How to heal from shame can be really tricky especially if you don't know what it is and how it manifests in your life. In this episode, Jerry shares 5 powerful truths that he wishes he would have known about shame earlier. Shame is one of the most toxic and misunderstood emotional wounds—especially for high-achieviers who look successful on the outside but feel unworthy on the inside. In this episode you’ll learn: What shame actually isHow it develops as a coping mechanism from...
Feeling stuck waiting for confidence to show up before you take action? You’re not alone. But what if the belief you’re waiting for only comes after you act? In this episode of Personal Mastery, Harvard-trained behavior expert Jerry Henderson reveals the only research-backed way to truly develop self-belief — and it's not what most people think. Drawing on self-efficacy theory, self-perception theory, and powerful identity-based change models, Jerry breaks down what it actually takes to belie...
Loneliness isn’t just about being alone — it’s about feeling unseen and disconnected. In this powerful episode, Harvard-trained psychology coach Jerry Henderson breaks down the surprising science behind loneliness, why it physically affects your brain and body, and shares the one proven thing anyone can do to start healing loneliness today. You’ll learn: What loneliness really is (it's not what you think)The shocking health risks of chronic lonelinessThe role of emotionally safe relationships...
How to stop ruminating is something that many of us struggle with. Do you ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off? Like you’re replaying past conversations, worrying about what’s next, or stuck in a loop of “what ifs”? That’s rumination—and it’s more than just overthinking. It’s a neurological trap that drains your energy, fuels anxiety, and blocks you from living fully in the present. In this episode, Jerry breaks down the real science behind rumination and gives you 4 prov...
Are you stuck in a rut and can't seem to move forward—no matter how hard you try? You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're just stuck—and in today’s episode of Personal Mastery, Jerry breaks down the 5 most powerful tools (grounded in neuroscience, psychology, and real-life coaching) that will help you move from stagnation into sustainable momentum. You’ll learn: Why action leads to motivation, not the other way aroundHow to leverage behavioral activation to create a breakthroughThe role of...
Most people never feel truly happy—despite success, comfort, or achievement. Why? Because they’re chasing the wrong thing. In this episode of Personal Mastery, Harvard-trained coach and researcher, Jerry Henderson shares the real reason happiness feels elusive—and what to do instead. You’ll learn why happiness isn’t something you find, but something you create—as a byproduct of a deeply fulfilling life. With powerful neuroscience insights, practical steps, and a research-backed framewor...
In this episode of Personal Mastery, Jerry Henderson explores why only 8% of people achieve their goals. He also introduces the "10-10 Rule," a principle that involves dedicating level 10 effort to tasks that have the potential to yield level 10 results. Jerry shares how high achievers like Warren Buffett, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Tim Ferriss, and Serena Williams exemplify this rule by focusing intensely on high-impact activities and eliminating low-return tasks. He also p...
This episode could transform your relationship with money for good. If you’ve ever felt stuck financially, self-sabotaged your success, or believed wealth just wasn’t “for you,” you must hear this. Today, Jerry sits down with bestselling author and multimillionaire entrepreneur Ian Prukner to reveal the truth about wealth that nobody talks about. Ian went from working four jobs just to survive — to becoming a multimillionaire who now helps other create lives of financial freedom. How? By rewi...
Today’s episode will change the way you speak to yourself—and what that inner dialogue creates in your life. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure about how to make lasting change, this conversation is for you. You're going to learn the surprising science behind self-talk and motivation—plus how to shift the language inside your mind so it starts working for you, not against you. Change can begin with one powerful shift: changing the conversation inside your head. And this episode...
This episode could change your relationship with happiness forever. If you’ve ever found yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — this conversation is for you. You don’t need more accomplishments, more money, or more time to feel the way you want to feel. You need a new story. Today, Jerry shares one of the most powerful mindset shifts you’ll ever hear — rooted in neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and real-life transformation. This is the episode that will help you take your power back. You...
You deserve a life that feels as extraordinary on the inside as it looks on the outside—and Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson (formerly The Permission to Love Podcast) will help you build it. I’m Jerry Henderson, creator of the Personal Mastery Framework™, high-performance and trauma-informed coach, Harvard-trained in the psychology of human behavior, researcher, author, and speaker. Every week, I—along with world-renowned experts—share powerful conversations and research-backed insig...
Today is a moment that I want to honor with a deep sense of gratitude — the final episode under the Permission to Love name. Starting next week, this podcast will officially become Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson. In this episode I reflect on the journey we've taken together — healing shame, cultivating self-love, and building lives aligned from the inside out. I also shares why self-love remains the foundation of everything moving forward and why giving yourself...
In this powerful episode, we explore the father wound — what it is, how it forms, and how it continues to shape our relationships, sense of self-worth, and emotional health. Drawing from personal experience and evidence-based practices, I walk you through key insights and healing strategies, including reparenting, grief work, and authentic forgiveness. Whether your father was absent, abusive, or emotionally unavailable, this episode offers validation, healing, and a roadmap forwar...
Have you ever felt like life is slipping through your fingers, even as you chase your dreams and hit your goals? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack the hidden reasons high achievers and those on a healing journey often feel disconnected from their own lives. Grounded in neuroscience and real-world experience, I walk you through five powerful, practical steps to stop life from feeling like a blur — and instead, step fully into the moment. Learn how to calm your body,...
In this empowering episode, we explore the essential role of grit in personal mastery and growth. You’ll learn why grit is more than just pushing through — it’s about purpose, resilience, and sustained passion for your goals. We look at the practical, research-backed strategies to build grit in a way that’s healthy and sustainable, not self-destructive. In the episode I also opens up about my own journey of perseverance through addiction, burnout, and self-doubt, and why high achievers ...
In this powerful transition episode, I share a heartfelt announcement: Permission to Love is evolving. Starting May 4th, the podcast will become Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson—a space dedicated to helping you thrive emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and relationally. Together we reflect on the journey so far, the healing roots of the show, and why self-love is just the beginning. This next chapter builds on that foundation and expands into deeper personal development—mindset, e...
In this episode we dive into part two of the course on learning how to love yourself. If you haven't listened to part one yet, make sure to check that out first—it sets the foundation for today's practical steps. In this episode we walk through the science and psychology behind self-love, providing actionable tools to help you shift your thoughts, words, actions, and relationships toward greater self-acceptance. If you've struggled with feelings of inadequacy, a harsh inner critic...
In this special two-part series, I’m sharing a powerful course I developed on learning how to love yourself. If you’ve ever struggled with self-acceptance, carried feelings of shame, or felt like you had to keep achieving to prove your worth — this episode is for you. I'll share my personal journey from deep shame and self-loathing to learning how to love myself, and how you can start healing your relationship with yourself. In this first part of the course we'll cover: What Self-Love i...
In this episode, we’re diving into a hard truth that so many high achievers face but rarely talk about—shame-based achievement. Why do we chase success and still feel empty when we get it? Why does the high from accomplishment fade so quickly, leaving us feeling even more inadequate? The truth is that many high achievers are driven not by passion, but by fear—fear of being unworthy, fear of failure, fear of rejection. Today, we are breaking down the cycle of shame-based achievement and how it...
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of EVERYTHING. No amount of success, validation, or external achievement can replace a healthy self-relationship. And yet, so many high achievers and trauma survivors neglect this relationship the most. In today’s episode, we cover: Why your relationship with yourself shapes every part of your lifeThe 5 key areas that determine self-worth & self-trustHow self-talk, thoughts, and daily habits rewire your brainThe neuroscience of breaking to...