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I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. Our weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode we will interview amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. Our guests will provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more. Join us on our journey to create lasting love!
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The early stages of relationships feel easy and great all of the time. Arguments rarely happen, and it's all rainbows and butterflies. However, these warm and fuzzy feelings won't last forever. In today's episode, you'll learn how to make your relationship last past the honeymoon stage. In this episode with Neil Wilkie, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the 6 critical components of a relationship The importance of commitment in your relationship How to communicate like a pro The key component of connection with your partner How to create more fun in your relationship Why growth and trust are critical to a lasting relationship And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/289 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Best Fiends the top-rated, best, mobile puzzle adventure game. Download Best Fiends FREE today on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Ana Luisa: Beautiful, sustainably made jewelry starting at only $39. Get 10% off your entire order by visiting analuisa.com. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Finding love is hard in the best of times. Throw in a pandemic, hookup culture and societal pressures, and finding a great partner can feel like an overwhelming task. Listen to today's show to learn how to approach this new way of dating in the best way possible. In this episode with Damona Hoffman, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why you should develop a Covid dating strategy How to create a profile that will lead to good potential partners Tools to help navigate first date awkwardness Visualization exercises to help you find a great partner Cultivating abundance in order to succeed in your dating life And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/288 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
The single life can be just as rewarding as being in a relationship. However, sometimes it can feel like all you want to do is to be in a happy relationship! Listen to today's show to learn how to happily navigate life as a single person. In this episode with Dr. Megan Stubbs, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to be okay with being single How to avoid the hookup culture and connect with others online Understand the benefits of being single The importance of understanding your deal breakers and communicating them to potential partners How to create sexual satisfaction with yourself Asking the important questions of what will truly make you happy And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/287 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Like A Kitten curates adult subscription boxes created to inspire and influence female sexual wellness. Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 20% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/idoOR enter code ido at checkout. Ana Luisa: Beautiful, sustainably made jewelry starting at only $39. For Valentine's Day get 15% off by visiting analuisa.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Forget the chocolate! Give your partner (or just yourself) one of these amazing gifts this Valentine's Days. Like A Kitten curates adult subscription boxes created to inspire and influence female sexual wellness. Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 20% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/ido OR enter code ido at checkout. FemmeFunn: Explore your intimate curiosities and fantasies with full confidence. Get 20% off of our favorite FemmeFunn products when you go to FemmeFunn.com/ido AND enter code ido at checkout. LELO is offering our listeners up to 50% off all LELO toys from February 4th to 14th. After Valentine's Day, you can still get 20% off if you use code ido at https://lelo.to/RelationshipAdvice.
The more we understand our feelings and where they are coming from, the more we can improve ourselves personally and in a relationship. Listen to today's show and learn the tools to do this important practice.    In this episode with Bill OHerron, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding how you feel and healing negative feelings Tools to help you relax when you are experiencing negative emotions How to relate and express vulnerability with your partner Learning to accept our negative feelings And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/286 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors TurboDebt: If you have over $10,000 in credit cards, personal loans, medical or payday loans, TurboDebt can help! Visit www.turbodebt.com/advice for a FREE consultation. Ana Luisa: Beautiful, sustainably made jewelry starting at only $39. For Valentine's Day get 15% off by visiting analuisa.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Expressing gratitude can act as 'medicine' to improve your life and your relationships. Listen to this show to learn how to implement a gratitude practice into your life to start reaping the benefits today! In this episode with Najma Khorrami, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn exactly what gratitude is and why it's important How to show gratitude towards your partner with specific actions and ideas Expressing gratitude when you're in a rough patch How gratitude is a gateway for other positive emotions How gratitude can create a positive buffer from negative emotions And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/285 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. MetPro: If you're looking for a high-touch experience working with a metabolic expert or if you want access to the tools their industry-leading coaches use, visit​ metpro.co/ido ​to take their assessment and speak with their team to learn which option is best for you. Get up to one month FREE when they sign up! Best Fiends the top-rated, best, mobile puzzle adventure game. Download Best Fiends FREE today on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
If you've made it to this podcast description, you're obviously trying to improve your relationship. Tools to improve your relationship are great, but they mean nothing without action. Listen to today's show to learn how to concretely improve your relationship by actually implementing and using the tools you learn on our podcast and elsewhere. In this episode with Dr. Joli Hamilton, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the difference between wanting things to be different and actually acting on them Specific step-by-step exercises to translate relationship improvement tools into action Using an object to pass back-and-forth to help improve communication Dealing with a partner who is withholding communication from you Recognizing the seasons of your relationship and how to communicate accordingly And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/284 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors MetPro: If you're looking for a high-touch experience working with a metabolic expert or if you want access to the tools their industry-leading coaches use, visit​ metpro.co/ido ​to take their assessment and speak with their team to learn which option is best for you. Get up to one month FREE when they sign up! Birchbox: Join the Birchbox community today by visiting BIRCHBOX.com/ido and get 50% off your first box when you use promo code ido! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
If you could call a number and say you’re sorry, and no one would know...what would you apologize for? For fifteen years, you could call a number in Manhattan and do just that. This is the story of the line, and the man at the other end who became consumed by his own creation. He was known as "Mr. Apology." As thousands of callers flooded the line, confessing to everything from shoplifting to infidelity, drug dealing to murder, Mr. Apology realized he couldn’t just listen. He had to do something, even if it meant risking everything. From Wondery the makers of Dr. Death and The Shrink Next Door, comes a story about empathy, deception and obsession. Marissa Bridge, who knew Mr. Apology better than anyone, hosts this six episode series. Listen today at wondery.fm/AL_RelationshipAdvce
Relationships come in many shapes and forms. One-sided relationships can often emerge and rear their ugly heads during our lives. Listen to today's show to identify if you're in a one-sided relationship, and learn the steps to navigate out of it with your partnership intact. In this episode with April Eldemire, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to identify if you're in a one-sided relationship How to do a relationship inventory with your partner to help balance out your relationship Communicating with your partner if you feel you're in a one-sided relationship Signs you may be enabling your partner in a one sided relationship Understanding your needs and what makes you happy And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/283 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. MetPro: If you're looking for a high-touch experience working with a metabolic expert or if you want access to the tools their industry-leading coaches use, visit​ metpro.co/ido ​to take their assessment and speak with their team to learn which option is best for you. Get up to one month FREE when they sign up! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Hypnosis may conjure up ideas of a swinging clock and a con man trying to trick you into giving him your watch. However, hypnosis as a tool for real change in our lives has decades of science-backed research and effectiveness. In fact, it can even be used to improve your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how hypnosis and its techniques can improve your relationship. In this episode with Doug Sands, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the benefits of hypnosis and the science behind it How unconscious triggers can be reprogrammed using hypnosis Changing your habits through hypnosis Understanding how we create stories of our lives and relationships that may be far from the reality we are experiencing Take a hypnotic test drive on Doug's Instagram page And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/282 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Headspace: You deserve to feel happier, and Headspace is meditation made simple. Visit Headspace.com/IDO for a FREE one-month trial with access to  Headspace’s full library of meditations for every situation. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Divorced parents face many challenges when it comes to raising their kids as co-parents. Listen to today's show to learn how to cooperate with your ex to help raise your kids the best way possible —all while maintaining your sanity and civility with your former partner. In this episode with Kristen Scarlett, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of always putting your children first and providing consistency in both households Understanding that new partners do not replace either parent How to navigate the holidays as co-parents The importance of planning new traditions for your kids Letting go of attachments to ideas you may have around the holidays And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/281 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Conflict and friction are inevitable aspects of any human relationship. Understanding how to deal with conflict and even use it to your advantage can help you navigate your relationship better. Listen to today's episode to learn how. In this episode with Bill O'Herron, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding where the most friction in your relationship is coming from How friction can be a catalyst for growth The importance of creating healing for ourselves so we don't pass along the pain to future generations Listening to your body to feel where your negative emotions resonate and how to deal with them How to deal with negative emotions And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/280 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. Headspace: You deserve to feel happier, and Headspace is meditation made simple. Visit Headspace.com/IDO for a FREE one-month trial with access to  Headspace’s full library of meditations for every situation. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Relationships require us to look at ourselves and work to understand our past and how it shapes us today. We often get caught up in what we want, need and expect from our partner, but need to look within first. Listen to today's show to learn how to do this important work. In this episode with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to look at our family system and how we were raised to understand how it can affect the present Understanding what happens inside of us when our partner annoys or bothers us Writing exercise that will help you gain a deeper understanding of a present conflict How to become an ally for our partners healing How the healthiest and happiest relationships function best And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/279 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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Relationships and life can take up a lot of our time and energy. It's important to find the time for pleasure in your life even when a busy schedule may make it seem impossible. Listen to today's show to learn the tools for finding pleasure and improving your relationship.    In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create a mindset shift and find more pleasure in your life Understanding what it is that you truly want and asking your partner for it Dealing with "Mom guilt" and taking time for yourself How to communicate what you want assertively and effectively The importance of asking for the whole of what you want and not just a part of it And much more! Dr. Jordin Wiggins is a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women’s sexual health disruptor and author. She is revolutionizing the way we deliver, educate and talk about sexual health, wellness and pleasure for women. She also owns and operates Health Over All, the Premier Naturopathic Wellness Clinic for Women in Toronto. Dr. Wiggins is an expert on hormone and mood imbalance, libido, bio-marker testing and providing individualized health care so that her patients see results and are empowered to take control of their own journey to optimal health. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/278 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com.   Sakara: Sakara is offering our listeners 20% off their first order when they go to Sakara.com/ido and enter the code IDo at checkout. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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277: Wired For Love

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The fundamental building blocks of love come from deep inside of us. Love can cause great joy, but also great pain in our lives. The more we understand ourselves and our partner, the better we can love and be loved. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate love and relationships.  In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why and how we are wired for love from an early age Why it can hurt so much if we feel like our partner is not there for us How attachment theory shapes our relationships Learn one of the most important things you can ask yourself when dealing with difficulties in your relationship How to communicate with your partner during conflict or disconnection And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/277 Black Friday Sale | Spark My Relationship Course: Get 50% our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com and use the promo code blackfriday50 for our special Black Friday sale! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Sounds too good to be true, huh? Well, the title of the show may be a little tongue in cheek, but there's a way to frame how you operate in your relationship that can help take it to a better place. Listen to today's show to learn how to be a little selfish in order to improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that we cannot and should not be trying to change our partner Understanding that if you create change in yourself you can help change your relationship How to communicate in order to create positive relationship change Working together with your partner to find solutions to your problems How we pattern intimate relationships from our childhood And much more! Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for over twenty years. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She consults for a number of large institutions, including the Virginia Veterans Administration Medical Center. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. Dr. Dabney’s patients come for many reasons, including, but not limited to depression, anxiety, and toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms, again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/276 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
We talk about communication in relationships a lot on this show and for a good reason. Communication is one of the pillars of creating a successful relationship, and it's not always easy to do! Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate in your marriage or relationship.    In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that communication is not all about talking. There's a reason we have two ears and one mouth! How to become a better listener to improve your relationship How to help your partner become better at communication by modeling good behavior Learning how to communicate when you have a busy life The importance of communicating your expectations and knowing the type of person we are And much more! Rabbi Dovid M. Cohen is congregational rabbi and a marital therapist in NY. He is a graduate of Columbia Law School and University of N. Texas (Jerusalem branch) and is often published in various periodicals and magazines. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/275 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. Sakara: For a limited time Sakara is granting early access to their only sale of the year with 25% off sitewide with code IDOBLACKFRIDAY at Sakara.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Over 25% of Americans are experiencing an estrangement with a loved one or family member. This can negatively impact your romantic relationship and overall well-being. After years of studying family estrangement and rigorous research, Dr. Karl Pillemer has been able to find the common reasons families become estranged, and how they successfully repair these fractures. Through interviews with over 100 families who have repaired an estranged relationship, Karl has unique insights and knowledge to help us repair fractured relationships, and live a happier, healthier life.   In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with difficult and problematic in-law relationships Steps to take to repair a fractured relationship with a family member or loved one How to mend an estrangement and start having a better relationships with your family and friends Why fractured families can negatively affect your romantic relationship and how to prevent this Why coming to agreements and resolutions with estranged family members is not necessary to repair an estranged relationship And much more! Dr. Karl Pillemer is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. A world-renowned family sociologist, he spent five years studying processes of estrangement and reconciliation in families. His just-published book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, provides strategies and tips for healing family rifts. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/274 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
Judgement permeates our lives and we typically don't realize its large day-to-day impact. Listen to today's show to understand how judgement shapes our interactions with others, and how this understanding can improve our relationships. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How judgement shapes our lives and the interchanges we have with the people in our lives Judgements' role in our romantic relationships and the importance of fully understanding how we judge Why the closer we are to someone, the more we judge them How to communicate with your partner without negative judgements Why praise is a judgement that can sometimes be a negative remark for your partner How to praise your partner in the most productive ways And much more! Terri Apter is a psychologist and writer and Fellow Emerita at the University of Cambridge. Her work explores the secret worlds of family dynamics. She has authored many books including The Confident Child, which was awarded the Delta Kappa Gamma International Educator's Prize and Altered Loves, which was a New York Times Notable Book of the Year. Her most recent book, Passing Judgment: praise and blame in everyday life, highlights how daily exposure to praise and blame impacts on our relationships, from social media to marriage. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/273 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today!   AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.​ If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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Tommy Unger

this podcast has potential. the limits they have set really take away from the depth of the content. saying " each of those topics we skimmed over could have their own podcast" in multiple different episodes. you guys have more you can share. but I am getting the feeling that finances are an issue with why things are limited or withheld?

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Amanda Marie Amaya

this is so true

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Brittany Nicole Renner

really glad i found this!! thank you, #hopefullyicamrebuildhistrust

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Jackelyn Malament-Campolongo

Hello I am trying to play this episode but its saying the file is broken

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mimi 37

I had that every time I want to talk about something that concerns me and us , I get called out at crazy, retarded that really breaks me and I have told that, and standing my ground is giving me the silent treat since yesterday

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Sean Ratchford

this was extremely helpful...I'm having this problem in my relationship and its pushed me and my at the time girlfriend apart. I'm definitely down for trying this and seeing what results I can get. thanks for such a great episode

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VoidsOnly

I just wanted to elaborate on the core beliefs part of the podcast, now this is a little difficult to explain because me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, and already we are both 100% sure we are going to get married, and this is not because of the lovey dovey stage. We (from the beginning) have gotten along so well, so much that we never fight. (and I don't mean it like "we rarely fight") we've talked alot about having a family but in the beginning I was 100% against it, but I found that growing with my loved one has got me changing my mind. I am honestly deathly afraid of pain, and knowing about how painful giving birth is really scared me off from it, even as a kid , when some would dream of having a family, I wanted to steer far away from that. anyway, my point is that being in a beautiful and secure relationship has changed my way of thinking. It's incredible how the right person being in your life can effect you.

Sep 14th
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Hilde Wöhler

Hi! Does anyone know the name of the opening song? thank you!

Aug 30th
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Marcy-Rusty Smet

I can't believe this episode states porn use is "ok" and "normal" and that it can even positively impact a relationship. Are you serious?! Do some research on the harmful effects of porn. Porn also fuels the demand for sex trafficking! People should feel VERY ashamed if they are watching this garbage. It's NOT an "anti-masturbation" issue!! Porn is also incredibly fake. It puts these false ideas about sex into people heads (especially young people). It's not real! Talk openly to your SO about your fantasies, what you like/don't like and have fun WITH your partner. Leave the garbage out of it. Wow...you lost a listener because of this episode. I'm disappointed 🙁

Aug 23rd
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Sarah Allen

my partner is an alcoholic I'm so exhausted from lies and denial. it's been 2yrs I was so in love with him now I feel so sick when he kisses me or Trys to be sexual towards me I don't know if I love him enough to stay because he doesn't see he has an issue one bottle of 1ltr vodka a day

Jul 23rd
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Olivia Ioana Dejeu

I lovd your podcasts and they are supeeer helpful ! but this one..no offense but she was talking about completely other subjects and it didn't show a lot of knowledge on a lot of topics

Jul 20th
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Megan Amato

This is such a good episode!!!

Jul 16th
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San Dara

wow gives knowledge

May 19th
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Seliosa 🇬🇭🏳️‍🌈

Interesting episode! One thing that bothered me though was the use of the word "female". Maybe consider using "men and women" instead of "men and females".

May 2nd
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Dave Contarino

I wish he'd quit referring to couples as "opposite sex". These issues apply to same sex couples as well

Apr 22nd
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June Eaton

This is exactly like my husband and I! Omg thank you guys so much!!!!

Apr 21st
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Joseph Wells

thanks for this episode. my wife and I were strong Christians when we got married 13 years ago. I became an atheist and it's hard. I worry about my short life and want to grow and try new things. it unnerves my wife.

Apr 6th
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Whitney Rodden

Your opening question - the one you always ask - is redundant. Everyone gives a different version of the same reply. Skip it!

Mar 30th
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Anthony Savarese

lost me in the first 3 minutes. if you're going to talk about it, you should know your own five principles cold

Mar 24th
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Brandon Boyd

Amazing podcast. Thank you for all the help

Mar 1st
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