Over It And On With It

If you are a "do-er", the one everyone counts on, carry a huge mental load, takes care of everything/everyone, has difficulty with other people being upset or struggling... this is a must listen!!   Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.  For more, see terricole.com.

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Kim, who opens up about her struggles with self-worth, trust, and negative self-talk stemming from childhood emotional neglect. Through the session, Christine guides Kim in exploring how childhood neglect shaped her present-day beliefs and behaviors, emphasizing the importance of connecting to a higher power for healing and self-acceptance.  Christine introduces a spiritual perspective to help Kim release the weight of her past and reconnect with unconditional love from the universe, offering her a powerful reframe to live a more fulfilled, connected life. This episode serves as an inspiring reminder that healing is a journey and that self-compassion is essential in managing unresolved wounds from the past.   Consider/Ask Yourself: • Do you feel emotionally neglected in your past, leaving you with lingering self-doubt or negative self-talk? • Are you seeking ways to reconnect with yourself and your inner child? • Do you struggle to find confidence in expressing yourself in personal or professional situations? • How do you nurture your spiritual or higher self?   Key Insights & A-Ha’s from Kim's Session: • Kim realizes that her struggles with confidence and expression stem from a need for external validation that was absent in childhood. • Christine reframes Kim's childhood experience as an opportunity to learn deeper self-compassion and connection to her spiritual self. • Kim acknowledges that her journey involves seeking love and validation from within, especially through spiritual practice. • The session highlights that healing doesn't mean "fixing" the past but learning to thrive despite it, embracing spirituality as a source of unconditional love.   How to Get Over It & On With It: • Recognize when past wounds surface in current situations and meet them with compassion instead of judgment. • Reconnect with your inner child through self-kindness and by seeking nurturing practices that feed your soul. • Explore spiritual practices that resonate with you to feel loved, seen, and held by something greater than yourself. • Practice self-acceptance, knowing that thriving despite past experiences is a powerful form of healing.   Sponsor: Organifi: Christine loves Organifi’s products, especially their immunity blend, ideal for the colder months. Get 20% off all Organifi products by visiting Organifi and using promo code "OVERIT" at checkout.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace, and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the Waiting Room. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Her grief work has been featured on ABC News and in Women’s World, the Washington Post, and the White House Blog.  

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine coaches Gloria, who grapples with balancing anxiety and confidence. Gloria's core wound stems from childhood abandonment, which causes her to feel unsafe in expressing herself fully, especially in public settings. Although she has a supportive partner and is pursuing trauma-informed coaching, her fears of rejection and failure in her new career keep resurfacing. Christine helps Gloria navigate her anxiety and step into her confidence by guiding her to detach from the narrative she tells herself about being "too much."   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with balancing anxiety and confidence in your personal or professional life? Is your core wound rooted in abandonment or rejection, making you feel unsafe in being your authentic self? Do you talk yourself out of pursuing something because of fear of rejection or failure? How do you react to feedback or criticism? Do you internalize it or use it as a learning tool? Are you ready to step out of your story and into your authentic power?   Gloria’s Key Insights & Aha Moments: Gloria recognizes that her fear of rejection ties back to childhood wounds of feeling abandoned and "too much." She acknowledges that despite her current partner being emotionally supportive, her fear of public speaking and judgment continues to manifest. Christine helps Gloria realize that her story of always being in "fight or flight" is not her reality, and she has made more progress than she gives herself credit for. By shifting focus from her fear to her strengths, Gloria can step into confidence.   How to Get Over It & On with It: Practice emotional grounding and self-affirmation to challenge the narrative of being too much or too anxious. Use movement or expressive outlets like dancing to release anxiety and reconnect with your true essence. Reframe nervousness or anxiety as a natural response to stepping outside of your comfort zone, not as a sign of incapability. Trust that confidence grows through action, even when you feel nervous—courage is built by doing the hard thing.   Sponsor: Air Doctor: Air Doctor purifiers eliminate 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses, allergens, mold, and other harmful contaminants in your indoor air. As a podcast listener, you can get a discount off an Air Doctor unit at http://airdoctorpro.com/ using the promo code "OVERIT" and enjoy an extended warranty. Listen to our ad for all the details!    Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Bestselling author and TEDx speaker and coach Ashley Stahl joins me to discuss the nine different ways to tell a story. This is useful for anyone regardless of your profession because story telling is a way that connects us all.  Ashley Stahl is the international bestselling author of YOU TURN: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, host of the You Turn Podcast, ranked on Apple in the top 100 mental health shows in the US, and a keynote speaker with a top 100 ranked TEDx talk. Ashley started her career in counterterrorism under the Obama administration and learned speech writing while working for the government. After pouring 10s of thousands of dollars into her own personal brand, Ashley realized that many entrepreneurs are spinning their wheels and wasting their budgets on personal brand and PR efforts that are not actually moving the needle in their career. After doing two TEDx talks and seeing both of them go viral, Ashley has learned that TEDx is the super highway to launching and scaling your personal brand, whether you want to amplify your authority, leave a legacy or create exponential opportunities for yourself.

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler speaks with Hyesha, who seeks advice on managing her empathic tendencies, especially the overwhelming emotions she feels when witnessing suffering. Christine helps Hyesha navigate the delicate balance between feeling deeply and maintaining emotional boundaries, particularly when her empathic abilities make her overly sensitive to the pain of others. Hyesha opens up about her experiences of being triggered by everyday situations involving children or animals, which leads her into "worst-case-scenario" thinking. Christine assists Hyesha in understanding how her heightened sensitivity stems from unhealed childhood wounds and limiting beliefs. Through this powerful coaching session, Hyesha learns practical ways to embrace her empathic gifts without being consumed by them. Christine emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between empathy and sympathy, encouraging Hyesha to hold space for others' suffering without taking it on herself. She also guides Hyesha in recognizing her own triggers and using them as opportunities for self-compassion and healing. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions, to the point that it drains you? Are you an empath who struggles to maintain boundaries between your feelings and those of others? How do you respond when you're triggered by the suffering of children, animals, or even people on the news? Can you hold space for others' emotions without going into "rescue mode" or becoming emotionally paralyzed? Hyesha's Key Insights & A-HA's: Hyesha shares how hearing a child or animal cry often triggers a response that doesn't match the reality of the situation, rooted in past trauma. Christine helps Hyesha identify the emotional patterns that cause her to react so strongly and teaches her how to use her empathic abilities constructively. Hyesha recognizes the need to mother herself and attend to her own emotional needs when triggered by outside stimuli. The session highlights the difference between empathy and sympathy, showing how Hyesha can feel deeply without becoming overwhelmed. How to Get Over It & On With It: Practice distinguishing between empathy (feeling without judgment) and sympathy (feeling sorry for others), and strive to stay in an empathetic space. Acknowledge that your reactions to certain situations may be based on unresolved emotional wounds, and use these moments as invitations to self-care. Use grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system when you start to feel overwhelmed by others' emotions. Recognize that feeling deeply is a gift, but it doesn’t require you to take on the burden of fixing or saving others. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware – Christine loves Caraway’s non-toxic, chemical-free cookware. Check out their selection and get an exclusive 10% discount by visiting carawayhome.com/overit and using promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Topas Adizes joins me for a beautiful conversation about how to deepen our connections through listening and curiosity.    Topaz Adizes is an Emmy Award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. He is an Edmund Hillary fellow and Sundance/Skoll stories of change fellow. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW; featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary.   He is currently the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. Topaz studied philosophy at UC Berkeley and Oxford University. He speaks four languages, and currently lives in Mexico with his wife and two children.   For more about The Skin Deep, visit TheSkinDeep.com.   To learn more about Topaz Adizes and his work, visit TopazAdizes.com.

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler dives into a heartfelt and profound coaching call with Anna, discussing the difference between healing the body and trying to fix it. Christine emphasizes the importance of understanding that when we focus too much on "fixing" ourselves, we often remain stuck in a mindset that something is inherently broken. Instead, she encourages Anna and listeners to approach the body with love, acceptance, and gratitude, viewing physical symptoms as opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth rather than burdens. Anna opens up about her experiences with PCOS and the struggles she's faced with rigid control over her health. Through this vulnerable conversation, Christine highlights how past unmet emotional needs can manifest physically and explores how healing requires addressing those emotional roots. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you approaching your health and body from a mindset of fixing rather than healing? Do you trust your body, or do you feel like you’re in a constant struggle with it? How do your past experiences, especially from childhood, affect how you relate to your body today? Can you shift your perspective on physical symptoms from frustration to gratitude? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Christine helps Anna uncover how her childhood experiences of needing to control everything have carried over into her health journey, contributing to her PCOS symptoms. Healing starts with self-love, trust, and understanding that symptoms often have emotional and spiritual roots. The body isn’t something to fix; rather, it’s an ally that signals where healing is needed. Embracing vulnerability and releasing the pressure to be perfect can lead to deeper emotional and physical well-being. How to Get Over It & On With It: Acknowledge the emotional wounds: Recognize that the physical symptoms you experience, such as PCOS, may have emotional roots stemming from unmet needs in childhood. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, frustration, or grief that comes with these realizations, and begin the healing process by acknowledging these emotions. Release the need for control: Understand that rigid control over your health and body can often stem from past experiences. Let go of the need to micromanage every detail of your health, and trust that your body is not something to be fixed but an ally in your healing journey. Shift your perspective on symptoms: Instead of viewing physical ailments as obstacles, see them as signals from your body asking for deeper healing and attention. Embrace the opportunity to heal not just the physical, but also the emotional and spiritual wounds that contribute to your well-being. Be compassionate with yourself: Just as Anna learned to approach her body with love rather than criticism, practice giving yourself the same grace. Recognize that healing is a process, and it’s okay to not have everything figured out. Offer yourself the nurturing and care you needed as a child. Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Organifi, a line of USDA organic supplements and superfood juice mixes that support overall health and wellness. Try their red juice, green juice, or their magnesium-packed blends to help boost your body’s natural energy and restore balance. One product to highlight today is their magnesium supplement, which supports better sleep, muscle function, and nerve health.  Get 20% off all Organifi products by visiting organifishop.com and using the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Nourish your body with Organifi—because your health is your greatest wealth. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Did you know there are actually 9 types of physiological anxiety we may feel? In this episode you'll learn which one(s) you experience and why.    Nicole Cain, ND, MA, is a pioneer in integrative approaches for mental and emotional wellness. With a degree in clinical psychology, training in EMDR, and a license as a Naturopathic Physician in the state of Arizona, her approach to mental health is multidisciplinary: medical, psychological, and holistic.   You can learn more about the 9 types of anxiety here: https://drnicolecain.com/frequently-asked-questions-about-the-9-types-of-anxiety/

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Katie, who is struggling with her husband's undiagnosed ADHD and its impact on their relationship. Christine helps Katie reflect on how her husband's behaviors trigger old wounds from her childhood and offers insights into how couples can navigate challenges when their brains and emotional needs function differently. The episode dives deep into relationship dynamics, particularly how unresolved past wounds can surface in present-day partnerships.   Christine encourages listeners to think about their own relationships, especially when they are generally good but contain aspects that are frustrating or triggering. She stresses the importance of taking responsibility for one's own emotional reactions rather than expecting the partner to change or fix things. Additionally, Christine highlights how acceptance of a partner's limitations and clear communication about non-negotiables can strengthen a relationship. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship that's generally good but with aspects that bug or trigger you? Do you tend to focus on evidence that your partner isn't meeting your expectations? How do you handle your emotional reactions when your partner frustrates you? What would change in your relationship if you fully accepted your partner for who they are? Key Insights & AHA's: Katie's frustrations with her husband's forgetfulness are linked to her childhood wounds of abandonment and not feeling important. Christine helps Katie see that her husband's behavior, including conflict avoidance, may be a result of his trauma, and encourages Katie to approach the situation with more acceptance. By focusing on what Katie can control—her own emotional responses—rather than trying to change her husband, she can create more peace within herself. Clear communication about non-negotiables, such as her husband seeking treatment, can help Katie and her husband move forward. Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by AquaTru.  For a limited time, listeners can receive 20% off any AquaTru purifier by visiting aquatru.com and entering promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. AquaTru also offers a 30-day money-back guarantee.  Start drinking healthier water today! Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler delivers a heartfelt reminder about the importance of self-care, rest, and prioritizing our well-being over external obligations and people-pleasing tendencies. Christine shares her own recent experiences as a busy mom and life coach, explaining how taking time for herself—even when it meant canceling podcast recordings—has been a powerful practice in maintaining integrity with her own needs.   Christine encourages listeners to reflect on the ways they may be abandoning themselves by prioritizing the expectations of others over their own health and happiness. She highlights the significance of slowing down, saying “no” when necessary, and learning to trust that others will understand when we make self-honoring choices.   This episode serves as a powerful message for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's obligations, reminding us that true healing and clarity can only come when we give ourselves permission to rest and recharge.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you abandoning your own needs to meet others' expectations? What is it costing you to keep pushing yourself without rest? Can you give yourself permission to slow down, even if it means disappointing others? How can you incorporate moments of self-care, even in a busy schedule?   Key Insights & AHA's: Christine reflects on how she has shifted from people-pleasing and feeling obligated to meet commitments at the cost of her well-being. The importance of slowing down, not just for physical rest, but for nervous system regulation and emotional healing. She reminds us that healing happens at the pace of the slowest part of us that feels safe, and rushing through life can prevent true restoration. Self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity for maintaining alignment and integrity with oneself.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Marla, a professional singer who bravely shares her experience of being publicly shamed and attacked after performing the national anthem at a major rugby event.  Marla opens up about the intense wave of negative reactions she received from the press and social media, as well as the personal toll it took on her and her daughter. Christine helps Marla process the deep wounds this experience triggered, drawing connections to childhood trauma and longstanding beliefs of unworthiness and fear of rejection. Through the coaching session, Christine guides Marla to reclaim her voice and inner power, emphasizing the importance of healing from past trauma and addressing limiting beliefs that may have reinforced feelings of shame and isolation. Marla's journey is a powerful example of how, even in the face of overwhelming negativity, we can find strength, regain our self-worth, and take a stand for ourselves. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you ever felt attacked, bullied, or shamed in your personal life or public spaces? Do you struggle with feelings of rejection or fear of judgment? Are there wounds from your childhood that still influence how you handle criticism or rejection today? How do you respond when you're unfairly criticized? Do you retreat or stand up for yourself? The Guest's Key Insights & AHA's: Marla shares how being publicly shamed reignited deep fears of rejection and criticism that date back to her childhood. Christine helps Marla understand that her experience is not just a random occurrence but a reflection of longstanding limiting beliefs that are ready to be healed. Marla recognizes the importance of expressing her feelings and standing up for herself, not only in the present moment but also for her inner child, who was silenced in the past. The session highlights how reclaiming our voice, even in the face of fear, is a powerful way to shift out of victimhood and into empowerment. How to Get Over It & On With It: Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rejection that may arise when you're attacked or criticized, but don't allow them to define you. Revisit any limiting beliefs from your past that may contribute to how you perceive criticism or bullying. Practice giving voice to your feelings and standing up for yourself, even when difficult. Remember that reclaiming your voice and power is a process—allow yourself to move through the emotions and find strength in your vulnerability. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware: Christine loves Caraway's non-toxic, chemical-free cookware. Check out their selection and get an exclusive 10% discount by visiting carawayhome.com/overit and using promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. This immersive experience offers a deep dive into healing, self-awareness, and nervous system recalibration. Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Kelly Brogan, M.D. is a holistic psychiatrist, author of the NY Times Bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, the children’s book, A Time For Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She is the founder of the online healing program Vital Mind Reset, and the membership community, Vital Life Project. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College, and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. Learn more at https://www.kellybroganmd.com/

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Charlotte, a woman grappling with feelings of unworthiness and a deep-seated fear of being seen. Charlotte's inner struggle stems from a belief that she does not deserve love and attention, which leads her to hide her true self in many of her relationships. During the coaching session, Christine helped Charlotte uncover how her childhood experiences of growing up with siblings with special needs and feeling responsible for minimizing her own needs contributed to her pattern of people-pleasing. This has resulted in Charlotte often putting others before herself, even to her detriment. Christine guides Charlotte to understand that this pattern, which was once a coping mechanism, no longer serves her as an adult, especially in her role as a mother. As they work through these deep emotions, Christine helps Charlotte recognize the importance of self-love, boundaries, and allowing herself to be seen and supported rather than always being the one to please others. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often feel like you are not deserving of love or attention? Do you have difficulty receiving love and support, even though you crave it? Are you prone to people-pleasing and putting others' needs above your own? Can you identify patterns from your childhood that influence how you show up in your relationships today? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Charlotte's belief that she doesn't deserve love stems from her childhood, where she felt she needed to make things easier for her family, especially her mother, who had other children with special needs. Christine helps Charlotte realize that her habit of being "low maintenance" and avoiding taking up space prevents her from fully experiencing love and connection in her adult relationships. By identifying this belief and the behaviors it drives, Charlotte can start to reclaim her sense of worth and build relationships where her needs are met, too. The session emphasizes the importance of healing old wounds, setting boundaries, and embracing self-worth. How to Get Over It & On With It: Acknowledge that you are just as deserving of love and attention as anyone else. Begin setting boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and ensure your needs are met. Practice receiving love and support without guilt or fear of being a burden. Reframe any childhood beliefs that make you feel less worthy of care and attention. Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships. During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported. Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you? Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others? Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours? Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age. Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion. By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs. The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying “no,” even when it might disappoint others. How to Get Over It & On With It: Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself. Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being. Practice saying “no” lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits. Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided. Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by AquaTru.  AquaTru offers a range of water purifiers that use a four-stage reverse osmosis process to remove up to 15 times more contaminants than typical pitcher filters. Their purifiers require no installation and help ensure that you and your family drink the cleanest water possible.  For a limited time, listeners can receive 20% off any AquaTru purifier by visiting aquatru.com and entering promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. AquaTru also offers a 30-day money-back guarantee.  Start drinking healthier water today! Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!