Recess

When we want to change our lives, we must find building blocks we can consistently rest on. Starting of season 2, we'll be looking at how the change process can happen. Our first foundation is Curiosity. Curiosity to ourselves, our mental health difficulties, and our bodies can change how we move forward. Moving form judgement towards curiosity is key! Welcome back to Recess, I'm glad you're here <3 Source: Adam Young, LCSW (Place We Find Ourselves Podcast) Tik tik: https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

On Episode 1, we dive into an overview of trauma and how it could impact how we treat other people. This is no way to be comprehensive but a quick starter pack! There is so much more to learn, even for us in the field of mental health. (Also, off the top I say "welcome to another episode" even though this is the first one. Don't @ me for that, I'm just manifesting fam) Here are some helpful resources: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk Trauma and Recovery by Judith Hermann Reid’s Socials: Twitter, FB, IG: Reid Bervik Tik Tik: Funny: reiderrrr Mental Health: Reid Bervik Music: "Meditate." Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Engaging our story requires courage because we've all faced hard things. Choosing to engage with that which is painful is the essence of courage. Each of us already possess what we need to begin to engage, step by step. On episode 41, we look at courage and who it can benefit us as we aim towards health and healing.  Support the Pod! https://www.patreon.com/reidbervik Social: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Compassion is something we hear a lot about and can struggle to employ towards ourselves. Compassion is all about suffering together with someone in order to alleviate suffering. We offer kindness, empathy, and understanding to ourselves by connection with our internal hurt, self. In episode 40 we look at how we can show ourselves more compassion. <3 Support the Pod! https://www.patreon.com/reidbervik Social: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Acceptance comes in different forms: towards what's in front of us, towards ourselves, and towards other people. On this episode of Recess, Jenni Johnson shares about how she's come to understand acceptance and how its helped her grow. Is a vulnerable and dare I say fun conversation!  Jenni is a writer and you can find her more here: https://www.instagram.com/jennijohnson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thejennijohnson? https://www.tiktok.com/link/v2?aid=1988&lang=en&scene=bio_url&target=http%3A%2F%2Fthejennijohnson.com%2Fwriting%2F Support the Pod! https://www.patreon.com/reidbervik Social: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Week 2 of our foundations series we look at the concept of acceptance. Acceptance means we agree with and come face to face the reality of what's happening. Recognizing what's real and in front of us is so key in maintaining health. In episode 38 we look at how we can begin the process of accepting what's in front of us, who we are, and those around us.  Support the Pod! https://www.patreon.com/reidbervik Social: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik  Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Music:  "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

So many people are living their lives with a desire to prove their worth. Maybe they've had relationships go poorly or parents who never showed care. I can often fall into these desirse as well. The truth is, if we've been hurt by people In our past, we may be trying to prove it to them in the attempt to give our younger selves something we lacked. In this, we can stay in situations and relationships that aren't healthy. Naming this truth and realizing our own worth can help us move towards healthier ways of life!  Reference:  "healing fantasies" is a phrase from the book "Adult children of emotionally immature parents." https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents-ebook/dp/B00TZE87S4 https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact

On this episode of Recess, we have our first guest speaker. Praise be! Therapist Mark Cadlaon shares his perspective on rest and it's different types. Rest may never be as important as it is today, such that Mark's words are especially important.  Mark's Info: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markcadlaon/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/mark-cadlaon-littleton-co/861709 https://gracecounseling.net/therapists/mark-cadlaon/ My Socials: https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact

On this episode of Recess, I discuss how privileged identities, specifically mine, play into how I'm perceived in the mental health world. It's come to my attention that I have centered myself in too many ways and I want to work to change that narrative and be better. If we do not name and discuss privilege or marginalized identities that we hold, holistic mental health care is not possible.  I'm going to do a better job moving forward!  Support Jo Luehmann: https://www.patreon.com/joluehmann https://www.instagram.com/joluehmann/ https://twitter.com/JoLuehmann Resource Document: https://docs.google.com/document/d/124L-X97hgacT7vQ6xRiNMNYaJ9tyksjyBmVYVXVR3Wk/edit?usp=sharing Reid's Social: https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact Music:  "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Today I discuss how changing patterns is the key to changing our lives. We look at patterns of self belief and behavior as well as the context that connection and awareness have in the process NOTE: This Style of thought — Event->Belief->Behavior is built from Rational and Emotional Behavior Therapy from Albert Ellis. https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact

Many of us want to know the road forward in identifying what type of romantic relationships or friendships we want. Whether we haven't dated before or we are currently in a bad relationship, we are trying to understand it all. In this episode, I walk through the path of figuring out how to learn what's healthy and what's best. Thanks for being here! https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact

So many people are stuck in relationships where their partner struggle to emotionally connect, support, and express. Even if partners are not bad people, do not betray us in physical ways, and are generally tangibly supportive, it may be difficult to feel loved and valued if the emotional connection is not present. In episode 31, we look at the subject of emotional maturity as it relations to romantic relationships. We look at both partners perspectives in the hopes that we can learn and move forward towards health, whatever that looks like.  Gottman Link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/breaking-pursue-withdraw-pattern-interview-scott-r-woolley-ph-d/ Social https://www.tiktok.com/@reidbervik?lang=en Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) twitter.com/reidbervik For coaching requests Reidbervik.com/contact

So many of us expereince a unique sense of discointiut and disruption within ourselves over the course of the pandemic we continue to find ourselves in. During the early shut downs especially, we were taken out of our normal rhythm. If our identity, our sense of worthy and value, was primarily placed on external things and the "doings" of life, we may have found ourselves struggling to know who we were. On this episode, we discuss why proper prioritization of identity, specifically finding our worthy primarily from the internal identity, can be so helpful as we move towards health and growth! Social Media Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik

If we’re honest, most of our woundings and trauma occurs in the context of relationship. Because of this reality it is important to realize we must be healed via healthy, safe relationships. Thoughts of “I’m fine by myself” and “I can do this on my own” are often birthed out of fear, pain, and armor. I can certainly empathize with this struggle and can affirm it feels better to be totally out of connection with others than continue in a toxic environment. Nonetheless, being alone is no long term fix for humans who were meant to be in relationship with other people. If we were hurt relationally, we must heal relationally. Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Tik Tok: @recesspodcas (podcast) Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Facebook: facebook.com/ReidiBervik

Have you ever found yourself disappointed that you weren't 'over' a given situation? Are you tired of feeling down about something in the past? Many of us have been trapped in the thinking that healing and growth is a linear process. In reality, there are so many ups and downs to moving towards health.  In this weeks' episode of Recess, we continue our series on the reality of healing and discuss 4 ways to look at healing that can help us set good expectations for ourselves as we heal from past wounds. I'm so glad that you're hear!  Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Tik Tok: @recesspodcas (podcast) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik

When we chose to move towards healing and health, we inevitably change the relational dynamics around us. Because of this, our loved ones must decide how they want to react. Many of us have seen those we care about chose to remove themselves from us or refuse to change how they treat us. This pain is disorienting.  On week 1 of "the reality of healing" we discuss 4 ways we can ensure we are continuing to move towards health, even when those we love the most leave us. Welcome to Recess! Social Media: Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Tik Tok: @ReidBervik (mental health) Tik Tok: @recesspodcas (podcast) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Mental Health Content can be good and can contribute to rumination if we're constantly consuming for the sake of self-evaluation or self-analysis. Taking a break and ensuring we find rhythms of fun and joy in the hopes of living our life is so key! I encourage everyone in episode 26 of Recess to consider taking breaks from social media mental health! Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Instagram: Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik Tik Tik: @reiderrrr @ReidBervik (mental health) @recesspodcas (podcast) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Welcome to the final part of our series on depression. We close with some musings on the intricate balance between suffering and hope. Being able to accept what we cannot control, the difficulties of life, and find hope and belief that better days are possible is the path towards emotional maturity. Join me for episode 25 as we discuss the balance and how to move towards it. Research on the benefits of hope: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5120968/ Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Instagram: Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik Tik Tik: @reiderrrr @ReidBervik (mental health) @recesspodcas (podcast) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

Depression is such a difficult experience to navigate. It can become even more difficult if depression manifests as something we are rather than something happening to us. On episode 24 of Recess, we discuss depression and identity. We look at how we may intertwine the two and how that affects us and keeps us from truly finding growth and healing. I love that you’re joining me! Reid’s Socials: Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Instagram: Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik Tik Tik: @reiderrrr @ReidBervik (mental health) @recesspodcas (podcast) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY

For those of us who have struggles with depression for a number of years, for those who have just begun our journey, using the language of “managing depression” can be helpful in ensuring we accept ourselves exactly where we’re at while we move towards help. “Elimination” based mental health does nothing to help our spirals and often causes us more shame. On episode 23 we discuss managing depression, how it can be helpful, and ask a few questions to help us navigate! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPr_l8cIIZXHWDr28D_V3Iw Twitter: twitter.com/reidbervik Instagram: Instagram.com/reidbervik (personal) Instagram.com/recess.podcast (podcast) Instagram.com/ReidiBervik (mental health) Facebook: facebook.com/ReidIBervik Tik Tik: @reiderrrr @ReidBervik (mental health) @recesspodcas (podcast) Music: "Meditate" Instrumental by Homage. https://youtu.be/dh_Y7gH8tgY