In this episode, Kinga breaks down a truth that high-functioning women feel but rarely say out loud:You’re not going to change your drinking in a room where you don’t belong.If you’ve ever walked into AA, treatment, or a mixed-support group and instantly felt like:“These aren’t my people…”“I’m too privileged to talk here…”“I don’t relate to any of this…”“I feel like I have to tone myself down…”— this episode will hit you right in the solar plexus.Kinga explains why your recovery accelerates when you’re surrounded by women who live similar lives, face similar pressures, and understand the emotional and social realities behind your drinking — not just alcohol in general.This is a permission slip to stop forcing yourself into rooms that were never built for you.In The Self-Control Solution™, Kinga vets every woman and curates the group intentionally so you’re surrounded by peers who get your lifestyle, your pressure, your habits, your emotional load, and your version of “functioning.”If you want to change your drinking with women who actually understand you, start with the Free Masterclass:https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Why is it so hard for women to change their relationships with alcohol? Could be the dopamine! Many of us -- especially if we have ADHD symptoms -- have a painful time changing various behaviours, not just with alcohol, but with relationships, too. Let's deep dive into why, and what to do about it so it's not so painful for you! If you are ready to make some changes and possible work together, start here!https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Midlife hormones, old family patterns, and a wine-o’clock culture—no wonder so many smart women feel like they’re fighting on three fronts. In this episode, I break down the biopsychosocial model the way Gabor Maté teaches it: how your biology, psychology, and social world team up to create (and heal) alcohol habits. I pull back the curtain on my own story—grief, over-functioning, 3 a.m. wake-ups, all of it—and give you practical, low-drama tools to calm your body, rewrite old scripts, and choose real relief.Listen if you’re ready to see drinking through a wider lens—and start changing it without white-knuckling your way through.And if you're ready to start making important changes to your own drinking, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
This one is messy, friends. 🫠 I ran into that ex at a festival—yes, the five-year, break-up-make-up disaster—and guess who he was with? Let’s just say my intuition has been screaming for years, and this weekend it brought the receipts.In this episode, I unpack the difference between paranoia and intuition, how denial gaslights us harder than any toxic man ever could, and why your gut is always right—even when you wish it wasn’t. We’ll talk ex drama, and how the same denial/intuition tug-of-war shows up with drinking, friendships, and work.⚠️ Disclaimer: The stories shared here are my personal experiences and reflections. Details have been blurred or changed to protect privacy—but the lessons are real, and maybe a little too relatable.If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s your anxiety talking or your intuition whispering the truth…this episode is your sign.
In this special milestone episode, I’m celebrating 13 years sober by sharing 13 things I’ve learned along the way — the gritty, funny, sometimes painful truths about life without alcohol. From learning that willpower was never the answer, to discovering that real joy doesn’t come in a wine glass, these are the lessons that changed everything for me.If you're ready to make these changes to your drinking, too, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Breaking down the real reasons many women can't break free from "wine o'clock."If you're ready to make changes to your drinking and possibly join us in the community of women who are transforming their second half of life, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
High-functioning women work so hard to maintain the illusion that everything is fine, great, dandy, and won't look at their problem with alcohol. But what are some of the costs to our lives? In this episode, I share a bit more of my own story, and the impact that protecting my drinking secret had on my daily life and mental and physical health.If you're ready to make changes and possibly work together, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Have I learned nothing?! Anxious relics from my past -- things I had thought were long buried -- have returned in the form of a situationship! I thought I was too old for this sh!t... But we have learned more, and have become wiser (and hotter?) in the process!As always, if you are a woman who is ready to change her relationship with alcohol, start here:https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
For the first time since I was 12, I am not making room, allowances, or considerations for the male species. If you're ready to change your relationship with alcohol (and then change your relationship with yourself and everything else), start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Ringing in my birthday and No-vember with a comprehensive list for accountability. Would love it if you shared a few of your No's in the comments!
In this episode, I reveal more of my story, but also the two past clients who blew up my own stereotype of what a woman with a problem with alcohol could look like... which is why I now ONLY work with the "picture-perfect" woman. If this sounds like you, and you think you're ready to move away from that way of living, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
When a couch is NOT JUST A COUCH. What to do when you are straddling your past and your future, and how to let go of everything. Also, how the Universe became the boss of me. If you are a motivated woman in mid-life, and you are ready to move away from alcohol, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Sometimes, we revert back to old behaviours... with alcohol, anger, anxiety... This can leave people feeling hopeless about their potential for change. Not a great feeling! What is YOUR definition of relapse? Figuring this out might save you some self-imposed punishment! If you're a woman who is READY to change your relationsip with alcohol, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
We all know that alcohol fuels a lot of our shame... but how does SHAME fuel our alcohol use?
Your answer to this question says so much about whether you are in self-care mode or self-harm mode! If you are ready to change your relationship with alcohol, please visit https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register
Are you keeping yourself trapped in a box that’s maybe too small for you? What would you consider to be “too” something… successful, rich, happy, confident… how afraid are you to grow out of your comfort zone??
Are you the go-to problem-solver in your friend group? Do you attract people who can find a big issue in anything and constantly need your help? Spoiler: you’re the problem!
It’s no secret that 2020 took a lot of things away from a lot of people. And for Christine, it started a journey of stripping away layers of herself (literally), to reveal who she is becoming, what she wants, and how she plans on living her life. Freedom 55, mama! You can find her on IG, @thecarladycanada
Guys… I don’t think boundaries are what you think they they are…