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The Academic Non-Monogamous podcast, reading the texts that have shaped our community and culture. BOOKS!

In Season one, Sebastian and Claire are closely reading The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton [3rd edition] chapter by chapter, discussing the ideas in an unabridged way, adding extra info where needed, and suggesting extra readings.

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In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Sydney Rae Chin, survivor and non-monogamous sexual healing coach, to discuss Part Three of the book which goes over ways to survive polyamorous break-ups.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Sydney as sexy soup dumplings on Instagram and TikTok. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Laura Boyle, author of Ready for Polyamory, to discuss Part One of the book which goes over the 7 most common causes of break-ups.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Laura Boyle on Instagram and TikTok @readyforpolyamory. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
In chapter 18, Dossie and Janet are talking about a stereotypical if problematic entry point to non-monogamy. A person in a dyad (couple) has got involved with an outside lover, and this is the impetus for discussions about opening up your partnership to accommodate. Although neither of our hosts have come to polyamory this way, Claire and Sebastian take us through the quintessential moments of anger, discussion, guilt, and risk-taking that you might be experiencing as you begin to open up.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Serial monogamy is introduced in ‘Ep 4 - Slut Styles’ Guilt is explored in ep 239 of Multiamory Pod Information on Franklin Veaux can be found in this medium article, Anger as a helpful emotion - there is a great article to get your starter, and of course the noted ep 205 of Multiamory Pod For couples opening up for the first time, Claire begs you not to ask your new unicorn/third all your questions. Here are some polyam-friendly therapists/professionals for you to pay and use: The Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory, The Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP), The Open List, The Polyamory Loving More Member Professionals List, The “Meet our Experts” section of The Affirmative Couch. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
This exercise is called ‘8 steps to win-win conflict resolution’ and is found in Chapter 17 of the Ethical Slut (3rd edition). For the full chapter, please see the full episode: Making Agreements (Ep17) and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to agree solutions for an issue in any relationship, and requires uninterrupted time with your partner(s) as well as a whiteboard or piece of paper.  This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
17 - Making Agreements

17 - Making Agreements

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Claire and Sebastain, 2 polyamorous people, are talking about making agreements. After fangirling over a great definition of consent - ‘the active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned’- Claire and Sebastain talk about the power of making explicit our agreements. Avoiding legalistic hair splitting, moral condemnation, manipulation, and loophole-finding and figure out how to start making the agreements you need to open up your relationship. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Social Contact Theory is well introduced in Ethics in Law Enforcement by Steve McCartney and Rick Parent  The difference between agreements and rules by poly coach. Kitchen Table Polyamory is defined in Jess Mahler’s 2016 article. One Penis Policy is described here as a version of Polygyny  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
Minisode: Feelings Dyad

Minisode: Feelings Dyad

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This exercise is called ‘Feelings Dyad’ and is found in Chapter 16 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Embracing Conflict (ep 16) and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to share your feelings in a safe and open way and requires about 30-45 minutes of uninterrupted time with a partner. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
16 - Embracing Conflict

16 - Embracing Conflict

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Claire and Sebastian are talking about conflict in intimate relationships. We have probably learnt that conflict is bad, and we don't usually spend a lot of time thinking about how we behave in and after conflicts. Dossie and Janet contend that conflict is actually a good thing, giving us opportunities to learn more about each other and ourselves. If you are polyamorous/non-monogamous there are going to be more times for conflict to crop up because more people are involved, and will have less practice and support for resolving them. In this episode, we talk about about how to act better in a fight or disagreement. What is the difference between venting and constructive disagreement? How do you avoid triggering each other? What are some quick communication tool to upgrade your conflict communication inc a time out, i-messages and journaling? Check out our minisode for this chapter's homework here! You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show notes: Multiamory offer a wonderful crash course in ep 151, here, and also cover toxic habits in relationships in ep 223, here. Brene Brown Netflix Special: The Call to Courage The Intimate Enemy: How to Fight Fair in Love and Marriage, by George Robert Bach, Peter Wyden  Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life  by Marshall B. Rosenberg Use You're Words by Dr Stephanie K Webb See Ep 8: Abundance here --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
Minisode: Treasures

Minisode: Treasures

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This exercise is called ‘Treasures’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you and your partner(s) to remember the good stuff. You will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
This exercise is called ’15 ways to be kind to yourself’and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you, the reader, to identify easy ways that you can self-sooth. You will need a pen and some index cards to get involved! This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
Minisode: Reassurance

Minisode: Reassurance

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This exercise is called ‘Reassurance’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed for you, the reader, to consider how you would like your partner(s) to take care of you when times are hard. For this exercise you will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
This exercise is called ‘How do you experience jealousy?’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This is an exercise designed to facilitate introspection about some very difficult thoughts. You will need a pen and some paper to follow along. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages, who you can find on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou.  Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth.  Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
As Part Three kicks off,  Claire and Sebastian talk through Chapter 15 and it's all about the green-eyed monster: what is jealousy? why is it scary? should we avoid it or learn how to work with it? This episode is packed full of excellent resources on how to speak about jealousy, how to self-sooth when you are experiencing it, and how to exercise sharing jealousy safely. Claire also rants about the way jealousy is depicted in mono-culture, and Sebastian talks us through the 'relationship escalator'.  Don't forget to check for homework exercises in mini-sodes! 15.1, 15.2, 15.3, 15.4 You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Check out Probably Poly live show on Jealousy here Check out Multiamory podcast, ep 217 on the Science of Jealousy here and ep 110 on Deconstructing Jealousy here Some other good resources are given on the Affirmative Couch blog post here --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
14 - Childrearing

14 - Childrearing

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In Chapter 14, Childrearing, Claire and Sebastian cover media representation of multi-parent households, how to talk to your kids about sex and non-monogamy, and how to navigate entering and exiting family structures as a solo-poly. But there is an elephant in the room but not in the book - culture. Claire talks about childrearing in polyamorous units across Eastern Africa and Sebastian explains how culture influences sex ed. To finish up this chapter, and Part Two of The Ethical Slut, we talk about Wonderwomen and the polycule that birthed her.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Music is provided by @mintgreenmusic. Show Notes:  A brief history of television and diverse family portrayal can be found here. The articles Sebastian mentioned discussing whether raising children in polyamorous households is beneficial can be found: in this article in Psychology Today, this Vice article, and this Reddit thread. There are many other articles and editorials out there.  The articles Claire speaks about on multi-parent households in Eastern Africa can be found here and here. The a specific discussion based on studies in Tanzania can be found here, and the rebuttal can be found here. Children’s books that are referenced here are: ‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ by J Sanders and These are My Eyes, This is My Nose, This is My Vulva, These are My Toes by Lexx Brown James Check out Sex Positive Families on Instagram for sex positive resources, booklists, podcasts and blogs. Healthline offers a platform for queer sex-ed, available here. An interesting article on the ways your family can protect multi-parent living a rights-based way is found on LGBT Bar here. Other podcast episodes to check out: The Multiamory podcast, episode 171, is available here, on raising children featuring E Sheff. The KNP podcast, episode 4, is available here, on Prof Marston and Wonderwomen. For more on the Dominance Submission model of behavior pioneered by Marston please see the history of DiSC. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
13 - Keeping Sex Safe

13 - Keeping Sex Safe

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Let's talk about sex. Chapter 13 is brought to you from bed, as Claire and Sebastian discuss how to keep your sex life safe. From barriers to family planning to drugs and alcohol we explore safety from all sides. No matter your relationships, or the type of intimacy you are engaging in it is essential that you be informed before making decisions. In this episode we provide many resources to learn about safer sex practices as well as information on STIs, testing and family planning. Sebastian also provides a history of condoms and contraception - did you know turtle shell was once used to make condoms? and crocodile dung was used as birth control in ancient Egypt? *Disclaimer - We are not sexual health experts or health care providers. If you have any questions or concerns about your specific health needs please consult a professional.* You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Show notes: The difference between safe and safer sex is explained here. myONE condoms are made to measure condoms, available for order here. Discussion within the communities – including couple privilege which is not discussed here– is covered in this XCBDSM article here. A fun up-to-date infographic on the differences between PrEP and PEP can be found here. A locator for a US provider can be found here. Testing windows can be found here, courtesy of the fantastic STI Project. The STI Project is a wonderful online community fighting stigma surrounding STI’s in USA. We strongly encourage checking them out - https://thestiproject.com/. The CDC recommendations mentioned can be found here. www.myhometests.com offers CAP and CLIA accredited lab testing processing for home testing kits with results available on any device, in the USA. Go to a Planned Parenthood for more information on anything you have heard today. Types of birth control can be found here and these are free available on the NHS in the UK.  Information on the copper IUD can be found here. TIME did a wonderful article on the male birth control pill, found here. This amazing movement about abortion deserves a shout out, see Shout Your Abortion. Ella Now is a great provider which offers no-cost overnight delivery of the morning after pill (called ella but referred to in this podcast as Plan B) to mainland USA. In addition, if you live in one of the following states, your local pharmacist can give you a prescription for ella: Alaska, California, Hawaii, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Mexico, Vermont, Washington. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
Can we buy you a drink? Claire and Sebastian talk about flirting and cruising in Chapter 12 and what those really mean. Is it possible to flirt without any other motive? And how do gender and identity impact our approaches to flirting and approaching others? Claire adds that online dating has drastically changed how people interact. Sebastian emphasizes the fun of flirting purely for the sake of it, and we dive deeper into moving from flirting to cruising and how to approach that in an honest and open way.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages, and on Pateron: Patreon.com/polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: We talk more expansively about different relationship types and norms based on identity and sexuality in Episode 3 - Slut Styles. For a longer discussion on when and/or how  to come out you can listen to Probably Poly Episode 23. To get a greater insight on how neurodivergence can impact dating we recommend Probably Poly Episode 36. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
11 - The Unethical Slut

11 - The Unethical Slut

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Claire and Sebastian talk about how NOT to do polyamory. The ethics of multi-partner living are discussed through examples of poor behavior outlined in Chapter 11 of the Ethical Slut. Claire and Sebastian both have new examples to add to the mix - begging the questions, is polyamory different in the modern internet driven world of dating? Slut-shaming, ghosting and unicorn hunting are all under attack. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. ___ Show notes For some articles on non-ethical unicorn hunting see this article in The Stranger, and this article in Medium.  For those interested in how to approach unicorn-hunting ethically please see this live show by Multiamory.  The CDC offers guidance on the legality of knowingly infecting others, see links here and here.  Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast can be found here  Catfishing has been explored in this article.  An overview of passive-aggressive use of social media – including breadcrumbing -  can be found on Elite Daily (here)  The Church of All worlds hold the original essay on their site here as well as information on the Green Egg Magazine  Vice profiled Oberon Zell-Ravenheart here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
10 - Boundaries

10 - Boundaries

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As we dive into the murky waters of Chapter 10, Boundaries, Claire and Sebastian find themselves disappointed. A clear understanding of boundaries is fundamental to your health, happiness and your polyamory, and a hot topic in the community. So listen as our hosts attempt to paint a clear picture of what the authors are trying to say.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. _______ Show notes We strongly encourage you to listen to episode 178 of the Multiamory podcast, found here, in which they cover the basics of boundaries. Also see the short video by Relationship Anarchy here, on the difference between rules and boundaries.  Whilst we speak quickly on BDSM, it is important to note that the word 'boundary' and 'limit' have a specific meaning within kink scene play and negotiation and we do not cover this here. For more on this we suggest Perverted Podcast, found here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
9 - Slut Skills

9 - Slut Skills

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In Episode 9, Slut Skills, we look at Hardy and Dossie’s suggested tools for successful relationships. Claire uncovers the philosophical assumptions implied in this chapter, and we suggest some additions to our metaphorical toolbelt – saying sorry, defining words, forgiveness of others, assuming the best. Finishing up, Sebastian sets us all some affirmation-themed homework, and we talk about shame and curiosity. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. -- Show Notes Communication as a skill can be developed in many ways. An introduction to active listening and conscious talking is given here. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (1992) by Gary Chapman is available on Amazon here.  Zarnitsyn, A. (2015). The Cognitive Value of Fiction in Thought Experiments in Personal Identity. The Journal of Aesthetic Education, 49(2), 62-81. is available here.  Abuse is serious, real and there is support available. For an introduction to gaslighting please see this article by the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are affected by these, or fear someone you know is affected, please contact RAINN in the USA, and the National Domestic Violence Hotline in the UK.  For those interested in the theories of causation and emotions, we invite you to read the introduction to theories of emotions available here.  For an introduction into the role of shame in society, we invite you to read Nir, Bina (2018). The individual and society: the social role of shame in the Journal of Philosophical Criticism 1 (2):36-70. Available here.  Coria-Avila, Genaro A et al. “The role of orgasm in the development and shaping of partner preferences.” Socioaffective neuroscience & psychology vol. 6 is available here.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
8 - Abundance

8 - Abundance

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Claire and Sebastian dive into Part Two of the Ethical Slut, and in Chapter 8 we tackle Abundance. There is more than you need! Unpacking the imagined fear of starvation, we find that sex, love, friendship and support are probably never going run out if we all just chill a little bit. When talking about finite resources such as time, money, space and stuff, we offer some helpful anecdotes about how to navigate and overcome those limitations. And what about sex? The biological limitations of our bodies require us to rework our definition of sex and intimacy. We finish up with our snapshot of the Oneida Community - an original hub of abundant love, support and nurturing.  Show notes The quote from Lynne Twist is taken from her book – The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life, which is reviewed on goodreads.com here. Recommended reading for attachment theory: Understanding Attachment and Attachment Disorders: Theory, Evidence and Practice in Child and Adolescent Mental Health (by Vivien Prior and Danya Glaser, 2006) on Amazon here. NRE is explained wonderfully in the Probably Poly Podcast episode 29.  Tips for safely sharing sex toys can be found here, courtesy of Refinery29.com On the folly of orgasm-centred loving, check out Humans In Love Podcast, episode 3. A beginning to understanding sex after PTSD check out Wear Your Voice. You can check out Oneida House here. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
Claire and Sebastian connect long distance to discuss the many different ways we relate to one another.  From monkish celibacy to orgies to multiple life partners, there are so many way to practice intentional relationships it's almost overwhelming. But Claire and Sebastian still find something missing and talk about political anarchy, metamours and the relationship escalator. This episode was our first recorded long-distance with Claire in Cambridge, UK and Sebastian still stateside.  Show Notes: The relationship between Kiney’s infamous ‘X’ category to modern day asexuality is explore by Justin J. Lehmiller (2017) by the The Psychology of Human Sexuality. John Wiley & Sons. Asexual flag as per the Asexual Visibility and Education Network found here. Also see the Trevor Project here. We will not give airtime to discussing this particular sub-section of celibate persons given the recent terror attacks on women. We recommend episode 120 of the podcast Reply All, which cover the history of the ‘InvCEL’ or ‘InCEL’ community. Relationship Anarchy was introduced by Andie Nordgren as a political manifesto. See here. It was also used in 2010 Open Con and in 2013 by Dr Meg-John Barker in her lecture ‘Rewriting the Rules: Non/monogamies’. Solo-poly is outlined well in an article by Polyamory Today on Medium, written by Shannon Ashley and available here. Poly Wanna Podcast discuss the Relationship Escalator in episode 14. For more on the difference between Prescriptive and Descriptive Hierarchy see this fun post by Chelsey Dagger on Polyfor.us Metamour is introduced by Polyamory School on Medium and can be found here. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support
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