Pure Light

How do you define success? How does that impact how you feel about yourself?   Resources & References A blog post on this topic I published on my 34th birthday: The key to success   References: "Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own." —Michelle Obama "Success isn't about how your life looks to others. It's about how it feels to you. We realized that being successful isn't about being impressive, it's about being inspired." —Michelle Obama   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How do you make decisions? Do you only allow yourself to do things that you can rationalize? Do things other people say make you question yourself? How is that making you feel?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Are you distracting yourself from your inner knowing? A subtle form of trying to be normal The rules inside your head "I can't do that. That's crazy." Are you abandoning yourself?   References: Human Design Lookup Scene from 90 Day Fiancé   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.  

What kind of fear is in your life? How can you upgrade the quality of fear in your life?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: What is your relationship with life? Two kinds of hesitation Two kinds of uncertainty   The other 10 episodes with fear in the title: Fear of judgment The fear of missing out (aka fomo) 5 signs you're stalling out of fear 5 ways to deal with fear A simple practice to rise above fear What your fear of judgment is trying to tell you 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure What fear really is An antidote to fear The upside of fear   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How can you clear emotional clutter? How can you heal old wounds and mindfully process your emotions? Listen now or watch on YouTube.   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Are you hiding your emotions? An unexpected way we numb ourselves "I should feel..." Two types of emotional clutter   Links to GuruMeher: emotionalliberation.com GuruMeher on Instagram   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

What are the benefits of fear? How can you see fear in a positive light?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Inner resistance "This shouldn't be happening." Nervous energy What fear really is   References: "The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it." —Steven Pressfield   "Fear is excitement without breath." —Fritz Perls   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.  

How can you see beyond your fears?   Resources & References Episodes about worry: Worry The end of worry   Episodes about perspective & negative thinking: Judgment A re-frame on self-doubt & negative thoughts Negative thinking spirals   Episodes about failure: An alternate perspective on failure and rejection 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure The gifts of failure Are you setting yourself up for failure?   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

What is fear, really? Is it something that exists in reality? Or something that just exists in the mind?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Fear of judgment "But what will people think?" Worry How to get out of your head 5 signs you're stalling out of fear What happens vs. the meaning you give it   References: "All problems are illusions of the mind." —Eckhart Tolle   "My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened." —Michel de Montaigne   "I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." —Mark Twain   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you constantly trying to please others? What assumptions are driving that behaviour?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Fear of judgment "But what will people think?" The voice inside your head Judgment Autopilot & assumptions about yourself Thinking vs. feeling Where do emotions come from?   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.    

Are you confusing your thoughts and your feelings? What impact is that having on you?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: The voice inside your head How to get out of your head An unexpected way we numb ourselves The power of the present moment   Some breathing practices: How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Feeling triggered? Try this meditation A meditation for inner peace   References: "Only when I get out of my past and stay away from my future can I genuinely experience what's happening right here, right now." —Neale Donald Walsch   "Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you "should" feel. When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost." —Neale Donald Walsch   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.    

Do you think that emotions come from outside you or inside you? How does that impact how you feel?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Automatic patterns Inner resistance Emotional clutter The first step towards inner peace What happens vs. the meaning you give it   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

What can you do to feel happier? How can you increase your capacity for happiness and your emotional setpoint?   Resources & References Related episodes: Automatic patterns How to get out of your head The stories we tell ourselves (but not others) "I'll feel better when..."   Episodes on emotional clutter: Emotional clutter Two types of emotional clutter Healing individual & ancestral trauma with Demetria Jackson Inherited emotional clutter   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.    

Can you be as happy as you decide to be?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Why your old patterns keep coming up (and what to do about it) Self-image Are negative thoughts getting in your way?   References: "You can be happy or you can be unhappy. It's just according to the way you look at things." —Walt Disney   "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." —Abraham Lincoln   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you filtering what's happening based on your assumptions about the future?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: The voice inside your head Are you letting past ideas about yourself make your decisions for you? Are you responding or reacting?   References: "Every fragment of self-talk is a little story in the head that goes around, and then you look at reality through the lens of the little story." —Eckhart Tolle   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you responding to what's here and now? Or reacting based on pain from the past?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Emotional clutter Two types of emotional clutter Healing individual & ancestral trauma with Demetria Jackson Inherited emotional clutter Perspective & polarization   References: Premka: White Bird in a Golden Cage   "Anything can trigger it, particularly if it resonates with a pain pattern from your past. When it is ready to awaken from its dormant stage, even a thought or an innocent remark made by someone close to you can activate it." —Eckhart Tolle   Some breathing practices: How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Feeling triggered? Try this meditation A meditation for inner peace   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How does a deep divide get created within a group of people?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: What happens vs. the meaning you give it Judgment "I would never do that."   References: Premka: White Bird in a Golden Cage (the book)   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How do you inherit emotional clutter? Is it just from your family?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Emotional clutter Trying to fit in Two types of emotional clutter Healing individual & ancestral trauma with Demetria Jackson   References: Premka: White Bird in a Golden Cage From Maharaj to Mahan Tantric: The Construction of Yogi Bhajan's Kundalini Yoga White Tantric Yoga   Some Kundalini meditations: How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Feeling triggered? Try this meditation A meditation for inner peace   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How do you heal emotional wounds? How can you process individual and ancestral trauma so that you maintain your capacity for joy?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Emotional clutter The upside of jealousy "I should feel..." Two types of emotional clutter   Links to Demetria Jackson: Demetria Jackson Demetria on Instagram   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How do we accumulate emotional clutter? Where does it come from?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Inner resistance Emotional clutter The first step towards inner peace   References: Estonian Song Festival The Singing Revolution   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you allowing your feelings to be what they are? Or are you only allowing yourself to feel the ones you like?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Inner resistance Emotional clutter The first step towards inner peace An unexpected way we numb ourselves "I should feel..."   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you trying to shut it down? Or opening up?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Inner resistance Emotional clutter "This shouldn't be happening."   References: Fearless Mastery   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.