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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Have you wanted to bring a sex toy into the bedroom but been worried about your partner’s response?
It can be a scary ask! Maybe you’re worried about hurting your partner’s feelings, maybe you don’t even own one yet.
Well, we think sex toys can be an incredibly useful way to balance the orgasm gap and increase pleasure! So in this episode, we’re going to help you introduce sex toys into the bedroom (but without making it weird)!
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Guide: Next Level Intercourse
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“When mommy and daddy lock the bedroom door…”
We’ve all been there at some point in our childhood when someone sat us down and talked to us for the first time about sex. Odds are it was probably awkward, uncomfortable, and maybe left you with more questions than before.
In this episode, we’re digging into all of your true stories about how “The Talk” was given to you, and we’re sharing our stories too.
So if you’ve ever wondered how similar your first conversation about sex is to someone else, this is an episode you can’t miss.
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Course: How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex
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We’re back with Part 2 of our “What Do Women Really Think About…?” series. We turned to our instagram community again and asked for a new batch of topics.
We’re diving into women’s real thoughts about spitting vs swallowing, their partners watching porn, and some (pretty crazy) wild cards.
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Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
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Ever had a frustrating situation with a partner that left you wondering, “Is this your problem to fix? Or mine?”
Whether it’s disagreeing on parenting choices or your partner having a fetish that you’re not into yourself, it’s completely normal to be confused about who needs to make a change.
Today we’re bringing back “Is This Your Shit Or Mine?” for part 2. Get ready for some fascinating stories from other couples and our best advice for how to move forward!
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Long distance relationships are hard! About 14 million people are in long distance relationships in the US alone, and most of them report struggling to keep the spark alive. In this episode, we’re going to help you stay connected and keep it spicy with hacks, techniques, tips, and tricks.
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Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life
Dirty Talk 101
Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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Have you ever considered opening your relationship? Or just ever felt nosy about why other people open theirs?
For today’s episode, we asked our Instagram audience to let us know if they were considering opening their relationship. We weigh in on what they should do and give them (and you!) our best advice.
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Art Of Initiation
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Does a lack of privacy get in the way of your sex life? You’re not alone. 62% of our audience say they wish they had more privacy, and 92% of them say they’d be having more and better sex if they had more privacy. If you don’t have privacy, you may find it difficult to get in the mood, relax in the moment, make any noise, or even allow yourself to have sex in the first place.
In this episode, you’ll get access to practical tips taken straight from one of our paid courses, Rediscovering Us!
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Rediscovering Us: Intimacy And Sex for Parents
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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Did you know that only 24% of people said they’re happy with the level of vulnerability in their relationship?
We asked our community why they struggle to be vulnerable, and heard things like:
-I didn’t grow up being vulnerable, so I don’t know how to do it
-We’ve been together for so long without being vulnerable; it would feel weird to try to start now
-What’s the point of vulnerability?
Our hot take is that without vulnerability, you don’t have a real relationship. So in this episode, we’re breaking down your barriers and helping you and your partner get more vulnerable!
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Simple Daily Check-In
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Your partner wants you to flirt with them more!
But the majority of us feel like we don’t know HOW to flirt. It feels awkward or cheesy... Or we don’t know what our partner will actually like.
Get your notebooks out because today we’re going to teach you how to flirt with your partner! We’ll cover why flirting is so important in long-term relationships, how to get over your resistance to it, and dozens of specific examples of how to flirt.
Pro-tip: this is a fantastic episode to listen to with your partner!
Links & Resources:
Art Of Initiation
Dirty Talk 101
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies, but most of us feel completely clueless about how to actually make them happen! In today’s episode, we walk you through how to have your first one, and share some hot, hilarious, awkward, and horrible stories about other peoples’ threesomes.
If you’ve ever wanted to have a threesome or just want to hear about others’ experiences, you’re in for a treat!
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Courses & Guides
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Get ready for the highly anticipated third act to one of our most popular episodes yet - Is This Normal?
You’ll get answers to questions like: Is it normal that my husband isn’t instantly turned on when he sees me naked? Is it normal to never have masturbated? Is it normal to get the ick from my husband whom I truly love? And so much more!
Prepare to laugh, cringe, and nod your head in recognition as we address your questions head-on!
Links & Resources:
Next Level Intercourse
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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Today we’re getting ULTRA personal, and answering all your questions about our recent experience in couples therapy.
Do we think therapy sometimes digs up stuff that wasn’t a problem? Do we ever hope our therapist takes our side? And of course, the big question that everyone wanted to know… WHY are we in couples therapy in the first place? (We got really vulnerable and emotional with this one…)
We hope these topics (and our sometimes controversial answers) start some conversations that you never knew you needed to have!
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Are these four communication mistakes ruining your relationship?
In today’s episode we’re revealing the Four Horsemen. Researcher John Gottman discovered that these specific communication pitfalls could predict divorce with over 90% accuracy!
We’re breaking down what they are, how to know if you’re doing them, and what to do to have better communication going forward.
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Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior!
Why do guys mansplain? Why do they struggle to find things that are right in front of their faces? Why are men always initiating when we’re right in the middle of something like doing the dishes? Why can’t they ever be vulnerable? And what’s with the obsession over the volume of their cum??
Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.
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Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” Xander Explains Male Behavior
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When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.
But is libido actually the problem?
In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”
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Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
Art of Initiation
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Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
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2What do you do when it’s been a while…
When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
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We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.
We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the asshole when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.
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If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!
Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.
We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.
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Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)
Visit our Homepage (http://vmtherapy.com/)
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.”
We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay.
Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on to intercourse, but it’s so much more than that. Today we’re telling you about the magic of all-day, non-sexual foreplay.
Links & Resources:
Course: Art Of Initiation
Challenge: The Connection Challenge
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
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women hopefully this will help you to have compassion towards your man
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cannot play the newest episode. can you reboot it. lol. thanks. you guys are the best and we have your sex talks book!!!
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