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Are you constantly surrounded by people on dates, engagements, or weddings? If so, it’s only natural for you to want what they have. You may put yourself in uncomfortable situations by going on dates or might even try to convince yourself that you are actually in love. But are you really? Here are a few signs you're NOT actually in love. What is the difference between love and lust? Find out here:    • 6 Differences Between Love vs Lust   Writer: Ananya Sawarkar Script Editor: Denise Ding Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Korin (new animator) (@moony.whalee) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References Ni’Kesia Pannell (May 23, 2018). 5 signs you’re not actually in love — even if you think you are. Retrieved March 02, 2022 from; https://www.insider.com/signs-youre-n... Kelli Ann. 10 Signs You’re Not Actually In Love With Your Partner. Retrieved March 02, 2022 from; https://www.bolde.com/10-signs-not-lo...

Are you manipulative? Today we’re going to talk specifically about manipulation. Manipulate is defined as “control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously”. Whenever we label someone as “manipulative”, nowadays it has a negative connotation to it, but are you a bad person if you are manipulative? Let’s find out with a story! Get comfy! Side note: This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs. It’s more to create a healthy discussion and bring awareness to certain topics. Parts of our video are also based on personal opinion, so please don’t take it too seriously! We also made a video on the signs you're unintentionally manipulative without even realizing it:    • 6 Signs You're Manipulative Without R...   Writer: Brie Cerniglia Script Editor: Vanessa Tao Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Aury YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong Disclaimer: This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs. It’s more to create a healthy discussion and bring awareness to certain topics. References: Merriam-Webster. (n.d.). Manipulate. In Merriam-Webster.com dictionary. Retrieved from www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/manipulate Merriam-Webster. (n.d.). Scrupulous. In Merriam-Webster.com dictionary. Retrieved from www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/scrupulous van Dijk, T. A. (2006). Discourse and manipulation. Discourse & Society, 17(3), 359–383. doi.org/10.1177/0957926506060250

Is your crush hiding their feelings for you? How do you know if someone is denying their feelings for you? Well, you are in luck because in today’s video, we will be discussing a few common signs that someone’s denying their feelings for you. Reminder: Please keep in mind that while someone may be denying their feelings for you, if the situation becomes manipulative or toxic, it is important to set boundaries and keep yourself away from them. Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice, but for general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. Does someone like you but is afraid of rejection? Here are a few signs:    • 6 Signs Someone Likes You But Is Afra...   Writer: Ananya Sawarkar Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Mikee (new animator) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Is there someone who you think has a crush on you? Do you think you’ve misread the signs? They may have been sending you signals all this time, but you just haven’t noticed what they’re doing. So to help you become more aware of the signs, here are a few common phrases someone would say if they’re into you. Need more dating advice? Head over to this video to find out if your crush is truly into you:    • Is Your Crush Into You?   Writer: Isadora Ho Script Editor: Vanessa Tao Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: ChiquitaFoncy YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References "Flirting". Psychology Today, 2022, www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting. DiGiulio, Sarah. "Not All Compliments Land The Same. Here’S How To Get Better Giving Them.". NBC News, 2019, www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-how-get-better-ncna1062546. Fellizar, Kristine. "How To Let Someone Know You’Re Interested Without Being Too Obvious". Bustle, 2018, www.bustle.com/p/how-to-let-someone-know-youre-interested-without-being-too-obvious-9347078. Gaudette, Emily. "How To Let Your Crush Know You Have Feelings". Mindbodygreen, 2020, www.mindbodygreen.com/0-15237/how-to-let-your-crush-know-you-have-feelings.html. Howard, Christine. "Laughter, Then Love: Study Explores Why Humor Is Important In Romantic Attraction". The University Of Kansas, 2015, news.ku.edu/2015/08/27/first-comes-laughter-then-love-study-finds-out-why-humor-important-romantic-attraction. Joel Wade, T. et al. "Women’S Direct Opening Lines Are Perceived As Most Effective". Personality And Individual Differences, vol 47, no. 2, 2009, pp. 145-149. Elsevier BV, doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2009.02.016. Accessed 7 Jan 2022. Lewandowski Jr., Gary. "This Is The Best Way To Flirt If You Want To Score A Date". The Washington Post, 2014, www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/10/30/this-is-the-best-way-to-flirt-if-you-want-to-score-a-date/. Schafer, Jack. "He/She Likes Me; He/She Likes Me Not". Psychology Today, 2020, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/let-their-words-do-the-talking/202005/heshe-likes-me-heshe-likes-me-not.

Wonder if someone is secretly attracted to you? Some people may find it hard to communicate their feelings for somebody, often, this may go unsaid. However, behavior and actions can speak louder than words. This video will help you learn more. DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes only and not to suggest that everyone who exhibits these signs means that they are definitely attracted to you. There may be other signs that are unique and distinctive to each person which may indicate their attraction to you. Furthermore, not all these signs will indicate a romantic attraction so it is important to be on the same page as the other person. Still not convinced they like you? Watch our video on the signs someone likes you even if you don't think so:    • 6 Signs a Person Likes You Even If Yo...   Writer: Jade Hamilton Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Mithrilda Animator: Tris Canimo YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

“Am I likeable?” Regardless of the hype around being a lone wolf – truth be told, being likeable is a natural concern, rooted in human nature for survival. Sure, we don’t need it to survive being eaten by wild animals anymore – instead, it’s necessary for survival in the modern jungle, where professional connections and romantic prospects are at stake. Wondering where on the survivability scale you sit? Let’s take a look at some likeable personality characteristics so you can figure that out. Wonder how you can be more likeable? We also made a video on the habits that make you more likeable:    • 7 Habits That Makes You More Likeable   Writer: Syazwana Amirah Script Editor: Denise Ding Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Manu (new animator) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong REFERENCES Niemiec, R. M., and McGrath, R. E. (2019). The power of character strengths: Appreciate and ignite your positive personality. Cincinnati, OH: VIA Institute on Character. Winch, G. (2015, March 18). The 7 habits of truly genuine people | Psychology Today. Psychology Today. Retrieved December 23, 2021, from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201503/the-7-habits-truly-genuine-people

Do you believe in love at first sight? Or maybe you even experienced it with someone? Attraction is not enough for a meaningful relationship. A deeper connection between two people is required for a couple to survive its ups and downs – a connection we call compatibility. It means to share values, beliefs, interests and lifestyle. It means being able to negotiate, set boundaries, solve problems and respect each other. Understanding the difference between the two can get confusing sometimes, but when you know what to look for, you can see if it’s just chemistry, and not compatibility. DISCLAIMER: This is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you can relate to any of these signs, please know this feedback is not meant to discredit anyone. It is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. We also made a video on the differences between love and lust:    • 6 Differences Between Love vs Lust   Writer: Stela Kosic Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: art1st1cly YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Barnes, S. (2017, October 7). 7 signs you’re not actually compatible with the person you have amazing chemistry with. HelloGiggles. www.hellogiggles.com/love-sex/dating/7-signs-youre-not-actually-compatible-person-amazing-chemistry/ Mandriota, M. (2021, February 16). What the Differences Between Chemistry and Compatibility Can Mean for Relationships. Well+Good. www.wellandgood.com/chemistry-or-compatibility/ Manson, M. (2021, September 15). Compatibility and Chemistry in Relationships. Mark Manson. www.markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry Robinson-Kiss, S. (2021, November 13). Why Chemistry Gets Mistaken for Compatibility. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/they-re-not-coming/202111/why-chemistry-gets-mistaken-compatibility

Have you ever met someone who could fake their intelligence to fool everyone? They dazzle others with big words and lofty ideas, convincing everyone of their vast brainpower, but eventually, it all turns out to be a ruse, leaving you none the wiser. They’re called pseudo intellectuals, where “pseudo” means “false” and “intellectual” means “an intelligent person.” How can we spot pseudointellectuals before we get sucked into their false persona? If you’re interested in more about intelligence, check out five genuine signs of intelligence no one can fake! DISCALIMER: This list is based on personal experience and is not meant to be a professional diagnosis. If you recognize these traits in yourself, please do not take this as a personal attack. Writer: Brian Cham Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Sam (new animator) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Are you struggling with low self esteem but don't know it? Seeing value and worth in yourself despite what others think and what you go through is important to your overall wellbeing. It can affect how you think, feel, and act towards yourself, and also impact how you let others treat you. While many may think that low self-esteem looks like someone who is sitting alone by themselves not wanting to do anything all the time, it can actually manifest in a number of different ways, some which may surprise you. We also made a video on the signs of low self esteem:    • 8 Signs of Low Self Esteem   Writer: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Avneet Kaur YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References "Self-Talk". Healthdirect.Gov.Au, 2019, www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-talk. "Self-Esteem And Mental Health". Healthdirect.Gov.Au, 2021, www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-esteem. Barutçu Yıldırım, Funda, and Ayhan Demir. "Self-Handicapping Among University Students: The Role Of Procrastination, Test Anxiety, Self-Esteem, And Self-Compassion". Psychological Reports, vol 123, no. 3, 2019, pp. 825-843. SAGE Publications, doi.org/10.1177/0033294118825099. Cherry, Kendra. "How To Stop Being A People-Pleaser". Verywell Mind, 2021, www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412. Ferdian Farhan, Febi. "The Relationship Between Self-Efficacy, Self-Control And Self-Esteem To Students Academic Procrastination". SSRN Electronic Journal, 2020. Elsevier BV, doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3644522. Gilbertson, Tina. "Signs Of Low Self-Esteem, Part III: Disinterest In Health And Passivity - Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog". Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog, 2010, www.goodtherapy.org/blog/low-self-esteem-therapy/. Hajloo, Nader. “Relationships between self-efficacy, self-esteem and procrastination in undergraduate psychology students.” Iranian journal of psychiatry and behavioral sciences vol. 8,3 (2014): 42-9. Kille, David R. et al. "Who Can't Take A Compliment? The Role Of Construal Level And Self-Esteem In Accepting Positive Feedback From Close Others". Journal Of Experimental Social Psychology, vol 68, 2017, pp. 40-49. Elsevier BV, doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2016.05.003. Accessed 3 Jan 2022. Muoio, Deb. "Dangerous Dualities: Perfectionism And Low Self-Esteem". Blog.Archprofile.Com, 2015, blog.archprofile.com/archinsights/perfectionism-and-low-self-esteem. Rufus, S. "11 Disguises Of Low Self-Esteem". Psychology Today, 2021, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stuck/202107/11-disguises-low-self-esteem?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost. Woolfe, Sam. "How Social Isolation Can Fuel Low Self-Esteem | Healthyplace". Healthyplace.Com, 2019, www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2019/8/how-social-isolation-can-fuel-low-self-esteem.

Is your relationship healthy? It’s no secret that maintaining a healthy relationship is challenging. It takes effort and time. To help you with that, here are a few unspoken rules that can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship. Disclaimer: Videos are not to be substituted for professional help or advice. If you can't relate to any of these signs, please know this feedback is not meant to discredit anyone. It is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. Need more relationship advice? We also made a video on the difference between healthy and unhealthy love:    • 6 Differences Between Healthy and Unh...   Writer: Sara Del Villar Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Naphia YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Leaf, C. (2022). 3 Notes on Relationships. Instagram. Retrieved from hwww.instagram.com/p/CZcR53iuvs8/ Life ‘N’ Lesson. (2018, May 2). 10 unspoken relationship rules every couples must follow. Life ‘N’ Lesson. Retrieved from lifenlesson.com/unspoken-relationship-rules/ LOVEPANKY Staff. (2022, March 7). 19 signs of a taker in a relationship: Are you a taker or a giver? LovePanky. Retrieved from hwww.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/signs-of-a-taker-in-a-relationship Marano, H. E. (2014). The new rules of relationships. Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nation-wimps/201407/the-new-rules-relationships Marano, H. E. (2014). The new rules of relationships. Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nation-wimps/201407/the-new-rules-relationships Pace, R. (2020, October 20). 22 relationship rules for a happy union. Marriage Advice – Expert Marriage Tips & Advice. Retrieved www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/rules-for-a-healthy-relationship/

According to a survey from the Be Real Campaign, about 1 in 3 young people report that they are highly concerned about their body image. At a young age, many of us internalize beauty standards from society. These standards can often contribute to having a negative body image, and are made even more prominent by our age of social media. Here are a few signs you struggle with body image. We also made a video on body dysmorphia and body dysmorphic disorder:    • Body dysmorphic disorder.. What is it?   Disclaimer: The information in this video is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All content in this video is for general information purposes only, and does not replace a consultation with a doctor or health professional. Script Writer: Max Feng Script Editor: Brie Cerniglia Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Chantal Van Rensburg YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Clemmensen, T. (2015, March 13). Shape Checking and Body Image. Eating Disorder Hope. www.eatingdisorderhope.com/information/body-image/shape-checking-and-body-image Fardouly, J., Vartanian, L. Appearance comparisons and body image in women's everyday lives. J Eat Disord 3, O20 (2015). doi.org/10.1186/2050-2974-3-S1-O20 Klinger, D. (2010, August 2). How Body Shame Can Affect Clothing Choices. GoodTherapy. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-body-shame-can-affect-clothing-choices Understanding Body Image Struggles. (n.d.). The Jed Foundation. jedfoundation.org/resource/understanding-body-image-struggles/ Wade, T. D., & Tiggemann, M. (2013). The role of perfectionism in body dissatisfaction. Journal of eating disorders, 1, 2. doi.org/10.1186/2050-2974-1-2 www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/articles/body-image-report-executive-summary

Trauma can affect anyone at any point in life, including you. Not only difficult experiences during early childhood, but also events later in life can trigger significant trauma in individuals. The American Psychology Association defines trauma as any experience that results in significant fear, helplessness, confusion, or other disruptive feelings. These feelings are so intense that they can have a long-lasting negative effect on a person’s mental health and attitude. Here are a few experiences that can generate trauma. Want to learn more about trauma? Check out our video on the signs of unhealed trauma:    • 7 Signs You’re Not Broken, It’s Your ...   Script Writer: Sara Del Villar Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera Animator: Lesly Drue YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong REFERENCES Chamberlain, E. (2020, June 15). 14 signs of trauma you may not recognize. Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/eye-the-unseen/202006/14-signs-trauma-you-may-not-recognize Lahousen, T., Unterrainer, H. F., & Kapfhammer, H. P. (2019). Psychobiology of Attachment and Trauma-Some General Remarks From a Clinical Perspective. Frontiers in psychiatry, 10, 914. www.doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00914 Peterson, S. (2021, March 1). Traumatic grief. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/trauma-types/traumatic-grief Phillips, L. (2021, May 4). Untangling trauma and grief after loss. Counseling Today. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.ct.counseling.org/2021/05/untangling-trauma-and-grief-after-loss/ Polanco-Roman, L., Danies, A., & Anglin, D. M. (2016). Racial discrimination as race-based trauma, coping strategies, and dissociative symptoms among emerging adults. Psychological trauma : theory, research, practice and policy, 8(5), 609–617. www.doi.org/10.1037/tra0000125 Roberts, N. F. (2020, October 7). 5 ways trauma and poverty affect childhood development. Forbes. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.forbes.com/sites/nicolefisher/2020/10/07/5-ways-trauma-and-poverty-affect-childhood-development/?sh=7ea2d9e86cb3 The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (2021). Understanding the impact of trauma and urban poverty on … The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. Retrieved April 28, 2022, from www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/resource-guide/understanding_impact_trauma_urban_poverty_family_systems.pdf

Do you feel guilty when you are upset for no reason? Like many others, you may think that you’re just ‘being ungrateful’ or that it’s wrong to feel sad, angry, or anxious when there’s no apparent reason for you to feel this way. But what if there’s more to it than that? What if you’re not actually ungrateful, but depressed? How do you tell the difference? Writer: Chloe Avenasa Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Fluffy Starlaxy   / fluffystarlaxy_   YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: American Psychological Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – 5th Edition. APA Publishing. World Health Organization (2020). Fact Sheet on Depression. Retrieved 11 March 2021 from https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sh... Anxiety and Depression Association of America (2017). Understanding Anxiety and Depression. Retrieved 11 March 2021 from https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiet... National Alliance Against Mental Illness (2018). Mental Health by The Numbers. Retrieved from https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Menta... Zhang, H., Watson-Singleton, N. N., Pollard, S. E., Pittman, D. M., Lamis, D. A., Fischer, N. L., … & Kaslow, N. J. (2019). Self-criticism and depressive symptoms: Mediating role of self-compassion. OMEGA-Journal of Death and Dying, 80(2), 202-223.

Have your parents ever told you that you shouldn’t do something, not because it’s actually bad, but because it doesn’t make them look good? Many of the habits that you were made to think are ‘bad’ can actually be good for you for a number of reasons. So here are a few habits. We also made another video on the "good" habits that are actually bad for you:    • 5 “Good” Habits That Are Actually Bad...   Writer: Xinyi Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Naphia YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References Bright Side. (2018). 8 Habits That Are Actually Good For You [Video]. Retrieved from    • 8 Habits That Are Actually Good For You   Hare, H. (2019). 25 ‘Bad’ Habits That Are Actually Good for You. Retrieved 2 February 2021, from https://www.theactivetimes.com/health... Moss, G. (2015). 8 Bad Habits That Are Actually Good For You. Retrieved 2 February 2021, from https://www.bustle.com/articles/76000...

Have you been feeling irritable lately? Maybe you are even holding back your tears or have had to run to the bathroom to cry. It’s okay. Most of us have experienced bad days. We hope this video makes you feel better, even if it's just a little :) If you're lost and alone, check out this video too:    • Watch This When You Feel Lost and Alone   Writer: Sara Del Villar Script Editor: Caitlin McColl Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Grace Cárdenas Cano YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong reference: Powell, S. (2021, October 20). Reminders for tough days. Instagram @curly_therapist from www.instagram.com/p/CVQgmsGLsbC/. Seetubtim, M. (2019, April 18). 10 things to remember when going through tough times. Medium from medium.com/@brandmentalist/10-things-to-remember-when-going-through-tough-times-4833eb8c0cb9. Tartakovsky, M. (2016, May 17). Therapists spill: 14 ways to get through tough times. Psych Central from psychcentral.com/lib/therapists-spill-14-ways-to-get-through-tough-times#5. Warrell, M. (2021, June 17). 10 things to remember when going through tough times. Forbes from www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2020/05/22/ten-things-to-remember-when-going-through-tough-times/?sh=518252005315.