Patterns of Possibility

You faked your friendships? So what.You learned how to survive by reading the room, by translating yourself, and pretending to fit in.But now you're tired of pretending. You’d rather be alone than explain your every thought or force another fake laugh.If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.We’ll explore why connection can feel like work and how to stop doing all the heavy lifting just to feel alone anyway.#fakefriendships #vulnerability #lateidentifiedautisticConnect with deeply with other late identified autistics. Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepage

We all want to be understood but for some of us, visibility has never felt safe.When your honesty has been met with rejection or ridicule, staying hidden feels like your only option.In this week’s episode of the Patterns of Possibility Podcast, I talk about the fear of being seen, where it comes from, and how to move toward connection at your own pace.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #Fear #VulnerabilityConnect with deeply with other late identified autistics. Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepage

Speaking with narcissists is an exercise in patience and emotional intelligence.But really, they just have one playbook. (And it's lame.)Once you learn their pattern and have the right tools, it's yours to disrupt.Watch the video: Why you keep trusting the wrong people.https://youtu.be/EA2LXcLJYJ8#LateDiagnosedAutistic #Intuition #NarcissistsConnect with deeply with other late identified autistics. Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepage

To live your best most authentic life, any idea of what you should be has to go!If you’re struggling with people-pleasing, guilt after saying no, or constantly questioning what’s “wrong” with you for wanting something different, this episode is for you.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #Shame #GuiltConnect with deeply with other late identified autistics. Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepage

99% of Autistic people learn the hard way...Some questions aren’t really questions. You answer them honestly, only to realize that the person wasn’t looking for data at all. They wanted reassurance, connection, or compliance. And now you’re left feeling awkward, tricked, or even ashamed for “getting it wrong.”It’s frustrating. If you’re struggling with hidden meanings in conversation this episode is for you.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticRelationshipsConnect with deeply with other late identified autistics. Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepage

You’ve done the work. You’ve healed, unmasked, and started seeing your old patterns clearly.But you keep running into versions of your past self.It’s tempting to want to “help” them but if you pour everything that you have into them, you’ll have nothing for yourself.Let’s talk about how not to fall into the trap of becoming the caretaker.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticRelationshipsWant meaningful relationships? Join my community. https://patternsofpossibility.circle.so/homepageGrab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!Two-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

In families, friend groups, even workplaces, people hide conflict and pain “under the rug.” Everything looks fine, until you notice it. And when you stumble over the lump, suddenly you’re the problem for pointing it out.It’s exhausting.If you’re struggling with walking on eggshells, being called “too sensitive,” or carrying the weight of secrets you didn’t create, this episode is for you.Listen to learn how to protect your peace in these spaces.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticRelationshipsWant meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!Two-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Most people are playing a game you never agreed to. The rules keep changing, the players cheat, and somehow you’re the one who looks wrong for not keeping up.It’s exhausting.If you’re struggling with constant misunderstandings, pretending to fit in, or the loneliness of walking away, this episode is for you.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticRelationshipsWant meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!Two-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Growth is uncomfortable, but it’s how autistic adults discover their true selves. Coach Lee Hopkins explains how boundaries accelerate growth, why choosing to be alone is different from loneliness, and three questions that help you build authentic relationships without masking.#LateDiagnosedAutistic #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticRelationshipsWant meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!Two-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

You speak to share or receive useful information.So when someone asks, “How was your weekend?” your brain looks for purpose.If there’s no shared understanding, the exchange feels like noise.When you know your purpose in a conversation, you feel less drained and more confident.If you’ve ever shut down mid-chat or wondered why casual talk feels like wasted energy, this episode is for you.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.#smalltalk #latediagnosedautistic #relationships

This week’s podcast is for anyone who keeps second-guessing whether they misread the situation or whether they’re being manipulated. If you’ve ever had your words twisted, been left out of the loop, or felt guilty for saying no, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about three clear signs it’s manipulation and not just a misunderstanding, how narcissistic behavior shows up in everyday interactions, and what you can do to protect your boundaries without losing yourself.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠.#Manipulation #Misunderstanding #Boundaries #Gaslighting

This week’s podcast is for anyone who walks away from conversations feeling tense and drained. If one text, one tone of voice, or one last-minute change can throw you off for hours, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about five simple ways to protect your energy without becoming a different person.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠.#autisticadult #unmasking #latediagnosedautistic #friends

This week’s podcast explores when getting invited to a social gathering sends you into a spiral of self-doubt and uncertainty. If you overthink what to bring, worry about being judged, and feel like every social moment is a test you didn’t study for, this episode is for you.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠.#autisticadult #unmasking #latediagnosedautistic #friends

In this episode, I talk about how we label people "friends" but never set expectations on how we want a "friend" to show up for us. We'll look at some common types of friends and how I categorize my relationships to keep me from expecting too much and being disappointed.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at ⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠.#autisticadult #unmasking #latediagnosedautistic #friends

In this episode, I talk about the heartbreak of being blamed for the very conversations that could bring you closer, how desperation for connection can push people further away and most importantly, what you can do about it.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Group coaching is finally here. 12 weeks. 4 people. 1 massive transformation.We start July 30: ⁠⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You’ll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who’ve lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There’ll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don’t sweat it if you can’t make it live.Join us at www.socialconnectionssummit.com.#autisticadult #unmasking #trust #latediagnosedautistic #rejection

In this episode, we talk about why words can be misleading, especially for those of us wired to give people the benefit of the doubt.If you’re tired of feeling drained by people who sound good but don’t show up, this is for you.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Group coaching is finally here. 12 weeks. 4 people. 1 massive transformation.We start July 30: ⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠.#autisticadult #unmasking #trust

In the latest episode we talk about how others take advantage of our kindness, what keeps us in these cycles, and how to begin choosing yourself without guilt. If you're stuck between compassion and depletion, this one’s for you.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Group coaching is finally here. 12 weeks. 4 people. 1 massive transformation.We start July 30: ⁠Learn more⁠.#autisticadult #unmasking #overgiving

In this episode we talk about how to know if someone does want to connect even if they’re not saying it directly. This episode helps you read real-time signals so you can stop chasing, overthinking, or assuming it’s all in your head.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Group coaching is finally here. 12 weeks. 4 people. 1 massive transformation.We start July 30: Learn more.#autisticadult #unmasking #selfworth

Self-gaslighting happens when you downplay your own feelings to keep the peace. In this episode of The Patterns of Possibility Podcast, we explore how it shows up in your relationships, work, and self-talk. You’ll learn three practical ways to start being more honest with yourself.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Only 1 spot left available for a private 1-hour coaching session this June.Book yours at: https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/complimentary-breakthrough#autisticadult #unmasking #gaslighting

Unmasking. If I could do it all over again, I'd some things differently.In this episode, we talk about what I've learned and three ways that you can cope as you unmask.This is for anyone learning to trust their own instincts and intuition.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠.Only 5 spots available for a private 1-hour coaching session this June.Book yours at: https://calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/complimentary-breakthrough#autisticadult #unmasking #authenticconnection