In this episode: The one thing that's different from gratitude (and why it matters when you're drowning in grief or overwhelm) The incredible story behind my new intro music (thanks Kevin Lowe!) Why your brain can hold grief and wonder at the same time A simple challenge that could shift everything today Here's the truth: your brain naturally finds the awful. That's its job. But there's something else your brain can find too - if you know where to look. Tune in to find out what it is. If you're ready for real support (not fluff), I'm here to help you make sense of the pain, rebuild yourself, and gently take your power back—one choice, one breath, one brave step at a time. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult with me here: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching   

I know I've been MIA the past month, and I've recorded this episode with a broken heart to explain why. This episode is messy, raw and honestly I'm still in shock that I had to record it at all.. But I always want to keep it real with you guys about the realities of what we all go through in life.. and right now I am really going through it..  My Mum was truly one of a kind. The best parts of me, are her.  In honor of her generous heart and lifelong mission to uplift others, we've created the Julie Fitzsimons Legacy Fund at Sheridan College. This endowment will support students in the performing arts and athletics who are facing adversity—because that's exactly what Mum would have done. To learn more or donate, click here. On this page, please select 'Honor/Memorial' on the dropdown menu and put the name "Julie Fitzsimons" in the comments session. To see my final photo with Mum under the most beautiful rainbow, click on my instagram here. I want to say a heartfelt thank you to everyone who's reached out with messages of love and support.. I've been reading them all and all of your beautiful words have been giving me strength to keep holding on through this confusing and daunting time of adjusting to a new normal that feels anything but normal.. At the end of this episode, you'll also hear the podcast I had recorded just two days before my life flipped upside down. I've decided to release it along with this announcement because - well firstly I wanted you all to hear how excited I was to have my parents in town, it brought me so much joy - but also because even though my world feels so different now, the message still matters: how to stay commited to your goals when change gets hard. In this episode, I walk you through the five emotional stages of change—an honest roadmap adapted from the work of psychologists Don Kelley and Daryl Connor. Whether you're chasing a fitness goal, launching a side hustle, or starting over after heartbreak, this is the truth no one tells you about what real change feels like. You'll learn: Why motivation always fades—and what to do when it does How to recognize the infamous "Valley of Despair" before it swallows your dreams Why discomfort doesn't mean something's gone wrong—it means something's working What to expect at each stage of growth, and how to navigate it without giving up I also share personal stories—from starting my speaking career to moving across the world on a dream and a visa—to remind you: you are not behind, broken, or alone. You're just in the messy middle. And that's where progress begins. Life is too short to quit on the things that you truly care about, just because they're uncomfortable sometimes. May my Mum and sister's legacies inspire you to be kind, be brave and be fully invested on living your best life. X kg    

Let's be real—long distance isn't for the faint of heart. It's for the ones who are willing to cry on dog walks with sunglasses on. The ones who whisper we'll figure it out even when every plan falls through. The ones who know love is worth the effort—but still wonder, how the heck do people actually make this work? So in this episode I dive into this topic that's close to my heart - the rollercoaster of long distance relationships. After navigating my own 2 year international long distance relationship with my now-husband Nate (including military life and visa challenges!), I'm sharing my top 10 tips for making the distance to turn Facetimes into forever.  Just to be clear - I once said I never wanted to do long distance or date someone in the military.  But then one summer night in D.C., fate had other plans—and my Aussie heart fell for an American soldier. From navigating 5-month stretches without seeing each other, to voice calls filled with tears, to the moment I saw him waiting for me at the bottom of the airport escalator… this episode is as raw and real as it gets. If you're currently separated from your person or considering a long distance relationship, this episode offers practical strategies, emotional validation, and hope that the distance can actually strengthen your bond rather than break it. Episode Highlights: My unexpected journey falling for an American military man while living in Australia Why being "all in or all out" is crucial for long distance success How to focus on what you can control when apart The importance of sharing daily details to stay connected Why trust is foundational (and starts with trusting yourself) Creating shared rituals, mantras, and future plans together Using your "extra time" to invest in personal growth And because every love story deserves a soundtrack, I'm sharing something deeply personal: the song I had written for Nate during our time apart. It carried us through the lonely nights and played at our wedding. I hope it carries you, too. Whether you're already navigating the challenges of loving someone from afar or wondering if you should take the leap, this episode offers genuine encouragement from someone who's been there. Because while long distance may not be easy, the right person is absolutely worth it. Need support? I've got a few free coaching calls open this month. Let's talk about how to keep your heart strong—no matter how many miles are between you: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching 

Ever been through a breakup that didn't just hurt emotionally—but physically? Like your chest was caving in or your stomach was in knots? You're not crazy. In fact, there's actual science behind that soul crushing pain. In this episode, we dive deep into what's actually happening in your brain and body when your heart gets broken—and why breakup grief might actually be harder to heal from than grief after death. If you've ever felt like you were "crazy" for not being able to "just get over it," this episode is for you. We'll explore the fascinating neuroscience behind heartbreak and give you the validation (and hope) you need to keep moving forward. What You'll Learn: Why your brain treats heartbreak like a literal drug withdrawal The science behind why breakups activate the same pain centers as physical injuries How the stress hormone cortisol wreaks havoc on your sleep, appetite, and immune system Why your brain gets stuck in rumination mode after a breakup The unique challenge of grieving someone who's still alive (and why it's harder than you think) How social media makes everything worse—and what to do about it The incredible power of neuroplasticity and how your brain can actually heal itself Practical strategies for working WITH your brain, not against it If you're listening to this in the thick of heartbreak right now, please know: what you're feeling is valid, it's normal, and it WILL get better. Your brain is doing exactly what millions of years of evolution programmed it to do. Be patient with yourself. You're not broken—you're human. ❤️ And - you don't have to figure it all out alone. If you're ready for real support (not fluff), I'm here to help you make sense of the pain, rebuild your confidence, and gently take your power back—one choice, one breath, one brave step at a time. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult with me here: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching   

What if the thing holding you back isn't fear—but the story you're telling yourself about it? This week on Okay, Now What?, I'm joined by the powerhouse that is Sally Zimney—award-winning speaker, bestselling author, and host of one of the top speaker podcasts in the world—for a real, raw, and laugh-out-loud honest conversation about what bravery really looks like. Spoiler: it's not the absence of fear. It's showing up with it. We unpack: Why "confidence" is overrated and what to build instead The power of gumption (and no, not the Aussie cleaning product kind—though that metaphor is hilariously spot-on) How to "bust your buts" (yes, those buts—like "But I'm not ready…" or "But what if I fail?") Why cold plunging might be the secret weapon for facing discomfort (seriously) And how to take action even when you're shaking in your boots (or freezing in a tub) This episode is your gentle (and slightly cheeky) kick in the pants to stop hiding with your fears—and start moving toward what you really want. Tune in now and start flexing your bravery muscle—one gumption-powered step at a time. Check out Sally's websites and resources here: https://sallyzimney.com/  Ready to take this work deeper? If you're tired of living on autopilot and want real tools to take back control of your mind, your emotions, and your life—I've got you. My 1:1 coaching program is designed for women who are done with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt and so ready to start living with more clarity, courage, and confidence. Book a free mini coaching session today at www.kategladdin.com/coaching or DM me on Instagram @kategladdin. You don't have to keep believing the old story. You get to write and LIVE a new one.

Let's be honest: Most of us aren't just busy - we're burnt out, overbooked, and quietly wondering if this is just how life's meant to be. If your schedule feels like a never-ending to-do list and your soul's running on empty, this episode is for you. This week on Okay, Now What?, I'm joined by the incredible Peggy Sullivan — a leadership coach, TEDx speaker (her talk's hit over 1 million views!), and author of Beyond Busyness. And let me tell you… this conversation is like a permission slip to finally stop glorifying the hustle and start living with intention. Together we unpack: Why busyness is not a badge of honor (and what it's really costing you) Peggy's "stale pistachio moment" that stopped her in her tracks — literally The ripple effect your busyness has on everyone around you (yes, even your cat 😅) Her 3-step framework to escape time poverty, reclaim your joy, and prioritize what actually matters How simple happiness rituals at work boosted productivity by 33% in just six weeks (proof that joy is not a distraction — it's the strategy) We also dive into the core values that drive a truly fulfilling life — and why knowing them isn't enough. You've got to live them. This episode will challenge you, comfort you, and (most importantly) equip you to finally slow down without falling behind. Listen now and start trading burnout for a life that actually feels like yours again. Find out more about Peggy and her book here: https://www.peggysullivanspeaker.com/ Ready to take this work deeper? If you're tired of living on autopilot and want real tools to take back control of your mind, your emotions, and your life—I've got you. My 1:1 coaching program is designed for women who are done with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt and so ready to start living with more clarity, courage, and confidence. Book a free mini coaching session today at www.kategladdin.com/coaching or DM me on Instagram @kategladdin Grab your FREE chapter of my book "Okay, Now What?": https://www.kategladdin.com/free 

What if the most heartbreaking chapter of your life also held the key to your greatest purpose? In this powerful and tender conversation, I sit down with Kara Byron - founder of Moments by Kara - to talk about the raw reality of being a full-time caregiver to her father in her early twenties, how she turned grief into a lifelong mission of creating meaningful moments, and the difference between moving on and moving forward after loss. We get real about the emotional toll of caretaking, the sacredness of grief, and how to hold joy and sorrow in the same hand. Whether you've lost someone, are supporting someone through illness, or are just trying to figure out how to live more intentionally—this episode is a warm, vulnerable, soul-hug of a listen. How Kara's business was born from caregiving Why post-traumatic growth is real—but never without the trauma What it means to "grieve forward" Practical ways to practice self-care when you're carrying the weight of the world Why living fully for those we've lost is the deepest form of love You'll leave this episode feeling less alone, more grounded, and deeply inspired to live with intention - even through heartbreak. P.S. If you're feeling stuck in the heaviness of grief, unsure how to move forward without leaving your loved one behind—you're not alone. Through my coaching, I help women gently reconnect with themselves, redefine what healing looks like, and find strength not in moving on, but in moving through with grace and purpose. If you're ready to carry your grief with more clarity, confidence, and compassion, let's walk that path together. Visit my website here to learn more.

From a young age, we're taught not to interrupt conversations. But I've realised there is definitely a conversation we need to interrupt EVERY SINGLE DAY. It's the one happening in our between our own ears. Because let's be honest - do you ever find yourself spiraling in self-doubt, thinking things like "I'm not good enough," "I always mess things up," or "I'm just not the type of person who can…"? Yeah, welcome to being human right?! So in this episode, I dive into a powerful mental interrupt tool—one simple question that can help you stop those runaway thought spirals in their tracks! It's a game-changing way to pause, reflect, and finally start questioning the beliefs that have been running your life on autopilot. Whether it's a third-grade teacher who made a throwaway comment about your scissor skills (yep, been there), or a parent who unknowingly projected their own fears—this episode will help you pull those dusty old thoughts out of your mental closet and hold them up to the light. ✨ Tune in to discover: Why your brain runs on outdated mental scripts (and how to catch them) How to stop treating thoughts like facts A practical mindset shift to help you reclaim your inner narrator Real-life stories (including my own) that'll have you laughing, reflecting, and rewriting your own narrative If you've ever felt held back by labels or beliefs you didn't even choose, this episode is your permission slip to start letting go of what's not yours to carry. Press play and lets find out! Ready to take this work deeper? If you're tired of living on autopilot and want real tools to take back control of your mind, your emotions, and your life—I've got you. My 1:1 coaching program is designed for women who are done with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt and so ready to start living with more clarity, courage, and confidence. Book a free mini coaching session today at www.kategladdin.com/coaching or DM me on Instagram @kategladdin. You don't have to keep believing the old story. You get to write and LIVE a new one.

Ever feel like you're doing all the right things—yet still feel off? Tired? Resentful? Like you're living life for everyone but you? Yeah… me too. In this powerful episode, I pull back the curtain on one sneaky little word that's silently controlling so many of our choices—and not in a good way. That word? Should. It seems harmless. Responsible even. "I should call her back." "I should go to that dinner." "I should be happier by now." But when you really pay attention, you'll notice how heavy that word feels in your body. How tight your chest gets. How small your world becomes. Because here's the truth: "Should" is just fear in disguise. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of judgment. Fear of not being enough. And when we live from that place, we disconnect from what we actually want. We abandon ourselves to make others comfortable. In this episode, I walk you through: The emotional cost of people pleasing (even when it seems "nice" on the surface) Why "should" keeps you stuck in guilt, fear, and burnout The neuroscience behind why your nervous system knows when you're betraying yourself A simple 3-step strategy to flip the script on obligation-based decisions How to reconnect with your values and create boundaries without shame Plus, I'll share one of my go-to coaching tools to help you finally break free from the invisible pressure of always doing what's expected—and start living in alignment with your truth. You don't need to earn your worth through endless "shoulds." You already are enough. So let's stop proving and start choosing. Ready to reclaim your voice and your choices? Let's do a "should detox" together. Tune in now—and if this episode hits home, share it with a friend who needs the same reminder. Need extra support? Grab your free chapter of my book Okay, Now What?: https://www.kategladdin.com/free  Book a free coaching consult with me (yep, totally free): www.kategladdin.com Follow me on IG for daily doses of real talk: @kategladdin    

Ever find yourself spiraling in "why me?" energy—or slapping on a fake smile, insisting "I'm fine" when you're anything but? Yeah. Been there. Both sides of that coin will wear you out. That's why this episode? It's a lifeline. Fresh off an emotional and empowering experience speaking at my first ever women's leadership conference, I'm unpacking a topic that hits deep: the difference between self-pity, self-denial, and self-compassion—and why knowing how to navigate between them is one of the most important skills you'll ever learn. In this episode, I share: ✨ The sneaky ways self-pity shows up and keeps us stuck ✨ How self-denial masquerades as strength (but quietly breaks us down) ✨ My 3-A's Framework for building real, usable self-compassion ✨ Why community, storytelling, and getting outside your comfort zone changes everything This episode is your permission slip to stop faking it and start truly supporting yourself—through the messy moments, the heartaches, and the healing. Whether you're grieving, growing, or just trying to keep your head above water... this one's for you. Need extra support? Grab your free chapter of my book Okay, Now What? on self-compassion: https://www.kategladdin.com/free  Book a free coaching consult with me (yep, totally free): www.kategladdin.com Follow me on IG for daily doses of real talk: @kategladdin

In this powerful episode, we're joined by Kevin Lowe, an inspirational speaker and podcast host who shares his remarkable journey of losing his sight at 17 and discovering an entirely new way to "see" the world. Through launching his own travel agency, creating a podcast during the pandemic, learning how to 'see' through sound and now inspiring others through speaking, Kevin exemplifies resilience in its purest form. His personal equation—"faith plus family equals a life worth living"—reminds us all to identify what gives our lives meaning, especially during our darkest moments. Kevin's story isn't just about overcoming blindness—it's about transforming limitation into possibility and finding purpose in pain. As he puts it, "Through the vulnerability of the brain that I became blind, but it's also through the power of the brain that I learned to see again." Follow Kevin's journey on his podcast "Grit, Grace and Inspiration" or learn more about his speaking at kevinspeaks.org. If this episode hit you in the heart and you're ready to turn your own adversity into strength, I want to personally help you. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult call with me (yes, WITH ME—not some team member). Visit my website here to submit for a coaching call with me! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/    Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin welcomes listeners and introduces the theme of personal resilience. Introducing Kevin Lowe (00:01:06)   Kate introduces Kevin Lowe, discussing his background as an inspirational speaker and blind visionary. Kevin's Journey Begins (00:02:00)   Kevin shares the timeline of his blindness, marking 21 years without sight. The Diagnosis (00:02:43)   Kevin recounts his life in 2003 and the medical issues leading to his brain tumor diagnosis. The Tumor Discovery (00:05:04)   Kevin describes the shocking moment his mother received the news about his brain tumor. The Severity of the Condition (00:07:07)   Discussion of the tumor's impact and the urgency for surgical intervention. The Surgery Announcement (00:10:05)   Kevin recalls the reassurance from his neurosurgeon about the surgery and recovery expectations. Surgery Day (00:12:46)   Kevin reflects on the day of his surgery and the changes it would bring. Waking Up Blind (00:14:17)   Kevin describes the moment he realized he was completely blind after surgery. The Aftermath of Surgery (00:15:06)   Discussion of the complications and challenges Kevin faced post-surgery. The Realization of Blindness (00:16:49)   Kevin shares his emotional struggle and repeated realization of his blindness. Learning to 'See' Again (00:18:34)   Kevin discusses discovering echolocation as a method to navigate the world as a blind person. Training in Echolocation (00:19:15)   Kevin explains his training experience with Brian Bucci to learn echolocation techniques. The Process of Retraining the Brain (00:22:39)   Kevin highlights the neuroplasticity of the brain and how it can adapt to new ways of perceiving the environment. Here are the extracted timestamps and their titles from the podcast episode transcription segment: Kevin's Life-Changing Moment (00:22:57) Kevin describes a pivotal moment where he learns to use echolocation to navigate his environment. The Power of the Brain (00:25:25) Discussion on how Kevin's brain adapts, allowing him to perceive shapes and figures through sound. Mainstream Techniques for Vision Problems (00:26:50) Kevin reflects on the acceptance of echolocation training in organizations for the blind. Navigating the World with Confidence (00:28:21) Kevin shares how echolocation enhances his ability to navigate confidently in public spaces. Heightened Senses After Losing Sight (00:29:00) Kevin confirms that losing sight has heightened his other senses, especially hearing. Resilience and Adaptability (00:30:08) Kate emphasizes the resilience of the human body and the ability to overcome challenges. The Role of Choice in Overcoming Challenges (00:30:57) Discussion on how Kevin's choices and efforts contributed to his journey of adaptation. Starting a Travel Agency (00:31:27) Kevin shares how he transitioned from blindness to running his own travel agency. Building a Brand and Purpose (00:35:40) Kevin discusses the purpose and fulfillment he found in running his travel agency. Career Transition During the Pandemic (00:36:48) Kevin reflects on how the pandemic forced him to pivot in his career. Using Experiences to Inspire Others (00:37:16) Kevin talks about his current purpose of inspiring others through his experiences. Starting a Podcast (00:38:37) Kevin shares how he began his podcast as a way to connect and inspire during quarantine. Motto for Overcoming Hard Days (00:41:26) Kevin reveals his personal motto that helped him through dark times: faith plus family equals a life worth living. Promoting Kevin's Podcast (00:44:13)   Kevin shares information about his podcast, "Grit Grace and Inspiration," and invites listeners to join his email list. Kevin's Speaking Engagements (00:45:03)   Kevin discusses his speaking services, encouraging organizations to consider him for their events. Anniversary Dinner Tradition (00:45:18)   Kate asks Kevin about his tradition of dining at Outback Steakhouse on the anniversary of his blindness. Connection to Outback Steakhouse (00:46:10)   Kevin explains the humorous connection to Outback Steakhouse and why it holds significance for him. Celebrating Life After Surgery (00:47:17)   Kevin shares how the anniversary dinner symbolizes a celebration of life, not the loss of his sight. Reflecting on Emotions (00:47:34)   Kevin discusses the emotional complexity of anniversaries and how they bring back memories. Cultural Humor (00:48:00)   Kate and Kevin joke about Outback's portrayal of Australian culture and their own experiences with food. Full Circle Moment (00:48:29)   Kate reflects on the journey and how Kevin's story connects back to the podcast's themes of resilience. Coaching Offer (00:49:14)   Kate promotes her one-on-one personalized life coaching services for women seeking to regain control of their lives.

Whether we care to admit it or not, a lot of us waste A LOT of mental energy overthinking what other people think of us and include their opinions on our decision making criteria in life. And as I've learned the hard way, that's a one way ticket to a life that doesn't even really feel like yours. So why do so many of us fear being judged? And more importantly, how do we stop taking things so personally, even when we hear critical opinions about us?! That's exactly what we explore together in this episode and share with you the life changing example that my coach shared with me that FINALLY helped me breakfree from the grip of other people's opinions, and I am hopeful it'll help you have that same break through too!  If you're tired of family criticism about your choices, judgmental friends, or that constant voice in your head wondering if you're doing life "right"—this episode will be a breath of fresh air for you to finally chase that dream, make that change or to just be yourself without apology.  This isn't just another feel-good podcast; it's a roadmap to taking your power back, one deliberate thought at a time. If this episode hit you in the heart and you're ready to break free from the prison of other people's opinions, I want to personally help you. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult call with me (yes, WITH ME—not some team member). Visit my website here to submit for a coaching call with me! Bring whatever problem or struggle you're overthinking, and I'll walk you through exactly how to get unstuck. These spots are limited each week, and they're for you—the person who's tired of putting your dreams on hold because you're afraid of what someone might think. Schedule your a coaching call and let's create a life that makes YOU proud, regardless of anyone else's opinions. Because trust me, the view from the other side of fear? It's breathtaking. CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/  Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate welcomes listeners and shares her excitement about recording during a snowstorm. Keynote Speaker Experience (00:01:03)   Kate reflects on her recent speaking engagement in Indiana, focusing on resilience and confidence. Upcoming Speaking Engagements (00:01:50)   She discusses her upcoming talks in Las Vegas, Iowa, and Minnesota, emphasizing women's leadership. Importance of Practical Strategies (00:02:20)   Kate highlights the need for actionable strategies based on science to build confidence. Fear of Judgment (00:02:50)   She introduces the episode's main topic: how worrying about others' opinions erodes confidence. Taking Things Personally (00:03:32)   Kate discusses the challenge of not taking criticism personally, especially from close relationships. Understanding Human Nature (00:05:19)   She explains that the desire for acceptance is a natural human instinct. Responding to Negative Thoughts (00:06:10)   Kate shares strategies for managing automatic negative thoughts about others' judgments. Creating Emotional Space (00:07:00)   She emphasizes the importance of creating space between instinctive reactions and chosen responses. Book Reference (00:07:57)   Kate mentions a chapter from her book that addresses resilience and responding to fear. Reality of Judgment (00:08:53)   She acknowledges that judgment is inevitable and reflects on how often we assess others. Taking Opinions Personally (00:09:50)   Kate discusses the tendency to take others' opinions personally and its impact on decision-making. Example of Perception (00:10:44)   She illustrates how different people can have varying opinions about the same person. Judgment Reflects Insecurities (00:13:44)   Kate explains that others' judgments often stem from their own insecurities and experiences. Self-Reflection on Fear (00:14:44)   She encourages listeners to identify areas in their lives where fear of judgment holds them back. Redirecting Focus (00:15:39)   Kate emphasizes the importance of redirecting focus from others' opinions to personal decisions. Embracing Diversity of Opinions (00:16:37)   She discusses the value of differing opinions and preferences in making life interesting. Authenticity Over Approval (00:17:24)   Kate concludes with a reminder to be true to oneself rather than seeking external validation. Understanding Feedback and Opinions (00:18:13)   Explores how to evaluate feedback from others without letting it overshadow personal beliefs. The Fear of Judgment (00:19:20)   Discusses the instinct of loved ones to protect us from failure and its impact on our decisions. Pursuing Passion Over Comfort (00:20:18)   Shares a personal story about choosing passion over a stable career path despite external doubts. Gratitude for Courage (00:21:22)   Encourages listeners to appreciate their past courage in pursuing meaningful goals despite fear. The Reality of Support (00:22:31)   Acknowledges that not everyone will support our dreams and that's acceptable. Living True to Yourself (00:23:30)   Emphasizes the importance of prioritizing one's own opinion over others' judgments in achieving success. Coaching Opportunity (00:24:42)   Offers a free coaching consult to help listeners overcome obstacles and take action towards their goals. Invitation to Connect (00:25:43)   Encourages listeners to reach out for coaching and follow on social media for further inspiration.

In this episode I pull back the curtain on the silent dream-killer that's sabotaging your success – the all-or-nothing mentality. If you've ever abandoned your goals at the first sign of imperfection, this episode might just change everything. What You'll Discover: Why your perfectionism isn't a badge of honor but a scientifically proven trap that's heightened anxiety in women by 33% over the last three decades The neurological reason your brain convinces you that doing nothing is better than doing something imperfectly My personal confessions of how perfectionism nearly derailed my own path until I discovered the "all-or-something" approach Why high-achievers are particularly vulnerable to this mental trap (and the UC Berkeley research proving perfectionists actually accomplish LESS) The "Broken Phone Fallacy" that exposes how irrational our perfectionist thinking truly is Why This Matters Now: In a world that glamorizes hustle culture and Instagram-perfect lives, I'm offering a radical alternative backed by research from Stanford's Behavior Design Lab: consistent imperfection beats sporadic perfection every single time. Dr. Barry Schwartz's groundbreaking work reveals that "satisficers" (those who accept "good enough") report significantly higher happiness levels than "maximizers" who endlessly chase perfection. I break down exactly how to apply this research to your real life – whether you're struggling with fitness goals, career advancement, or simply cleaning out that chaotic closet. You'll walk away with a revolutionary mental framework that liberates you from the perfectionist prison: comparing your "something" option to your "nothing" option instead of your idealized "all" option. This isn't just motivational fluff. It's neuroscience. It's behavioral psychology. And it's the exact mindset shift that's helped me and my clients finally build momentum toward our most meaningful goals.  Because 20% effort is infinitely better than 0% – 100% of the time. Want to get unstuck and finally feel in control again ? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn more about how my 1:1 life coaching program can help you! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/  Welcome and Introduction (00:00:00)   Kate introduces the podcast episode and expresses gratitude to listeners, sharing her thoughts on contrasting weather in Wyoming. Impromptu Recording (00:01:00)   Kate explains the spur-of-the-moment decision to record due to a guest cancellation and her busy upcoming schedule. The All or Nothing Mentality (00:02:02)   Discussion on how the "all or nothing" mindset affects high achievers, leading to underachievement and self-sabotage. Perfectionism's Impact (00:05:10)   Kate shares research indicating that perfectionism increases anxiety and burnout, countering the belief that it leads to higher achievement. Personal Experience with Progress (00:07:03)   She relates her journey of success, emphasizing that progress comes from letting go of perfectionism. Mindset Shift to All or Something (00:08:00)   Kate introduces the concept of shifting from an "all or nothing" mentality to an "all or something" approach. Realistic Expectations (00:09:16)   Discussion on how successful individuals maintain realistic expectations and embrace imperfect actions. Michael Jordan's Example (00:10:18)   Kate uses Michael Jordan's story of playing through illness to illustrate the importance of showing up despite not being perfect. Procrastination and Perfectionism (00:11:16)   Exploration of how perfectionism leads to procrastination and the need to take action even when conditions aren't ideal. The Phone Analogy (00:14:09)   Kate compares the all or nothing mentality to damaging a phone, illustrating the irrationality of abandoning goals after small setbacks. The What the Hell Effect (00:15:03)   Introduction to a psychological phenomenon where people abandon goals after perceived failures, emphasizing the need for a shift in mindset. The Importance of Taking Action (00:16:09)   Kate stresses that taking any action is better than doing nothing, regardless of perfection. Redirecting the Perfectionist Brain (00:17:11)   Advice on consciously comparing options to recognize that something is always better than nothing. Embracing the Something Option (00:18:10)   Encouragement to act on the "something" option, even when faced with imperfections or obstacles. Understanding the "All or Nothing" Mentality (00:19:08)   Kate discusses the impact of perfectionism on progress and personal growth. The Importance of Good Enough Solutions (00:20:29)   She highlights how accepting "good enough" leads to greater happiness and reduced regret. Momentum Over Perfection (00:21:29)   Emphasizes that consistent actions, no matter how small, are key to achieving goals. Perfectionism vs. Progress (00:22:30)   Kate encourages listeners to adopt a mindset that values effort over perfect outcomes. The Shift to an "Always Something" Mindset (00:23:38)   She advocates for prioritizing progress and consistency in daily life. Embracing Imperfection in Life (00:24:53)   Kate concludes by affirming that even minimal effort is valuable in the pursuit of goals.

In this episode, I dive into what I believe is the biggest lie we've been sold about emotions. I challenge the glossy magazine version of emotional wellness that tells us strong, successful people have mastered positive thinking and banished all those "negative" emotions. What I Explore: Beyond the Happiness Trap: I share why our cultural obsession with being happy all the time is actually making us miserable. Research from 2017 confirms what I've learned the hard way: valuing happiness too highly leads to greater disappointment and unhappiness. A Fundamental Shift: I invite you to stop labeling emotions as "positive" or "negative" (which turns them into a moral issue) and instead ask: Is this emotion helpful or unhelpful right now? Is it driving me toward meaningful action? The Power in Discomfort: After my sister died in a preventable accident overseas, my anger wasn't "negative" – it became the fuel for creating change that might save other families from our pain I discuss how courage exists precisely because we feel fear first I share how grief research (including Brené Brown's work) shows our capacity to feel grief deeply directly correlates with our capacity for joy The 50/50 Principle: I explain what my coach Brooke Castillo taught me about accepting that life will be roughly 50% wonderful and 50% difficult – and how embracing this ratio stops us from "suffering about our suffering." Fulfillment vs. Happiness: I reveal what Harvard's longest-running study on adult development discovered: successful people aren't those who experience less pain, but those who've developed the capacity to feel all human emotions without self-judgment. Want to get unstuck and finally feel in control again ? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn more about how my 1:1 life coaching program can help you! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/ 

Ever find yourself spiraling into the 'what if' cycle, where your brain is overthinking every worst case scenario? Welcome to being human! Worry is like an uninvited houseguest that overstays its welcome, takes over your couch, and eats all your snacks. And yet, so many of us feel like we need to worry—like it's somehow productive or protective. But here's the truth: worrying doesn't prevent bad things from happening, it just ruins the good things in the present. In this episode, we're diving deep into: Why your brain is wired to worry (hint: it's an outdated survival mechanism!) The psychology behind the Worry Paradox—why worry feels useful but actually hurts your problem-solving skills A fascinating study that proves 85% of what we worry about never happens (seriously, read that again!) My favorite science-backed strategies to stop worry from running your life—including the "Worry Window" technique, the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise, and how to shift from "What if?" to "Even if…" Packed with actionable strategies grounded in neuroscience and positive psychology, this episode offers a transformative approach to breaking free from worry's grip and reclaiming your mental clarity—because your future is yours to imagine, and peace feels infinitely better than fear. Want to get unstuck and finally feel in control again ? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn more about how my 1:1 life coaching program can help you! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/ 

Have you ever wondered why you can't find something that's right in front of you, only to have someone else spot it instantly? Or why, after deciding to move downtown, you suddenly notice "For Rent" signs everywhere? This isn't coincidence – it's your brain's fascinating filtering system at work, and understanding it could completely transform how you experience life. Tune into this episode to learn eye-opening insights about: How our brains create self-fulfilling prophecies through neural filtering The science behind why "seeing is believing" actually works in reverse A practical 63-day challenge for rewiring your neural pathways Why discomfort during belief change is actually a sign of progress Evidence-based strategies for harnessing confirmation bias to work in your favor Whether you're navigating career challenges, processing grief, or simply seeking to understand why your reality seems stuck in certain patterns, this episode offers both hope and concrete tools for change. It's not about becoming someone new – it's about rewiring your perception to see what's been possible all along. Because your confirmation bias is already running in the background, shaping your reality – the question is, are you ready to take control? Want to get unstuck and finally feel in control again ? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn more about how my 1:1 life coaching program can help you! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/ 

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same argument on repeat—frustrated that your partner, friend, or loved one just doesn't get it? Or maybe you've felt unheard, unseen, or like your emotions are being dismissed? You're not alone. Most of us were never taught how to truly communicate in a way that builds connection instead of conflict. In this episode, I sit down with family therapist and parenting expert Kerry Stutzman, who shares an eye-opening approach to navigating tough conversations—so you can feel heard, understood, and closer to the people who matter most. Kerry reveals how our default emotional responses - whether it's anger, sadness, anxiety, or guilt - shape our relationship conflicts and shares a game-changing technique called "flow of feelings" that can transform heated arguments into meaningful connections. In this episode, you'll discover: Why we get stuck in repetitive argument patterns with our partners How childhood experiences shape our emotional responses in relationships A step-by-step communication tool to express difficult feelings without triggering defensiveness The art of truly listening to your partner (and why it's harder than you think) How to introduce therapeutic tools to a reluctant partner Through a candid role-play demonstration with Kerry, she shows exactly how to put this technique into practice, making it accessible for any couple looking to deepen their connection and break free from destructive communication patterns. Whether you're struggling with relationship conflicts or simply want to build stronger emotional intimacy with your partner, this episode offers practical tools for more authentic and connecting conversations. Featured Guest: Kerry Stutzman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Website: www.kerrystutzman.com Resources: Flow of Feelings tool available at https://kerrystutzman.com/flow-of-feelings/  Like what you hear but struggling to put it into practice? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn more about how my 1:1 life coaching program can help you! CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/