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Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but you might be curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.
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Lamees and Nick are a monogamous couple who previously tried non-monogamy and decided it wasn't right for them. Today, they discuss their journey and introduce their "relationship fortification" framework for having honest conversations about relationships.Visit the relationship fortification website here:https://www.relationshipfortification.com/Follow relationship fortification on Instagram herehttps://www.instagram.com/relationshipfortification/Get my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
Today, I’m sitting down with my dear friends Luna and Leo for what might be the longest and most insightful conversation I’ve ever recorded.Luna shares her journey of leaving a toxic non-monogamous relationship and finding something healthier and more fulfilling with Leo. We dive into their personal triggers, how their past experiences shaped them, and the self-awareness they’ve gained through opening up. Plus, we talk about the baby steps they’re taking to build a relationship that honors both freedom and emotional security.Book a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokFacebookTwitterYouTube
Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing together to settling into a mono-poly dynamic.Listen to Ellie's podcast 'Kink with Alex + EllieSubstack:https://talkingkinkpodcast.comSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6tg4geRbYCJWl2SmwweVodApple:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-kink-with-alex-ellie/id1727462400To My Stag, My Hubby full audio:https://soundgasm.net/u/ParcaeNona/To-my-Stag-my-HubbyBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokFacebookTwitterYouTube
In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection.Resources mentioned in this episode:Ep.2 Finding the Type of Relationship That Works for YouEp.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & SethBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community here. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokFacebookTwitterYouTubeVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com
1Chamberlin and Michael struggled a lot in their relationship, having periods of opening and closing, cheating and hurting each other and ultimately breaking up. About a month after they broke up, Chamberlin found out that she was pregnant. And for reasons we discuss in the podcast, this pregnancy completely shifted their relationship, for the best. Today we also talk about Michael’s process getting comfortable with having threesomes with other men. So if you are in a heterosexual partnership where you might want to bring a second man in, you might find some useful insights in here.Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
Today I chat with metamours JD and Lorena, as well as their common partner Aviva (a metamour is a partner’s partner.) Even though Aviva and Lorena were dating first, JD has become Aviva’s nesting partner. And today we chat about how even though that transition was a little difficult, Lorena was also very happy for Aviva and JD, someone she knew and really liked. I was left feeling warm from this conversation as I could really tell there is so much love and respect between the three of them. I hope that regardless of whether you are close with your metamours or not you can take them as an inspiration in your journey.Resources discussed in this episode:Follow Aviva on Instagram at avivalavivCheck out her website avivalaviv.comBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space. Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey.Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest personFind the right time to talkCheck with your partner before making plans with other peopleFeeling guilt at first is normalDon’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partnerDetermine how much you want to share with your partnerMeeting your partner’s partners (metamours) helps with jealousy Jealousy and insecurities are likely to decrease with timeYou can’t control your feelings for other peopleInfatuation and New Relationship Energy can be fleetingBe careful where you invest your energyNon-sexual intimacy can be powerful Resources discussed in this episode:Fer & Seth’s episode Jessica’ Esfandiary's episodePolysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyRachel Krantz episodeDr.Zhana's episodeMariah & Fer's episode Tory and Jackson's Monocurious episodeFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitterVisit our website polycurious.comBook a free exploratory coaching session with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comGet $10 off STD Check here
Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can do if you have a sexual desire or preference your partner doesn’t like.Resources discussed in the episode:Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn ElliottUntamed - Glennon DoyleDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and LeadPussy: A Reclamation - Regena ThomashuerDr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex CoachBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos.Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from feeling jealousy to getting turned on when seeing Jeremy having sex with other women.Resources discussed in the episode:Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott Untamed - Glennon DoyleDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and LeadPussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side of herself she doesn’t always express with her partner. Resources discussed in the episode:The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures (book)Relationship Style QuizListen to Open LateSpotify: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious PodcastApple Podcast: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious PodcastConnect with Open Late on InstagramBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community.Follow Space Invader Social Club on InstagramBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process. Follow Space Invader Social Club on InstagramGet tickets to their event Purple Haze on 420 Follow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitterVisit our website polycurious.comBook a free exploratory coaching session with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comGet $10 off STD Check here
Today I chat with Philip, the host of the podcast Dear Poly where I was a guest last year. We go deep into Philip’s coming out story and how he had to break so much stigma in his religious community to be his true self. If you have ever had a hard time letting go of shame, as a queer person, non-monogamous person or simply someone with a high sex drive, I think you will resonate with this episode.Dear Poly websiteFollow Dear Poly on InstagramListen to Fer's episode on Dear Poly on Spotify or Apple PodcastsBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men’s intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year.Today we talk about how they healed their sexual trauma, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about using porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and reveals what he did to get to a comfortable place with his sexuality. Having casual sex with other women and opening up their relationship was actually an important part of this process. Connect to Sacred Ships through their websiteFollow Sacred Ships on InstagramListen to Fer's episode on the Sacred Ships Podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Resources mentioned in the episode:Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (book)The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know (book)Follow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitterVisit our website polycurious.comBook a free exploratory coaching session with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comGet $10 off STD Check here
In the first episode of our third season Mariah and I spoke to Taylor and Alan, who identify as solo poly and nonhierarchical. Both of them started their non-monogamous journey in high school and have since been immersed in the poly and sex-positive community. Today we talk about their experiences of seeing each other fall in love with other people and experiencing jealousy. They also share how polyamory has enriched their lives, allowing them to explore and learn from other people while maintaining their independence. You can follow Taylor on IG @velvetsuccubus You can follow Hacienda on IG @haciendacommunity Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In this episode, I chat with Marcela, also known as thehypnoqueen. Marcela tells us about her shared sexual and romantic experiences with her former partner Brad, including forming a beautiful triad with another woman. Marcela also tells us how Brad and she decided to separate after over 4 years of being together and how they are approaching this new phase of their relationship.Follow Marcela on Instagram @thehypnoqueenBook: Close Your Eyes, Get Free: Use Self-Hypnosis to Reduce Stress, Quit Bad Habits, and Achieve Greater Relaxation and FocusBook a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram,) an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide. In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and to leave his corporate job to start Awake and Sexy. We talk about Neo-tantra, MDMA therapy, and briefly touch on Internal Family Systems. Valentin also gives us great advice on how to communicate desires. Lastly, we discuss ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ dynamics.Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitterConnect with Valentin:Awake and Sexy Instagramawakeandsexy.comBook: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems ModelSex with Emily Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to PlayBook: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Carol and David have been in a polyamorous relationship for about eight years. In this conversation, we chat about their boundaries evolving from a three page document to simply having to check in with one another. They share some of the difficulties that they experienced as they navigated having more than one serious romantic partner. We talk about an accidental breach of trust and about how that experience taught them to communicate better.Book a free exploratory coaching session with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin my Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousVisit our website polycurious.comOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comFollow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitter
In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring.We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often times partners are not even aware that they are being abusive. We get into the topics of jealousy, swingers, and submissive dominant dynamics. Lastly, Rachel tells us why she chooses to still be non-monogamous after what she went through. Resources discussed:Rachel's Book: Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy - Love In Abundance by Kathy LabriolaMultiamory PodcastThe Network La Red Follow Polycurious on:InstagramTik TokFacebookYouTubeTwitterVisit our website polycurious.comBook a free exploratory coaching session with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minOur email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.comGet $10 off STD Check here
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