Why does connection and communication break down in long-term relationships, even when love is still there? In this episode of Practicing Love, Shana James and Hannah Chapman explore the hidden dynamics that cause couples to talk past each other, shut down, or feel chronically misunderstood. Drawing from vulnerable relationship experiences and decades of coaching, this conversation illuminates how defensive communication forms, what matters more than "being right," and how to rebuild connection over time. You'll learn: Why long-term couples often repeat the same painful communication cycles The difference between defensive communication and open, connected dialogue How curiosity and nervous-system safety change dynamics What it really takes to rebuild emotional intimacy and trust How partners feel seen, heard, and met again Whether you're feeling disconnected, stuck in recurring arguments, or longing for deeper closeness, this episode offers practical insight and hope for creating a relationship where communication becomes a source of connection, not conflict. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: JYEBEACXSYUOYD5E
Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen Aslatei, CEO of Three Day Rule, about how AI is reshaping modern matchmaking and how AI makes it easier for people to date and find real, emotionally available love. They explore dating burnout, why the apps are failing people, the power of intentional dating, and how AI can even support deeper human connection. A must-listen for those who want to stop unconsciously swiping and start consciously dating and creating meaningful relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: IHVPCN3F5C1BO2Q0
Passion doesn't fade because "that's just what happens." Passion fades because couples are missing a few essential skills. When you learn them, you can create spark and reignite it in long term relationships. In today's video, I break down some deeper reasons passion fades in long-term relationships and marriages, based on 20 years as a dating and relationship coach and the teachings from my book Honest Sex.
How do you have a relationship that feels peaceful and loving, rather than feeling like a rollercoaster? In all phases, from dating to long term relationships, this is something clients tell me they want most. Therapist and author Jessica Baum joins me to explore why safety is essential for real love, and what the foundations of a healthy relationship are. We dive deep into attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and the biology of trust, exploring how early attachment wounds shape your adult dynamics, and usually not for the better. You'll learn what healing requires, and how to create the secure, loving bond you've always longed for, but were never taught how. We talk about how to heal, and even bypass, the struggles most people face in love and relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: CNP489SMTIUXHOMC
We explore what happens when being "the one who saves" starts costing you connection with yourself and others. Brent Perkins joins me to unpack how overgiving and self-abandonment can masquerade as love, and what it really takes to move from trying to be the hero to letting yourself be human. You'll learn to give without depletion, create agreements instead of expectations, and practice the art of receiving love as fully as you give it. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: WGWRQANBJDWAVVM6
Trust can break in small ways, or shatter completely. Craig and Michelle Pera, founders of The Mindful Habit, join us to talk about how they help couples navigate trust challenges — from minor breaches to sex and porn addiction. Drawing on their professional experience, and own healing journey, they give you practical tools to rebuild trust, deepen connection, and restore intimacy in your relationship. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: ELRUV6G8JHUP8JAW
If you want to feel more loved and respected in your relationships, this episode is for you. Shana talks with Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce about how claiming your self-worth and setting healthy boundaries can transform your love life. The more you stand in your truth, protect your heart, and create deeper, more fulfilling connections Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: WGWRQANBJDWAVVM6
Most of us never got the "emotional potty training" we needed as kids. Instead, we learned to hide, suppress, or ignore our feelings, which often wreaks havoc in our adult love lives. In this Practicing Love episode, I talk with therapist Rachel Kaplan, author of Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go, about why learning to feel our emotions is the missing key to deeper intimacy, resilience, healing, and keeping a relationship alive. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: X6DOTPWFPO5ZGZDX
If you think shared values are the key to making a relationship last, think again. Shana James talks with Nick Brancato, author of Prioritize Us: Unlock Lasting Love with One Simple, Proven Test, about why relationships fall apart despite shared values. We discuss the real keys to lasting love and intimacy. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: 3XO0LDATK42BXEXU
If you've ever found yourself replaying childhood wounds in your romantic relationships, this episode explores how parent-child dynamics often show up in love. And how you can break the cycle and create a relationship rooted in wholeness, sovereignty, and joy. We look at the path from codependency to conscious connection — and what it takes to truly heal the mother and father wounds. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: JYEBEACXSYUOYD5E
The relational patterns you learn in childhood shape your romantic relationships, often without you knowing it. In this episode, we dive deep into how early experiences influence adult love — and what it takes to unlearn those patterns to build real, lasting connection. Host Shana James and executive coach Jake Fishbein explore emotional resilience, trust, and the courage to embrace vulnerability in love. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: FTDWN40V3UIZ5PJL
A big reason many relationships fall apart is because most couples don't make clear, conscious agreements. In this episode, I talk with Krista and Will VanderVeer (hosts of The Art of We podcast) about how relationship agreements can profoundly deepen intimacy, support emotional repair, and help couples navigate the ups and downs of love with more grace and clarity. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: HDF76SDCD7O26RO5
We talk about the moments when anger builds within us, moments when a partner pulls away in anger, the downward spiral that can ensue, and how to find your way back to connection — even in the heat of the moment! Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: IHVPCN3F5C1BO2Q0
How do you stay in love when you disagree? In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable — but where do you draw the line? Can you love someone whose beliefs or values differ from your own? In this deep conversation, Sean Harvey (author of Warrior Compassion) and I explore how to stay connected even across painful divides. We talk about meeting the unmet needs beneath defensiveness, bridging polarization with radical compassion, and healing the divide — in love, in politics, and within ourselves. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: ELRUV6G8JHUP8JAW
Perimenopause isn't just challenging for women — it impacts relationships and intimacy in powerful ways. In this vulnerable and eye-opening episode, men's mentor Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz shares how he navigates fear, emotional triggers, and trauma to create deeper connection, intimacy, and love. We explore men's emotional growth, midlife relationships, and how to stay connected through hormonal changes. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!
What do you do when you've lost yourself (or parts of yourself) in love? In this heartfelt conversation Megan Walrod, author of It's Always Been Me, explores how to reclaim your voice, stop giving away your power, and stay true to yourself in your relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: WGWRQANBJDWAVVM6
On this episode of Practicing Love, we talk about spiritual intelligence, which can make relationships stronger — and hotter. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: CNP489SMTIUXHOMC
Dr. Elliot Justin, a pioneer in men's sexual health, has developed innovative wearable technology to improve erectile function, sexual fitness, and intimacy. Having tracked over 70,000 erections, he's transforming how sexual health supports lasting pleasure and deeper connection as we age. Whether you're a man experiencing fading erections or a partner seeking greater sexual satisfaction and closeness, this episode is for you. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: X6DOTPWFPO5ZGZDX
What does it really take to satisfy a woman these days? In this conversation with Dr. Alanna Kaivalya, we explore the emotional, spiritual, and relational keys to true feminine fulfillment — and how both women and men can create more satisfying, connected love. Listen to this one if you're looking for more depth, and a partnership that actually works in today's world! Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: OHMHFXBSHHFV307Z
True Freedom is what allows us to have real love and supportive, healthy relationships. But freedom can be confusing when it's seen as an external rather than an internal quest. Today's guest talks about the surprising connection between freedom and commitment, and how you can be free in romantic relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble License code: JYEBEACXSYUOYD5E