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Author: Colleen O'Grady LPC, LMFT, author, speaker & C-Suite Radio

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Colleen O'Grady, MA. is a speaker, trainer and author of the award-winning and best-selling book Dial Down the Drama: Reduce Conflict and Reconnect with Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Colleen shares her wisdom from twenty-five years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist which translates into over 50,000 hours of working with parents and teens. Colleen, known as the parent-teen relationship expert helps you raise the bar of what's possible for the teenage years. Colleen not only knows this professionally she has been a mom in the trenches with her own teenage daughter. You really can improve your relationship with your teen and dial up the joy, peace, and delight at home and work. Every episode is geared to uplift you, give you practical parenting tips that you can apply right away and keep you current on the latest in teen research and trends.

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One of the biggest challenges your teen will face when they enter college is self-management. Managing what they eat, managing alcohol , managing stress, managing sleep , managing relationships, exercise and their time. Self- management is everything for the college student without it they don't have their health and they definitely won't make the grade.  Jill and Dave Henry met coaching high school sports in Los Angeles and have been working with teens for nearly fifteen years. With every graduating class, they’ve fielded their student-athletes’ concerns about the transition to college. Determined to help, the Henrys decided to leverage their combined professional skills in research, study design, data analysis, and storytelling (Jill is a veteran statistics teacher, Dave is a Peabody-award winning TV and film editor) to create a fun yet informative resource with the goal of preparing all students to enjoy college without sacrificing their health. Their just released book The Greatest College Health Guide You Never Knew You Needed---How to Manage Food, Booze, Stress, Sex, Sleep, and Exercise on Campus was published in June 2021. This interview is filled with great research, interesting stories, and practical information including how to get your teen to read this book. You can contact Jill and Dave at greatestcollegehealthguide.com Follow them on instagram @greatestcollegehealthguide Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Should you trust your teen? Has your teen ever said to you, Why don’t you trust me? I’ve seen so many moms come into my practice reeling from that question. Why would moms be so bothered by that question? It can make us feel like we are doing something wrong, like we are supposed to love our kids, believe in them, and trust them. When you teen asks you why don’t you trust me we need to see the question in context. We need to rewind the video a bit. I am guessing that question is being thrown at you because you set a limit or you said no to things like... You cant have screens in your room after your bedtime. You cant go over to Ryans house when his parents aren't there.  So often when your teen asks you Why don’t you trust me? what they are really asking is Why wont you let me do what I want?  We are going to explore the concept of trust in this podcast. It's more complicated than you think Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever picked your teen up after school and said, "How's your day?" and they tell you. "fine." Then when you ask him another questions they tell you, "I don’t want to talk about it." I already know the answer to that question. Of course this has happened to you. Our teens are guarded like castles ,surrounded with a moat of crocodiles and sharks. And you do your best to get them to lower the drawbridge, but  it seems whatever you do they just retreat deeper and deeper into their castle. How do you get your teen to open up and talk to you? In this episode we explore how this impacts you when your teen shuts you out. We also explore why your teen won't talk to you, and finally what moms can do to get their teen to talk. The good news is that there are things you can do to help your teen open up to you.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I want to show you the power of acceptance and how that is different than resignation. When you hear, "You just need to accept . . .", it can feel like resignation, like you are giving up and you're losing the battle with your teen.. Actually the definition of resignation is the acceptance of something undesirable but inevitable. I'm not talking about resignation. I'm talking about accepting your teen. If you want to influence your teen and change negative behavior you need to accept your teen first. I know this can feel counterintuitive to moms. But acceptance is vital for your teens well being and mental health. Acceptance lays the foundation for a secure attachment between you and your teen. Acceptance is needed for lasting and positive change. When your teen feels accepted by you, not only will this improve your relationship, but they will be more open to you and your guidance. Because when your teen feels valued and that you care for them no matter what, they will see you as someone who is worth listening to and following. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You are going to love this conversation. "I believe that parenthood is like a bungee jump. It’s scary and fun, it makes you fly and often lets you down. This book isn’t so much a parenting guide as an exploration of the complex emotional journey of being a parent, reminding us of the courage and energy it requires as well as acknowledging that no parent is perfect and at the end of the day, this relationship is about connection." Einat Nathan Einat Nathan is a parenting expert, public speaker, and bestselling author of My Everything (Haimsheli in Hebrew) in Israel. She holds a B.A. in law from Tel Aviv University, and is certified by the Adler Institute and the Ministry of Education for Parental Instruction and Group Instruction. Einat has been featured on TV, radio, podcasts, and in countless print outlets, and her second book (Mishelanu) about teenagers is due out in Israel this coming spring. Einat lives in Tel Aviv with her husband Yuval, and her five children Eyal, Yoav, Lihi, Rona, and Shira.  Now translated into English, MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise (on sale 04/06/21; Hachette Go, Hardcover; $28; ISBN: 9780306924040) provides a fresh, more millennial, relationship-based approach to parenting strategy. MY EVERYTHING is a rare mix of professional advice and intimate personal exposure that explores how to understand that your children are doing what they are doing in order to grow and develop, and how to release your expectations from them for the sake of their liberty to be who they are. Check out MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise at https://amzn.to/3tSZGF9 Follow Einat on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/einatnathan/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Every parent wants to keep their teen safe online. But we can fall into the trap of spending most of our time fighting over screen time while spending minimal time on educating our teens and raising their awareness of the dangers online. We need to intentionally  focus on having informative conversations with our teens. Every time your child logs onto social media they are at risk from a number of social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, depression and suicide, hate speech, sexting, and human trafficking, to name just a few. And many children are averaging over 5 hours a day on social media! To address these issues I have invited Marc Berkman and Ed Peisner to be our guests for this show,.  Marc Berkman serves as the CEO of the Organization for Social Media Safety, a national consumer protection organization that protects against all social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, hate speech, and human trafficking. Under his leadership, the Organization for Social Media Safety has taught social media safety skills to thousands of students, parents, and educators across the country; passed into law essential social media safety legislation like Jordan's Law, the nation's first law to deter social media-motivated violence; and helped develop software and apps to protect against social media-related dangers. Previously, Marc served for over a decade as a senior advisor to members of Congress and the California State Assembly. During his time as a legislative aide, he developed and helped pass numerous legislative initiatives to protect vulnerable children and families.  Marc received his JD from Columbia Law School and his BA from UC Berkeley. He lives with his wife and two children in Los Angeles, CA.  After a long career in business, Ed Peisner founded the Organization for Social Media Safety in 2017 after his teenage son Jordan was viciously assaulted in West Hills, CA. The attack was filmed and uploaded to social media by an associate of the attacker. Jordan was left with serious and life-long injuries from the assault. Ed decided to dedicate himself to the goal of ensuring that no other family had to endure such a terrible ordeal. Ed now proudly travels the country teaching students, parents, and educators essential social media safety skills.  To find out more about the Buckling the Social Media Seatbelt Course or to contact Mark or Ed go to ofsms.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As you know we have a lot of stressed out teens. Because of stress our teens are having tension headaches. And though stress doesn’t cause migraines; it can trigger one. Today I have invited a special guest Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD. This was a really informative interview for me. Here are some things that I didn’t know:  Over 10% of our teens are suffering from migraines. The symptoms in teens are different from how they appear in adults. Migraines often first appear during puberty. If migraines are treated early on you can avoid chronic migraines in your adulthood. Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD, is the founder and the president of the Synergy Integrative Headache Center in Chicago, Illinois. Dr. Alexander Feoktistov is board-certified in Headache Medicine by the United Council of Neurological Subspecialties and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Pain Medicine. He is also board-certified in Internal Medicine by the American Board of Internal Medicine. Dr. Alex is received a PhD degree in the field of neurology at the Moscow Medical Academy, completed a fellowship in Pain Management at the Cleveland Clinic, and is currently serving as the President of the American Interventional Headache Society. In this episode we discuss: what is the difference between tension headaches and migraines in teens. Can stress cause migraines? What are some common symptoms of migraines in teens – and does it differ from migraine symptoms for adults? What are the different migraine types? In teens, should parents keep an eye out for behavior changes that might indicate a migraine? Why would drug treatments not be a first line approach for teen migraine? What are the benefits of using a holistic approach to migraine treatment? What are some school-friendly options that teens have for controlling and treating migraines? How can parents help support their teen with migraine both at home and school? Why is it important to get diagnosis and start treatment early for migraine? You can contact Dr. Alex through his website www.synergyheadache.com or by calling 773 948-7557. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If you are stressed out because your teen doesn't know what they want to be when they grow up. You are not the only one. Moms spend a great deal of time thinking/worrying about their teens future and so are teens. What are their interests, skills, and passions? What should they major in? What career are they going to pursue? Teens are under more pressure than ever before to know their life plan when they have had limited life experience. This pressure isn’t helpful. Today we are going to talk about how to help your teens turn this pressuring into exploring. I have invited Tamara s Raymond as a guest today.Tamara is a certified leadership coach and career strategist dedicated to helping professionals reach their maximum potential; and young people get on the right career path so they can make a difference. Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career is Tamara’s first book. It is available as a paperback, e-book and audiobook. For more information about Tamara and her other projects, including her coaching services, visit www.imcleaders.com Tamara believes that adolescence and young adulthood are the best time to explore, experience, and eliminate possible career paths. Careering will help you do all three–and get your teen on the path that is right for them! Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamarasraymond/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In a culture of perfectionism and pressure we need ways to release the stress. I can think of no better way than healthy humor. There is so much fodder for humor while parenting teens and living in these middle years. Today's episode is on the lighter and even fun side. Our guest today helps us take ourselves and our situations lightly. In this episode I interview Kristen van Ogtrop. Kristin is the author of Just Let Me Lie Down: Necessary Terms for the Half-Insane Working Mom. The former longtime editor-in-chief of Real Simple and “The Amateur” columnist for Time, she is a literary agent at InkWell Management. Her writing has appeared in countless publications, and the New York Times bestselling collection, The Bitch in the House. She is a wife and mother of three, but sometimes loves her dogs more than anybody else. Kristin just released her new book, Did I Say That Out Loud? Midlife Indignities and How to Survive Them. Kristin is a very gifted writer who pays attention to the absurdities we endure and names them. She does address some of the challenges of those middle years but in a way that is so real, poignant, optimistic, and hilarious all at the same time. There were many times that I literally laughed out loud while reading her book especially reading her chapter, "When Things Fall Apart." I think it's such a gift when someone can help you laugh at yourself and not take your life, your parenting and your future so seriously and revaluate whats the point of it all. Check out her new book: https://amzn.to/3mpmJp9 Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kvanogtrop/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Jessica Lahey. Her latest book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, published by Harper Collins will be released April 6th, 2021 every where books are sold. Jessica writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and the New York Times. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Lahey is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. In this episode we dive into The Addiction Inoculation. This is a well written book with engaging stories and loaded with useful information. We explore questions like... How has the pandemic affected drug and alcohol use by teens? What does alcohol and drugs do to the teen brain? Does vaping impact the young persons brain? Is there a correlation between sleep and substance abuse? What risk factors make it more likely that a teen will abuse alcohol or drugs? How to talk to your kids about substance abuse? Also, we discuss refusal skills and exit strategies and how we can empower our teens to resist peer pressure. And we talk about how to tip the scales of addiction and what are the protective factors that outweigh risk. Check out her book or contact her at https://www.jessicalahey.com/ Follow on instagram https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#108 I Need My Space

#108 I Need My Space

2021-03-2925:47

In this episode we are going to talk about space and why we all need it: you, your teen, and your partner. We'll also talk about how to use space well and finally six ways moms can reclaim their space. I think out of your whole family moms have the hardest time getting space and we probably need it the most so we have to be strategic to make sure we get it. Everyone in your family needs space, its not a nice to have; it is a core need of every human being. For a family to be healthy you need space and connection. Learning how to negotiate your space while in relationship is mandatory for having a healthy family. 2020 was definitely a hard year to get space. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Dr. Kenneth Bock the author of "Brain Inflamed: Uncovering the Hidden Causes of Anxiety, Depression and Other Mood Disorders in Adolescents and Teens." This book is literally fresh off the press. Over the past decade the number of 12 to 17 years olds suffering from mental health disorders has more than doubled. Which leaves all of us asking what is causing this epidemic. And I know many of you listening have teens who struggle with anxiety, depression,ADHD, and other mood disorders. Dr Kenneth Boch shares a revolutionary new view of adolescent and teen mental health –which I think will be encouraging and helpful to those listening. Kenneth A. Bock, M.D. is a board-certified physician who received his MD degree with Honor from the University of Rochester School of Medicine in 1979. An internationally recognized pioneer of integrative medicine, he is the best-selling author of Healing the New Childhood Epidemics, The Road to Immunity, Natural Relief for Your Child’s Asthma, and The Germ Survival Guide. He has also contributed to numerous professional publications and is an in-demand national and international speaker. Over the course of his thirty-five-year career, he has become known for his unique ability to identify and untangle the most complex, multisystem, multi-symptom medical cases. His world-renowned private practice, Bock Integrative Medicine, is located in the beautiful Hudson Valley, in Red Hook, New York. Contact him through kenneth@braininflamed.com or go onto braininflamed.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we are going to talk about where to see and discover signs of growth in ourselves and in our teens. Recognizing signs of growth is so important to a moms well being. Signs of growth motivate us to get back in the parenting game because it reinforces that what we do matters. But signs of growth are rarely like blockbuster movies, they are not flashy. It's easy to miss them especially when it comes to our teens. Unfortunately one little negative word from our teen can set off a five alarm fire inside of us and blind us from seeing that there are still little buds of growth in our teens. This year especially we need to look for little signs of growth or signs of life. A year of quarantine has made our world look barren and bleak and that takes a toll on our souls it takes a toll on our vibrancy and our energy. I talk to moms all over and what I know is that moms are drained and exhausted . Your mothering resources are depleted. You may find that you get frustrated easier, you have less tolerance for things, people get on your nerves, especially your kids or your partner. Many of you will have some time off during spring break or around Easter. As we enter spring let nature remind you that there is hope and that change and growth are happening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I interview Michelle Icard about her new book, "Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen: The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School."  Michelle draws from her decades of experience working with families to focus not only on those big, thorny topics—like friendship, sexuality, impulsivity, and technology—but on conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. She outlines her family-tested formula for best approaching these essential conversations, the BRIEF Model (Begin peacefully, Relate to your child, Interview to collect information, Echo what you're hearing, and give Feedback) and helps parents overcome some of the most common hurdles when talking to tweens Michelle Icard is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People. Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than 20 camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina. Check out her new book: https://amzn.to/3rqxTeP Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleicard/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Between ages 8 and 14 girls confidence levels drop by 30%. Half of teen girls feel the pressure to be perfect. Girls are 22% less likely than boys to describe themselves as confident. Nearly 8 in 10 girls want to feel more confident in themselves. Katty Kay and Claire Shipman are on a mission to change this. Each of them have incredible experiences as journalists and both are mothers of fifteen-year-old daughters. They wrote New York Times Bestseller, "The Confidence Code for Girls" in 2018. Recently they have launched, "Living the Confidence Code," the book includes real, authentic and inspiring stories of thirty girls around the world between the ages of 8-14. I was so touched by these girls courage to face obstacles, failure, and take the risk needed to gain confidence. This book is upbeat and restores your hope in the world. This is such a delightful conversation with Katty and Claire who were very open about their relationships with their daughters. We talk about what moms can do to foster confidence in our daughters. The good news it's not about being perfect. Katty Kay is the anchor of BBC World News America, based in Washington, D.C. She is also a frequent contributor to Meet the Press and Morning Joe. In addition to her work on women’s issues, Kay has covered the Clinton administration sex scandal; four presidential elections; and the wars in Kosovo, Afghanistan, and Iraq. She was at the Pentagon just 20 minutes after a hijacked plane flew into the building on 9/11—one of her most vivid journalistic memories is of interviewing soldiers still visibly shaking from the attack. Katty grew up all over the Middle East, where her father was posted as a British diplomat. She studied modern languages at Oxford and is a fluent French and Italian speaker with some “rusty Japanese.” Kay juggles her journalism with raising four children with her husband, a consultant. Claire Shipman is a journalist, author, and public speaker. Before turning to writing, Claire spent almost three decades as an award-winning television journalist. For the last 14 years Claire was a regular contributor to Good Morning America and other national broadcasts for ABC News. Before that she served as White House correspondent for NBC News where she regularly reported on presidential policy and politics for NBC Nightly News and TODAY. Prior to that, she worked for CNN for a decade, covering the White House, and also posted in Moscow for 5 years, covering the fall of the Soviet Union. Claire’s reporting from Moscow helped CNN earn a National Headliners Award, and a coveted Peabody award. She received a DuPont Award and an Emmy Award for coverage of the 1989 Tiananmen Square student uprising, and a DuPont Award for CNN’s coverage of the 1995 Oklahoma City bombing. She graduated from Columbia College and later earned a Master’s degree from the School of International Affairs there. She’s now a member of Columbia’s Board of Trustees. She lives in Washington, DC with her family. Check out their new book: Living the Confidence Code: Real Girls, Real Stories, Real Confidence https://amzn.to/3uzF86d Follow them on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/confidencecodegirls/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we are going to talk about all things control. I think there can be a lot of confusion for parents around control. You hear phrases like keep your teens under control because you don’t want them to be out of control and then you hear don’t be too controlling or  over controlling, or you need to exercise self control And then you have parental controls for everything social media. So I think it's easy to get confused about where you should stand on the whole control issue. In this episode we explore healthy control or monitoring vs being over controlling. We will look at the 4 traps over controlling moms fall into. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Parenting is hard. So what do we do with that reality? I’m definitely not going to give you 5 tips to easy parenting. It's going to be hard. So what do we do with that emotionally? It's easy to get angry about it, or bitter or resentful. It's easy to want to numb on great wines and Netflix. It's easy to fantasize about escaping the hard and going to a remote tropical island. It’s easy to get discouraged and frustrated. It's easy to feel trapped and cornered, and swim in the waters of, "it's just not fair." And maybe some of you are thinking I pour out my heart and soul to my teen and what do I get…disrespect.   . What's in it for me? That’s actually a good question. What if there is something in this for you Is there anything positive or beneficial that can come out of all this?. Can these hard things shape our character and make us a better human? Can these things cause us to grow spiritually and emotionally?  Yes! No one likes going through hard times, but if you knew that this was making you a better person with a whole new skill set, well, it makes it a lot more tolerable. I hope this episode encourages you. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it's not a train. Good things can come out of the hard. You are not being taken out; you are getting stronger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Do you have a hard time saying no to your teen? Do you have a hard time saying yes to your teen? You may say no frequently because you are scared of letting your teen have more independence and freedom? You may yes frequently because you are scared of your teen's reaction. What you want to shoot for is saying yes and saying no from a clear place instead of scared place.. Today we are going to talk about why it's hard to say no to your teen and what you can do about it. We will explore the top 7 reasons why it's hard for mom's to say no and five things you can do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is the 100th episode of Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens Podcast. Woo Hoo. This is because of all you amazing listeners. Does your teen feel accepted by you? Why is this important? A big part of your parenting job is to tell your teen what is unacceptable. Setting boundaries and consequences for unacceptable, unhealthy, risky or dangerous behaviors is the hard work of parenting and is desperately needed. Your teens behavior can be unacceptable, but who they are and their true essence should always be acceptable. In this episode we talk about what it means to accept your teen and for them to feel your acceptance. And how this builds a secure attachment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
After observing moms and teens for decades, I see predictable traps moms of juniors and seniors fall into . These traps dial up the drama, leave your relationship strained and you drained. This podcast will help you avoid these common pitfalls so you wont miss these precious years with your teen before they go off to college. With a little information, awareness and strategy you can avoid the traps and experience everything you hope for before your teen leaves home. This is a hard season. Legally your eighteen year old may be an adult but they are far from it with their undeveloped prefrontal cortex. You are well aware of their emotional immaturity. Your knee deep in the college application process and your teen doesn’t seem to be taking everything as serious as you. All of this stresses you out. You could relax if you saw your teen was being responsible but you don’t. You feel the pressure to get them ready before they leave home. You want to see them being mature and responsible. But you don’t see evidence of that. I have heard this statement from parents for decades. How can my teen be ready for college if they cant even... manage their money clean their room work on their college applications get up on time do their chores. And when you see this irresponsibility it can throw you into a panic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Holli Aspland

The "dinging" in the background from incoming notifications is very distracting and quite inappropriate while discussing balance on social media. I enjoy these podcasts but this was very annoying

Feb 11th
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Sara Currier

Having 2 sons and looking to find solutions for parenting boys, I sought out podcasts for teens! I was very disengaged & off put listening to this & hearing you say, "for your daughters"! I assumed the info in your podcast was regarding teens, not just teen daughters! Are you saying this info applies only to girls?

Jun 18th
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