What do you do when you get that call in the middle of the night—the one that flips your world upside down? For Brenda, it was the night her son was picked up for wilderness therapy because his substance use had reached a breaking point. In this honest, gut-punch of an episode, Brenda and I talk about what actually helps when your teen is using—and spoiler alert, it's not pretending everything's fine or doubling down on shame. We get into: Why your kid's using makes total sense (yes, really) Realizing your child is not your report card How to talk to siblings without scaring them or hiding the truth The #1 thing Brenda wishes every parent knew when their teen is using If you feel alone, scared, or like you're doing it all wrong—you are not. This conversation will help you breathe again. And if you want to talk through what's happening in your home, we've got you. You don't have to do this alone. About my Guest: Brenda Zane is a highly recognized family advocate, TEDx Speaker, Mayo Clinic Certified Health Coach and podcast host whose career and personal transformation have shaped her unique impact on families and communities. After a 20+ year career in marketing and advertising, working with Fortune 500 brands like Nike, PepsiCo, Starbucks and Microsoft, Brenda made a life-changing decision at 50 to dedicate herself to supporting parents navigating the complexities of substance misuse and mental health issues in their children. In 2020, she co-founded Hopestream Community, a global 501c3 nonprofit organization. Brenda's personal journey includes nearly losing her oldest son to multiple fentanyl overdoses, which fuels her passion to help others. Today, Brenda combines her strategic expertise with hard-won wisdom to help parents of teens and young adults (ages 12-29) use evidence-based strategies to support their children through substance use and mental health challenges. Drawing from both research and the trenches of her own family's recovery journey, she compassionately guides parents toward approaches that strengthen connection, reduce harm, and motivate healthier lives for themselves and their kids. Brenda Zane Co-Founder, Hopestream Listen to the Hopestream podcast Hear about our impact with families Hopestream is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE! To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
Trigger warning. This episode contains suicidal ideation. In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE! To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE! To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE! To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE! To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
What does it really mean to raise powerful daughters in today's world? In this episode of Pivot Parenting, I sit down with Aubin Palmer, author of Power Women, to explore how mothers can model strength, confidence, and resilience in ways that empower the next generation. Aubin shares her transformative acronym P.O.W.E.R., breaking down how each element can be lived out and passed on—not by lectures, but by example. Together, we talk about the subtle ways moms accidentally give away their power, how to reclaim it with intention, and why embodying self-love, faith, and courage creates a legacy that daughters naturally inherit. If you've ever wondered how to guide your teen girl toward confidence without pushing or preaching, this conversation will give you both clarity and encouragement. Don't miss this empowering episode—and while you're at it, grab Aubin's book Power Women and my book Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah! so you can keep building the tools, perspective, and love your family needs. About my guest: Aubin is a life and business coach devoted to lighting the fire within power women to step into their full potential. Based in utah she is the proud mother of 3 girls- the next generation of power women. With deep intuition, real world experience and unshakable belief, she guides women to claim their power and build the lives they truly want. She believes in the strength women mind through collaboration and leads groups and retreats to help women rise in power everywhere. Instagram: @aubinpalmercoaching Amazon link for book www.aubinpalmercoaching.com
We've all been there. You limit screen time, cook healthy meals, set boundaries... and your kid still finds garbage to watch, makes terrible choices, maybe even walks away from everything you've tried to teach them. So you throw your hands up and think: Why do I even bother? I get it. My oldest loves telling people they couldn't watch SpongeBob growing up because I didn't want them seeing parents portrayed as idiots. And guess what? They found trash media anyway. A lot of good that did me, right? You'll learn: The 3 ways we mess this up (spoiler: we're all guilty) Why trying to "fix" your kid always backfires The one thing we get wrong that creates this exhausting cycle How to parent without losing your mind or your relationship Why your kid's choices aren't about you (even when it feels personal) This episode is for you if: You're tired of feeling like a failure when your teen makes bad choices You've tried everything and nothing seems to work Your kid has walked away from church, family values, or just basic respect You're ready to stop the micromanaging madness You want to love your kid without enabling them Look, this isn't about giving up or becoming a pushover. It's about getting honest about what you can actually control (hint: it's not them) and focusing your energy where it actually makes a difference. Ready to stop spinning your wheels? Let's talk about why we parent in the first place. Schedule a call HERE and if you're ready to take your spiritual parenting to the next level, HERE is my book you need to preorder.
Most parents dread "those" moments — the heated arguments, the eye rolls, the slammed doors. But what if you could handle those situations so well that your teen actually thanks you afterward? In this episode, I'm sharing my five-step process for turning any blow-up into a breakthrough. You'll learn exactly how to diffuse the tension, communicate so your teen feels valued and understood, and still hold your boundaries — without walking away frustrated or full of regret. Whether it's curfew drama, messy rooms, or an attitude that's pushing every button you have, this framework works. You'll feel seen and respected as a parent, and your teen will feel safe and heard. The best part? Everyone leaves the conversation feeling closer, not further apart. To get your template: "How to Tell Your Teen Off So Well They Thank You" email me @ heather@heatherfrazier.com, subject line: "Template" Lets start transforming tough moments into connection ASAP
Let's be honest—most of us feel a little panicked when our teen says, "I'm bored." It triggers something, right? We start signing them up for more, pushing them to be productive, filling every gap… but why? In this episode, I'm sharing why boredom is actually a gift—and how our discomfort with it says more about us than them. You'll learn: The real reasons we try to keep our teens busy (spoiler: it's not all about them) What chronic activity and distraction actually creates in your teen A simple 3-step process to allow boredom in a way that builds connection, resilience, and creativity If you're ready to stop managing your teen's schedule like a cruise director and start raising a grounded, thoughtful human, this one's for you. And if you'd like to join the Senior parent group for Septemeber 2025-2026, click HERE to learn more. xoxo
Ever think to yourself: "It's too late." "Why even bother?" "Nothing I do makes a difference." You're not alone—but you are believing a lie. In this episode, I'm breaking down one of the most heartbreaking ways I see good parents unintentionally give up: they fail ahead of time. Out of fear. Out of burnout. Out of guilt. Out of believing their situation won't change. We'll talk about how to recognize this quiet kind of surrender, why it happens to even the best parents, and the three mindset shifts that reignite hope and healing in your relationship—no matter how late in the game it feels. If your teen is heading into senior year and you're silently spiraling about the countdown, their future, or how disconnected you feel—this episode is your sign. 🟡 I have 11 spots in my 2025–26 Senior Year Parent Group. One of them has your name on it. Let's make this final year one you're proud of.
When your teen makes a big mistake—like coming home high—it's easy to spiral into shame, blame, or panic. In this raw coaching session, I sit down with two parents navigating that exact moment with their daughter. Together, we unpack what good parenting really looks like when the stakes are high. We explore how to lead with love and follow through with consequences, how to grow into the 2.0 version of your parenting self, and the crucial shift in understanding which emotions and responsibilities belong to you—and which are your teen's to carry. If you've ever asked yourself, "Did I screw this up?" or "What else could I have done?"—this episode is for you. Plus, if you're parenting a high school senior, now is the time to prepare for the most emotionally complex year of their life—and yours. 🎓 Join Navigating the Launch—my 9-month group for senior-year parents—where we walk through this wild season together with support, strategy, and sanity. 👉🏼 Click here to learn more + save your seat
In today's episode, I sit down with Cora, a mom navigating the complex world of launching her 18-year-old daughter. We dive deep into the three non-negotiable steps every parent needs for a successful launch, the dangerous difference between control and love, and the one thing that happens right before launch that catches parents completely off-guard. What You'll Learn: The 3 essential steps for successful teen launch (most parents skip #2) How to tell if you're parenting from control vs. love, fear vs. confidence—and why it matters more than you think The secret pre-launch phase that determines your long-term success Real strategies from a mom in the trenches Ready to master your child's launch year? If you're parenting a high school senior (or soon-to-be senior), you don't have to navigate this alone. Join my Navigating the Launch: 2025-26 Senior Parent Group Coaching Program—a 9-month journey designed specifically for parents like you. Over 18 sessions from September through May, you'll master every stage of launch so your child flies confidently into their future while maintaining the loving relationship you've built. Because the goal isn't just launching them—it's launching them so well they choose to come home for the holidays. Program starts September 2025. Limited spots available. [Learn more and secure your spot HERE Don't let this pivotal year happen to you—make it work for your family.
If your teen struggles to wake up, follow through, or seems totally oblivious to your family's priorities—you'll feel seen in this one. In this live coaching session with Kat, we dig into the frustration of having a teen who won't just get it together… and what's really happening beneath the surface. We unpack: Why your teen's "irresponsible" behavior might actually be age-appropriate How well-meaning expectations can backfire (and make mornings miserable) Why it's okay for both of you to be human and imperfect Practical ways to build better communication without constant battles If you've been telling yourself, "She just needs to care more / try harder / be more responsible," this episode will shift how you see things—and bring way more peace to your mornings. ✨ Ready to parent with more clarity and calm (even when your teen's a mess)? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let's make this easier—for both of you.
Ever find yourself thinking, "If my kid would just get their act together, life would be so much easier"? Yeah… you're not alone. In this live coaching session, we dig into what's really going on when we get stuck in that headspace—whether it's schoolwork, bedtime routines, or the everyday grind. You love your kid. You're trying your best. But when their struggles drag on (and on), it's SO tempting to believe that if they would just change, everything would fall into place. Here's the hard truth: Sometimes the real shift has to start with us. In this episode, we unpack: Why telling your teen "how to fix it" often backfires How to spot the sneaky ways we (yep, even us) get stuck in old patterns What to do when your routines stop working and everyone's frustrated The pivot that helps you AND your teen move forward without power struggles If you're exhausted from circling the same problems—and starting to think nothing works—this is for you. Spoiler: it's not about doing more. It's about seeing it differently. Ready to break the cycle and actually enjoy parenting again? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let's make this easier on everyone.
Let's be real—courage usually feels awful. It's uncomfortable, risky, and it often costs us something. But if we're not showing our kids what it looks like to stand up for truth and love people well (especially the hard ones), then we're teaching them to stay silent. And silence is complicity. In this episode, I'm getting bold about the values we need to be modeling at home. From passive-aggressive parenting to political name-calling to the subtle ways we teach our teens to judge instead of love—we're digging into all of it. We'll cover: How we accuse others of being un-Christlike while doing the same ourselves What it looks like to be provoked and kind Why love isn't a reward for good behavior—it's a calling How to help our teens move beyond stereotypes and lead with compassion And the hard truth: You might be smarter than someone, but that doesn't make you better If you want to raise a kid who tells the truth, loves their neighbor (yes, even that one), and doesn't lose themselves in the noise of the world—this episode is for you. And if this message hits home, my book Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah is packed with lessons on what real Christlike love looks like when religion, parenting, and pain collide. 👉 Preorder here and give your family a better legacy to live out.