Relationship School Podcast

If you’re in the personal development space, chances are you’ve heard the term 'doing the work' thrown around often, but what does it really mean? Is there a right way to do the work? How can you gauge whether your personal development work is really having an impact? Jayson and Ellen share their insights about what it means to 'do the work' and touch on topics from intimate relationships and family to psychedelics and yoga along the way.   Timestamps: 5:14 - What does "doing the work" look like? 8:17 - The litmus test for personal growth 10:15 - Why intimate partnership is so important for personal development 16:25 - Holding more complexity 21:12 - Doing the work should have results  23:45 - The role of relational context Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson sits down with author, philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson, to talk about how you can reach your heroic potential. Brian shares Seven Objectives that you can implement today to supercharge your personal growth journey. Learn how to forge antifragile confidence, optimize your big three and dominate the fundamentals. If you want to master yourself and activate your superpower, this episode is a must listen. Timestamps: 4:35 - Who is Brian Johnson? 12:04 - Seven objectives 13:55 - Antifragile confidence 23:23 - Sidestepping lizards vs slaying dragons 27:03 - Dominating the fundamentals 32:00 - The victim inside 35:20 - Knowing the ultimate game 44:11 - Optimizing your big three 48:52 - Tips for learning and reflection 52:45 - Ambition 58:52 - Brian's advice for young people 1:04:57 - Action step Links: https://www.heroic.us/ The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Do you feel like you need to pick yourself back up? Jayson has a few words of encouragement for you today. All of us have an inner warrior that has gotten us through life’s trials until this point and Jayson offers two great tips for how to connect with that warrior part inside ourselves. He also shares a hack that can help you when life feels like it’s too hard. Tune in to learn how embracing hardship and getting out of your victimhood can help you meet life’s challenges. Timestamps: 3:20 - Warriorship 9:05 - How do you meet challenges? 11:18 - Embrace hardship 15:31 - Your life is yours to deal with Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Lisa Dion joins Jayson to talk boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much you struggle to say no can say a lot about how much you value yourself. You must have boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship. Timestamps: The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [6:38] The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine if there is a threat or challenge [8:34] What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [14:30] Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [17:43] The big fear we all carry in ourselves [23:15] The weakness many of us have when receiving a boundary request [23:12] What are the most common feedback signs our body gives us? [27:00] The three types of boundaries [32:06] Jayson issues a boundary challenge [45:08] Links: http://lisa-dion.com http://synergeticplaytherapy.com Enroll in Relationship Mastery Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook  

Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrepreneur? What drives entrepreneurs? Can you be addicted to stress? Are you afraid that you’ll lose your motivation if you do the inner work and deal with your issues? Listen to discover how both your relationships and your business can benefit when you stop letting stress and inadequacy drive you. Timestamps: 2:59 - What is an entrepreneur? 4:48 - Why do people want to coach entrepreneurs? 8:05 - How do entrepreneurs fuel their work? 19:49 - What does it look like to run a business in an integrated way? 24:11 - Can you get addicted to stress? 29:48 - Applying a growth mindset to every area in your life 31:24 - Advice for partners of entrepreneurs 36:09 - How being preoccupied causes issues in the family system 41:48 - Being proactive Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Xavier Dagba is a coach who focuses on shadow integration and trauma informed transformation. He has an inspiring story that emphasizes the power of listening to the voice inside and following your passion no matter the cost.  Why is shadow work so important? What can you learn from your imposter syndrome? Can envy ever be used in a positive way? Join Jayson and Xavier for a powerful conversation that will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. Timestamps: 4:08 - Who is Xavier? 15:15 - How can you learn to listen to the voice inside? 24:18 - Xavier's journey to becoming a mentor 31:07 - Shadow integration 32:41 - Working with envy in a positive way 39:22 - Fatherhood 51:40 - What can imposter syndrome teach us? 1:04:00 - Xavier's advice for kids 1:08:00 - Action step Links: Sign up for Jayson's free Connection Secrets webinar here! Find Xavier Dagba online here Enroll in Relationship Mastery Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Friends are some of the most important relationships in our lives, but some types of friendships help us grow more than others. Jayson explains why you need to cultivate friendships with people who are comfortable challenging you and who aren’t afraid to go deep. Learn why it's so important to have two of this type of friend and how you can set an intention to foster this type of friendship in the future. Timestamps: 2:21 - Friends that aren't great for you 3:48 - The type of friend that you need 8:03 - Why you need 2 of this type of friend 10:56 - Setting an intention to go deeper in your friendships Links: Sign up for Jayson's free Connection Secrets webinar here! Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Why do people get complacent in long-term relationships? Jayson and Ellen discuss a situation where a couple mutually decided to put their marriage on the back burner to avoid conflict. What are the drawbacks of using complacency as a coping mechanism? Is ignoring your relational needs in order to avoid conflict a sustainable long-term strategy? Tune in to learn how to break out of the complacency trap and get real with your partner today. Timestamps: 2:22 - Using complacency to avoid conflict 5:30 - Is being complacent okay if it reduces conflict? 7:29 - The drawbacks of complacency as a conflict avoidance strategy 8:37 - When relationship feels like a demand instead of a gift 12:38 - Complacency doesn't solve underlying issues 17:55 - Avoidant people need relationship too 20:22 - Is ignoring your emotional needs sustainable? 23:04 - Standing for three Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again… Timestamps: The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:30] What is the real issue here? [8:40] The problem with divorce/marriage research [12:20] What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:40] Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? There are two and we cover them in this episode with author Mark Manson. We also explore how Mark navigated a big challenge with his now wife and why self-improvement and self-awareness are so essential to long-term partnership.   Timestamps: 1:03 - Episode introduction 4:36 - Mark Manson's backstory 8:52 - Common issues and challenges 10:42 - Healthy boundaries 15:28 - How important is it for couples to have friends outside their relationship? 17:13 - Challenges in marriage and how to get through them 26:04 - Is respect more important than communication? 31:17 - How school ill prepares us for life 33:57 - What can we learn from people who have been divorced? 36:50 - Cultivating self-awareness 40:38 - Mark's preferred methods of introspection 42:54 - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck 46:24 - Action Steps Links: Mark Manson's website Masterclass Library Enroll in Relationship Mastery Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you. Timestamps: 4:04 - The story of the misattuned camper 11:38 - How our behavior impacts others 17:32 - Why our relationship to others matters 20:34 - Standing for three 21:48 - Keeping each other in mind Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships. Timestamps: 0:46 - Guest introduction 7:04 - Levels of development 9:33 - The five stages 17:12 - Relational development  20:41 - Four frameworks 25:28 - Working on yourself through relationship 27:34 - Spiritual development 30:56 - Doing relational work as a man 36:18 - Moving from doing to being 39:14 - Is distraction a defense mechanism? 41:56 - Being present with your kids 45:11 - Digital distractions 51:51 - Making Integral Theory digestible 54:59 - Dissolving polarity 58:46 - Escaping the maze of victimhood 1:02:17 - What are Mark and Jayson up to currently? 1:05:54 - Action steps Links: #281 - Lessons From A Navy Seal During Tough Times - Mark Divine Mark Divine's Website Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Enroll in Relationship Mastery Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections. Timestamps: 2:28 - What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson? 9:53 - Accepting challenges as learning experiences 13:20 - Don't lose your relationship to yourself 16:31 - What does Buddhism have to say about ending the cycle of suffering? 21:06 - What is The Path? 23:37 - What makes relationships a good development path? 26:11 - How long does it take for someone to understand relationship as a development path? 28:33 - Action steps Links: Relationship As A Path Foundations Course Apply to Relationship Coach Training Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this episode, Jayson discusses the importance of finding the right coach or therapist. He also explains why you should identify your readiness for change and clarify your specific problem before seeking help. Learn why you should prioritize practitioners who are not only trained in the area you’re targeting but also actively involved in their own personal growth. Find out how to spot the real gems among personal recommendations, endorsements, and online reviews. If money is an issue, Jayson has a great question to ask. Timestamps: 1:41 - Questions you need to ask as a client 11:17 - Couples work or individual work? 13:26 - Hire a specialist 15:57 - Find a therapist who is doing the work 17:41 - Results matter 20:16 - Good therapists and coaches get supervision 23:09 - How much personal experience does a coach or therapist need? 29:41 - How much should therapists reveal about their personal lives? 32:23 - Reputation 33:59 - Does paying more equal better therapy? 37:16 - Action step Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Uncover the captivating blend of art and science in relationship coaching. Join Jayson as he guides the way, painting a masterpiece of understanding, growth, and authenticity. Discover the science behind lasting happiness and the significance of deep connections for a fulfilling life. It's not just about belonging; it's about being truly known and loved. Step into a transformative adventure, mastering the art and science of coaching. Embrace your evolution, becoming a beacon of connection in a world craving relational leaders. Enroll in Relationship Coach Training now at relationshipschool.com/RCT. Start your transformative journey today, and become a catalyst for thriving, authentic relationships. Timestamps: 0:48 - What is relationship coaching and why is it important? 4:23 - The art of relationship coaching 12:31 - The power of the here and now 16:08 - The science of relationship coaching 17:04 - What we know about human fulfillment and life satisfaction 19:29 - The ACEs study 25:51 - Should you become a relationship coach? Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In our latest episode, Jayson talks with Layne Norton, a distinguished figure in health, fitness, and personal development. Listen to their candid discussion on compassionate communication, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy relationships. Layne's emphasis on breaking free from restrictive food rules and embracing a balanced, joyful relationship with nourishment reflects his dedication to empowering individuals to achieve their health goals. Watch this inspiring episode to learn more and discover how exercise and weightlifting can transform your life, especially after age 40. Timestamps: 0:45 - Introduction 3:33 - How did Layne Norton get into evidence-based fitness and nutrition? 7:37 - Areas to focus on for long-term health 9:55 - How to avoid eating too much 13:05 - How tracking your food intake can help you make better choices 15:35 - How do you measure food? 20:54 - The ACEs study 30:25 - Empathy and accountability 32:40 - How important is doing the inner work in terms of health? 35:10 - How did Layne's experiences with bullying impact his life trajectory 42:45 - Why is exercise so important for people over 40? 51:30 - Layne's thoughts on food rules 1:01:00 - Why is fiber important? 1:07:40 - Just start doing the little things 1:09:55 - Layne's relationship advice for high-school students 1:12:00 - Where can people find Layne? 1:13:10 - Action steps Links: Layne Norton's Website Carbon — Smart Diet Coach Follow Layne Norton on Instagram Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Are you ready to break free from the chains of victimhood and embrace empowerment? Join Jayson and Ellen in this episode as they dive deep into the complexities of fault versus responsibility. They also discuss the struggle between victimhood and authorship. Explore empowering perspectives, real-life stories, and learn how to transform challenges into personal growth opportunities. You won't want to miss this as they challenge the norms compassionately, fostering self-reflection and self-discovery without blame. Find out what got Ellen saying "Honey, We Should Have Talked Before You Posted.” Timestamps: 0:53 - Fault vs. responsibility 3:25 - Context 7:00 - Why do people get attached to their victim stance? 16:51 - Finding your part in painful experiences 27:48 - Learning about yourself through painful experiences 32:43 - When to take responsibility 35:23 - Why does resilience vary between people? 43:00 - What you gain by transcending your pain 45:43 - Dealing with victim dynamics as a coach or a therapist 51:20 - How Jayson deals with his victim consciousness 54:09 - Personal development vs. forgiveness 58:58 - Moving from victim to author Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

A brave, smart couple shares their darkest period and how they worked through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years and then adds in a child to the mix will pretty much get rocked. Tripp (host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp) and Alyson (psychotherapist, relationship coach) share what happened and how they got through it. From their day-to-day check-ins, emotional distance, and meltdowns to transforming their sex life after kids, we imagine you’ll be amazed and inspired, and hopefully you will walk away with some actionable practices you can implement in your own relationship.  Timestamps: 7:40 - Guest introductions 10:08 - How did Tripp and Alyson meet? 22:23 - How to deal with it when things are "off" 28:09 - Learning from conflict 31:55 - Learning curiousity 32:40 - Challenging moments 50:53 - Advice for getting through hard times 1:01:03 - How to keep your sex life alive 1:21:10 - Where to find Alyson and Tripp 1:22:47 - Action steps   Links: The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp AlysonLanier.com TrippLanier.com Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Join Jayson and Ellen’s in-depth chat as they talk through listeners' questions in this Ask me Anything episode. Betty asks about a tough financial situation, Jean is looking for tips on how to break the toxic cycle of always being told it's your fault by their partner, Christy is struggling to differentiate between love addiction and being in love, and Alyssia is looking for advice on how to handle mixed messages. Tune in as they offer guidance on creating a strong foundation based on mutual respect to build healthy and fulfilling relationships. Timestamps: 1:12 - Financial conversations 14:05 - Space in a relationship 17:40 - Love addiction vs. being in love 29:23 - Mixed messages Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery The Most Important Question To Ask To Determine If You Are Compatible - Jayson & Ellen - 372 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Join Coleman Hughes and Jayson as they discuss the multifaceted aspects of the anti-racist movement, evaluating its progress and identifying areas of improvement. Coleman Hughes is a writer, musician, opinion columnist, and host of the popular podcast Conversations with Coleman. His work focuses on race, public policy, and applied ethics. Through this engaging discussion, they strive to foster meaningful conversations, challenge assumptions, and pave the way for a more inclusive and harmonious society.  You won't want to miss this episode, so tune in now. Timestamps: 4:19 - Who is Coleman Hughes? 5:46 - Jayson's past exploring different viewpoints 8:48 - How does Coleman think about race? 12:29 - Anti-racist thought leaders, past and present 16:09 - The impact of social media 21:25 - Has the modern anti-racist movement made progress? 26:00 - How do we deal with racism? 30:19 - Root causes 36:04 - Tribalism 43:51 - Coleman's advice for white people 50:47 - Affirmative action 53:14 - Positive vs negative life outlooks 56:48 - Coleman's advice for highschool students 58:47 - Action steps Links: colemanhughes.org twitter.com/coldxman youtube.com/@ColemanHughesOfficial Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Enroll in Relationship Mastery Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook