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Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack
Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack
Author: Jack Ito PhD, Psychologist, Author, and Relationship Coach
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On the Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack podcast, Christian psychologist, author, and relationship coach, Dr. Jack Ito, will help you to build and restore your marriage. By learning just a few relationship skills, you can help your spouse enjoy your relationship more, while getting more love and affection from your spouse. Listen to Coach Jack as he helps you with one more step toward a marriage both you and your spouse will love.
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Suspect Your Husband Is Cheating? How to Decide What to Do Without Making It Worse When you suspect your husband may be cheating, the urge for certainty can push you toward confrontation, reassurance-seeking, or panic. Those reactions often escalate conflict and drive secrecy rather than clarity. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how to slow down, assess what is really happening, and decide your next steps without damaging your marriage further. What You’ll Learn: How to distinguish ...
How to Save Your Marriage When Your Wife Wants to Separate: A Proven 5-Step Reconnection Plan When your wife says she wants to separate, panic-driven reactions like arguing, pleading, or trying to convince her often deepen the emotional distance. These responses focus on logic and urgency when the real issue is lost emotional connection. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how to shift from pressure to reconnection so your interactions begin restoring safety, trust, and attraction. Wha...
What to Do When Your Wife Says She’s Not in Love With You (Real Steps That Work) When a wife says she’s not in love anymore, most men panic—and that panic usually pushes her further away. In this episode, Coach Jack explains why those words do not automatically mean your marriage is over, and why chasing, pleading, or trying to convince her almost always backfires. This episode lays out a clear, step-by-step way to respond that helps your wife relax, reconnect, and regain attraction over time...
She Thought She Married the Wrong Man—What Coaching Changed Many people reach a painful conclusion in marriage: either endure a bad relationship or get divorced. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack shares a representative client story that reflects the experience of many people he works with—those who believe they married the wrong person and feel trapped between two bad options. Using this real-world coaching example, Coach Jack explains how changing the rela...
12 Actions That Push Your Spouse Away (Stop These Now) When a husband or wife is pulling away, even small mistakes can make things worse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains twelve behaviors that quietly damage connection, increase distance, and make reconciliation harder. Listeners will learn what to stop doing immediately and what to do instead to rebuild stability and trust. What You’ll Learn Why certain reactions and habits reduce your spouse’s de...
How to Show Your Spouse You've Really Changed and Get a Second Chance Your spouse may be done giving you chances, but that doesn’t mean change is impossible. In this episode, Coach Jack explains what actually rebuilds trust, why words don’t work, and how consistent behavior can make your spouse want to stay rather than leave. What You’ll Learn How trust is actually broken (and why honesty alone won’t fix it)The behaviors that quietly destroy connectionWhy consistent change—not convincing—rest...
No Contact or Low Contact? Get it Right for Reconciling with Your Spouse When a husband or wife becomes rejecting, distant, or checked out, most people respond by increasing contact, reassurance, and attention. But that often makes things worse. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how the right amount of contact can create desire, rebuild connection, and help a spouse become willing to work on the marriage again. What You’ll Learn Why too much contact pushes a rejecting spouse ev...
How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict) Your spouse won’t talk about the marriage, won’t go to counseling, and won’t try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You’ll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance. What you’ll learn Why logical arguments fail when a spouse is checked outHow unwanted pursuit and beg...
Why Do We Keep Arguing About the Same Things? Here’s How to Stop Do you and your spouse keep circling back to the same arguments, no matter how much you talk? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why repetitive conflict happens, why arguing never fixes relationship problems, and what to do instead. Coach Jack breaks down the real causes—power struggles, fear, and unhelpful beliefs—and shows you how to stop the cycle for good. What You’ll Learn Why repeating t...
How to Reconnect with a Spouse Who Is Cold and Distant When your spouse becomes cold and distant, endless talking often makes things worse instead of better. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why the key to rebuilding warmth isn’t more conversation—but loving action, validation, and consistent behavioral change. Coach Jack explains how to shift from talking to doing so you can create connection instead of frustration. What You’ll Learn Why talking alone wo...
How Do I Know if My Spouse Really Wants a Divorce, or Is Just Angry? If your spouse says he or she wants a divorce, it can be hard to know whether it’s real or just anger talking. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn how to recognize when divorce talk is a warning sign—and what to do before it becomes final. Coach Jack explains why some threats are actually desperate attempts to reconnect, and how the right response can turn crisis into renewal. W...
Difficult Spouse? Get Improvement without Conflict (Part 2: Action Steps) Many people try to fix their spouse directly—but that only creates more distance and conflict. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains how to create positive change by improving your own behaviors first. You’ll learn how to replace needy, damaging habits with secure, loving actions that naturally make your spouse respond better. What You’ll Learn How to stop needy behaviors that des...
Difficult Spouse? Get Improvement without Conflict (Part 1: Taking Charge) When your spouse is critical, blaming, or distant, trying to fix them usually makes things worse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, learn why direct confrontation fails—and how taking charge of your own behavior can bring lasting change without conflict or resentment. What You’ll Learn: Why trying to fix your spouse leads to more fightingHow to take responsibility without taking the blameWhy the...
How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 2: The Right Steps) Most couples either avoid confrontation or end up fighting—but neither approach leads to lasting change. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn the essential steps to confront your spouse in a way that ends destructive behavior and rebuilds trust. Coach Jack explains how to set boundaries with love, reduce the risk of rejection, and forgive in a way that actually restores connect...
How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 1, Preventing Conflict) Do you need to confront your spouse but fear it will turn into another fight? Conflict damages marriages, but confrontation—done correctly—can actually strengthen them. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why avoiding conflict doesn’t mean avoiding problems, and how to address damaging behaviors in a way that fosters respect and closeness. What You’ll Learn Why confrontation is not th...
How Relationship Coaching Helps You Fix Your Marriage Are you stuck searching for answers while your marriage keeps slipping away? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover why endless talking and counseling often fail—and how relationship coaching gives you clear, actionable steps to rebuild love before it’s too late. What You’ll Learn Why asking “why” questions won’t stop divorce or an affairHow “how” questions create real solutions in marriageThe five choice...
Fun Marriage Exercise to Stop Fights before They Start Most couples try to solve problems by talking, but that often leads to arguments, defensiveness, and even more distance. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover a fun and surprising alternative to problem-talking that actually brings couples closer: role play. Learn how this playful method can turn potential conflict into connection. What You’ll Learn How role play helps you avoid arguments while still ad...
How to Deal with a Spouse Who Spends Too Much Money (without Conflict) Money fights can drain love from a marriage faster than almost anything else. When a spouse overspends, the other often reacts with reasoning, complaining, or pleading—yet those approaches only lead to more conflict. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn a step-by-step way to address financial issues without arguments, while protecting your relationship and building trust. What You’ll Learn...
When Your Spouse Says, "I'm Not in Love with You"--What to Do Hearing your spouse say, “I’m not in love with you” can feel like a gut punch, but it doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn how to respond with empathy and clarity instead of panic, and how to use this moment to build a stronger connection rather than lose it. What You’ll Learn Why reacting emotionally will push your spouse further away—and what to do i...
Can Your Marriage Be Saved? What Really Determines Reconciliation Is it too late to save your marriage? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, listeners will discover why a spouse’s current feelings, words, or even intent don’t determine whether reconciliation is possible. Coach Jack explains what really matters—and how anyone can begin taking the right steps to rebuild, even if things look hopeless right now. What You’ll Learn Why a spouse’s current feelings don’t decide t...



