On Purpose with Jay Shetty

What are you leaving behind in 2024? How do you plan to make more space for growth in 2025? Today, Jay  reflects on the art of letting go to make space for personal growth in 2025. He shares a transformative framework for self-improvement by identifying ten habits, beliefs, and mindsets to leave behind. Using the Buddha’s analogy of a raft, he emphasizes the importance of releasing old tools that no longer serve us to navigate life’s new challenges more freely. Jay taps into impactful topics, from overcoming the fear of mistakes to releasing self-consciousness and rethinking the cultural glorification of busyness. He encourages listeners to embrace risk, foster self-compassion, and reframe their relationship with time and perfectionism. Thought-provoking anecdotes, like the role of light and dark in optimizing sleep and the illusion of justice as a universal principle, provide actionable insights for creating a balanced and intentional life. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Let Go of Fear and Embrace Mistakes How to Balance Self-Criticism and Self-Compassion How to Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time How to Make Space for New Habits and Growth How to Find Silence in a Noisy World As we prepare to step into a new year, remember that growth doesn’t come from adding more to your plate – it comes from letting go of what no longer serves you.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:29 The Journey Told by the Buddha 04:57 #10: Avoid Making Mistakes  08:09 #9: Leave Self-Consciousness Behind 10:58 #8: Belief that Busy is Good 14:05 #7: Turn Down the Noise 16:08 #6: Walk Away from Waiting for Justice 18:16 #5: Getting Serious About Light and Dark 20:27 #4: Leave Self Criticism Behind 21:53 #3: Waiting for the Perfect Time 23:40 #2: Mediocrity  25:48 #1: Stop Fighting FateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What stresses you out the most? Have you noticed stress hurting your health? Today, Jay sits down with Dan Harris, journalist, meditation advocate, and the author of 10% Happier. If you’ve ever felt like stress and anxiety are running the show in your life, this episode is here to remind you that you’re not alone—and better yet, there’s a way forward. Dan opens up about the growing levels of anxiety and stress we’re all feeling, thanks to modern life’s endless distractions like social media, political turmoil, and the ripple effects of the pandemic. He unpacks the difference between stress and anxiety and offers some eye-opening perspectives on why we often feel overwhelmed. But this isn’t just a heavy conversation about what’s wrong with the world—it’s packed with solutions.  Jay and Dan dive into the magic of human connection, the science of mindfulness, and the art of not being so hard on yourself. Dan shares personal stories about grappling with anger, dealing with claustrophobia, and navigating his own inner critic. You’ll hear how meditation has been a game-changer for him, not in making life perfect, but in making it manageable—and even joyful. They also get into the nitty-gritty of practical tips: How do you set boundaries with your phone? How do you learn to live with discomfort instead of running from it? And how can you reframe that negative self-talk that’s always lurking? Spoiler alert: It’s not about silencing your inner critic; it’s about befriending it. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Differentiate Stress from Anxiety How to Build Meaningful Connections That Reduce Stress How to Reframe Negative Self-Talk How to Identify the Root Cause of Your Anger How to Embrace Discomfort for Personal Growth How to Recognize and Change Destructive Habits You don’t need to have all the answers or fix everything overnight. It’s about showing up, being kind to yourself, and embracing the messy, imperfect journey of personal growth.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:08 How Are You Handling Stress? 02:51 What is Stressing You Out? 07:24 How to Build Deep Relationships 11:32 How Develop a Healthy Relationship 19:43 The Possibility of Reprogramming Your Inner Dialogue 24:16 The Benefits of Meditation 26:51 What is “ME”? 31:14 How Do You Befriend Your Mind? 38:37 There’s a Reason Why You Keep Wanting More 40:39 Get More Familiar with Your Thoughts 43:39 What is Your Daily Meditation Practice? 47:10 The Modular Model of Mind 51:49 Healthy Anger Versus Destructive Anger 57:07 Are You Defensive or Dismissive? 01:00:12 The Power of Having a Sense of Humor 01:03:05 Observe Nature to Understand Yourself  01:07:23 Dan on Final Five Episode Resources: Dan Harris | Website Dan Harris | TikTok Dan Harris | LinkedIn Dan Harris | Instagram Ten Percent Happier | YouTube 10% Happier with Dan Harris 10% Happier (10th Anniversary): How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works—A True Story See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you tired of dating? What’s your biggest dating struggle? Today, Jay talks about the complexities of dating, relationships, and building meaningful connections in today’s fast-paced world. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on trust, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values – traits that truly matter in a partner – while learning to move past surface-level “icks” that can distract us from finding real love. Through personal anecdotes and insights from Match’s Singles in America study, Jay explores why many of us are chasing outdated ideas of love, trying to recreate the romanticized relationships of our younger selves. Instead, shift your focus to the present, to nurture healthy dynamics built on honesty, respect, and mutual growth. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Trust in Relationships How to Spot the Right Partner Through Their Actions How to Ask Questions That Reveal True Priorities How to Balance Patience and Expectations in Relationships How to Handle Communication Differences Effectively No matter where you are on your journey –single, dating, or in a long-term relationship – remember that love is a process, not a destination. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 Why Dating Has Become Extremely Challenging 06:24 The Core Values Feature 10:28 Questions to Ask on the First Date 12:58 Top Two Turn On with a New Partner 13:55 Are You Being Patient with the Right Person? 17:30 Does Your Partner’s Opinion Bother You? 19:14 Allow Other Forms of Relationships to Grow 21:54 Do You Communicate Properly with Your Partner? 24:01 Most Relationships Has a Healing Problem 25:16 Are You in the Wrong Relationship?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you stay disciplined when life gets busy? What’s a routine that keeps you on track? Today, Jay welcomes Alexis Ohanian, tech founder, venture capitalist, and advocate for social change. Known as the co-founder of Reddit and founder of venture firm 776, Alexis shares the profound lessons he's learned from building communities, parenting, and navigating personal and professional challenges. Alexis shares insights into the evolution of online identities and the surprising dedication of individuals who moderate and foster online spaces; his role as a father, offering a candid glimpse into the delicate balance between introducing his children to the digital world and preserving their innocence.  The conversation also tackles larger societal issues, such as the importance of role models for young men and the transformative potential of positive male friendships. Alexis doesn’t shy away from discussing the darker sides of technology, including the need for ethical boundaries and his personal experiences advocating for change within Reddit. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Foster a Sense of Community Online How to Introduce Kids to the Internet Safely How to Navigate Cultural Differences in Relationships How to Encourage Grit and Perseverance in Children How to Lead a Team with Empathy and Vision How to Prioritize Family While Building a Career In today’s fast-paced and ever-evolving world, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Yet, the foundation of a fulfilling life lies in embracing challenges, building strong relationships, and staying true to our values. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:40 The Human Mind’s Deep Need for Community 02:59 The Challenges of Moderating Online Communities 05:26 Raising Kids to Navigate the Internet Safely 10:13 Why AI Can’t Replace Human Empathy 17:28 The Power of Optimism in Uncertain Times 21:42 Drawing Ethical Lines in Content Moderation 29:52 Saying No to Risky and Irresponsible Startups 33:05 The Key Milestones Behind Reddit’s Success 35:05 A Family’s Journey of Resilience and Survival 41:46 Coping with Family Tragedy While Moving Forward 52:27 The Joy of Seeing Hard Work Pay Off 01:00:15 Lessons Learned Through Loss and Reflection 01:12:45 Building Greatness with a Strong Partnership 01:19:19 Choosing the Right Partner for Life and Growth 01:27:23 Teaching Kids to Embrace Failure and Grow 01:35:27 Alexis on Final Five Episode Resources: Alexis Ohanian | Facebook Alexis Ohanian | TikTok Alexis Ohanian | LinkedIn Alexis Ohanian | Instagram Alexis Ohanian | YouTube  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you unwind after a long day? What’s your favorite way to relax quickly? Today, Jay sits down with David Ko, the CEO of Calm and author of the groundbreaking book Recharge. Together, they unravel the complexities of stress, mental health, and how to create a fulfilling life in today’s fast-paced world. David shares his personal journey, from navigating childhood stress to becoming a leader who champions mental wellness. He introduces the “battery analogy,” a simple yet profound way to gauge our mental and emotional energy levels. Drawing from his book, David explains how understanding and managing our “battery” can transform our approach to stress, productivity, and personal growth. Jay and David discuss the power of presence, the necessity of balance, and how redefining stress—from harmful to helpful—can lead to resilience and growth. Their conversation dives deep into actionable strategies, such as creating rituals to recharge, fostering vulnerability at work, and redefining leadership to prioritize mental health.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to Recognize When You Need to Recharge How to Foster Vulnerability in Leadership How to Balance Good Stress and Bad Stress How to Build a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace How to Take Breaks for Better Productivity How to Identify and Remove Stress-Inducing Triggers Recharge your mind, body, and spirit—not just to keep going, but to thrive with purpose and joy. Prioritize yourself, because when you’re recharged, you’re unstoppable. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:10 What’s Something You’re not Calm About? 03:31 How's Your Battery? 05:42 The Four Battery Zones 10:59 The Importance of Recharging 14:24 Vulnerability in Leadership 18:37 Good Stress vs Bad Stress 25:25 Mental Health in the Workplace 28:56 Listen and Become More Purposeful 28:57 How to Take Care of Your Team 30:44 Supporting Employees’ Mental Health 38:10 Tools for Managing Burnout 44:19 How Do You Deal with Stress? 52:02 Put Your Focus on Healthy Stress  53:27 Daily Practices for Recharging 01:01:42 What is a Quality Decision? 01:07:08 David on Final Five 01:14:90 Is Your Battery Full? Episode Resources: David Ko | Instagram David Ko | LinkedIn Calm | Website Calm | Instagram Calm | Facebook Calm | X  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What in your day makes you happiest? Where do you see yourself in five years? Today, Jay sits down with the iconic rapper, multi-platinum artist, and entrepreneur Wiz Khalifa. The episode explores Wiz’s journey from navigating the challenges of his youth in Pittsburgh to becoming one of the most recognizable names in the music industry. Throughout their conversation, Wiz shares profound insights into his personal growth, family values, and the discipline behind his success. Wiz reflects on his early days, including the loss of a record deal and the resilience it took to rebuild his career. He discusses his evolution as an artist and individual, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, patience, and staying true to oneself. The conversation also dives into the balance between his professional life and personal responsibilities, particularly as a father. Wiz talks about raising his 11-year-old son, Sebastian, and his new daughter, Cadence, shedding light on how fatherhood has deepened his perspective on life and masculinity. Jay and Wiz also explore deeper topics like handling grief, cultivating self-discipline, and the nuanced concept of masculinity in today’s world. Wiz’s candid anecdotes, whether about quitting alcohol, building financial literacy, or practicing MMA for mental clarity, inspire listeners to live authentically, embrace personal growth, and focus on what truly matters. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Rebuild Confidence After a Setback How to Balance Personal Life and Career Successfully How to Find Gratitude in Everyday Moments How to Stay Calm Under Pressure How to Teach Discipline and Politeness to Kids How to Manage Money as a Creative Professional How to Stay Authentic in the Spotlight Every setback is an opportunity to rebuild stronger, and every triumph is a chance to inspire others. Prioritize what matters, whether it’s your personal growth, the relationships you cherish, or the values you stand for.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty 100% of Proceeds are donated to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. Visit https://jayshettyshop.com  re(NEW) You Free Workshop Do you feel like you’re tolerating a mediocre life? I’ve created a workshop that shares 5 keys for creating a life you truly love. Access at no charge at www.renewyouworkshop.com What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:15 Navigating Fame As A Star 09:18 The Craziest Fan Interactions  10:07 Family Matters The Most 11:49 Dealing With Grief 13:04 Seeking Family Support  13:54 Finding Balance In Grief 14:50 Life Before Fame And Success 16:47 What's It Like To Lose A Record Deal? 17:15 Confidence In The Face Adversity  18:37 Advice To Younger Self 19:22  Driven Goals And Compulsion 20:50 Being Contented With What You Have  21:30 What's The Hardest Conversation You Have Ever Had? 24:40 Building Connections With Your Audience  25:50 Ever Caught Anything Crazy On Camera? 26:45 Then VS Now Journey With Other Stars 29:13 Advice For Up And Coming Artists 32:11 How Far Do You Plan Your Goals? 32:49 Best Moves In Money Management  35:58 Dumbest Thing I Have Ever Bought 36:35 Best Investment I Have Ever Made 38:20 Relationship With God 40:30 Moving Around In My Childhood  41:58 How My Childhood Experiences Has Impacted Me 44:48 How My Views On Fatherhood Has Changed 50:17 How I Take Control Of My Career As An Artist 54:17 What I Learnt From My Mom 55:31 Something People Should Know About Me 1:00 How Working Out Helped Me 1:02 My Advice For Men Who Want To Get Into Health And Fitness 1:03 My Perspective On Masculinity  1:08 My Take On MMA And Martial Arts 1:12:09 How I View My New Album And Most Viewed Video 1:16:22 My Motivation To Go Sober From Alcohol  1:18:01 First Thing I Do Before I Go To Bed 1:18:32 Wiz on Final Five  Episode Resources: Wiz Khalifa | Website Wiz Khalifa | Instagram Wiz Khalifa | TikTok Wiz Khalifa | YouTube Wiz Khalifa | FacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does a "rich life" mean to you? Do you focus more on what you have or what you lack? Today, Jay will redefine what it truly means to live a "rich life." While society often equates wealth with material possessions and financial success, Jay challenges this narrow definition and explores how richness can also encompass time, energy, relationships, and inner fulfillment. Drawing on personal experiences, historical insights, and anecdotes from his conversations with inspiring figures like Kobe Bryant and Tom Hanks, Jay illustrates how people can find peace and purpose by focusing on what genuinely matters. He also addresses the pitfalls of tying happiness solely to financial success, emphasizing that it’s not money itself but our mindset—whether driven by envy, ego, or gratitude—that shapes our sense of abundance. Jay further unpacks our personal definitions of wealth. Are we in a season of prioritizing career growth, family, love, or personal development? He explores how life’s richness comes from aligning with our true values and fully embracing the priorities that resonate most in each phase of life, without guilt or external judgment. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Define Your Rich Life How to Shift to an Abundance Mindset How to Find Purpose Beyond Money How to Focus Your Energy for Growth How to Live Authentically and Fully Richness isn’t about how much you have but how deeply you experience life. Prioritize what matters, invest your energy where it counts, and trust that each step you take toward alignment with your values brings you closer to a truly abundant existence.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:39 How Do You Define Wealth? 06:59 What You Do Becomes Your Identity 10:26 How to Create a Rich, Abundant Mindset? 11:46 The Difference Between Resume and Eulogy Virtues 17:01 How Do You Spend Your Time and Energy? 19:46 Looking at Richness Beyond Money 22:47 The Five Regrets of the Dying  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s the first step to making money with no savings? How do you choose which opportunities to start with? Today, Jay sits down with Codie Sanchez, author of “Main Street Millionaire”. Codie is a powerhouse entrepreneur, investor, and the mind behind Contrarian Thinking, a platform dedicated to empowering people to build real wealth through unconventional investments and small business ownership. Codie’s journey is anything but typical: she went from a middle-class background to finance jobs at Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, then pivoted into journalism, and finally found her calling by building wealth through owning small businesses. Codie breaks down the idea that you don’t need groundbreaking ideas or tons of cash to get started, just a willingness to look beyond the obvious. From laundromats to vending machines, she explains how these “boring” businesses can actually be gold mines, offering steady and substantial returns that often get overlooked in today’s flashy, social media-driven vision of success. Together, Jay and Codie dive into practical steps for starting your journey in business ownership. They discuss the essentials, how to make deals, manage risk, and recognize the right opportunities. Along the way, they debunk the myth that you need to be rich or have a finance degree to succeed. Instead, they focus on the importance of learning the language of money, cultivating grit, and keeping a curious mindset. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Take Control of Your Financial Future How to Start Building Wealth Without a Big Idea How to Identify Profitable Small Businesses How to Build a Strong Relationship with Money How to Turn Curiosity into Cash How to Leverage Ownership for Financial Freedom How to Find Under-the-Radar Investment Opportunities You have the ability to create meaningful change, not only for yourself but for those around you, by building something that truly matters. Keep moving forward, and believe that financial freedom is within your reach. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:57 What Makes Rich People Rich? 04:40 The Reason Why People Don’t Talk About Money 06:30 Where Are We At Financially? 09:50 Misconceptions About What Makes Money 13:00 4-Step Process to Consistently Make Money 14:47 Academic Skills Don’t Translate to a Stable Career 17:44 Do You Need Money to Make Money? 23:06 The Key to Wealth is Taking Risks 26:48 We Can All Get Rich Together 32:52 Focus on the Foundation, not Tactics 35:28 You’ll Make Less Money if You Think You Will 36:57 Learn To Ask the Right Questions 43:57 The Best Mentorship Advice 49:06 You Can Make Money From Anything 52:33 The Richest People Started Small 54:19 What Core Business Skills You Should Invest In 01:00:16 Recognize Your Value to Get Better Deals 01:10:21 Every Business has a Value 01:13:49 Are You Bad at Math 01:17:47 Codie on Final Five Episode Resources: Codie Sanchez | Website Codie Sanchez | YouTube Codie Sanchez | Instagram Codie Sanchez | Facebook Codie Sanchez | TikTok Codie Sanchez | LinkedIn Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes you feel confident about yourself? How do you build your confidence when it’s low? Today, Jay discusses a topic that's all too familiar - the constant barrage of unrealistic beauty standards. He challenges the notion of a singular "most beautiful woman in the world" and explores how societal expectations and media influence our perception of beauty. Jay breaks down the historical and cultural factors that shape beauty standards, from the ancient Greek ideals of symmetry and proportion to the modern-day obsession with youth and perfection. He highlights the role of social media in perpetuating unrealistic beauty ideals and encourages listeners to question these norms and embrace their individuality. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Embrace Individuality How to Build Self-Love How to Set Boundaries How to Appreciate Uniqueness How to Practice Mindfulness By understanding the forces that shape our perception of beauty and cultivating self-love, we can live authentic, fulfilling lives. Remember, true beauty radiates from within. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:21 Different Ways We Think About Beauty 07:32 Definition of Beauty Through History 13:49 Beauty Standards of the West 16:11 What Do We Believe to be Beautiful About Ourselves? 17:05 3 Ways to Build Self LoveSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What triggers envy for you? How do you turn envy into action? Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it’s packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today’s challenges. One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, We Who Wrestle With God. He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what’s possible.  Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don’t fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build a Life of Integrity How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals How to Practice Gratitude Daily How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation 08:13 Escaping A Limited Reality 09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root 13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths 18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths 21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People 24:16 PTSD And Its Impact  27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity 37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery 40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking 47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision 52:56 The Dangers of Envy 55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy 59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth 01:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening 01:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth 01:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress 01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement  01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today 01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5 Episode Resources: Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Website Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | YouTube Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Instagram Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Facebook Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  What drains your energy the most?   How do you deal with toxic behaviors?   Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs. Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down.  In this episode, you'll learn: How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers How to Turn Negative Conversations Around How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People? 03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic? 04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist 06:06 Type 2: The Complainer 08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim 10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough” 13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You 15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity 17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story 19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves 22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark 24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and BoundariesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle? Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships? Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners. Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations How to Practice Wise Compassion How to Break Negative Patterns How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships How to Prioritize Clear Communication How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age? 05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters 08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time 13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship 17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate 21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection? 24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner? 28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires 31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate 35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story 37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries 42:36 We All Want to Be Liked 45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet 49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time 52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating 57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping 01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person? 01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages 01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage? 01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue 01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt 01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner?  Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time? What’s one way you avoid distractions? Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier. Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Slow Down for Better Productivity How to Stay Present in Conversations How to Find Calm by Unplugging How to Build Stronger Focus Habits How to Reclaim Your Attention By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted? 04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus 06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask 09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress 11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique 13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times 15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone 20:34 #4: Finish What You StartSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you handle negative self-talk? What helps you overcome self-doubt? Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded Keys SoulCare, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image. Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career.  Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Your True Self How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear How to Find Confidence Within Yourself How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity How to Discover Your Inner Strength How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care How to Be Kind to Yourself How to Trust Your Own Choices The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self? 05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself 09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious 13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today? 15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself 19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin 26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself 32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps 36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner? 38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship 45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow 47:51 The Love for Crystals 51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself 57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better? 01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude 01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen 01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children 01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway 01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision 01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success? 01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five Episode Resources: Alicia Keys | Website Alicia Keys | YouTube Alicia Keys | Instagram Alicia Keys | Facebook Alicia Keys | TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you open to just being friends with an ex? Do you think they want the same kind of friendship? Today, Jay’s diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work. Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship How to Set Boundaries with an Ex How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship 04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes 09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Won’t Work 13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex? 18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup 21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement 22:50 Consider the Welfare of ChildrenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you usually handle stress? Have you tried hypnosis for stress? Today, Jay with Dr. David Spiegel, a leading expert in psychiatry and behavioral sciences, to explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy. Dr. Spiegel, with over 45 years of experience in clinical and research fields, shares profound insights into the science behind hypnosis, dispelling myths and misconceptions. He explains how hypnosis is a natural, self-directed process that allows individuals to tap into heightened focus, manage pain, reduce stress, and address deep-seated traumas. The conversation begins with Dr. Spiegel explaining the foundations of hypnosis, highlighting its ability to narrow one’s focus, similar to a telephoto lens, and create a dissociative state where one can temporarily suspend self-limiting beliefs. This unique focus enables users to challenge habitual thoughts and reframe experiences. Dr. Spiegel shares real-life success stories, such as a war veteran who found peace with traumatic memories and individuals overcoming chronic pain and stress using hypnosis. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Sleep Better Using Hypnosis How to Improve Focus by Narrowing Attention How to Process Trauma Safely with Hypnosis How to Use Visualization to Relieve Stress How to Focus Your Attention Deeply How to Filter Out Pain with Hypnosis By learning how to access a focused, relaxed state, you can reshape your response to pain, manage stress more effectively, and explore emotions or memories that might otherwise feel overwhelming.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:17 What is Hypnosis 05:08 How Beneficial Hypnosis is For You? 09:14 What Happens to Your Brain During Hypnosis 14:40 Can You Control Other People with Hypnosis? 16:13 Is It Possible to Hypnotize Anyone? 26:14 You’re Still in Control of Your Body 31:28 How Can Hypnotherapy After Memory Recall? 38:29 Guided Hypnotherapy at Home is Possible 40:59 Let Your Brain Heal Your Body  43:34 The Worst Mental Case Under Hypnosis 50:26 We Lose the Hypnotic Ability as We Age 55:39 How Hypnosis Can Help You Focus More 57:38 David on Final Five Episode Resources: Reveri | YouTube Reveri | Instagram Reveri | Facebook Reveri | LinkedIn Reveri | WebsiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt like success affected your dating life? Have you ever felt judged for your level of ambition? Today, Jay addresses the insecurities some men may feel when partnered with highly driven women, shedding light on societal conditioning and personal growth. discusses how societal expectations traditionally placed men in provider roles, which can lead to an unease when faced with a partner who exemplifies drive and independence. Jay also delves into recent studies, such as the "Clooney Effect," showing that most men actually value intelligence and confidence in their partners. By examining these narratives, Jay dispels myths that successful women are inherently intimidating to men. Instead, he encourages ambitious women not to diminish their goals but to seek partners who celebrate and complement their journey. In this episode, you'll learn: How to embrace your ambition without guilt How to address insecurities in your relationship How to balance mutual respect and personal ambition How to seek partners who uplift, not compete How to identify and avoid unhealthy relationship roles True partnership means valuing each other's journey, working through insecurities together, and building a foundation where both people can grow freely and authentically. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:49 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women? 05:15 Men Have Had to Play the Protective Role 06:48 The Negative Dating Mindset You Should Stop Having 13:04 Have an Understanding of What Both are Pursuing 14:29 Are You Making Your Partner Feel Insecure? 18:29 What Makes You a Healthy Partner? 21:04 Respect Each Other’s AmbitionsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does a balanced life look like for you? Are you getting enough time to recharge? Today, Jay engages in a deeply reflective conversation with legendary actor, filmmaker, and writer Tom Hanks. With a career spanning over four decades, Hanks is renowned for his roles in iconic films like Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Cast Away, and The Green Mile, earning him two Academy Awards. Tom opens up about his unconventional childhood, moving frequently and adjusting to new environments, which shaped his adaptability and taught him the art of letting go. As he reflects on his career, he discusses how he continues to find purpose and depth in his work, emphasizing the joy of collaboration and the importance of staying curious. Together, Jay and Tom discuss how certain locations hold emotional weight, becoming symbols of comfort or life-changing reflection. They also touch on generational wisdom, the role of luck, and finding joy in small, shared experiences. With his characteristic humor and humility, Tom offers listeners a glimpse into his contemplative nature and the lessons he's learned over the years, reminding us all of the power of presence and community. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Find Comfort in Solitude How to Embrace Life's Unexpected Changes How to Connect Across Generations How to Trust Your Instincts and Take Risks How to Stay Curious at Any Age How to Discover Purpose in Your Work How to Show Up Fully in Relationships How to Find Wisdom in Life’s Challenges How to Pursue Meaning over Perfection Life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about embracing the unknown with openness, honoring the journey, and finding meaning in each moment, each experience, and each relationship.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:17 Early Life Lessons: Childhood, Change, and Resilience 05:37 Mastering the Art of Detachment 10:15 Discovering Theater and Passion in High School 18:56 Can We Create Our Own Luck?  21:35 Exploring the Sacred Sites of Jerusalem 27:03 Owning Your Mistakes and When to Take Personal Responsibility 30:52 The Third Space: Finding Balance Beyond Work and Home 37:03 Fathers and the Lasting Impact on Their Sons 38:42 Nurturing Kids’ Interests for Genuine Growth 42:59 The Value of Academic Ambition 45:21 Capturing the Present: Finding Magic in Every Moment 52:46 Reflections on Seeing Your Younger Self in the Movie  55:03 Finding Presence in Everyday Life 58:04 The Freedom of Following Your True Desires 01:04:25 Imagining the Dream Life: Building a Path to Fulfillment 01:07:29 Themes of Time and Place in the Film Here 01:09:01 The Fascination with Reaching the Moon 01:11:04 Unraveling a Deep Fascination with WWII 01:18:01 Becoming America’s Most Trusted Voice 01:21:07 Grateful for the Blessings of Family 01:22:04 Observing Life’s Passing Moments 01:27:42 Honored with Greek Citizenship 01:31:31 Tom on Final Five Episode Resources: Tom Hanks | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever regretted not saying something sooner? Do you think holding in your emotions causes stress? Today, Jay takes us on a journey through the principles of the Tell Them Method, explaining that whether it's a simple decision like not wanting to attend an event or a deeper emotion like feeling unappreciated, the key is to directly communicate those feelings to the person involved. He highlights that most of us practice what he calls the "Tell Everyone But Them" method—where we vent to others but avoid speaking directly to the person who needs to hear it. This behavior, Jay argues, not only erodes trust and intimacy in relationships but also traps negative emotions within us, leading to stress and even physical discomfort. Jay uses relatable anecdotes and insights from research to underline the significance of expressing emotions in a healthy way. He discusses how bottled-up emotions can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, overreactions, and even health problems. By directly telling people how we feel—whether it’s disappointment, love, or frustration—Jay believes we open the door to deeper understanding and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Use the Tell Them Method How to Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations How to Pick the Best Time to Talk How to Share Feelings Without Fighting How to Ask Instead of Accuse Practicing the "Tell Them Method" approach in everyday life not only improves our relationships but also enhances our emotional well-being, giving us the clarity and peace that comes from being truthful and intentional in our interactions. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:33 What is the Tell Them Method? 06:11 Why it’s Hard to Tell Someone How You Feel 09:29 Underestimate the Value of How Something is Said 16:06 The Three Things That Happen When Emotion is Experienced 18:26 How Trapped Emotions Can Create Trauma 22:52 Figure Out the Best Time to Talk About It 25:57 Don’t Wait for the Last Minute to Tell ThemSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever tried different ways to get rid of belly fat? Have you ever tried different ways to suppress your appetite? Today, Jay welcomes women’s health expert, bestselling author, and podcast host Dr. Mindy Pelz to discuss how women can optimize their health, particularly through fasting, hormones, and metabolic health. Dr. Pelz explains the biological differences between men and women and emphasizes the importance of understanding the female body's rhythms and cycles for maintaining health and hormonal balance. Dr. Pelz begins by discussing common fasting mistakes, highlighting how doing the same fast daily can slow down metabolism. She introduces the concept of "feast-famine cycling," stressing the need for variety in fasting durations and windows, particularly for women. According to her, fasting must be adapted to the individual’s lifestyle and, for women, their menstrual cycle. She also addresses Jay’s personal approach to fasting and offers tailored advice for him, including when to eat before and after workouts. The conversation then turns to the topic of belly fat and how stress and toxins contribute to weight gain, particularly around the belly area. Dr. Pelz explains that excess cortisol, which is heightened by stress, leads to belly fat, and she provides practical tips to manage cortisol levels, including movement, time in nature, and spending time with positive people. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Start Fasting Gradually How to Manage Stress with Movement How to Reduce Belly Fat Naturally How to Customize Your Eating Schedule How to Stabilize Blood Sugar with Timing How to Stay Full Longer with Healthy Fats How to Lose Weight with Fasting Cycles How to Align Fasting with Your Menstrual Cycle The message is clear: everyone has the ability to transform their well-being by taking small, intentional steps toward a healthier lifestyle. With the right mindset and commitment, a vibrant and balanced life is within reach for all.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:59 The Worst Mistake One Can Make While Fasting 04:38 How Do You Fast Properly? 06:22 What’s Your Intention for Your Health? 09:37 What’s the Fastest Way to Lose Belly Fat? 13:42 Common Toxins That Accumulate in the Body 18:00 The Chemicals that Turn Stems Cells to Fat Cells 19:43 Does Counting Calories Matter?   25:45 How to Have a Better Relationship with Food 29:16 How to Detox from Sugar Cravings 32:47 How Much Protein Should You Eat? 38:19 What is Toxic Fat? 39:50 When is the Best Time to Eat Fat? 43:38 Are You Getting Enough Nutrients for Your Hormones? 46:14 What is the Fasting Cycle? 49:08 The Female’s Hormonal System is Highly Complex 52:52 Should You Reconsider Hormone Replacement Therapy? 55:22 Positive LIfestyle Changes That Could Help You 58:40 Is There Anyone Who SHouldn’t Fast? 59:58 What is a Clean Protein? 01:03:25 How to Empower Your Body 01:04:40 How to Know Your Got Your Meal Right 01:09:09 How Do You Train Yourself to Fast? 01:12:44 Is the Female Body Meant to Have More Fat? 01:17:37 How Do You Manage Fasting and Working Out? 01:20:22 Mindy on Final Five Episode Resources: Dr. Mindy Pelz | Website Dr. Mindy Pelz | Instagram Dr. Mindy Pelz | Facebook Dr. Mindy Pelz | YouTube  Dr. Mindy Pelz | LinkedIn Eat Like a Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn FatSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.