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Author: Chase & Sarah Kosterlitz

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I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. Our weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode we will interview amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. Our guests will provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more. Join us on our journey to create lasting love!
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199: Food For Thought

199: Food For Thought

2019-05-2200:47:31

We eat multiple times, everyday — by our self, with friends, family and partners. The ways in which food affects our daily lives and relationships goes deeper than we realize. Listen to today's show to better understand your relationship with food and its ties to your romantic relationship.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding your personal relationship with food How food can become a control issue within your relationship Eating with purpose and mindfulness Communicating about food in your relationship And much more! Dr. Dara is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Rapid Resolution Therapist, Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Author who appears on numerous media outlets. Dr. Dara grew up as a collegiate competitive tennis player. She chose the field of psychology because she is passionate about the specific areas of peak performance, peace of mind and accelerated healing coaching. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/199 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lively: Lively offers bras and undies that provide the perfect combination of high-style and ultimate comfort. For a limited time, get $10 off your first order by visiting wearlively.com/ido and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $379 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout.  That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don’t go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
The connection we have with our friends can be just as important as our connection with a partner. However, balancing our friendships with our romantic relationships can be difficult. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with all parties and balance our friendships with our romantic relationships.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How are friendships can change as we enter new stages of life and how to deal with this.  Stepping away from your romantic relationship for restoration and time to nurture friendships.  Balancing the guilt about being away from your romantic partner and/or kids.  Friendships with other couples.  And much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/198 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ForHers: Get you first month of birth control for just $5 right now while supplies last (and subject to doctor approval). See website for full details. Go to ForHers.com/ido. Restrictions apply, see website for full details and safety information. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
We often talk about how technology can negatively impact your relationship. Well it's not all bad news! There are somethings that can help your relationship. Today's guest tells us how we can use tech and knowledge from this show to improve our relationships.   In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to stay emotionally connected to your partner through open ended questions Creating traditions and rituals for better connection and a happier relationship Checking in with your partner to see what you're doing right and wrong.  How to accommodate our individual desires to really feel seen and like we truly know our partner And much more! Liz Colizza is in private practice as a psychotherapist and parenting educator in the Saint Louis area. She is also a researcher and program designer for Lasting Labs, and is passionate about helping couples and individuals to build healthy relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/197 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $379 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout.  That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don't go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that's not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The myth that men always want to simply have sex for primarily sexual reasons How sex can be a bid for connection What to do if there is mismatched sexual desire in your relationship Why feeling desired can be a large part of men's sexual lives And much more! Sarah Hunter Murray is a relationship therapist with a PhD in Human Sexuality. She is the author of the new book "Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, & Relationships." Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/196 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors   Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Openfit: Right now during the Openfit 30-day challenge, our listeners get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit. You will get full access to Openfit – all the workouts and nutrition information,  TOTALLY FREE by texting IDO to 303030. Standard Message and data rates may apply. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
If you're like us, Tantra is a practice we don't know much about. In fact, up until now, our misconceptions had prevented us from exploring this ancient practice. Our guest today enlightens us on the benefits of incorporating Tantra into your daily relationship routine and how Tantra can help your relationship in the bedroom and interpersonally. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of sitting with your partner in the moment and how Tantric practices can help us do this. Establishing sexual rituals in your relationship. Why the goal of sex should not simply be orgasm. Easy tips to introduce Tantric sex techniques into your relationship. And much more! Catherine Auman, LMFT, is a spiritual psychotherapist and the Director of The Transpersonal Counseling Center in Los Angeles, California. She has advanced training in traditional psychology, as well as the wisdom traditions. Catherine lived for a year at the Osho ashram in India - a full-time immersion in tantra and meditation - and she has studied and practiced tantra, love, sex, intimacy and seduction with numerous teachers. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/195 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lively: Lively offers bras and undies that provide the perfect combination of high-style and ultimate comfort. For a limited time, get $10 off your first order by visiting wearlively.com/ido and enter the promo code IDO at checkout.   Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
We all have a basic human desire to feel loved and connected to others. Our needs and expectations can often get projected onto our partner, and we may become disappointed when these needs aren't met. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate better with your partner and get back that loving feeling!   In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The big mistake individuals make when trying to get more love and connection with their partner. Becoming aware of your expectations from your partner. Establishing a clear need and proactively asking for it from your partner. Creating habits to love our partners better. And much more! Dr. Samantha Smithstein is a clinical psychologist in San Francisco who specializes in relationships and intimacy and living your best life. She has been in practice for over 20 years. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/194 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ForHers: Get you first month of birth control for just $5 right now while supplies last (and subject to doctor approval). See website for full details. Go to ForHers.com/ido. Restrictions apply, see website for full details and safety information. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
Money — it's the number one cause of marital stress. It can lead to terrible arguments, resentment and even divorce. Don't let your relationship suffer from the common affliction of money arguments. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to talk with your partner about money in a productive way that won't hurt your relationship.    In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:   Why money is such a personal issue for people and can lead to feelings of being attacked or controlled by our partner. Learn how you and your partner personally relate to money to better talk about it with each other and come up with money compromises. How to prevent financial infidelity. The importance of completing a 'needs analysis' each month and how it can save your relationship. And much more! Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, have dedicated their lives to helping others strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience, they launched The Money Couple and are regulars on national TV and radio and speak internationally about love and money. Scott and Bethany enjoy an active lifestyle in Colorado with their two young sons, Cole and Cade. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/193 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit  SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
192: Don't Worry, Be Happy

192: Don't Worry, Be Happy

2019-04-0600:48:363

Happiness is all the rage these days. Top 10 lists for things to do to live a happier life are abundant in our social media feeds and online articles. So why do we feel so unhappy sometimes? Relationships and how you're navigating them hold a huge key to living a happier life. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to work toward a happier relationship and happier life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How our addiction to screen time is fueling loneliness, disconnection and unhappiness in our lives. How reminders, repetition and ritual can help fuel the changes we want in our lives. The importance of embracing painful emotions. Becoming aware of the fact that you're comparing your life to that of others. And much more! Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD, taught the largest course at Harvard, Positive Psychology, and the third-largest, The Psychology of Leadership, attracting 1,400 students per semester—approximately 20 percent of all Harvard undergraduates. For the last fifteen years, he has taught leadership, happiness, and mindfulness to audiences around the world. He is the co-founder of the Happiness Studies Academy and author of six books, including the international bestsellers Happier and Being Happy, which have been translated into more than twenty-five languages. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/192 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
191: Rebound Relationships

191: Rebound Relationships

2019-03-2700:49:073

Breakups suck. Whether you've been dumped or you broke off the relationship, feelings of shame, sadness, desperation and loss can arise. Along comes the 'rebound' relationship and we're back on the crazy love train again. Listen to today's episode as we debunk some of the myths surrounding rebound relationships and how to best navigate them. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the desire to be attached affects our desire for a new rebound relationship Is it wrong to get into a rebound relationship right after a breakup? Learn the healthy response to a break up and establishing a new relationship Why the cliche, 'time heals all wounds', is a bit mistaken Gaining new perspectives and experiences through a new relationship And much more! Dr. Mary Lamia is a clinical psychologist and professor in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of five books, and blogs for Psychology Today and Therapy Today websites. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/191 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full-sized Caution Mascara! Experience unparalleled, next-generation performance by visiting HourglassCosmetics.com/IDO, and use promo code IDO at checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
Are you religious and your partner is not? Maybe the other way around? The landscape is changing and you don't have to share your partner's religion or be religious at all. Listen to today's episode and learn how to navigate religion in your relationship. It will be valuable whether you're an atheist or a devout follower! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The debate around interfaith marriages How religion can become irrelevant in your relationship  The control issues surrounding religion in your relationship Tolerating the differences between you and your partner Raising kids with religious compromises between you and your partner And much more! Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We’re All Like This” (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/190 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
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San Dara

wow gives knowledge

May 19th
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Seliosa 🇬🇭🏳️‍🌈

Interesting episode! One thing that bothered me though was the use of the word "female". Maybe consider using "men and women" instead of "men and females".

May 2nd
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Dave Contarino

I wish he'd quit referring to couples as "opposite sex". These issues apply to same sex couples as well

Apr 22nd
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June Eaton

This is exactly like my husband and I! Omg thank you guys so much!!!!

Apr 21st
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Joseph Wells

thanks for this episode. my wife and I were strong Christians when we got married 13 years ago. I became an atheist and it's hard. I worry about my short life and want to grow and try new things. it unnerves my wife.

Apr 6th
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Whitney Rodden

Your opening question - the one you always ask - is redundant. Everyone gives a different version of the same reply. Skip it!

Mar 30th
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Anthony Savarese

lost me in the first 3 minutes. if you're going to talk about it, you should know your own five principles cold

Mar 24th
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Brandon Boyd

Amazing podcast. Thank you for all the help

Mar 1st
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Jenica Frye

loved this style of episode. felt like I was able to relate with this so much!

Feb 25th
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Nidhi Dogra

the voice is not clear in any of the podcast. I wish it could be better. it's really distracting

Feb 23rd
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Essy SHIRO

I think if you guys left each other at a good note with no feeling attached then you can be friends. But if you still have feelings for your ex then you should not lie to yourself because you can NOT be friends. great podcast

Jan 29th
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Chael M

it's always been a no for me

Jan 24th
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Benyamin Asgari

no🤣

Jan 21st
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motivated19

love this!

Jan 15th
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Chris Petrovich

I'd really like to hear more from Sarah during the episodes. not just ads intro and outro oh, also I think Chase talks out of his ass a lot I'd like to hear more from the therapist haha

Jan 10th
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Whitney Rodden

Needed this. Thanks!

Jan 5th
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Aiden Lawson

I need advice

Dec 27th
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Alec Loy

please fix your speech impediment

Dec 11th
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Renee Burrows

Zhdj scc

Dec 11th
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Desiree Guzzo

I cant sign up for the 14 day challenge. PLEASE FIX!!!!

Dec 8th
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