Pleasure Central Radio

A brief introduction to Pleasure Central Radio and what to expect in further episodes.     SHAWN: 00:00 Hello, radiant Rebecca. REBECCA: 00:02 Hey Sean. SHAWN: 00:02 I have a very important question for you. REBECCA: 00:05 Okay. Shoot. SHAWN: 00:06 Have you seen the first Star Wars that came out? The very first one. Came out in... Oh my God, people are going to kill me. In the 70s. REBECCA: 00:16 Yes, I have. SHAWN: 00:17 Do you know that that was episode four and yet it was the first episode? REBECCA: 00:22 Really. SHAWN: 00:22 Here's why this is relevant to this particular podcast. We've done probably 18 or so podcasts and we are going back to episode one. This podcast is episode one of Pleasure Central Radio. REBECCA: 00:35 Are you saying this is a prequel? SHAWN: 00:37 This is the prequel to everything that we've done up until now. You ready for it? REBECCA: 00:40 I'm ready. Let's do it. SHAWN: 00:44 The reason why this came up is we were having our annual meeting, and we can say that now because it's been a year that we've been recording all of these things. In our annual meeting we decided that it was probably a good idea for us to go back and really get some clarity around why Pleasure Central Radio exists and what you and I intend to bring to the table as we continue this and what our listeners can expect. SHAWN: 01:09 This project all started as you and me and two other friends were having dinner together, and we were having a really lively discussion, a lot of fun. Because there was different viewpoints and because we had... I think that each of us were going, "Oh, that's interesting way to look at things. That's an interesting viewpoint. I can see how that works. Maybe I don't quite agree with that." From there we decided that this would be a great format for us to bring a lot of different subjects to people through the podcast, through Pleasure Central Radio. REBECCA: 01:41 It was a very exciting evening. I remember the look on your face when I said, "Hey Sean, I've been thinking about doing a podcast where I talk about masculine and feminine and how they work together and support each other." You had this thoughtful look that turned into a slow smile that turned into a really big, completely wide-eyed across the face grin and I knew that there were something there. SHAWN: 02:11 It's funny because if you all that are listening were here as we were starting to do these podcasts, that's the look actually that Rebecca looks for in me on every episode. We'll be talking for maybe half an hour, 45 minutes, and then all of a sudden my face will just light up. She'll go, oh, and I'll be like, yes, there it is. Let's go record. That's exactly how it started. SHAWN: 02:31 I think what we wanted to do inside of this is bring not only the different perspectives of all sorts of different subjects, but also what we term grown up attitude towards things. Grown up attitude towards life in general. Does that make sense? REBECCA: 02:50 It makes sense to me. SHAWN: 02:50 What would you describe that as? What do you think the grownup attitude is? REBECCA: 02:55 I would describe the grownup mentality as one that has a lot of maturity in it. One that realizes that while we are all self-centered people, because that's part of the nature of being human. We are better when we work together and when we we're able to build things in partnership. Personally a partnership is one of the things that I value very highly and find to be incredibly rewarding. SHAWN: 03:27 One of the things that you talked about was the difference between an infant and an adolescent and an adult and an infant. You talked about infant stage, just like it's all about me and adolescent is, it's all about what I can get away with. An adult is... REBECCA: 03:47 it's all about who I have decided that I am. SHAWN: 03:50 Who I have decided that I am and what we can bring to the world. What we can bring to the community. REBECCA: 03:55 Yes, as an adult you're living more from your values. The way that I think about it is from the adult mentality, you're coming from a place of living your values in the world as deeply and as truly and as honestly as you can. SHAWN: 04:12 Our intention with this podcast is to bring that perspective, that infant adolescent adult perspective into all sorts of different subjects. We've talked about... We have 19 episodes recorded right now. So we've talked about 19 different subjects where we've really tried to bring that contrast of what's it like to live inside of that particular subject as an adult versus as an adolescent or as an infant. REBECCA: 04:39 If this is the first episode that you're listening to with Pleasure Central Radio, we have all kinds of interesting things in store for you. We've talked about some comedy, some standup comedy shows, and what we see as the adult mentality within them. We've talked about my sex life quite a lot. We've interviewed some of my partners on the show. Sean has done a great job bringing the best out of them. SHAWN: 05:06 Relationships, acroyoga. REBECCA: 05:09 Acroyoga, yes. The gift of an authentic orgasm. What that looks like and how to get there. We've talked about blowjob tips and being feminine in the army. What else? SHAWN: 05:21 Lots of difference actually between masculine feminine or the contrast of those two in all sorts of different ways. REBECCA: 05:28 And actually that is a good segue maybe to talk a little bit about you and me and how we've got this nice masculine feminine balance between us. SHAWN: 05:37 I love that. Okay, what is your intention? What do you feel like you bring to our audience? REBECCA: 05:45 I think what I bring to most conversations and particularly to this podcast conversation is the desire to provoke, to talk about subjects that are not necessarily ones that we have the opportunity to share about very often. Ones that tend to be very personal. I'm an unusual person. I'm a pretty open book and so I tend to share a lot of things with people that they are surprised and willing to talk about. REBECCA: 06:15 I found a lot of value in that, both in being able to talk about those more taboo subjects and connecting with people on that level. Also having those conversations usually ends up with a bunch of different ahas with people that are involved in the conversation going, "Oh, I never thought about it that way." I'm always learning new things from other people. It seems like people are learning new things from me quite a lot. SHAWN: 06:43 Yes, there's a level of bravery that you bring to this with simple subject matter. Subjects that I probably would never have thought of talking about in public. Something that's going to be recorded for the rest of time. At the same time, it's been an enjoyable space for me to be in because I'm very inquisitive by nature and I want to know everything about everything. SHAWN: 07:09 I think it's important for people to know everything about everything because inside of that lies choice and they can decide what works for them or what doesn't. I've enjoyed that part. I've enjoyed actually being the sort of person that can bring a container to that as well where you and I can start a conversation and it just seems to flow or we can have a conversation with a third party in here and it just seems to flow. I really enjoy that piece of it. REBECCA: 07:34 Yes, you really do seem to have this desire to pierce the veil of reality somehow and shine a light on something. SHAWN: 07:45 I've come to a space where I'm not convinced that there's anything that's actually truth and maybe you could... One plus one equals two mathematical, I'll go along with that. But as far as often what we're experiencing in life with relationships and with how we go about things, the truth is to me a vail sometimes. SHAWN: 08:06 I do love the idea of shining a light past that veil and just showing anybody, myself included what could be on the other side. The reason for that in my mind is because that is where connection lies. That's where harmony lies. We can be connected to each other, to ourselves, to the world, to the planet, into everything simply by knowing that there might be another way of looking at it than what we choose to see through our own eyes. REBECCA: 08:36 I think that might be why we've gotten along so well even though we have such different perspectives and values and different ways of approaching relationships. Because I also think that there's an infinite number of opportunities. The way that I live my life, being a polyamorous person for the last 19 years has been more about possibility and being able to see how good life could be and then moving in the direction of what I actually want. SHAWN: 09:07 I think that's a really unique way that we connect. I think that's a piece of us that's very important for people to understand, is that our lives are entirely different. It's one of the things that I love about you and I love about doing this with you, is that you're polyamorous and had been for 19 years. I'm monogamous and have been for however old I am. We have so many discussions where we don't... SHAWN: 09:40 I think that we work to see each other's viewpoint and yet because we have such different ways of life, it's not so much about understanding and agreeing as just seeing and understanding. It's been a lot of fun to have the conversations with you and this is what our listeners can expect both of us challenging each other at times and trying to explore a little bit more at times. SHAWN: 10:07 Our intention with our audience is also to have them challenge and explore. If there's a way we get to everybody to get in and have the conversation, great. Hopefully what this does in my mind is open up the conversation in everybody else's lives. REBECCA: 10:22 Amen. I'm on board with that. SHAWN: 10:24 Amen. REBECCA: 10:25 That's another thing that we both have in common. We both grew up in relig

In this session of Pleasure Central Radio, Radiant Rebecca is interviewed by Trina Wright-Robinson about her successes with relationships, money and the Law of Attraction. If you would prefer to SEE us, this interview is on YouTube as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieAm3oDXKfc&t=2430s   Join us for the second half of this interview, when we talk about how to use your genius to get exactly what you want out of your work, and how to thrive in the process of that.   Important links: -Abe success stories that Trina references PStory #1 - Feb 2012 - A Vortexy Divorce Story #2 -Sept 2012 - How to fall in love, Train your Dragon and Live a Fabulous Life Story #3 -Nov 2012 - Holy Cow! I'm Wealthy! Story #4 -Feb 2013 - My New Normal: Comfort, luxury and consistent freedom to choose the vortexiest option Story #5 - Always trust the downstream option...

Introduction to how Michael and Rebecca met and how they date (how their polyamorous lives look). -Introducing Michael, one of Rebecca’s partners -trusting intuition & Guides -Going out on a limb

LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE WITH HEADPHONES IF POSSIBLE Sound is pretty hard to hear, one of our first episodes when we were still playing with recording equipment and spaces.   Show Notes 3:48 Bareback sex (without condoms) 4:55 “You’ll fuck more, guys, if you learn how to enjoy fucking with a condom.” —Masturbate with a condom on! 5:27 How fucking with a condom can be helpful 5:50 Biochemical bonding with bareback sex is different? More powerful? 7:08 On being an Ethical Slut 8:07 Types of fluid bonding and its effect 8:52 Saran Wrap or dental dams? — get the non-porous, non-microwavable Saran Wrap! “Generally speaking, I’m not microwaving my partner’s pussy while I’m eating it, so…”   10:25 How did the desire to have bareback sex come up? 12:27 My ticking ovary clock… ? 13:17 What tells me that it’s my biological clock? 14:18 “Fucking pregnant women is pretty hot.” 14:20 Are pregnant women horny? —For women that allow themselves to be aware of what is going on in their body during pregnancy, it can be a very pleasant and arousing experience. 16:31 “Nine months of being a walking orgasm would maybe want to make you want to do it again, and again!” 17:07 The orgasmic birth movement 18:07 Fisting & large insertable 19:14 Using fisting to prepare someone for birth 19:56 Internal massage for women - Pelvic Floor Physical Therapists 20:30 Certified Sexological Bodyworkers can also provide internal massage   22:13 Helping lower back pain with internal massage, especially for men. 23:07 Improve hemorrhoids by playing with your own asshole for pleasure Anal Pleasure & Health - Seminal book by… 24:30 Sex without condoms & Safety —Fluids on mucosal skin or highly elastic is the highest risk 26:17 “Topical foliage…” 27:37 Breaking the skin on healthy skin is not necessarily better than wiping with alcohol first 28:33 Risks of pregnancy with bareback sex 29:28 Being penetrated is actually one of the more risky things that humans can do   30:00 Women have been dying from childbirth for millions of years. It’s new that we have gotten a pretty good hold on that 31:06 She said “It was like a switch for me. I went in becoming pregnant and having this baby, I went from being a carefree young woman who really was basically up for anything and willing to fuck at the drop of a hat, having great sex with lots of people and doing all the things I wanted to do… but something about this pregnancy and having this child was like flipping a switch.” 33:40 pH changes in a pussy 34:00 Find the type of condoms and lube that work for you! Will likes: —Maximus - gel style, great for anal sex —Liquid Silk (less sugars, but a tiny bit of silicone, which irritates some women) —Aqua lube —Kimono condoms - thin, great sensitivity. (These condoms are better for average to smaller guys) —Crown condoms - pink color —Skyn, a great latex alternative condom Rebecca likes: —Sliquid brand lube, paraben-free, glycerine-free, etc. —Kimono & Skyn condoms also —Female condoms 37:30 Condoms & flavors? 39:30 Female condoms - tips —Put lube on the inside AND the outside of a female condom before you use it   41:37 If you are fucking a lot with condoms, Will would recommend using a non-latex brand. Developing a latex allergy to the awesome thing that covers your cock would be annoying! 42:50 Putting on a Trojan condom is like putting on a tire! (Super thick, neither of us recommend them!) 43:19  Why the US only has 6 or so sizes of condoms available… And what to do if you want a better fitting condom: https://www.theyfit.co.uk/ 44:47 The better fit you have with your condoms, the more you will be able to enjoy the experience. —Put a little lube inside the condom (just a small drop, too much could make it slide off) 45:55 So Rebecca, where does this pregnancy desire take you and your own polycules? 49:56 Passing on my recessive hazel eye genes!   52:00 Component of power play and ownership in my pregnancy fantasies 52:50 “The more in control of the rest of my life I feel, the more out of control I want to be in the bedroom.”

The Second conversation with Samantha, Michael & Rebecca about sex, playful games & quality of touch   Show Notes/Conversation points -90\10 game-Radical Consent: A new level of consent based on honoring of who your partner is in every moment. -Sapiosexual -what’s the slowest you can move and still feel good? -the softer the touch, the more the focus and better quality the consciousness -Ground, Shield and “Come into my shield, lover!”

Will & Rebecca talk about rolling orgasms versus “Push me off a cliff” orgasms… Long Time Gaps in serious poly relationships, Clear & Compassionate conversations, etc. The kind of love that doesn’t need to be cemented together. “You just don’t FEEL jealousy, right?” Jealousy -  “What that becomes for me is an opportunity to investigate myself…” Princess Bride quote - “I don’t think that word means what you think it means!” Hormonal birth control dampens hormonal flux, so now each week I felt different about sex. Communicating better in bed “Pushing into orgasm, verses Relaxing into orgasm”

Introducing Will and what brought him here and how that informs the way he arrives now. Early open artistic family, very open parents. Wasn’t shamed for eroticism and sensuality until later when society asked him to shut that down. Having a child saved him from staying disconnected from his body. After Will moved to Seattle, he learned a lot about sex, sensuality and erotic experiences of all different sorts. Brought him to kink, sex magic, BDSM, etc. The lack of expectation of outcome can be a delicious and totally enjoyable journey. Michael shares about some experimentation that Rebecca showed him - 30-second waves and energetic orgasms and 12-minute energetic love letters.  

Exploring the polyamory/open relationship lifestyle. Talking to your lovers about sex, fantasies, safety… What happens when a new crush arrives on the scene? -ask your lovers “what is so sexy about that?” -mentioned safety and condoms, etc. educate yourself, decide ahead of time and no safety rules are changed if there is a hard cock in the room -NRE: newness injects interest and happiness -simple fantasies, doesn’t need to be pornographic or imitate porn -When do I have the poly conversation with a new person? -Dating women... Masculine energy as an entrepreneur, wanting to be feminine and receiving at home

Nneka Kelly and Radiant Rebecca go way, way back. In fact, Nneka is one of R’s oldest Abe friends. Here it is, 13+ years after they first connected online and they have some great stories about how to find your awesome peeps. 3:02 - Nneka’s introduction is done and she starts speaking      4:04 - talking about conversations and that is how we reconnected. Abe-forum Having conversations that are more than just a Like on a post.   4:38 the evolution of the internet and social media The Search Engine! 5:10   Before “Google it” was a verb   6:11 - Nneka had ecommerce business with her ex husband. Went to webmasters conference, met the google engineers, learned about Blogging!   7:54 - sold plus size lingerie, blogged to generate traffic   $1000/month to $10,000/month   8:59 - started her own personal blog to document her Abe journey. Wanted to talk about spirituality, metaphysics, etc. Started connecting on the forums, having real conversations, etc.   Then came facebook - networking medium, not so much a conversation generator   11:40 - yoga is like church! It’s where the spiritual nomads go! (Wait, that’s new?!?)   12:39 - What we want to talk about today? how to have more of those meaningful conversations   13:20 - me talking about my response to Grace on Facebook about connecting in person, plus replay   14:00 - introduced the meetup group in Seattle   14:12 - talked about the book study for the Wealth Dynamics stuff   15:05 - mixed format book studies really made a difference.   16:38 - consuming information at a pace that is valuable to you.   17:17 - feeling obligated to do the other 3.5 hours of work once you have gotten what you need.   17:56 Cyrs Wood - mentions her writing and her posts are amazing, very very juicy.   20:59 - Like Minds But Different Thoughts Abe cruises have so much diversity No idea what abe friends do for a living! Or partners, etc.   26.54 - The path of Ease - Nneka going in and out of corporate, how she learned to accept that it was the path of ease.   29:20 - work experiences not just lined up with it, but enjoyed it!   34:18 - Shame about re-entering the work force again?   35:57 - bombarded with how to be MARKETERS! But that’s out of whack   36:32 - Vibrational marketing. Make “Who I Am Being” how I sell, not the strategy.   Harv Eker   37.41 - Be who you are, and when people show up, charge them.   38:05 - Talks about Namaste Moore   Never felt guilt, shame or doubt out of an Abraham Hicks experience, and she has always wanted more.   43:21 - the difference between the masculine and the feminine ways of success. Go out and Get vs Shine and Receive   44:38 - Receiving vs having the Super Independent Woman syndrome of “No thanks, I can do it for myself!”   50:13 - It’s not be all feminine or all masculine. When I aim for 80/20, that’s the sweet spot for me.   51:10 - Mapping my monthly cycle to my masculine/feminine balance   52:48 - Moon mysteries course by Namaste Moore There is value in being consistent, and there is value in understanding our monthly and yearly cycle that works better for us than pure forced consistency   53:44 - “I resisted the path that I was already on because I didn’t think that it should look this way!” -Nneka   54:30 - Alisa Vitti, FloLiving (cycle and how to live)   54:54 - Weekly cycle from Roger Hamiliton - transposed it onto a month cycle than weekly.   57:33 - Wealth Spectrum, and showing me how depending on where you are on the path, you will have different steps to success to get to the next level.   Using my feelings to find the next best step (the next video, the next quote) that really moved me.   1:00:03 - Sweet Medicine SunDance Path A Warrior’s Task - something you do not because it’s easy, but because you have realized that you want the benefit of doing that thing.   1:01:46 - Nneka loves the analogy of a map rather than a path.   1:04:07 - using the thing that you need to get you to the next step.   1:07:03 - Happy Face Stickering You are running on E… Listen, the car is going to stop! Whether or not you acknowledge that the gas tank is on E, the car is going to stop! So, you can acknowledge that the car is on E and get yourself to the nearest gas station… or you can drive around with a happy face sticker right over the gas gauge so that you don’t “know” it’s there.   1:10:20 - Learning about talking my way up the emotional scale via listening and reading others’ experiences in practicing the teachings.   1:12:21 - eating sugar analogy - “I think that happens when we are going for euphoric joy when we are in depression. We are not acknowledging where we are right now - across any dynamic.”   Next podcast, comfort zone, and breaking the “Getting out of your comfort zone” myth  

Useful for all types of relationships. We talk quite a lot about Polyamory and new relationship paradigms in this episode. -changing a relationship doesn't mean it has failed! -"The judging of something..." : - aren't something I have to do, but it's usually something I enjoy having done" -"powering up" our life! -"Sometimes the best way to understand what I'm feeling is to express it to someone" -the distinction between polyamory and "polyfuckery" -sexually monogamous while being in multiple poly relationships -poly lets us get more of what we want because we don't have to get it all from one person so "our tanks are more full more often". -Esther Perel saying eroticism requires keeping a piece of ourselves from our partner  

It’s about acroyoga and what acro teaches us about partnership, relationships, communication and the balance between the divine masculine and the divine feminine in each of us.

"This one is about a love letter I wrote to Charity. Shawn and I discuss the letter after and what our triad is like." - Radiant Rebecca

Rebecca and Shawn discuss negotiating for amazing (and hot) partnerships, and the keys to good negotiation were everyone wins.  

This one is Nate reading part of his love letter (the one he wrote in response to Rebecca’s love letter) and talking with Shawn about it. 

Charity and Shawn talk about the triad, how the shifting of Nate & Charity's relationship challenged and changed her and how she has dealt with the shifts.   

Rebecca’s solution to the Jigsaw Puzzle conundrum posed by Daniel Sloss’ show on Netflix, Jigsaw 18 min

Rebecca reads Fedora Guy Was Here… and Shawn talks to her about it 26 min

SHOWNOTES: Shawn Introducing Sherry 1:50 Sherry first mentions Quodoushka workshop  Quodoushka Workshop website: https://www.quodoushka.org/ 2:55 - mention Sacred sexuality and Intimate communication 3:17 Sherry starts telling her sexual self and her background and who she is as a woman in sex. Talks about being in the army as a feminine being. 4:38 - her deployment and how it sparked her to look at various religions 6:28 “I feel like in sex, I almost compete with my partner.” - through 6:56 7:47 - I’m signed up for a Quodoushka 2 in 3 weeks, so, this is an ongoing journey.” #BirdsAndTheBees #PornDoesn’tMakeGoodSexEducation 11:22, painful and awful periods around 2011 24:40, Rebecca tells the story about being on a cruise with a friend talking about sex and helping her see there was no shame in liking anal sex. 27:37, she’s having clitoral orgasms and hoping for vaginal 32:30 Blowjobs and blowjob tips 34:44 - the joyous fuel of my partner expressing pleasure 35:29 - me realizing that I was giving guys mixed signals in my sexual communication 36:12 - I think I have an issue with wanting to get into sex too quickly?? 37:00 - “My best overall strategy is to go really slow and tease the fuck out of both of us.” 50:27 - “Shawn, how long is too long to give a girl an orgasm?” “There is definitely no time limit. We could go all day. As long as she’s enjoying it, I’m ready to go.” 51:44 - “so there’s a lot of people that need to hear that. Thank you so much for coming on.” 52:29 - on of my favorite blowjob tips, the double-handed twist, described. Use it wisely.     Photo by Pete Johnson

3-month Check-in for the triad  (To hear the episodes with the Triad that precede this one, here are the links, in order) #1 - Rebecca's Love Letter http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/the-first-love-letter #2 - Nate's Love Letter http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/nates-love-letter #3 - Charity's Perspective - Lean Into the Skid http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/lean-into-the-skid  

Shawn, Karen and Rebecca talk about Karen's sex life, her Monogamish lifestyle and the power of authenticity for great sex.   SHOWNOTES at 6:59, Shawn references the episodes we did on the Triad.  (To hear the episodes with the Triad that precede this one, here are the links, in order) #1 - Rebecca's Love Letter http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/the-first-love-letter #2 - Nate's Love Letter http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/nates-love-letter #3 - Charity's Perspective - Lean Into the Skid http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/lean-into-the-skid   18:40 - “Did you just SHOULD on yourself?” Be careful about being “Knee Deep in Should” Byron Katie reference at 17:30. The Work https://thework.com/ 23:12 - Link to the Blowjob tips and sex tips episode, mentioned by Karen at 23:12ish http://pleasurecentralpodcast.com/sex-talk-and-blowjob-tips