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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
Author: Michelle Kenney, M. Ed
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Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits?
Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.
Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.
Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.
Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.
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Today's episode comes with a heavy heart as I share a very personal update. My beloved father, Papa, recently passed away after a three-year battle with cancer. For those who knew him or followed my posts, you know he was my steadfast parenting partner and confidant, truly embracing connective parenting and becoming an incredible grandfather to my girls. In this tribute, I'll share a eulogy I wrote for him, celebrating his vivacious spirit, fierce determination, and profound transformation later in life.This episode is not only a heartfelt farewell to an extraordinary man but also an announcement that I'll be taking a break from the podcast and social media to grieve and navigate this new chapter with my family. I am so grateful for your continued listenership and hope you'll check out some of our more than 400 previous episodes.Thank you for being part of the Peace and Parenting family. I'll see you all very soon.========================🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you ever feel like you're constantly battling your kids, trying to "make" them do what you want? Are you tired of using punishments or rewards, but unsure how else to get them to listen? If you're longing for a deeper connection with your child and a more peaceful home without resorting to control, you're in the right place. Today, I’m exploring a crucial distinction: the difference between boundaries and limits, and consequences and punishments.Many of us were taught that discipline means punishment, but "discipline" actually means "to teach." I want to show you that you can have clear limits and boundaries in your home without enforcing them through external motivators like rewards or consequences. Instead of asking, "How do I make my kids do X, Y, or Z?" we need to ask, "Why aren't they choosing to do it?" We'll explore how to approach your child's behavior with curiosity, considering disconnection, unrealistic demands, or their natural desire for autonomy. When children feel good about their relationship with you and the home environment, they are much more likely to follow limits because they want to, not because they fear punishment. If you're ready to redefine discipline, embrace connection, and cultivate cooperation in your home without punishments or rewards, hit play!In This Episode, We Cover:👉 The true meaning of discipline👉 Setting limits without consequences👉 Asking "why" instead of "how to make"👉 Fostering connection, not obedience👉 Cultivating an internal moral compass👉 Embracing curiosity about behaviorAs I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.==========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
What does real respect between parents and children truly look like? Have you ever wondered why your kids sometimes seem “disrespectful,” or whether expecting automatic respect is helping or hurting your relationship? Let’s dive into what it means to nurture mutual respect without demanding compliance.Today, we revisit one of our most popular topics: the true nature of respect in parenting and how embracing connection over control transforms our family relationships. There is a commonly held narrative that tells us kids “should” respect adults. I used to crave compliance from my daughters, thinking that made me a good parent, only to learn firsthand that genuine respect can’t be forced. It’s cultivated.In This Episode, We Cover:👉 The difference between respect and compliance👉 How parent/child relationships mirror other relationships👉 Why respect must be given to be received👉 The impact of punishments and rewards on respect👉 Setting limits with connection, not control👉 Ways to nurture reciprocal, lasting respect at homeAs I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.==========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Have you been told that because your child is neurodivergent, they need different rules? That connection-based parenting works for neurotypical kids, but your child with autism or ADHD requires charts, rewards, and consequences to manage behavior. Many of us hear this, leaving us to choose between a behavioral or relationship-based approach.In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Eloise, one of our private clients, whose son has autism and ADHD. She came to us wondering if this work would even apply to her family. She had tried the visual charts and rewards and found they made no difference in her son’s intense anxiety. Eloise shares her incredible story of how she was advised to “just do the connection”. She discovered that play was the key that truly helped her son. It filled his cup, calmed his anxiety about leaving the house, and allowed him to think better.This conversation is a crucial reminder that our neurodiverse kids don’t need to be managed; they, more than anyone, need to be connected with. If you are parenting a neurodivergent child, this episode is a must-listen. It will fill you with so much hope and reaffirm that your relationship is the most powerful tool you have. I know you’ll find so much hope and validation in Eloise’s story.In This Episode, We Cover:👉 Why connection is essential for neurodiverse families👉 Swapping sticker charts for playful connection👉 Using play to calm anxiety in autistic children👉 How a mother’s own neurodivergent diagnosis helped👉 Parenting when you are also autistic with ADHD👉 Moving beyond traditional behavioral managementAs I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.==========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Does it ever feel like you’re a referee in your own home? One child is hurt, crying with scratches down their arm, and the other is standing there, looking defiant. In that moment, every instinct tells you to protect the “victim” and correct the “aggressor.” But what if I told you that by rushing in to assign blame, we might unknowingly be making the rivalry worse? It’s a tough pill to swallow, I know. It took me years to see how my attempts to protect my younger daughter, Pia, were actually fueling my older daughter, Esme’s fire and cementing them in their roles.Today, I’m getting really honest about my own journey with my daughters' sibling relationship. I’ll share how I had to unlearn my instinct to take sides and instead learn to approach their conflicts with neutrality. We’ll talk about why the “aggressor” is often a child who is hurting and not a villain, and how building individual connection outside of the conflict is the real key to long-term peace.In This Episode, You'll Learn:👉 How to stop making sibling rivalry worse👉 How to see the hurt, not the villain👉 How to build connection outside the conflict👉 Intervening with neutrality, not blame👉 How your childhood affects their fights👉 How to move from putting out fires to peaceAs I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. I’ll be back soon!========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you feel like you’re doing everything “right”? You’ve started implementing special time and focusing on connection, yet it creates more chaos. The kids might have meltdowns when the timer goes off, or sibling squabbles seem endless. You may question whether connected parenting works. You are not alone, and there is a way through it.In this episode, I have a wonderful chat with Katie, a mother of three girls from the UK. She’s been practicing connective parenting for just a few weeks and is already seeing incredible results, but she came to me with some very common and relatable challenges. We dive deep into the nitty-gritty of making special time work, especially when your children don’t want it to end. We also explore how to navigate the intense emotions of sibling rivalry without taking sides and how our own childhoods, especially if we were told to be “seen and not heard” can make it so hard to tolerate our children’s big, loud feelings. This was such a rich and supportive conversation, and Katie’s journey is one I know will resonate with so many of you.In This Episode, You'll Learn:👉 Navigating the end of "special time"👉 Handling sibling fights with neutrality👉 Why special time consistency is key👉 Letting go of being the "feelings police"👉 Creating calm and connected mornings👉 Using play to address tough behaviors========🎧 As I mentioned, my sweet dad recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Are you sometimes wondering if this whole "connected parenting" thing can really work for your child, especially when you're facing those big emotions or defiant moments? Maybe you've heard people say, "That’s nice, but my kid needs something different." I truly understand where you're coming from, and I’ve been there.In today's episode, I want to discuss why I’m passionate about connected parenting as a loving approach for all children, regardless of their temperament or challenges. We'll explore how prioritizing our relationship over specific behaviors makes a profound difference. Traditional methods like punishments and reward charts often miss the mark for any child, including those with ODD or ADHD, and can hinder their ability to learn and thrive by affecting brain development. No child benefits from shame or belittlement.Instead of focusing on control, we'll discuss how connection builds trust, enhances brain function by engaging the prefrontal cortex, and creates a calm, safe environment for our children. It’s not about quick fixes or changing strong-willed children, but about tempering deeper traits and achieving lasting improvements in cooperation and emotional regulation. This approach not only helps kids but also brings peace to us as parents.In This Episode, You'll Learn:👉 Why connection benefits every single child. 👉 The truth about rewards and punishments.👉 Boost your child's brain with connection. 👉 Support neurodivergent kids through your relationship. 👉 See challenging behaviors improve with empathy. 👉 Find more calm for your family. ========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you ever find yourself in those familiar power struggles with your child? Maybe it’s the daily screen time battle, that feeling of being rushed, or just their amazing, strong will challenging you at every turn. If you're nodding along, please know you're not alone, and there absolutely is a path to more peace and cooperation in your home.In this episode, I had a wonderful conversation with Jackie, a mom to a spirited nine-year-old named Sophia. Jackie bravely shared her struggles with Sophia’s “authoritative personality” and the daily challenges of getting cooperation, especially around turning off the TV. We dove deep into how our own upbringing can unconsciously shape our parenting and, most importantly, how focusing on connection can truly transform these everyday friction points into opportunities for growth and a stronger relationship. We talked about practical ways to build that connection, even when life feels incredibly rushed. It’s not about grand gestures, but those small, consistent moments that fill your child's cup and yours too. Join me to hear all the insights and practical tips shared in my chat with Jackie; it’s a conversation that could truly shift the dynamic in your home.In This Episode, You'll Learn:👉 The importance of daily child-led, focused play👉 Screen Time Peace: Engage before ending shows👉 Our Tech Use: Model healthy electronic habits👉 How to rethink "No": Try a planned "ditch day." 👉 Why Connection Boosts Cooperation: Build strong, loving bonds========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Okay, friend, let's discuss the pressure of being the "perfect" parent. If you've felt overwhelmed by a toddler’s grocery store meltdown or a teen defying you, this episode is for you. I've been in the trenches, thinking perfect parenting meant perfectly behaved children and would validate me. Today, I’ll share my journey with perfectionism in parenting, revealing how it harmed my relationship with my kids. My desperation for them to "behave" led to threats, bribes, and yelling, making me feel like a failure. The incredible thing I discovered is that our children need connected parents, not perfect ones. In this episode, we'll explore how shifting focus from controlling behavior to nurturing relationships can transform everything. Letting go of perfection opens us to a more peaceful, joyful, and connected way of parenting.If you're ready to embrace imperfection and strengthen bonds with your children, this episode might just be the breakthrough you've been searching for.In This Episode, You'll Discover:👉 Perfection is unattainable, and not your goal👉 Connection is your true parenting goal👉 Perfectionism can breed perfectionist kids👉 "Good enough" parenting is enough👉 Relationships take precedence over behavior👉 My journey from control to connection========📖 If my story resonates with you, you can find more about my journey in my book, Unpunished.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you find yourself constantly striving for perfection in your parenting? Does the idea of not having all the answers or losing control fill you with anxiety? If you're a high-achieving parent who wants deep connection but finds yourself stuck in a "fix-it" or "control" mindset, this episode is for you.Today, I have a truly insightful conversation with Kate Kripke, a licensed clinical social worker and perinatal mental health counselor. We dive into the neuroscience behind why many high-achieving women, like us, approach motherhood with a desire for control and achievement, and why that very approach can hinder the deep connection we crave. We discuss how our own need to feel in control stems from a fundamental need for safety.Kate and I explore the critical difference between control and influence, emphasizing that true positive influence comes from a place of inner steadiness and emotional regulation, not external demands. This episode is a powerful invitation to release the "shoulds" of parenting and lean into grace, presence, and heart-centered connection.In This Episode👉 Understanding the brain's role in mothering👉 How to differentiate control from influence👉 How to address fear-based parenting👉 Releasing the need to "fix it"👉 Embracing the discomfort of not knowing👉 Prioritizing inner steadiness for connection========📲 Follow Kate on Instagram @katekripke🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you want your child to always feel safe enough to come to you, no matter what mistakes they've made? Are you sometimes unsure how to react when your child disappoints you, without resorting to punishment or judgment?Today, we're diving deep into the power of being your child's "safe place." Research tells us this is the most crucial thing we can do for our children, especially in adolescence. When children feel safe and connected, their brains are better equipped for good decision-making and impulse control. And guess what! The fastest way to make our children feel unsafe is in a home where they fear us.I'll share a personal story about my daughter Pia admitting to cheating, and how my calm, empathetic response strengthened our connection, allowing her to take responsibility without shame. We'll explore how to convey unconditional love, even when behavior is challenging, by staying calm, connected, and neutral. It’s about building a foundation where your child knows your love isn't dependent on their behavior or achievements. If you're ready to create a haven of unconditional love and trust in your home, hit play!In This Episode👉 How to be your child's safe place👉 How to prioritize connection over consequences👉 Validating their feelings without judgment👉 Building a strong relationship for success========🔗 Get my FREE Empowering Connection Guide🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
What if I told you that schools are actually killing your child's creativity? Is socialization really a problem for homeschooled kids? If you're looking for an insightful discussion that addresses these fears and offers a compelling perspective on homeschooling, you're in the right place.Today, I'm joined by Liz Hanson, a seasoned homeschooler with 24 years of experience in education. We'll explore what homeschooling truly is (and isn't), debunk common myths, and discuss the incredible benefits it can offer. Liz shares her personal journey into homeschooling and offers practical advice for parents considering this path. We'll cover everything from overcoming fear and building confidence to understanding the importance of creativity, socialization, and a well-rounded education.If you're excited to explore the possibilities of homeschooling and see how it can nurture a lifelong love of learning, this is definitely worth a listen!In This Episode👉 Debunking common myths about homeschooling 👉 Identifying the core elements of successful homeschooling 👉 Exploring the impact of homeschooling on creativity 👉 Addressing concerns about socialization 👉 Providing guidance on getting started with homeschooling 👉 Offering advice on planning and curriculum========🔗 Find out more about Liz and homeschooling at smarthomeschooler.com🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Are you tired of constant power struggles with your child? Does it feel like every little thing turns into a battle? If you're longing for a more peaceful way to navigate these conflicts and maintain a strong connection with your child, you're in the right place.Today, I’m tackling the tricky topic of power struggles. First, let me reassure you that they're incredibly common. Children, especially, crave autonomy, which can often lead to clashes as they assert their independence. But here's the good news: power struggles don't have to destroy your relationship. We'll explore how to shift from a place of control and authority to one of empathy and understanding. I'll share a client's story about transforming a laundry battle into a fun, connective experience using play. It's about working with your child instead of against them, fostering cooperation and strengthening your bond. If you're ready to turn power struggles into opportunities for connection and create a more harmonious home, hit play!In This Episode👉 Understand the root of power struggles👉 Shift from control to connection👉 Use play to defuse tension👉 Reframe expectations for cooperation👉 Validate your child's need for autonomy👉 Preserve your relationship through conflict🎧 Want to learn more check out my episode What To Do When Our Child Says “I Hate You”========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Do you ever find yourself saying things to your child that you instantly regret? Do you worry that your own upbringing is negatively influencing your parenting? Today,, I talk with Helen, a mom who's caught in a cycle of saying hurtful things to her son, often mirroring the way her own mother treated her. We explore the powerful connection between our childhood experiences and our parenting triggers. I offer strategies for breaking free from these patterns, including journaling to process past hurts and reprioritizing connection over academic pressure.We also discuss practical ways to shift the homework dynamic, focusing on fostering a love of learning and empowering children to take responsibility for their own work. It's about creating a supportive environment where kids feel loved and capable, regardless of their grades. If you're ready to break free from negative parenting patterns and create a more positive and connected relationship with your child, this episode is for you.In This Episode👉 Identify your parenting triggers👉 Journal about your childhood experiences👉 Prioritize connection over grades👉 Let go of homework control👉 Focus on your child's strengths👉 Increase physical affection========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
What if I told you that forcing your child to be more social actually harms their confidence? Does it make you cringe when they won't say hello or engage with other kids? If you're tired of pushing your child to be more outgoing and it's just not working, I have a message of hope for you.Today, I share my journey with my daughter Pia, who was very shy as a child. I used to worry about her lack of engagement and felt that others might perceive her as rude. However, I learned that pushing her only made things worse. I will explain why it is so important to respect a child's intuition and allow them to navigate social situations at their own pace. It's about shifting our mindset and providing support rather than pressure. I will also share practical tips for helping your child feel more comfortable and confident, including acknowledging their feelings, reflecting on positive experiences, and celebrating their strengths.In This Episode👉 Respect your child's own pace👉 Acknowledge their feelings with empathy👉 Reflect on positive social experiences👉 Celebrate your child's unique strengths👉 Shift your mindset about shyness👉 Offer support, not pressureWant more on this topic? Check out: Stop Thinking Your Child Is Too Sensitive: Why Tears Don't Mean Fragile========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
You survived sleepless nights with a newborn, but what about sleepless nights with menopause? Is there an end in sight? I'm taking a short but important detour from our usual parenting topics to talk about something that affects so many of us: menopause. As women, our health and well-being are deeply intertwined with our ability to show up as the parents we want to be. Today, I welcome Julia Granacki, a board-certified health coach specializing in menopause and perimenopause. We dive into the controversial topic of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and aim to clear up some of the confusion and misinformation surrounding it. Julia provides a wealth of information, emphasizing that it's a personal choice and sharing the latest findings on its safety and benefits. We also discuss practical strategies for managing menopause symptoms, including the importance of sleep, exercise, and self-care. Julia offers valuable advice on finding the right healthcare practitioners and making informed decisions about our health during this significant life transition. In This Episode👉 Debunking myths about hormone replacement therapy👉 Finding qualified menopause healthcare providers👉 Prioritizing sleep, exercise, and self-care👉 Understanding lesser-known menopause symptoms👉 Exploring options for low libido👉 Preparing for menopause at any ageLinks Mentioned:Find out more about Julia on her website Julia G Wellness and get 25% off your first intake session with code PEACE25: https://www.juliagwellness.com/========🔗 Have questions about menopause and HRT? Check out The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Tired of feeling like you always have to "fix" your child's negative emotions? Do you find yourself rushing to make them happy, even when they're expressing sadness, anger, or frustration? If you're ready to shift your perspective and learn how to embrace your child's full range of emotions, you're in the right place.Today, I’m diving into the importance of allowing space for all feelings, even the uncomfortable ones. We often fear emotions and believe that being emotionally healthy means being happy all the time, but true emotional strength comes from acknowledging and processing a wide spectrum of feelings. Our role as parents isn't to eliminate our children's sadness or anger but to help them become attuned to, recognize, and accept their emotions. It's about being a safe space for them to land, offering empathy and understanding rather than quick fixes. Join me to explore how shifting our perspective on emotions can lead to deeper connections and greater emotional strength in both ourselves and our children.In This Episode👉 Embrace all emotions, even the difficult ones👉 See hard moments as connection opportunities👉 Offer empathy instead of quick fixes👉 Allow children to feel their feelings👉 Be a supportive, loving presence👉 Model self-regulation and resilience========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Are you finding co-parenting more challenging than you ever imagined? Especially when it feels like you and your co-parent have completely different parenting styles? If you're navigating the complexities of divorce and trying to raise your child with someone you fundamentally disagree with, I understand how overwhelming it can feel. Today, I sit down with Stephanie, a co-parent who, like many of us, is facing the difficulties of raising a child while dealing with the fallout of a divorce. We discuss the challenges of differing parenting styles, especially regarding screen time, and the frustration of feeling like you have no control over what happens at the other parent's home. I share my own experiences with divorce and offer some hard-won wisdom: you can't control the other parent. Instead, focus on providing a loving and connected relationship with your child. Remember that an "okay" parent is better than none. If you're struggling with co-parenting, this episode offers validation, support, and practical advice for navigating this difficult journey.In This Episode👉 Accepting that you can't control the other parent👉 Focus on your strong connection with your child👉 Acknowledge and process your feelings of loss👉 Striving for a neutral, conflict-free co-parenting relationship👉 Letting go of resentment and forgiving the other parent========🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
I used to think that setting strict limits was the answer to my daughter's iPad obsession. But I learned a powerful lesson: I needed to change my own habits first. In this episode, I'm sharing my story and the importance of modeling healthy electronic habits. We'll discuss how to shift from restriction to connection and create a more balanced digital environment for your family.I admit it's not always easy! I used to be glued to my phone, even while enforcing strict rules for my daughter, Esme. Realizing my behavior contributed to the problem was a wake-up call. We need to engage with our kids, create phone-free zones, and be present during shared screen time. Today, I’ll share some practical tips to help you make these changes and foster a harmonious home. Remember, you're not alone; we all struggle, and it's about progress, not perfection.In This Episode👉 Model healthy electronic habits👉 Replace screen time with connection👉 Create phone-free zones at home👉 Be present during shared screen time👉 Monitor your child's content👉 Engage kids in off-screen activities========📱 Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Why do family meals sometimes turn into battlegrounds instead of bonding moments? Have you ever dreaded dinner time, wishing it could feel joyful and connected again? If you’re wondering how to ease meal struggles and nurture a better relationship with your kids around food, this episode is for you.Today, I sit down with Lindsay, a mom of two young girls, to talk through the all-too-common challenges of family mealtimes. Lindsay shares her frustration about meals becoming stressful and her desire to avoid creating unhealthy habits or a negative relationship with food. Together, we unravel not just what’s on the menu, but what’s truly fueling the dinnertime dynamic—control, connection, and long-standing expectations.You’ll hear practical tips drawn right from my own parenting journey and candid, compassionate support for parents grappling with food fears. If you’re seeking more peace at your table and a gentle nudge to trust the process, this episode is sure to leave you inspired.In This Episode👉 Releasing expectations for perfect mealtimes👉 Implementing Special Time to foster connection👉 Using playful games to ease pre-dinner tension👉 Letting go of food power struggles and threats👉 Trusting long-term nutrition over one meal👉 Encouragement to prioritize relationship over rules========🔗 Help your child move through their emotions with meaningful game play, in this FREE download.🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today.💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:YouTube: @peaceandparentinglaInstagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupInterested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy