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In this deeply personal episode, Ryan opens up about his own divorce - how it unfolded, what he learned, and how men can navigate their own journey with strength and integrity. Drawing from experience and thousands of conversations with men, Ryan shares five things NOT to do and five things TO do when facing divorce. He reminds listeners that divorce, while painful, doesn’t have to be the end - it can be the start of rebuilding your life with purpose, clarity, and resilience. Key Takeaways Five Don’ts:  - Don’t sedate yourself - Avoid alcohol, porn, or distractions that numb growth.  - Don’t stalk your ex - Cut off emotional dependence and focus forward.  - Don’t sleep around - Don’t use others to fill emotional voids.  - Don’t seek vengeance or self-harm - You’re needed, and life can get better.  - Don’t watch porn - It distorts intimacy and respect for women. Five Do’s:  - Build male friendships - Brotherhood is essential for healing and accountability.  - Develop new skills - Strengthen your financial and professional foundation.  - Learn a new hobby - Rediscover fun, joy, and adventure.  - Train your body - Rebuild strength, confidence, and vitality.  - Give back - Serving others heals your own pain. Resources & Mentions Divorce Not Death Program: divorcenotdeath.com Email Ryan: ryan@orderofman.com Follow on Instagram: @ryanmickler SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro   00:31 - The Moment It Happened   02:54 - Hitting Rock Bottom   04:54 - The Don’ts: Avoid Sedation   07:17 - Don’t Stalk or Chase   09:42 - Don’t Sleep Around   12:03 - Don’t End It All   13:50 - Don’t Seek Vengeance   16:17 - The Do’s: Build Brotherhood   18:39 - Develop Skills & Wealth   21:01 - Learn to Have Fun Again   23:19 - Train Your Body   25:18 - Give Back   26:50 - Divorce Not Death   28:30 - Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and guest co-host Jay Jairdullo tackle powerful questions from members of the Iron Council and the broader Order of Man community. They dive into overcoming complacency after success, saving a struggling marriage, the real key to consistency, and finding clarity amid diet confusion.  Ryan also shares guidance on battling depression, building self-worth, and mastering emotional regulation. This episode is packed with wisdom, frameworks, and honest stories that every man can apply to become stronger and more grounded in purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and catch-up with Jay 01:26 – Setting new goals and avoiding complacency 07:42 – Navigating marital separation and self-improvement 17:31 – Why some men thrive in the Iron Council 34:18 – Using the Pareto Principle 42:51 – Overcoming depression and learning self-love 48:35 – Managing emotions and staying calm 56:21 – Final thoughts and Iron Council invitation Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Early in my self-development days, I would only consume non-fiction, self-help books. It seemed to be doing the trick but I became more consumed with the amount of books I read at the expense of actually improving my life. Then a friend encouraged me to read fiction every once in a while. Shortly thereafter, my friend Jack Carr, released his first book, Terminal List – which I devoured. And, Jack Carr is back with me again to talk about his newest book, Cry Havoc. But we talk a whole lot more than just the book. We cover how best to cultivate a new skill set (be it writing or something else), the importance of exercising the brain, making yourself better through wisdom, worrying about only what you can control, and the value of fictional work on your self-development journey. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Catching up with Jack Carr and reflecting on The Terminal List beginnings 01:23 - How publishing has changed and the modern author’s battlefield 05:21 - Gratitude, readers, and using social media for good 09:21 - Why Jack identifies first and foremost as an author 10:49 - Reading as a foundation: how fiction shaped Jack’s life 14:28 - Reading for joy versus studying the craft 18:13 - Military service as a calling before writing 21:46 - Why fiction develops empathy and frees the mind 25:51 - Audiobooks as a “gateway drug” back to reading 26:48 - Fiction versus visual media and the power of imagination 30:10 - Writing for the screen vs. writing for the page 31:02 - The art of storytelling and how Jack builds his novels 33:10 - How to write a better book (and why Jack ignores trends) 40:09 - Creative freedom, editors, and Hollywood contrasts 43:37 - Historical accuracy and the making of Cry Havoc 47:28 - Jack’s take on AI and creativity 48:53 - Authentic connection with readers and fans 52:00 - Sharing the author’s journey in the digital age 54:03 - The discipline of long-form creation and interruptions 58:23 - What’s next: research trips, nonfiction, and new directions 59:38 - Launching Cry Havoc and closing reflections Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Friday Field Notes, Ryan dives into the inevitable challenges every man faces—and how you can rise above them. Being a male is a matter of birth, but being a man is earned through responsibility, capability, and leadership. Ryan outlines practical ways to prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually so that you can protect, provide, and preside when it matters most. Whether it’s solving problems under pressure, anticipating threats, regulating emotions, or empowering others, this episode will challenge you to step up and live as the man you were meant to be. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – Intro 00:10 – Not every male is a man: challenge defines manhood 02:34 – True leadership reveals itself when things go wrong 04:50 – The power of anticipation and situational awareness 09:23 – Building capability in every area of life 11:45 – Manhood as a profession: constantly improving yourself 14:08 – Emotional regulation and creating safety 16:20 – Helping others solve their own problems 18:47 – Sovereignty: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual strength 20:37 – Becoming the man people look to in crisis 22:30 – Promotion: Join the Iron Council 23:45 – Next week’s episode preview with Jack Carr 24:30 – Closing and grassroots call to share the podcast What You’ll Learn in this Episode: Why challenge is the defining feature of manhood How to adopt the mindset of a problem-solver The importance of anticipation and situational awareness Building capability: financial, physical, and skill-based Regulating your emotions and creating safety for others Helping others solve their own problems Why manhood is a profession that requires constant improvement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Ryan and Kipp dig into building and protecting the relationships that matter: how to communicate needs, spot relationships that no longer serve you, rebuild trust with children after long absences, and strike the balance between work, service, and family. Along the way Ryan shares a harrowing (and hilarious) zipline rescue that reinforces why we should hold our loved ones close. Practical advice, real-world boundaries, and quick tactical habits (like rotating one-on-one lunches with kids) make this episode a toolkit for men working to show up better at home and in community. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 — Intro & topic setup 04:26 — Topic: building relationships (Iron Council prompt) 10:20 — Q: William Pennell — communicating needs 15:47 — Q: Jeremy Kofi — when relationships stop serving 20:45 — Q: Travis Gare — reentering your son's life after absence 31:10 — Q: Matthew Jenkins — prioritizing time with family 40:16 — Q: Christopher Jackson — reclaiming masculine energy 45:19 — Q: Eric Tyler — inner work before showing up in relationships 53:15 — Q: James Grayson — politics, faith and difficult conversations 59:39 — Ryan’s zipline story & closing thoughts 01:05:55 — Final sign-off / Iron Council promo   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In 1992, John Gray released, “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.” It was important work then. It is just as (if not, more so) important today. Why do we as men struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying? And, why do women struggle just as much in understanding us? My guest today, Vanessa Bennet, author of “The Motherhood Myth,” and psychotherapist sheds some light on the reasons, including an inside look at what women are thinking and why. Today, we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why women aren’t interested in being with you as one of their children, why women are looking for leadership and respect from men, what is healthy womanhood and manhood, why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women, and what it really means when a woman says, “I want a man who is vulnerable.” SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 — Intro & Costa Rica setup 02:02 — Miscommunication Between Men & Women 09:17 — Shadow Work & Shame 13:06 — Myths of Motherhood 18:07 — Finding the Middle (Pendulum Theory) 21:36 — Rupture & Repair in Relationships 30:10 — Choosing vs Needing: Desire & Partnership 33:06 — Leadership vs Dominance (What Women Want) 42:48 — Don’t Fix — Build Competence & Autonomy 50:26 — Safety & Parenting (why reliability matters) 59:43 — Preemptive Communication & Vulnerability 1:00:39 — Integrity & Follow-Through (why actions matter) Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler explores what it truly means for men to take risks and why it’s essential for growth, leadership, and purpose. He outlines the importance of knowing your “why,” weighing risk versus reward, hedging your bets, and preparing every area of your life before making bold moves. Ryan also emphasizes the need for courage, resilience, and guidance from mentors. This conversation is a practical and powerful guide for men who want to step into greater responsibility, push past fear, and live with meaning while taking calculated, righteous risks. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:14 Big goals and the role of risk 02:24 The importance of knowing your why 07:03 Measuring risk versus reward 09:27 Hedging your bets 11:50 Getting your house in order 14:16 SWOT analysis for decision-making 16:37 The mandate to take righteous risk 18:55 Coaching opportunities and Iron Council Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In Part 2 of this Ask Me Anything Ryan and Kipp tackle real listener money questions - from Roth vs. traditional 401(k)s and how to start saving at 48, to scaling rental portfolios, buying land, and running a meat processing business. They also discuss high-income skills, the psychology of debt and “usury,” and whether cashing out investments to pay a low-rate mortgage makes sense. Packed with actionable prudence, blunt honesty, and practical frameworks for financial decisions. Tune in, take notes, and move to action. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro 01:33 - Roth vs. Traditional 401(k) (Mike Cole) 04:22 - Biggest moves at 48 with nothing saved (Lonnie McIntyre) 10:57 - Scaling rentals: use equity or let it pay off (Jeremy Fulmer) 14:07 - Considering closing 401(k) to buy land (Mike) 16:57 - Starting a meat processing business (Jeff Kessler) 23:18 - Experience vs. price: creating convenience & premium services 26:21 - High-income skills & why connection matters (Jonathan Webster) 34:05 - Usury, debt culture & values (Jason Cole) 41:51 - Paying off mortgage vs. investing (Chris Edmondson) 47:35 - Iron Council / Order of Man promo & outro Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

If all it took was a basic understanding of food to get lean and healthy, all men would have visible abs and never need the scale. The reality, however, is that most men don’t have the abs and, although they may have the scale, they’re not really willing to get on it. It turns out that the science of food and how it reacts with our body goes so much deeper, including the mental and emotional realm. My guest today, author of Eat Smarter, Shawn Stevenson, has spent decades of his life understanding the basics and nuances of the fuel we call food and our relationship with it. We cover why not all calories are the same, how culture impacts our eating decision making process, how placebos are more effective than you’d think in curing illness and disease, why the diversity of what you eat is just as important as how much you eat, and why you are what you eat. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Catching Up & Setting the Stage 01:24 – Changing Family Food Culture 03:25 – Redefining Health & Culture in America 24:31 – Biological Age vs. Chronological Age 37:52 – The Truth About Dairy & Processed Foods 40:31 – Calories, Metabolism & Food Quality 46:20 – Context Matters: Fueling for Your Goals 01:11:36 – Training, Nutrition & Recovery Insights 01:13:34 – TRT, GLP-1 & Lifestyle Foundations 01:18:05 – Vitamin D, Deficiencies & Aging 01:21:14 – Nutrition & Movement After 40 01:24:43 – Rapid Fire: Protein, Food Choices & More 01:30:13 – Supplement Risks & Safe Practices 01:31:43 – Closing Thoughts & Where to Connect Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the truth behind the phrase “Nice Guys Never Win.” He explains how the tendency to avoid conflict, suppress needs, and chase approval leads to weak boundaries, indecision, and frustration in relationships and careers.  Ryan outlines the real costs of “nice guy syndrome” and challenges men to reclaim respect through clarity, honesty, and decisive action. He closes with five daily practices to help men stop self-betrayal and start leading with conviction. This episode is a direct, no-fluff call for men to stop playing the victim and step into responsibility. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Defining the Nice Guy 02:13 – Consequences of Nice Guy Syndrome 04:32 – Indecisiveness and People Pleasing 06:53 – Suppressing Needs and Passive Aggression 09:18 – Inauthenticity and Fear of Judgment 11:43 – Playing the Victim 13:51 – Confusion, Distrust, and Frustration 18:43 – The Cycle of Anger and Resentment 20:46 – Five Daily Practices to Overcome 27:58 – Closing Thoughts and Challenge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp tackle pressing questions from the Iron Council, all centered on money. From understanding the habits of wealthy men, to real vs. nominal gains, to the psychology of budgeting and investing, they cover practical insights that cut through financial confusion. The guys also dive into real estate, Roth strategies, and why prudence matters more than market timing. Tune in for a candid, actionable conversation on building and stewarding wealth with wisdom. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:05 – Opening and headlines 11:41 – Wealthy habits vs. average habits 21:44 – Real vs. nominal gains 24:49 – Selling a house and liquidity decisions 35:07 – Budgeting and psychology of money 43:23 – Wealth and dishonesty mindset 46:24 – Borrowing against equity 49:14 – Rentals vs. 401k 50:57 – When to sell real estate investments 53:16 – Backdoor Roth explained 59:47 – Iron Council promotion 1:02:57 – Social and community links Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

What you think of yourself is directly correlated with the kind of man you are or will become. If you believe yourself to be a victim of circumstances beyond your control, you will be. If, alternatively, you believe the world is conspiring for your benefit, it will be. It is quite literally self-fulfilling prophesy. My guest today, Jay Jairdullo, knows exactly what this is like after spending 25 years in law enforcement and now a college wrestling coach, he has had to redefine himself over and over again. Today, Jay and I talk about what he calls “false masculinity,” avoiding slipping back into old patterns, the importance of core values, overcoming the victimhood mentality, and keeping yourself and others off pedestals you don’t belong. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Building Brotherhood and Friendship 04:00 – Self-Image and Overcoming Excuses 10:00 – Shifting Identity and Mindset 14:00 – Lessons from a Career in Law Enforcement 18:00 – Loyalty, Support, and Marriage Dynamics 22:00 – Rebuilding Trust and Reputation 26:00 – Focusing on Positives vs Negatives 30:00 – Emotional Intelligence and Fatherhood 33:00 – Leadership: Autocratic vs Democratic 36:00 – Masculinity, False Masculinity, and Clarity 41:00 – Values, Vision, and Decision-Making 46:00 – Aligning Actions with Identity 48:00 – Retirement, Reflection, and New Purpose 52:00 – Connecting Through the Iron Council Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week’s Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler addresses the troubling rise of political violence and cultural hostility, urging men to step up as protectors, providers, and leaders. He lays out a clear roadmap of four key actions—protecting your family, speaking out against destructive ideologies, stepping into positions of influence, and building strong brotherhoods. Ryan also shares upcoming plans for local Order of Man chapters and emphasizes why good men must refuse to stay silent any longer. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 02:15 – The power of prayer and courage 05:00 – Protecting your family and building skills 07:00 – Financial security as protection 08:30 – Speaking out against dangerous ideologies 14:15 – Stepping into positions of power 16:40 – Building influence through business and community 18:30 – The importance of brotherhoods 21:30 – Call to action and next steps Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

I revisit my 2020 conversation with Charlie Kirk, recorded during a time when we discussed pressing issues around masculinity, responsibility, and the future of our culture. In light of the tragic news of Charlie’s passing after the horrific shooting at Utah Valley University on September 10th, 2025, I share this episode in his honor. We cover topics such as the hyper-feminization of boys, the need for strong male role models, and the responsibility men carry to lead with courage and conviction. Let’s honor Charlie’s legacy by carrying forward the work he dedicated his life to. Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp tackle questions from the Order of Man community around productivity, energy management, and living with greater intention. From balancing family responsibilities with work, to eliminating distractions and staying aligned with long-term goals, they dive deep into practical strategies men can apply right now. They also cover tools for planning, handling setbacks with resilience, and the value of family meetings. Plus, updates on the Iron Council and the importance of choosing growth over mere compliance. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 News headlines – Phillies “crazy Karen” 08:32 Shifting AMA format & topics 09:18 Work-life balance & energy 19:07 Refocusing after interruptions 22:36 Full alignment in planning 31:22 Income and spending trackers 32:15 Writing vs. digital planning 34:39 Recommended tools 42:48 Weekly family meetings 47:03 Best time to plan 51:19 Mindset when plans go off track 01:00:29 Iron Council promotion & Facebook group Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

If you’ve ever heard the dreaded words, “I love you but I am not in love with you,” or, more bluntly, “I want a divorce,” you know what follows is a mental and emotional rollercoaster of epic proportion. But what you probably don’t know is what to do if that day comes and what your rights might be when it comes to protecting yourself, your money, and your relationship with your children. My guest today, Attorney David Pissara, has made it his life’s work to help men navigate what is likely the most difficult part of his life – post-divorce. Today, we talk about how to avoid conflict during these times while simultaneously protecting your rights, the emotional manipulation many men face and how to confront it, whether or not the family court system is biased and what to expect when dealing with the courts, what indicators to be on the lookout for you to recognize if a divorce is pending, and even how AI may change family law. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:17 – Introduction and Context 01:05 – Why Men Struggle in Divorce 02:58 – Men, Vulnerability, and Leadership 08:33 – Marriage as a Contract 12:37 – The Question of Fairness in Divorce Settlements 17:01 – What Men Should Look for in Women 20:18 – Predictors of Divorce and Commitment 21:27 – The Danger of Social Isolation 25:51 – Balancing Happiness and Sacrifice 28:15 – Feminism, Disney, and Unrealistic Expectations 31:12 – Dating Standards and Preferences 36:12 – The Dreaded “I Want a Divorce” Moment 37:00 – How Women Strategize Divorce 39:23 – Abuse vs. Violence in Relationships 43:40 – How Courts Handle Restraining Orders 46:06 – Why Men Rarely File Restraining Orders 49:40 – Civil vs. High-Conflict Divorces 52:02 – Should Men Stay or Leave the House? 54:38 – Resources for Fathers in Custody Battles 57:46 – Strategies for High-Conflict Personalities 59:39 – No-Fault Divorce and Its Impact 01:04:00 – Handling Loans and Slander in Divorce 01:06:52 – Bias in Family Courts and AI Judges 01:09:59 – Parental Alienation and Legal Strategy 01:11:00 – Wrap-Up and Post-Show Instructions Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler breaks down what it really means to be vulnerable “like a man.” He challenges the popular narrative that vulnerability is strength in itself and instead explains how it should be used as a tool for growth. Ryan outlines why discernment matters, how goals must shape openness, and why solutions must accompany weakness. Listeners will walk away with a sharper, more practical understanding of vulnerability—stripped of fluff and grounded in responsibility. This episode is a call for men to embrace honesty without falling into the trap of empty exposure. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Rethinking vulnerability 02:30 – Vulnerability as weakness 04:40 – Exercising discernment 09:00 – Setting goals for openness 11:20 – Pairing vulnerability with solutions 18:00 – Vulnerability plus solutions equals results 20:20 – Iron Council promotion 22:45 – Closing thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler dives into daily efficiencies, planning systems, and the power of structure in building a productive life. He answers listener questions on balancing flexibility with discipline, handling unexpected events, creating rituals around planning, and becoming an early riser. Ryan also shares practical tactics like using buffers, after-action reviews, and categorizing different types of days to stay consistent and effective. Whether you’re aiming for better routines or long-term growth, this conversation offers actionable strategies you can apply immediately. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction and episode setup 02:14 – Balancing flexibility and structure 06:59 – Consistency with non-traditional work schedules 11:44 – Daily tactics for continual growth 16:30 – Handling the unexpected in planning 21:10 – Becoming an early riser 25:50 – Making daily planning a ritual 33:57 – Closing thoughts and resources Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Over time, it’s likely that you have drifted off course. Like a boat without a navigator, it’s easy to let the current of reality, overwhelm, and frustration take you off course. My guest today, Larry Hagner has been a father for over two decades and knows firsthand what the drift looks like as a dad and how to steer yourself back on course. Today, we talk about staying awake and vigilant when it comes to leading your wife and kids, the first “domino” to fall before things go horribly wrong, how to get your wife back on course if she starts to drift, in what ways do you become lethargic, monotonous, and bland in your life (and, what to do about it), and learning to build “conversations of curiosity.” SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Catching Up 00:11 - Larry’s Knee Injury Discussion 04:33 - The Forge Event Recap 04:57 - The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood Book Launch 07:47 - Understanding the Drift 09:17 - Introducing Lance: The Avatar of the Drift 15:30 - Helping Your Spouse Overcome the Drift 16:12 - Getting Out of the Drift as a Man 23:51 - Coaching Consistency in Men 29:57 - Being a Man of Your Word 31:02 - Motivating Your Wife Respectfully 36:56 - Impact of Kids on Relationships 38:02 - Motivating and Guiding Children 41:50 - Creating Psychological Safety for Kids 47:22 - Building Trust Through Questions 53:30 - Navigating Single Fatherhood 55:09 - Finding Common Ground with Your Child 59:35 - Connecting with Larry and The Forge Event Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores how men can confront and overcome betrayal in both personal and professional life. Drawing from his own recent experiences, Ryan offers practical strategies and hard-earned insights to help men navigate betrayal with strength, clarity, and integrity. He emphasizes respect, self-control, and learning valuable lessons rather than succumbing to anger or despair. This episode is a call for men to rise above hardship, establish healthy boundaries, and move forward with resilience and purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 02:15 – Facing betrayal in life and business 04:37 – Responding with respect and rationality 06:50 – Treating innocent bystanders gracefully 09:12 – Learning the lessons from betrayal 11:32 – Recognizing red flags early 13:54 – Building strong boundaries 18:43 – Final thoughts and encouragement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready