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I’m so happy to share this week’s episode with you, featuring Drew Soleyn from Dad Central and Connected Dads. We had a great in-depth conversation about the challenges of becoming a parent from a dad’s perspective, including becoming a parent to twins and a 3rd baby after twins. Drew also provided some excellent ideas for seeking support, trying to take care of yourself as a parent and learning critical skills to help us be the best parents we can be! Drew is the Director of Dad Central Ontario, Founder of Connected Dads, and a Career Coach at the Queen's Smith School of Business. As an International Coaching Federation (ICF) and Maxwell Leadership certified Coach, Trainer & Speaker, he helps dads show up at their best for the people who matter most. Highlights:4:30 – Review of studies about PPD in men, significant rates compared to the general population however it’s not talked about enough10:05 - Drew didn’t share with friends and families about his experience of becoming a father14:15 – Drew was in survival mode15:21 – Drew’s experience of becoming a dad, first time dad to twins, fertility challenges 19:39 – Feelings of helplessness, being hard on himself23:07 - Retuning to work after babiesBeing the support person, having having support27:25 – Welcoming a 3rd baby, the joys and challenges with having toddler twins at home38:59 - Realizing I can’t handle it all, the challenges of therapy47:13 - The importance of emotional and psychological safety in the partnership48:08 - Building supports, resources, learning what a healthy relationship looks like, boundaries, communication, emotion management1:04:00 – Resources for adults to learn skills1:10:01 – Drew’s organization Dad Central, Connected Dads1:13:40 – Drew’s advice – seek support, start with one stepResources mentioned in this episode:You can reach Drew by email Drew@connectedads.ca Dad Central https://dadcentral.ca and Dad Central Podcast https://dadcentral.ca/podcast/ Connected Dads https://www.connecteddads.ca Dr. Laura Markham, Aha parenting https://www.ahaparenting.com Dr. Stuart Shanker Self-regulation courses https://self-reg.ca/resource-library/ Dr. Henry Cloud https://www.drcloud.com/books/boundaries  You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca If you are experiencing any of the symptoms discussed in this or any episode please reach out to me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca and I can help you find support in your area or online. Check out Postpartum Support International at www.postpartum.net for more information about Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders as well as free online support groups and a provider directory. You can look for an individual therapist on www.psychologytoday.com. 
Content Warning: We like to swear, if you’re listening with kids or don’t like swearing, please be aware!Episode #25 is the 2nd part of my chat with Naomi about body hair and its impacts on our body image and parenting. My guest today is Naomi from Queer Nest. Naomi uses she and they pronouns, and is Founder and head Doula of Queer Nest, where she coaches and supports Queer and gender-non-conforming folks and entrepreneurs through one of their biggest life transitions— becoming a parent! Through support, advance preparation, self-advocacy, and abundance, she helps you become the parent of your dreams. On today’s episode Naomi and I continue to talk about body hair and how the shame around body hair and body image can impact our parenting. We also talk about how we can start changing and challenging these issues. Highlights:1:15 – Naomi’s body change in the postpartum period6:50 – How we talk to ourselves about our bodies and removing the judgement12:15 – Body hair, parenting, femininity, motherhood15:44 – Recovering people pleaser18:20 – Being connected to the Self and parenting from the Self22:40 – Not fitting the mold of the maternal goddess26:30 – How do we change the patriarchy and capitalism when we continue to live in a patriarchal, capitalist society? Resources: You can find Naomi on Instagram at @naomi_authentically   Company Website: https://queernest.co You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca 
Content Warning: We like to swear, if you’re listening with kids or don’t like swearing, please be aware!Hello and welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #24. My guest today is Naomi from Queer Nest Club. Naomi uses she and they pronouns, and is Founder and head Doula of Queer Nest, where she coaches and supports Queer and gender-non-conforming folks and entrepreneurs through one of their biggest life transitions— becoming a parent! Through support, advance preparation, self-advocacy, and abundance, she helps you become the parent of your dreams. On today’s episode Naomi and I talk about body hair and how the shame around body hair and body image can impact our parenting. It’s a conversation that we haven’t heard yet so dive in and let’s talk about it!  Highlights:4:45 Naomi’s story with body hair8:50 Birth as the turning point for Naomi, the last time they shaved their legs11:00 The idea of hygiene and body hair removal 12:26 How body hair impacts how we feel about our parenting14:02 Modelling body acceptance for our kids22:20 Parenting in a patriarchal society25:10 Calling people out on their shit27:03 How people comment on our kids31:00 Postpartum Sexuality and body hair35:46 Where Naomi is at with her body hair journey now44:15 Wearing clothes that feel comfortable46:20 People’s opinions don’t matterResources: Redefining Girly: How Parents Can Fight the Stereotyping and Sexualizing of Girlhood, from Birth to Tween by Melissa Atkins Wardyhttps://www.amazon.ca/Redefining-Girly-Stereotyping-Sexualizing-Girlhood/dp/1613745524/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=redefining+girly+book&qid=1671237131&sprefix=redifining+gi%2Caps%2C92&sr=8-1    You can find Naomi on Instagram at @myqueernest primarily, and @queernestclub Company Website: https://queernest.co , Queer Nest Club website: https://queernestclub.comYou can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Postpartum psychosis and suicideHello and welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #23. Today Gillian Cullen she/they Full-spectrum doula, CST practitioner, founder and CEO of Birth Mark joins me to talk about starting Birth Mark, a charity dedicated to providing full spectrum doula support for marginalized and at-risk communities throughout the GTA and Hamilton. Gillian started Birth Mark from the ground up and is doing incredible work in the community to raise awareness, advocate for better care of those in the Perinatal period and provide amazing doula care access to people in underserved communities.In this episode Gillian really broke down the deep impacts that the pandemic has had on birthing parents. Gillian shared with us what Doula support looks like and how Doulas at Birth Mark support their clients who are birthing babies. And Gillian provided their insight about gaps in mental health services in Ontario and the advocacy work they do to try and fill gaps in these services.  Highlights:2:04 - Gillian’s background and starting Birth Mark6:36 - Barriers to starting Birth Mark10:37 - Birth Mark’s Core values, services and outreach18:07 - Impact of the Pandemic on Birth Mark35:49 - The loss of a Birth Mark’s client Flora to postpartum psychosis39:44 - Gaps in reproductive care in Ontario43:48 - Having Doulas provide support to help reduce the burden on the healthcare system and diversifying the healthcare systems48:37 - What do Doulas do? 58:40 - How you can support Birth Mark1:01:14 - The benefits of having a doula1:03:35 - What would Gillian like to see and change in the perinatal communityResources: You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.caYou can find Gillian on Instagram and Facebook: @gillian.doula.cullen and on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillian-cullen-a73798193/Birth Mark’s website is https://birthmarksupport.com You can donate to Birth Mark here: https://birthmarksupport.com/donate Instagram @birthmarksupportFacebook @birthmarksupport 
Content Warning: This is an in-depth discussion about racism and the impacts on reproductive health and can feel very heavy, especially for those who are impacted by these topics. We discuss things such as forced sterilization, interactions with CAS. Take care of yourself while listening. Hello and welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #22, the 2nd part of our discussion about the impact of Racism on Reproductive Health with Rochelle Maurice. Last episode we discussed obstetrical racism, reproductive justice, generational trauma and much more. On today’s episode we will talk about the importance of applying an intersectional lens when thinking about care of people in the perinatal period including the intersections of racism, disabilities and accessing care. Rochelle gives us some really great ways to think about challenging these systems to try and make change. Rochelle Maurice is a clinical and organizational ethicist based in Toronto, Ontario. Her work in ethics was strongly influenced by her professional background in social work, the most significant of which was in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and Paediatrics department in a community hospital in Toronto. As a result of her experiences in both social work and ethics, Rochelle has an interest in and passion for addressing issues that affect pregnant, birthing, and postpartum people at the intersection of health and social care. She is currently pursuing doctoral studies in social work that focuses on Black women’s experiences in maternal-child care.Highlights:2:10 - Impacts of racism on birthing people in labour and delivery9:01 - Applying an intersectional lens is key16:11 – Higher rates of death during birth amongst BIPOC communities 19:19 - Intersections of racism, disabilities and accessing care23:30 - Acknowledging privilege how we contribute to systems of oppression 29:40 – How do you call these systems into question? Asking questions, start small, educate, centering people who are not usually centred.Resources: You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.caIf you are experiencing any of the symptoms discussed in this or any episode please reach out to me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca and I can help you find support in your area or online. Check out Postpartum Support International at www.postpartum.net for more information about Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders as well as free online support groups and a provider directory. You can look for an individual therapist on www.psychologytoday.com . You can find Rochelle on Instagram @_rochellemaurice_
Welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #21, our first episode of season 2! Today we’re going to talk about the Impact of Racism on Reproductive Health with Rochelle Maurice.Content Warning: This is an in-depth discussion about racism and the impacts on reproductive health and can feel very heavy, especially for those who are impacted by these topics. We discuss things such as forced sterilization, interactions with CAS. Take care of yourself while listening.Rochelle Maurice, MSW, MHSc in Bioethics is a clinical and organizational ethicist based in Toronto, Ontario. Her work in ethics was strongly influenced by her professional background in social work, the most significant of which was in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and Paediatrics department in a community hospital in Toronto. As a result of her experiences in both social work and ethics, Rochelle has an interest in and passion for addressing issues that affect pregnant, birthing, and postpartum people at the intersection of health and social care. She is currently pursuing doctoral studies in social work that focuses on Black women’s experiences in maternal-child care. Highlights:4:15 - Pinkification of pot does not include black women5:58 - Obstetrical racism – women of colour not being believed when in pain or something is wrong, symptoms do not align with cultural biases 9:01 - We don’t collect race-based data in Canada and the impacts of this13:47 - Typical bodies and the impacts of that18:15 - Reproductive justice – intersection of systemic inequality and the impacts on decision making about childbearing and parenting20:57 - Forced Sterilization28:38 – Lack of access to nutritious food, the right to raise your family in a safe and supportive environment32:06 - Ideal motherhood and not enough support to achieve this33:05 – How does racism and scrutiny of mothers intersect with Children’s Aid Society?  37:38 - How do we repair? 39:41 – Institutional memory and generational trauma and the impacts on accessing care47:18 - Seeking support in community and access to careResources: You can find Rochelle on Instagram @_rochellemaurice_ You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca If you are experiencing any of the symptoms discussed in this or any episode please reach out to me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca and I can help you find support in your area or online. Check out Postpartum Support International at www.postpartum.net for more information about Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders as well as free online support groups and a provider directory. You can look for an individual therapist on www.psychologytoday.com .  
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I am so excited for season 2 to start on Monday, October 10th. I wanted to Thank you all for listening to season 1 and the support so far! The podcast has been downloaded in 46 countries and almost 3,000 times. This season we are going to hear more personal stories and have more deep, authentic conversations about issues that affect people and families in the Perinatal period! We are going to kick off the season with a two-part episode with Rochelle about the impact of racism on reproductive health.We are also going to hear from Drew who is a dad to 3 kids, two of them being twins! You’ll get to hear what that experience was like for him and how he reached out for support when him and his partner were struggling in the postpartum period.We are also going to talk about body image with Katie and how it is impacted in the perinatal period and how patriarchy contributes to struggles with body imagine in the perinatal period. Naomi is going to talk to us about body hair and why she no longer removes her body hair and how this all relates to having babies and being a parent!I recorded a wonderful talk with Gillian from Birthmark about grassroots organizations developing programs to support people in the perinatal period. And you will also hear from parents who had experiences with traumatic birth, having a baby stay in the NICU as well as being diagnosed with ADHD and Borderline personality disorder in the postpartum period. I am so excited about the content on the podcast in season 2 and I can’t wait for everyone to listen! If you have a story you would like to share on the podcast please let me know or if you have a topic that you would like to hear discussed on the podcast please share with me! You can email me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca or get in touch on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario. Check out the website for Perinatal mental health resources at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you get notified of new episodes and make sure you tune in every other week on Mondays starting October 10th! 
Content Warning: Birth trauma, postnatal depression and anxiety, mention of childhood abuse, and breastfeeding trauma.  Today is part 2 of my interview with Vikki Stephenson, host of Blum Mumdays Podcast and mum to Stanley! If you haven’t listened to part 1, go back and check it out and then listen to today’s episode. Today Vikki talks about her experience with postnatal depression and anxiety, following a traumatic birth. We talked about the grief and trauma that resulted from her experience with postnatal depression and anxiety, the fears of being a new parent and how they are heightened with anxiety and Vikki’s road to recovery. Vikki authentically shares her story to show how very hard it was for her as well as how she got support and came through the fog.  Take care of yourself while listening to this episode and please reach out to myself or Vikki for support or with questions. You can find Vikki on Instagram @bluemumdays and you can find her podcast Blue Mumdays wherever you listen to your podcasts. I will put all of her information in the show notes. Vikki is now a passionate advocate of perinatal mental health and is on a mission to help parents feel less alone through her podcast series Blue MumDays. Its purpose is to help other mums and dads better understand their illness and give them the hope that they will make a full recovery. It gives a voice to the lived experience of real sufferers who have reached the other side, and – through interviews with experts - will signpost mums, dads, their partners and friends to help and support that may be hard to find. Blue Mumdays dispels myths, normalises the conversation and smashes stigma of perinatal illness. It offers a safe space, encourages self-compassion and uplifts with frank – and sometimes funny – conversations around all things perinatal. Highlights4:05 - Going home from hospital, the overwhelming responsibility and anxiety10:51 - Insomnia, phobia of sleeping during the day15:55 - Reaching out for support and attending Cedar House21:00 – Peer support is so important, symptoms of PMAD’s are not you, it’s an illness23:00 - Grief and trauma from experiencing a PMAD 25:35 - Guilt and shame about the birth-day and first year being the worst, feeling triggered around birthdays33:33 - Comparing ourselves to other parents, not measuring up and feeling like a bad parent41:31 - Fear of baby not breathing in their sleep45:22 - When did the fog start to lift? Recognizing how well you are doing51:49 - What would you say to yourself during labour and in the postpartum period, what do you say to others going through itResources: Check out the Blue Mumdays podcast wherever you get your podcast or here https://bluemumdays.captivate.fm/ Instagram @bluemumdaysEmail: bluemumdays@gmail.comLINKED IN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikki-stephenson-creative VIMEO: https://vimeo.com/vikkistephenson You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.caIf you are experiencing any of the symptoms discussed in this or any episode please reach out to me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca and I can help you find support in your area or online. Check out Postpartum Support International at www.postpartum.net for more information about Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders as well as free online support groups and a provider directory. You can look for an individual therapist on www.psychologytoday.com . 
Content Warning: Birth trauma, postnatal depression and anxiety, mention of suicidal thoughts, breastfeeding trauma and eating disorders.Today is part 1 of my interview with Vikki Stephenson, host of Blum Mumdays Podcast and mum to Stanley! Vikki shares her story with postnatal depression and anxiety, following a traumatic birth in such an authentic and vulnerable way that I know so many people will relate to. Vikki discusses her birth story, her symptoms and struggles with nursing and post trauma symptoms. Vikki is now a passionate advocate of perinatal mental health and is on a mission to help parents feel less alone through her podcast series Blue MumDays. Its purpose is to help other mums and dads better understand their illness and give them the hope that they will make a full recovery. It gives a voice to the lived experience of real sufferers who have reached the other side, and – through interviews with experts - will signpost mums, dads, their partners and friends to help and support that may be hard to find. Blue Mumdays dispels myths, normalizes the conversation and smashes stigma of perinatal illness. It offers a safe space, encourages self-compassion and uplifts with frank – and sometimes funny – conversations around all things perinatal. Highlights:6:00 - Vikki’s why for starting her podcast11:15 - First signs of PND14:19 - Birth Trauma, not being support or validated16:56 - Racism and the impacts on birth trauma19:15 – Sharing with Stanley about PND, The bond with your child, impacts on the family 23:05 - Being aware of our symptoms, recovery isn’t linear, 27:03 - Concerns about medication, stigma35:15 - Vikki’s birth story, birth trauma 43:50 - Childhood abuse, impact on birth48:25 - Having an advocate51:55 - Stigma around different ways of giving birth and pain management55:00 - The impact of birth trauma on Vikki’s parenting experience, anxiety being so present and doubting your parenting abilities, not trusting ourselves, trauma responseResources: Check out the Blue Mumdays podcast wherever you get your podcast or here https://bluemumdays.captivate.fm/ Instagram @bluemumdaysEmail: bluemumdays@gmail.comLINKED IN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikki-stephenson-creative VIMEO: https://vimeo.com/vikkistephenson You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.caIf you are experiencing any of the symptoms discussed in this or any episode please reach out to me at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca and I can help you find support in your area or online. Check out Postpartum Support International at www.postpartum.net for more information about Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders as well as free online support groups and a provider directory. You can look for an individual therapist on www.psychologytoday.com .  
My guest today is Naomi from Queer Nest Club. Naomi uses she and they pronouns, and is Founder and head Doula of Queer Nest, where she coaches and supports Queer and gender-non-conforming folks and entrepreneurs through one of their biggest life transitions— becoming a parent! Through support, advance preparation, self-advocacy, and abundance, she helps you become the parent of your dreams. On today’s episode Naomi and I talk about how we can prepare for the transition to parenthood including building our community of supports, asking for help, and being authentic. We also touched on some really important concepts such as the impact of hetero-normative stereotypes on queer and non-binary parents, exploring our own values and planning for the postpartum period.   You can find Naomi on Instagram at @myqueernest primarily, and @queernestclub Company Website: https://queernest.co , Queer Nest Club website: https://queernestclub.comHighlights:3:29 - Planning for the postpartum period, loving ourselves5:08 - Gender stereotypes influencing our expectations, gender norms, how the queer community is bombarded with these messages7:48 - Abundance vs scarcity and lack-mode9:08 - You CAN have it all but you can’t do it all11:54 - You need support13:50 - “I’m not good at asking for help” – Let’s ditch that15:09 - Learning the skill of asking for help and delegating21:53 - Parenting in line with our values25:10 - Perinatal mental health29:35 - Postpartum shift, becoming a parent31:02 - Living authentically; what does this mean and how do we do it38:10 - Preparing for the postpartum period and Parenting with a partner49:00 - Normalizing how hard parenting is52:50 - You are not born knowing how to parent54:25 - Figuring out our values55:14 - What to explore on a postpartum plan – Naomi’s acronym – NEW PARENTS?1:05:25 - Being authentically us and an authentic parentResources: You can find Naomi on Instagram at @myqueernest primarily, and @queernestclub Company Website: https://queernest.co , Queer Nest Club website: https://queernestclub.comYou can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca 
Date: May 11th, 2022Content Warning: This episode contains discussions around sexuality including our body parts and sexual acts. We do use gendered language in this discussion and acknowledge that not all birthing people identify as female. If you listen to your podcasts with young kids in the room you can decide if you want to put headphones in or listen another time.  Today we’re going to talk about postpartum sexuality with our guest soon to be Dr. Benée Justice! Benée is a clinical mental health therapist with a PhD in clinical sexology. Benée recently defended her dissertation on Postpartum Sexuality and created an incredible curriculum for use by mental health therapists to address postpartum sexuality. In today’s episode we discuss the changes in our body postpartum, fears and concerns that might come up because of these changes, how shame and guilt can impact us when we are experiencing low desire and trying to determine our readiness for sexual activity postpartum. And then Benée shares with us how we can explore our sexuality in the postpartum period and some very important things such as communicating with your partner and consent.  Highlights:5:09 – Postpartum Sexuality as a sacred topic, grounding into this topic7:42 – Sex in the Postpartum11:07 – Layers of sexuality 12:07 – Why does sexual health get pushed aside?14:16 – Our fears around resuming sex after birth14:45 – Our bodies have changed postpartum, concerns around body image postpartum16:55 – Physiological healing18:46 – 6 week check-up, discussing sex with our health care providers20:27 – Lack of desire for sex22:55 – Being disconnected from our bodies, relearning our bodies28:53 – Can moms be sexy?33:49 – Determining our readiness for sex postpartum 39:08 – Resuming sexual activity and defining sex45:35 – Consent47:10 – “It is our partner’s responsibility to take ownership of their sexual needs being fulfilled”, masturbation47:50 – Communication49:38 – Let’s talk about orgasm 52:04 – Ideas for communication and ideas for intimacy 57:22 – Shutting down intimacy because of fear of intercourse58:45 – Consent in an intimate relationship1:03:00 – Benée’s suggestions for communicating wants and needs1:08:26 – Different supports such as a sex therapist1:10:08 – Gaps in services for postpartum sexuality1:18:15 – Our sexual health is intertwined with our overall health, 6 week “green light”1:19:22 – Resources that Benée recommendsResources: You can contact Benée at bjustice.integrity@gmail.comBooks that Benée and Christine recommend:Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A. Brotto, Ph.D.The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee TaylorThe Body is Not an Apology Workbook by Sonya Renee TaylorAASECT directory looking for Sex Therapistshttps://www.aasect.org/referral-directory You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Fertility challenges, mention of traumatic birthToday’s episode is in honour of World Maternal Mental Health Day, which is May 4th. The goal of World Maternal Mental Health Day is to raise awareness of maternal mental health issues so that more women will get treatment and fewer will suffer. This is definitely what we also work for at PWO, by sharing these stories on the podcast, talking about various issues and challenges that parents face in the perinatal period so that people listening can identify that they’re experiencing similar challenges and seek support. Please talk about these issues with your family and friends, share posts on social media about Maternal mental health, ask questions, email us, reach out to a health care provider or just listen to stories like the ones we share on the podcast to help normalize these experiences. If you are struggling with your mental health in the perinatal period please know you are not alone and there is a community of support ready to help you. Please email us at info@perinatalwellbeing.ca if you’re looking for support or if you have questions, no matter where in the world you are!  Today is part 2 of my interview with Katie Lamport. Katie is a counsellor in private practice in the Barrie, Ontario area. I first met Katie when I started a new job as an addiction’s counsellor. Katie was fully pregnant and went on maternity leave a few days later. Katie was the first person I had met that was a gestational carrier and I thought WOW what an amazing person! On today’s episode Katie shares about her postpartum experience after being a gestational carrier and how that was different from birthing her own children. Katie and I also explore what types of supports exist and could be helpful for surrogates and gestational carriers.Highlights:3:20 - An abrupt ending4:03 – Maternity leave and recovering from Pregnancy8:28 – Leading up to delivery12:52 – Going home with no baby16:21 – Mental Health supports20:16 – Discussion about traumatic birth and supports24:04 – Pumping, self-care, and recovery27:31 – Returning to work28:37 – Transition of partnership post-surrogacy30:12 – What is the relationship like with the family now33:02 – Reflecting on what Katie did35:08 – Appropriate language and terminology for 40:12 – What advice would Katie give to potential surrogates and gestational carriers47:13 - What is the anniversary like for KatieResources: You can find Katie on Instagram @katielamportcounselling at  https://www.mainstreamtherapy.com and https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/katie-lamport-barrie-on/960500?preview=1&return_to=https%3A%2F%2Fmember.psychologytoday.com%2Fca%2Fhome&_ga=2.157527610.1247068831.1649346645-1756219686.1648751043You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca 
Content Warning: Fertility challengesToday’s guest is Katie Lamport, RSSW. Katie is a counsellor in private practice in the Barrie, Ontario area. I first met Katie when I started a new job as an addictions counsellor. Katie was fully pregnant and went on maternity leave a few days later. Katie was the first person I had met that was a gestational carrier and I thought WOW what an amazing person! On today’s episode Katie shares her story of being a gestational carrier, what all the preparation was like and how the pregnancy went for her. Katie shares her story in such an authentic way that I had to keep asking her questions! So Katie’s story is in 2 parts.   Highlights:3:08 – How Katie decided to become a surrogate7:00 – Gestational carrier vs Surrogate8:25 – Telling the kids10:15 – Meeting the couple 11:28 – How Katie and Dave made the decision to move ahead16:55 – Mental health screening 18:05 – Questions about Surrogacy legal issues20:28 – Transfer day27:28 – Positive test32:00 – Intersection of gender stereotypes and gestational carrying35:48 – Pregnancy sickness39:27 – How the surrogacy changed Katie and Dave’s relationship40:45 – How did the pregnancy impact Katie’s work42:35 – How did the kids feel about it?45:00 – Navigating client questions around surrogacy46:00 – Being pregnant as a way of honouring this job47:04 – Felt like an abrupt ending after deliveryResources: You can find Katie on Instagram @katielamportcounselling at  https://www.mainstreamtherapy.com and https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/katie-lamport-barrie-on/960500?preview=1&return_to=https%3A%2F%2Fmember.psychologytoday.com%2Fca%2Fhome&_ga=2.157527610.1247068831.1649346645-1756219686.1648751043You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca  
Content Warning: Mention of birth trauma, baby blues, obstetric violence, NICU, some swearing, gendered language. Today’s Guest is Kelley Hassanpour, RN who is the Founder over at Parenting From Within and we are talking about the unrealistic expectations of motherhood. We covered a wide range of topics from gendered stereotypes to patriarchy’s impact on motherhood and the systems that we birth in to integrating our mom parts. We could do a separate episode on each of these topics, so this is really just to get the conversation going! Highlights:3:30 – Perfect Mommy Myth “Being a good mom” “mom as martyr”7:55 - Integrating mom parts9:20 – Taking care of ourselves last10:00 - Expectations around birth and postpartum that you should experience pain, discomfort “suck it up”13:05 – Patriarchy and gender stereotypes and their impact on our health care14:24 – Losing our dignity in birth, birth-trauma, obstetric violence 16:50 - Trauma-informed care as the standard19:08 - Myth of natural motherhood21:35 – Shame34:47 – Mental Load of motherhood38:14 - Gender roles and division of labour45:58 – Unrealistic Expectations of women’s beauty and bouncing back after birth48:29 – “You still need you”, doing things that connect you to you51:12 – How can we break down these myths and stereotypes?Resources: Dr. Sophie Brock https://drsophiebrock.com Brené Brown’s Podcast https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/ The 4th Trimester By Kimberly Ann Johnsonhttps://www.amazon.ca/Fourth-Trimester-Postpartum-Balancing-Restoring-ebook/dp/B071ZXWNSC/ref=sr_1_1?crid=307EKWHTN8HEW&keywords=4th+trimester+book&qid=1649452704&sprefix=4th+tr%2Caps%2C96&sr=8-1 Untamed by Glennon Doylehttps://www.amazon.ca/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-ebook/dp/B07VSZTKJ8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=E4C3W4VT3H7A&keywords=untamed&qid=1649452888&sprefix=untamed%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-1  You can find Kelley at https://www.parentingfromwithin.caFacebook @parentingfromwithin Instagram @parenting_from_within_ You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca 
Content Warning: Intrusive thoughts, birth trauma, postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, OCD, postpartum OCD, intrusive thoughts/compulsions around sleep and food, challenges with nursing, rage, trauma, fear, NICU experience, some swearing Today is the 2nd part of my conversation with Lisette and Catherine from Together Waterloo. Together came out of a desire to increase the services available to families struggling with perinatal mental health in Waterloo Region. Their goal is to increase support systems, educate health care providers, and build a village so that no parent is left behind. In part 2 of this episode Catherine and Lisette share how they started Together Waterloo, advocating for more PMH supports, building a community of survivors and parents and how they’re making shit happen in Waterloo! Lisette Weber is a postpartum doula, the Social Media Manager for The Climb for PSI and co-founder at Together Waterloo along with Catherine Mellinger an expressive arts therapist. They are both trained in Perinatal Mental Health and are making things happen in this space!Highlights:2:50 - Lack of supports, seeking support at our breaking point10:32 - Experiencing postpartum mental illness as a traumatic event 11:00 - Fear of another pregnancy11:58 – Grieving the Postpartum period13:45 - Lisette’s experience with being diagnosed with a PMAD and having her second child with supports in place16:13 - NICU experience26:32 - The importance of being trained in Perinatal Mental Health36:51 - How Lisette and Catherine and providing supports and building community in Waterloo and making things happenResources: Togetherhttps://togetherwaterloo.ca/ @togetherwaterlooThe Climbhttps://togetherwaterloo.ca/cotd-waterloo/ @psiclimboutLisette https://postpartumsidekick.ca Instagram @postpartumsidekickCatherine https://catherinemellinger.com Instagram @catherine_mellingerReproductive Life stages Program at Women’s College Hospital Torontohttps://www.womenscollegehospital.ca/care-programs/mental-health/rls/  You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca 
Content Warning: Intrusive thoughts, birth trauma, postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, OCD, postpartum OCD, intrusive thoughts/compulsions around sleep and food, challenges with nursing, rage, trauma, fear, NICU experience, and some swearing. Hello and welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #12! Today I’m talking with Lisette and Catherine from Together Waterloo, Together came out of a desire to increase the services available to families struggling with perinatal mental health in Waterloo Region. Their goal is to increase support systems, educate health care providers, and build a village so that no parent is left behind. In part 1 of this episode Catherine and Lisette share their experiences in the perinatal period and the mental health challenges they faced. Lisette Weber is a postpartum doula, the Social Media Manager for PSI and co-founder at Together Waterloo along with Catherine Mellinger an expressive arts therapist. They are both trained in Perinatal Mental Health and are making things happen in this space!Highlights:3:26 - Catherine’s story6:08 - Symptoms of OCD in pregnancy, intrusive thoughts 18:32 - Healthcare Practitioner Experiences; mental health and pregnancy screening37:57 - Lisette’s birth story, birth trauma, postpartum experience, challenges with nursing, 44:15 - Lack of supports in her area and discovering the need for more supportsResources: Together Waterloo https://togetherwaterloo.ca/ Instagram @togetherwaterlooThe Climb https://togetherwaterloo.ca/cotd-waterloo/ Instagram @psiclimboutLisette https://postpartumsidekick.ca Instagram @postpartumsidekickCatherine https://catherinemellinger.comInstagram @catherine_mellingerReproductive Life stages Program at Women’s College Hospital Torontohttps://www.womenscollegehospital.ca/care-programs/mental-health/rls/  You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Ectopic pregnancy, pregnancy loss, trauma, medical procedures, surgery, a near miss and grief.My guest today is Nicole Leijh, RSSW who is a perinatal therapist in private practice in Muskoka Ontario. Over the past few months, we’ve gotten to know each other and become friends and I was so honoured when Nicole agreed to share her experience with an ectopic pregnancy. Nicole endured a lot last year and shares her story in order to raise awareness about ectopic pregnancies and to advocate for more education and better care for people experiencing pregnancy loss. You can find Nicole at https://lynxlakecounselling.ca Highlights:3:20 - What is ectopic pregnancy? 4:35 - Nicole’s story5:47 - Signs of a miscarriage7:15 - Ultrasound confirmed ectopic pregnancy8:48 – Told to go to the E.R.11:14 – Medication to treat the ectopic pregnancy 17:11 – Experiencing pain and returning to hospital after some hesitation24:47 – Talk with surgeon, advised that Nicole would need emergency surgery27:23 – Leaving her son for the first time since his birth28:29 – Realization that Nicole had postpartum depression and anxiety30:08 – Having to stop nursing because of the medication32:05 – Surgery36:25 – Nicole’s husband experience of being in the parking lot during her surgery40:43 – Discharge, after-care and recovery 46:12 – Post-trauma symptoms 46:53 – Support system50:35 – Emotional/mental recovery52:14 – The Due Date54:28 – Difficulty in finding external supports56:30 – Raising awareness about ectopic pregnancies, sharing information about ectopic pregnancies1:02:55 – Where Nicole is at today with her healing1:03:35 – Advocating to hospitals to make positive changes to ectopic pregnancy care1:05:40 – What would Nicole have needed during her experience1:12:19 – What does Nicole want to see change in this spaceResources: You can find Nicole at https://lynxlakecounselling.ca Information about Ectopic pregnancies https://www.babycenter.ca/a549381/ectopic-pregnancy Support at PAIL Networkhttps://pailnetwork.sunnybrook.ca/support-for-families-menu/ Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings https://www.canadianperinatalmentalhealthtrainings.com Pregnancy Loss Support at Postpartum Support Internationalhttps://www.postpartum.net/get-help/loss-grief-in-pregnancy-postpartum/ You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Today’s episode is all about relational trauma including sexual, physical and emotional abuse as well as birth trauma. Please know this is a heavy episode and you can take your time listening to it or come back to it at a different time. My guest today is vania sukola, RP who is a feminist and trauma therapist and works with clients in the perinatal period. I first met vania when she was providing training on trauma assessments. I was instantly drawn to vania’s calm and steady presence and her wisdom. Today’s episode is quite heavy and so I encourage you to take care of yourself when listening to this episode and afterwards. Please know that we will be talking about relational trauma, childhood trauma and how this can impact people when they are in the perinatal period. Highlights:4:30 – What is relational trauma? 7:15 - How can past or relational trauma impact people in the perinatal period, including in the Prenatal period?13:32 - during pregnancy 17:22 – How can we change the narrative around our story? Resourcing, grounding and regulating the nervous system. 22:00 - Parenting from our values, meeting our own needs 25:18 - Asking for help26:24 – Attachment29:10 - Asking questions and advocating for your perinatal care and saying no to procedures35:52 – Circles of support – who is in our support system?38:56 – How relational trauma impacts labour and delivery 43:00 - How relational trauma impacts our intuition47:00 – Birth Trauma and relational trauma showing up in delivery57:15 – How does relational trauma show up in the postpartum period?1:03:39 - How can foreboding joy show up for people in the Perinatal period? 1:09:25 - How does the pandemic impact how relational trauma can affect us in the perinatal period and our ability to cope?1:14:10 - What is a takeaway tool that you would like to give listeners? Resources:You can connect with vania on her website: http://vaniasukola.caFacebook: Therapy with VaniaInstagram: vania_sukolaYou can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Anxiety, stigma around medication, pressures to sleep train, intrusive and suicidal thoughtsToday’s Guest is Kelley Hassanpour, RN who is the Founder over at Parenting From Within. Kelley experienced postpartum anxiety after the birth of her son. Kelley recognized the symptoms at 13 months postpartum and started her recovery journey then. Kelley experienced pressure to sleep train her son from her doctor and shares how this experience added to her anxiety. Kelley recently founded Parenting From Within in order to provide education, support and community to new parents, providing the support she felt she could’ve used when she had her son. We touched on some important topics including perfectionism and anxiety, the stigma around mental health medications, suicidal and intrusive thoughts, seeking support and so much more!   Highlights:4:10 - Pregnancy Story 5:45 - Perfectionism and anxiety8:10 - Experiencing postpartum anxiety and the intersection with being a NICU nurse9:52 – Reluctancy around medication and stigma around mental health medication14:55 - Noticing the signs of postpartum anxiety at 13 months old16:12 - Suicidal and intrusive Thoughts19:00 - Seeking Support21:05 - Reflecting on signs and symptoms of anxiety in the first year26:35 - Sleep and pressure to sleep train 36:52 - Recognizing anxiety vs worry41:50 - Partner’s experience45:55 - Post-Birth planning50:05 – More pressure to sleep train52:30 - Recovery including medication and therapy 1:02:18 - Returning to work1:03:15 - Parenting from Within – Kelley’s Organization1:16 - What is missing from Perinatal support? Resources: You can find Kelley at www.parentingfromwithin.caFacebook@parentingfromwithin Instagram@parenting_from_within_ Le Leche League Safe Seven: https://www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven/Health Link BC: https://www.healthlinkbc.ca/sites/default/files/pdf/safer-sleep-for-my-baby.pdfCanadian Community Health Study: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/82-003-x/2019007/article/00002-eng.htm = 60% of families say they have bedshared at some pointYou can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
Content Warning: Fertility Challenges, grief and lossHello and welcome to Perinatal Wellbeing episode #8. Today we’re going to talk about Queer fertility journeys and processes. My guest today is Laine Halpern Zisman, PhD, a Toronto-based queer doula who specializes in queer fertility support. She is also a queer culture and communications scholar and has published and taught on a range of topics related to queer theatre & media, activism & trauma, and critical queer feminist theory. Laine is also the LGBTQ+ Support Co-ordinator and Doula at Perinatal Wellbeing Ontario where she helps people find resources and supports from fertility planning to the postpartum period. Laine and I cover a lot in this episode. Laine guides us through various fertility planning considerations, fertility treatments and processes as well as how to cope with change and grief and the importance of self-advocacy throughout this process. And so much more! You can find her on instagram: @queerconceptions.Highlights:3:20 - Laine’s work4:57 - What is involved in the fertility planning5:19 - Learning to cope with change and anxiety through the fertility journey 10:25 - Lack of inclusivity in fertility clinics 13:05 - Options in queer fertility journeys15:20 - Anonymous vs open-ID for sperm or egg donations19:03 - CMV status testing 21:06 - Choosing a fertility clinic25:08 - Choosing a method27:40 - Creating a fertility plan29:41 - Giving yourself permission to take a pause31:56 - Creating your support network32:57 - Transitioning from care during fertility treatments to pregnancy care42:30 - Coping with grief and loss throughout the fertility process49:07 - Support for non-gestational parents50:57 - How the Pandemic has affected fertility journeys52:59 - What do you think is missing from the space of Perinatal Support for people in the Queer community? 54:33 - How do we help to break down barriers? 58:27 - Understanding and using pronounsResources: Check out Laine on Instagram @queerconceptions for information on fertility planning and journeys as well as questions to ask and think about on your fertility journey.Take a look at Birth Mark’s Seed and Sprout program for 2SLGBTQIA families here https://birthmarksupport.com/seed-sprout    You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca
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