Rekindling Relationships

Why is understanding attachment theory helpful to creating a better relationship? We share our thoughts on the 4 different styles of attachment and how they impact relating and communication between couples. We explore how attachment styles show up in our lives and the ways we can feel more secure in our relationships.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern  Some great resources on attachment theory and relationships for you to check out- Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson https://amzn.to/3b59eFG The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO   Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD   

What are the emotional blocks that can get in the way of our relationships? How do we address them so that they don’t hinder us from connecting on a deeper level? We discuss where these blocks come from and how we can work together to remove them.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern 

It’s more rewarding to resolve a conflict than dissolve a relationship.  Why does conflict happen in relationships? What makes conflict worse and how do we resolve it? Bec and Vern discuss how to deal with conflict in a healthy and constructive way, so that we can deal with life's stressors and support relationship growth. Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern    Some great resources on  relationships and dealing with conflict for you to check out- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO   The Relationship Cure. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/2OCvakd  

What sort of distractions erode our relationships? Why is being distracted dangerous to our relationships? How do we stop being distracted and be more present and connected? Bec and Vern discuss these questions to support couples to build more trust and connection with each other.   Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? Why is it seen as one of the most effective treatments for supporting couples to reconnect and shift old patterns of relating? Bec and Vern talk about why they see EFT as a valuable tool for growth and how they use it with couples.   Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern    Some great resources on EFT and attachment theory for you to check out- Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson https://amzn.to/3b59eFG The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO   Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD 

What can be the biggest fears in a relationship? Where do they come from and how can we overcome them? We all have fears and stepping into intimate relationships can trigger them within us. Bec and Vern discuss their own fears and how they have worked to conquer them and move forward together. Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

Why are relationship goals important to our growth as couples and how can we set these goals together? Bec and Vern give goal setting a go and discuss what they found out in the process.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern    Some great resources on couples goal setting for you to check out- Goal Setting Worksheet for Couples https://ofthehearth.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/AnnualGoalSettingWorksheetforCouples.pdf https://www.gottman.com/blog/6-hours-a-week-to-a-better-relationship/ Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO   

What does it mean to Hold Space and why is it important in a healthy relationship? Bec and Vern discuss these questions and explain how we can do this with our partner. Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

How do we bring more intimacy into our relationship? Bec and Vern discuss what intimacy means, some of the issues that can hinder intimacy between couples, as well as talking through their own fears around intimacy.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What is jealousy and how does it come up in relationships? Bec and Vern ponder whether jealousy is actually a negative emotion and what we can do about it.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

How do kids impact our relationships and what we can do about it? Bec and Vern chat about the demands of time and energy of raising children. We also discuss blended families and strategies to help parents cope with kids.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What are Love Languages? How can knowing them help you to better understand your partner? Bec and Vern discuss why they think they are important and how they use Love Languages in their own relationship. Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern    Some great resources on Love Languages for you to check out- Take the quiz here- https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/  The Five Love Languages. The secret to love that lasts. By Gary Chapman https://amzn.to/3jVrR2U The Five Love Languages. How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. By Gary Chapman https://amzn.to/3qtR9rl

Money, Money, Money. One of the biggest stressors on relationships. Bec and Vern talk about where our beliefs on finances come from and how to work through money issues together as a couple.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What is emotional neglect, where might it come from and why does it hurt relationships? Bec and Vern explore these questions and discuss ways for couples to become more emotionally connected.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

Let's talk about Orgasms. What can a good orgasm do for your relationship? How do we connect on a deeper level so that we can have more of them? How can we use orgasms for healing? Bec overcomes a prudish upbringing to have a fun chat with Vern about sexual intimacy and orgasms.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

How can porn can affect relationships and intimacy?  Bec and Vern explore the ways that porn impacts our partnerships and how we might be better off without it. Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

Who? Why? What? How? When? Questions can connect us on a deeper level. Bec and Vern discuss ways that couples can deepen their relationships through asking better questions.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What is a ritual? How do we create our own rituals and use them in our relationships to build connection? Bec and Vern chat about how they have used rituals in their partnership and why they think that other couples should try them too.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What is security and why is it important in a relationship? How do we feel more secure in relationships?  Bec and Vern discuss ways to build more security as a couple through having open and loving conversations.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern   

What do we mean by triggers? How do they affect our relationships? Why does Bec love this topic? Bec and Vern explore the topic of triggers and how they have impacted our relationship. We also discuss ways that we can deal with them effectively together.  Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/ https://www.facebook.com/becandvern