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⭐ Theme 4 : Big Sister Advice ⭐ In this episode, Ebony and May dive into what it’s really like growing up as the eldest daughters in their families. From childhood memories to the pressures of being a role model, they unpack the best moments and realisations they found that come with the title of “eldest daughter.” Tune in as they share: - Thoughts on the idea that eldest daughters are seen as the “second mum” - The truth about Eldest Daughter Syndrome—expectations, independence, and pressure - How being the eldest daughter shapes relationships, friendships, travel, and adult life Whether you’re an older sibling yourself, curious about what it’s like to be us (jk), or just here for a fun listen, this episode is full of laughs, relatability, and cute stories Disclaimer: We both grew up in heteronormal family dynamics where traditional gender roles were more often than not assumed. We cannot speak for anything besides our experiences but we absolutely welcome stories from diverse family dynamics and interpretations of gender roles. 💬 If you enjoyed today’s convo, don’t forget to rate, share, and spread the word! 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @ruocake.pod Thanks for tuning in—and here’s to all the eldest daughters out there 💛 💗 . . . Resources Loop Earplugs: https://au.loopearplugs.com/

⭐ Theme: People & Places ⭐ In this solo episode, Ebony takes us inside her amazing journey of studying abroad in the UK. From exploring London and traveling across Europe to navigating the highs and lows of living away from home, she reflects on the experiences that shaped her and the lessons she’ll carry forever. Join Ebony as she shares: - What it’s really like to study abroad in the UK vs Australia - homesickness when living across the world - How saying “yes” opened the door to lifelong friendships and global connections - Her biggest takeaways: confidence, growth, and a whole new perspective on life - Practical tips for anyone considering studying abroad or moving overseas Whether you’re planning your own semester abroad, dreaming of international travel, or just curious about the realities of living overseas, this episode is packed with insights, honest reflections, and inspiration to take the leap. If you enjoyed the episode or learned something new, don’t forget to like, share, and spread the word! Thanks for listening! 💗 Follow us on Instagram:[@ruocake.pod (https://www.instagram.com/ruocake.pod)

⭐ Theme: People and Places ⭐ Ready for a fresh perspective on cultural differences? Join May as she shares genuine insights from her month living in the Philippines as an Australian. This episode goes beyond surface-level observations to explore the deeper cultural forces that shape how we live, eat, and connect. What you'll discover: • DRESS CODE – How culture, religion, and climate influence fashion choices in ways you might not expect • FOOD CULTURE – May's honest take on navigating Filipino cuisine as a dedicated veggie lover • COMMUTING MINDSET– Why transportation culture reveals so much about a society's values and psychology • ECONOMIC REALITIES – A thoughtful discussion on labor, economics, and what it means for everyday life • BODY ETHICS – Important conversations about cultural standards and perspectives on physical touch This isn't just another travel story – it's an honest exploration of what happens when two worlds collide, and what we can learn from those differences 💬 If you enjoyed this episode, please support us by subscribing and leaving a review on your podcast platform! 📲 Connect with us on Instagram @ruocake.pod “Even the perceptions of time and distance are different between the Philippines and Australia” 💛 . . . REFERENCES: • FINCH APP: https://finchcare.com/ • FOOD: https://treasury.gov.au/sites/default/files/2024-06/c2024-489934-australian-fresh-produce-alliance.pdf • COMMUTING: Emerging from the ‘worst’: An ethnography of the modern Filipino commuting culture behind the Metro Manila traffic crisis. https://doi.org/10.1051/matecconf/201927201032 • BODY ETHICS: Violence Against Women Prevalence Estimates, 2018, https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240022256

⭐ Theme 3: People & Places ⭐ In this episode, Ebony and May launch their new theme by asking the big question: Is university worth it in 2025—or just a waste of time? They surveyed 66 university students to uncover the real reasons people go to uni and share surprising insights about university life, friendships, career opportunities, and global experiences. Join them as they explore: • Making friends at university - Is it possible to form genuine, lifelong connections on campus? • Study abroad and global exchange programs - how travelling through university can completely change your perspective on life and your career. • Networking at university - building professional connections and personal growth opportunities while you study. • Student stories and real-life moments - that shaped people’s university experiences and how they view the world. Whether you’re a future student, currently studying at uni, or reflecting on your own experience in higher education, this episode is full of insights, honest reflections, and tips for getting the most out of your degree. 💬 If you enjoyed the episode or learned something new, don’t forget to like, share, and spread the word! 📲 Follow us on Instagram: @ruocake.pod “Whatever you put into university is what you get back, you get what you give.” 💗

⭐ Theme 2: Lifelong Learning ⭐ 🇵🇭 Mabuhay Philippines 🇵🇭 This episode marks May's exciting new chapter as she begins her life in the Philippines! What is Lifelong Learning? Join May as she explores what lifelong learning truly means, diving into the psychological mechanisms behind this transformative concept and sharing practical strategies for cultivating a growth-oriented learning mindset. In this deeply personal episode, May opens up about her own lifelong learning journeys—navigating personal finances, embracing her identity as an Asian Australian, and developing her musicianship skills. 💬 Love what you heard? Please support us by subscribing and leaving a review on your favourite podcast platform! 📲 To stay connected, follow us on Instagram @ruocake.pod Wishing you a safe and mindful day! 💛 RESOURCES MENTIONED: • Lifeline MYM Group: https://www.lifelineh2hsydney.org.au/get-support/support-and-treatment-groups/ The DBT-informed psychological skills groups are for adolescents (14-18) and adults who experience intense emotions and want to develop healthier behavioural patterns through skill-building. Groups run for 16 weeks across multiple Sydney locations (Gordon, Hornsby, Seaforth, Marsfield, and Brookvale). • Brené Brown Values List: https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/ REFERENCES: • Eikeland, O., & Johannesen, H. S. (2024). Lifelong learning: Expanding concepts and practices (1st ed.). Peter Lang. https://doi.org/10.3726/b21191 • Morin, A. (2011). Self-awareness part 1: Definition, measures, effects, functions, and antecedents. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 5(10), 807–823. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1751-9004.2011.00387.x • Andreev, I. (2024, August 22). Lifelong learning. Valamis. https://www.valamis.com/hub/lifelong-learning

⭐ *Theme 2: Lifelong Learning*⭐ For this week’s conversation, Ebony dives deep into the powerful mindset shift from academic learning to *lifelong learning*. She reflects on her personal journey—sharing stories, quotes, and valuable insights on how embracing curiosity has transformed her academic success, career path, and personal growth. 🎓 We spend years in traditional education chasing grades and scores. But what if learning could be intentional, joyful, and personally meaningful? Ebony explores the differences between academic learning (focused on external rewards) and lifelong learning (driven by curiosity and purpose). 💡 Learn how a lifelong learning mindset can: • Reduce procrastination • Improve your adaptability • Fuel creativity • Enhance your conversations • Enrich every aspect of your life ✨ Ebony also shares practical tips like choosing one new thing to explore, engaging in deeper conversations, and staying curious about the world. From learning tap dance to launching her TikTok/marketing and cake business, Ebony shows how continuous learning opens unexpected doors. 📌 Quote of the episode: *“If I’m always learning, I feel like the world will never pass me by.”* This episode is your reminder to never stop wondering, noticing, and growing. 💬 If you enjoyed the episode or learned something new, don’t forget to like, share, and spread the word! 📲 Follow us on Instagram: @ruocake.pod (https://www.instagram.com/ruocake.pod) Have the best day guys! 🍰

⭐ Theme 2: Lifelong Learning ⭐ In this episode, Ebony and May kick off the week by diving into their own educational journeys and exploring the fascinating world of Steiner Education. Join them as they unpack: • The origins and philosophy behind Steiner education • How it compares to traditional schooling in Australia • Common myths and misconceptions—debunked! Whether you're curious about alternative education or reflecting on your own school experience, this convo is full of insight, nostalgia, and a few surprises. 💬 If you enjoyed the episode or learned something new, don’t forget to like, share, and spread the word! 📲 Follow us on Instagram: @ruocake.pod Thanks for tuning in—and here’s to a week of learning something new! 💛

In today’s chat, Ebony opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of living out her lifelong dream of moving abroad. She takes you through the highs and lows of learning to live independently and carving out a new life in an unfamiliar city. Here’s a quick overview of what you’ll discover: • A deep dive into the emotions of transitioning to a new country • How Ebony is learning to embrace challenges and mistakes along the way • The personal growth that comes with broadening perspectives and navigating change If this episode resonated with you, we’d love to hear from you! Reach out to us on Instagram at @ruocake.pod. Have the best day! :)

In this solo episode, May reflects on her childhood goals and aspirations and how they have influenced her as an adult. This is her perspective on this month's theme, "What do I want to be when I grow up?" She discusses: - Mental vs physical health - The significance of sport in childhood identity - How childhood dreams have shaped her current goals and values. Enjoy a deep dive into this reflection and reminiscing, and invite yourself to ponder your own childhood dreams. Connect with us on Instagram @ruocake.pod! Hope you have a fantastic day :)

Welcome to the first episode of R U O'Cake! In this episode, we explore the pivotal question we all thought about as children: "What do I want to be when I grow up?" We'll share: • Our childhood dreams and goals, and whether our current realities have lived up to those expectations • How we're thinking about goals and aspirations for our 30s • A deep, vulnerable conversation about the pressure and fears that come with pursuing your dreams You'll also get: • Reflections on our friendships, careers, love lives, and mental health in our 20s • Dealing with "milestone anxiety" • The reality vs. expectations of our childhood dreams • Lots of laughs along the way! We invite you to reflect on your childhood dreams and how they match your current realities. Please share your thoughts and feedback with us on Instagram at @ruocake.pod. Have a wonderful day!