Parenting The Adlerian Way

We often overlook the important transition from having been a student your whole life, to addressing the question of “what’s next?”. This is a time of self-discovery like never before. Hillary Spiritos joins me on the podcast to talk about this unique phase of life and her “Bat Outta Hell” coaching company with her model and method for helping this cohort challenge themselves to look deep and see if the choices they are making are from their authentic selves that is blossoming or are they still following the pressure of parents, peers, and society. A fascinating conversation!Learn more about her coaching programs on her website:Website: https://batouttahell.net/ Follow her on social media: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bat.outta_hell TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bat.outta_hell**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. First grader doesn’t want to go to school or do homework.Q2. Parents with three children - including one with gluten and sugar sensitivities and global developmental delay and ADHD – want to ensure they eat well and don’t develop a bad relationship with food. Q3. Should all kids be made to experience a consequence when only one child misbehaved?Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler NewsletterDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I had a great discussion with world-leading expert and author, Jonathan Alderson, about autism, it’s changed definition, and rising occurrence rates. He emphasized the need for individual treatment plans that consider time and order and the importance of early intervention. I was shocked at the number of families on long wait lists for services. To solve this, he created The Thrive Guide, a digital platform where parents can do a child assessment to generate a customize plan for their child and begin helping right away. Check out the parent resources at: The Thrive GuideRead Jonathan’s Book: The Myths of Autism Instagram = @thriveguide.co Facebook = @thriveguide **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Titania shares key insights from her latest book on how parents can keep their kids safe online without getting overwhelmed or feeling guilty. We discuss the importance of learning how to use your kids’ tech, why “delay is the way”, and how to ensure that we as parents don’t fall into the trap of 'NMK' (Not My Kid).Follow Titania Jordan here: https://www.instagram.com/titaniajordan/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZepYDQBoOjwXlKfkHU_9lAhttps://www.facebook.com/titaniajordan/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/titaniajordan/Read her books: Raising Kids In A Tech World Parental Control: A Guide To Raising Balanced Kids in the Digital Era**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Nanny wants to respond properly to a 2yr old’s large emotional displays.Q2. 7yr old still needs a parent laying down with her to fall asleep – and this can take hours!Q3. 7yr old behaves at school but is kicking, hitting, swearing, and taunting brother at home.Q4. How to teach my 5 1/2yr old to be more co-operative and less bossy. Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Shonna Masse has been practicing dentistry for 27 years. She is a board-certified paediatric dentist and is the founder of The Children’s Dental Centre and The Orthodontic Dental Centre, in Toronto, Ontario. In this episode I learned the difference between pediatric and family dentistry.  The distinction is important, and her additional qualifications means she is armed with the best approaches for working with children. We talked about preparing for a child’s first appointment, how to handle resistance, weaning off pacifiers, the surprising worst foods for cavities, parent guilt and much more! Dr Shonna Masse’s practices are:   The Children’s Dental Centre The Orthodontic Dental Centre Follow The Children’s Dental Centre on IG @TheChildrensDentalCentre**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Former pediatric occupational therapist Lisa Chan learned a great deal from her years working with children in schools, homes and in her office. During that time, she saw a gap in the services available. While she would offer important help to children, it was more likely the teachers and parents who were the “first responders”, and they did not always know how to respond to these children’s unique needs. Lisa solved that by turning her attention to education and skills training for the adults that nurture and support these children. You can follow Lisa Chan on all her social media platforms @lisaparentcoachHer website for her courses and coaching is www.TheLisaChan**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 4yr old insists that all the Easter candy is hers to eat. How to manage the deluge of sweets? Q2. Adult child moved back home but spends his day gaming. A tech agreement isn’t age appropriate now. What else can we do as parents? Q3. My daughter wants a pet but is irresponsible, so I have said no, and it’s now a fight.Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kyla Fox is an eating disorder specialist, survivor and advocate who reframes the way that we think about, and treat, eating disorders. As someone who struggled with disordered eating during her teen years, Kyla experienced the large care gaps and fundamental flaws in the treatment and recovery approach that prevents patients from getting the help that they need. Listen in as we discuss what parents need to know to address this issue in their families.  Checkout the services provided at the Kyla Fox Center IG: @kylafoxrecovery Twitter: @KylaFoxCentreDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression.  Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud’s other co-authored books: The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their LivesWhat Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. You can follow Ned’s Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: @theothernedjohnson And on LinkedIn here.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Anxious about letting my 12yr old daughter walk home from school alone.Q2. Considerations for allowing 17 yr old daughter to go on a beach vacation without supervision? Q3. Helping a hurting 13yr old girl who told a boy she likes him and then all her friends turned on her. Q4. Small-for-his-age 8yr old might get hurt playing hockey. Should I encourage a different sport? If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email it to hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not every day that you get to interview the former editor of the New York Times parenting section! I have been following KJ Dell’Antonia since she managed Motherlode and it was great meeting her finally, and discussing her book, “How To Be a Happier Parent”. KJ generously provided some of the research and practical wisdom that every parent can benefit from if they want to be happier while they do the inevitable hard work of parenting. If you’d like to read one of KJ’s books, here are the links! How to Be a Happier Parent: https://tinyurl.com/HappierParentBookAmazonThe Chicken Sisters: https://tinyurl.com/ChickenSistersAmazon Playing the Witch Card: https://tinyurl.com/WitchCardAmazonIn Her Boots: https://tinyurl.com/InHerBootsAmazonSubstack #AmReading: https://kjda.substack.com/KJ’s website https://kjdellantonia.com/Instagram: @kjda https://www.instagram.com/kjda/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kjdellantoniaThe #AmWriting Podcast: https://itun.es/i67F2zJ or http://amwritingpodcast.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I met Nick Moon in Nepal on a recent service / trekking trip in support of the NGO “Empowering Nepali Girls”. Over our time together I learned about Nick’s childhood diagnosis of autism and how the education system failed him, how a special teacher finally understood him, and a mother who was also a counsellor advocated for him. He was a marine, a tradesman and now a counsellor in practice sharing his wisdom with clients. A gem of a person who shared his experience about living life with neurodiversity. An enlightening conversation!You can get a copy of Nick Moon’s mother’s book “Tough and Cheerful: The Life And Times Of Kancha Sherpa, Last Living Member From The First Ascent Of Mount Everest” by Patricia Moon here.  Learn more about the organization, Empowering Nepali Girls.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12yr old girl who has become super-quiet. What to do?Q2. My teen doesn’t want to join any clubs, do I force him? Q3. My son says he is trying to find a job, but not really. Do I cut off his allowance?Q4. My kids leave their stuff laying around and I nag but they never pick it up.Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler NewsletterIf you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email it to hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I talk with James Rilling, psychologist and author of “Father Nature: The Science of Paternal Potential”. Did you know that only five percent of mammals care for their young? Yup, and humans are one of the species that do! James explains the science behind testosterone, oxytocin and changes that occur for fathers. Plus, the importance of father caregiving and provisioning and the hidden benefits of rough play to teach emotional regulation and more! A fascinating conversation.You can get a copy of James Rilling’s book here. Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.