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Author: Dale and Heather Aceron

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A short, honest, funny and to the point podcast about marriage, family and relationships. Hosts Dale and Heather share what they've learned since saying "I Do" back in 1999 and hope you will join in on listening to the conversations.
66 Episodes
Knowing what we know now, and looking back at all these years, all the signs were on the wall.  We saw what was going on with her, had the "gut feelings", but didn't do anything about it.  We could have intervened earlier in her life but didn't. And we're devastated by it.In this episode, we chat more with Gabbie about some of the warning signs that we as parents ought to more pay attention to. These are some of the very things that led up to her eating disorder and mental health issues.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 
Just like Heather and I, every other parent wants nothing more than to enjoy a healthy and thriving family. From the beginning, their goal is to raise kids who are healthy, respectful, and most of all, loving. They want nothing more than to have a family who loves each other and supports each other throughout their entire lives, hoping to avoid any major issues or pitfalls throughout their lives.But what happens when everything seems fine on the surface, but under the covers, there's so much more that's happening that's gone undetected for weeks, months or even years?In this episode, we chat with a very special guest about their long battle with mental health disorders and how they decided to start their journey of healing.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 
After 21+ years of marriage and 25 years of parenting, we want to share a few tips and tricks that we've learned along the way in dealing with our kids during trying times. This can really help for parents with kids who struggle with ADHD.We talk about:Transitions and TimersNoticing the Good, and Positive ReinforcementSpreading the Attention aroundIgnoring the Whining and ComplainingFoundation: ConsistencyWe hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 
Are you walking on egg shells around your spouse? Are you scared to share your ideas or dreams with them?Are you tired of hearing NO every time you suggest even the smallest thing?You are married to a close minded thinker and it's damaging your marriage.BUT...there's good news. And in this episode, we talk about a few things you BOTH can do to acknowledge the issue in a safe way, and then work towards strengthening your marriage by hearing and saying YES more often.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show
Learning the difference between sympathy and empathy, and how to use them in your parenting.Words you can use when your child is having a hard time:"I see you are having a hard time""I hear you that you are sad.""I feel that you need a hug""What can I do  to help you?"We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show
MARRIAGE MONDAY EPISODE: "Where did our Friendship Go?"We started dating, got engaged, got married, had kids, started a family and then...we lost our friendship in the process. What gives?If you are feeling alone in your relationship with your spouse and wondering where things went wrong, consider the idea that you may have prioritized other things throughout the years and have now lost your friendship in the process.Consider this to be a time where you can both decide to start working on your friendship again by starting with a few ideas that we share in our latest conversation.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show
FAMILY FRIDAY EPISODEDo you dread the holidays? As in, Thanksgiving isn't until 5 more days and you are already sweating with stress and anxiety? Yeah, us too.Don't get us wrong, we love the holidays. The food, the fun and especially the family. But then there's also the family. Not that we don't enjoy being with our family, but sometimes it can get quite hairy scary! Especially if one, and in our case a few of our kids, struggle with ADHD and other mental disorders.This conversation is centered around some of our past experiences in dealing with the holidays prior to understanding the ramifications of these disorders, but then we also go into a few tips and tricks that we've learned along the way in hopes that someone else may benefit from our long journey.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Support the Show
MARRIAGE MONDAY EPISODE"I can't take this anymore?" Have you ever asked yourself that question? No? How about any of these questions?When will I decide that enough is enough?How much abuse can I really take?At what point will I call it quits?We've been there before. Right where you are. A time and place where you are questioning yourself, "what went wrong in my marriage?" We know the pain staking agony that you are feeling day in and day out. Where you just want it to end. All the lies, the deceit and the abuse. We have felt all of that. And it SUCKS! How would you like to know when it will end? We have a great conversation about a time in our marriage when it all fell apart and the end was near. Our hopes is that after listening to this episode, it will provide some clarity and hopefully some relief in your current situation.*Please be advised, the following episode contains strong language, which may be unsuitable for children.If you have any questions, please email us at or follow us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage.
(FF) Me and ADHD

(FF) Me and ADHD


NEW FAMILY FRIDAY EPISODE: Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder affecting both children and adults around the world.And with October being ADHD Awareness Month, we are going to be dedicating the next 5 Family Friday Editions focusing and bringing attention to ADHD with hopes that we can shed a bit of light onto the disorder with our journey with it, and in some ways, attempting to normalize it in order to help you not feel alone with your struggles as well.In this episode, Heather and I (Dale) had a good chat discussing how I have struggled with ADHD for most of my life, why I decided to finally get tested for it, and what has happened ever since.Have you struggled with ADHD? Or maybe you think you have it, but aren't really sure you do. This episode just may answers some questions you may have about it.We hope you find this episode helpful and that you tag and share it with 3 people who may benefit from it as well.
Notice the Good

Notice the Good


Notice the GoodLooking for a quick win in your marriage? When you notice the good in your marriage, you will not only see your relationship improve, but your spouse will develop into the person they were created to be.When you speak to their future person, and tap into their potential, you will very quick find that they will rise up to who you are calling them out to be. BUT, when you constantly cut their legs from under them and devalue them as a person, they will lower themselves and meet those expectations.Point them in the right direction and begin building a strong sense of worth for them.  Contact Us: Got Questions? Email us at
Coping with COVID

Coping with COVID


The pandemic is all around us. And it's affecting everyone in so many different ways. First there's the sickness itself, which has sadly lead to loss of life for many. There's the effects of school and job loss and it's security. And then there's one aspect that is not being talked about too much and it's how are people coping with all the loss that we are all experiencing.In this episode, Heather and I share some 'Real Talk' when it comes to our own struggles, and also offer some simple ways in which you and your spouse can step back and learn how to cope with it together.Got Questions? Email us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.comBook References:The Happiness of Pursuit by Chris GuillebeauUnfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life Gary John Bishop 
3 Ways to Survive Self Isolation with your SpouseIsn't this kinda crazy? How the entire world is having to witness, experience and live out this COVID-19 Pandemic together?People sick, others are dying, countries are in lock down and schools and workplaces are shut down. It's some difficult times we are living in, but there are ways in which we can do this successfully.Like many of you, I (Dale) am working from home as well. And if it wasn't for our time in the Philippines where we experienced similar living and working arrangements, we'd still be trying to figure this out.In this episode, we want to share with you 3 ways in which you and your spouse can survive self isolation, and do it successfully!
Love is not...Sacrificing.One foundation that is super important in a marriage is sacrifice. Love cannot thrive without a healthy level of sacrifice between both husband and wife. However, there are different types of sacrifice that you must be able to manage.Sacrificing your Time, Money, and Effort. When you give of your time, money and effort to your spouse, those fall in perfectly line with the 5 Love Languages. And that's important in any marriage. In fact, that's how you work on and get your relationship up to the next level. This is considered good sacrifice. Sacrificing Yourself. When you lose who you are for your spouse, that's considered a bad sacrifice. You, as an individual, have values, morals, other relationships, beliefs, likes, dislikes and so many other aspects that make up who you are. And as much as when two become one on your wedding day, you are still you and you should protect that.
Love is not...Control

Love is not...Control


Love is not...ControlBelieve it or not, no one likes to be controlled. Especially in a marriage relationship.Wrongly, there are times where we feel that in order to be loved more, we must control more, when in fact, it's the exact opposite.In this episode, we chat about how to spot the signs of control whether you are the one controlling your spouse, or, you are the one being controlled.
Love is not...Selfish

Love is not...Selfish


Love is not...SelfishDo you feel as though you keep giving into your marriage and there's nothing in return? Like you're being taken for granted?Or maybe it's is like a tug of war where you do something for yourself then your spouse has to do something for them self to make it equal? Like you buy a nice shirt so then your spouse goes out and gets her nails done? It's tiring living this way. So what do you do?Simple. A conversation. And here are some guidelines:bring up the conversation when things are good "Can we please chat about something?"don't accuse Avoid calling them namesuse "I" statements "I've been feeling unappreciated lately"
When the Tank is Empty

When the Tank is Empty


We don't fight. We used to, but we don't fight anymore. We figured that out in the beginning of our marriage and thank God we did early on.However, we certainly disagree, we argue and from time to time, we get out of sorts with each other. Most often, we catch it early, lay it on the table, have good discussion and continue on our merry way. Usually that's the case. But sometimes, it sneaks below our radar and wreaks havoc. And there's a typical cause to that.Checkpoint: How well are we filling each other's love tank? 
What Really is True Love?So you think you're in love. What does that really mean? Like really?Too often, couples associate love with how they feel. We, however, have a different view of love. And it has NOTHING to do with feelings. 
Hurt and Anger

Hurt and Anger


Heath of the Heart SeriesPart 2 - Hurt and AngerAnger is a symptom of hurt that lives deep inside of you. Without addressing your past hurts, you will continually hurt your spouse, even for the smallest of things. So how then do you overcome this destructive behavior?Follow the following Four Step Process1) Identify who you're angry with2) Determine what they owe you3) Cancel the debt by forgiving them4) Don't let anger build up again
HEALTH OF THE HEART SERIES - Part 1Maybe, just maybe, the reason you and your spouse feel disconnected is the amount of guilt and shame that's come in between you two. But what do you do to overcome the gap? 
We've been away for about 8 months without a single Podcast Episode and now we're back! But where the heck dd we go? This Episode is a summary of where we've been and what's next with the Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast.
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