ResponseABLE Parenting

In this episode I answer a question off Instagram: “How to manage my emotions when establishing time boundaries?”  I talk about the difference between a boundary and an expectation. And how to clearly set both. I share 5 different steps to take in order to set both you and your child up for success. You’ll hear mindset shifts and you’ll get practical strategies on how to engage your child once the boundary has been crossed and the power struggle has begun (as the clock ticks away). If you would like further examples or want to be a guest on the podcast please submit your questions in the link below.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

In this episode I talk about the difference between control and trust. And how we have been so conditioned to control the process, control the outcome, control our children’s behavior. Because left to their own devices things haven’t gone well in the past. But the more we control, the less time they have to practice, to fill up their own control bucket, to show us through their actions how capable they truly are.  I offer a new way of thinking about control and some guidance on how to slowly release the reins and give your children the opportunity to show how much they care about this relationship as well.   FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter  VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup    BE A GUEST!If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Hear from the Founder of Good For You Girls (a toxic-free skincare line that supports kids through puberty and beyond). Our discussion ranges from the challenging food and product options for our tweens/teens as well as how to have empowered conversations about the hormonal changes they are experiencing. Kimberly shares wonderful ways to stay connected, alert, curious, and how to move through this delicate time without shame and feeling empowered. Tune into this very important conversation!  Kimberly has offered my listeners a promo code: RESPONSEABLE20 for 20% off her product line.  Head to GoodForYouGirls.com to check out her products and scoop some deals before the holidays!  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter  VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup    BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

*Trigger warning at minute marker 7:30 I share a story of my stillbirth.* In this episode I share a very vulnerable and tender moment I had with my strong willed kid. He did something impulsively that pushed on all my buttons. And instead of having a corrective conversation we ended up having one of the most honest and connective moments. I was able to recognize that my desire to control his behavior is rooted in a deep fear that I will lose him just like I lost his brother.  My control and perfectionism have morphed and are now showing up as protection. This was a beautiful moment between us and we were able to really see each other after this conversation.  I hope you feel seen as well and I look forward to connecting further with you.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter  VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you’re losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup    BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

The phrase “feel your feelings” has become this negative trope used to make parents, who are really trying to do things differently, feel weak and shameful about their choices.  I hear all the time “Oh you’re one of THOSE parents who allow feelings…” As if thats a BAD THING!?  In this week’s episode I talk about how allowing both yourself and your child to feel your feelings (yes even the “bad” ones) is a radical act. And why it should be the focus of all interpersonal relationships, not just parenting! If you are ready to dive into this process and want the guidance and support I share in this podcast please either DM me on Instagram @ ResponseABLEParenting or email me at beck@responseableparenting.com  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

In this episode we explore a phrase my therapist told me back in 2020. “You need to change in order for ME to feel better.”  I feel like this phrase helped me see every situation differently. I began to understand my responsibility in each relationship. What I brought to the dynamic that was either healthy or not.  And I was able to really start a journey of self-discovery and accountability to show up the way I wanted to in each interaction. If this resonates with you and you’re looking to do this work alongside a coach I would be honored to talk with you. You can DM me on Instagram @ ResponseABLEParenting or email me at becky@responseableparenting.com  This work matters so much, not just to benefit your children. But to heal parts of you that have kept these relationships from reaching their full potential.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

In this episode I share 3 major reasons why yelling is so effective. I share why it works so well with our kids and why it’s likely a tool you’ve been using in your parenting. I also dive into the effects and why this habit of ours deserves to be reevaluated and overhauled.  I share 3 effective strategies to implement INSTEAD of yelling and how you can take baby steps in the direction of getting rid of yelling. Just remember, you are a good parent EVEN IF YOU YELL! This is a well worn habit and we are simply in the process of replacing our behavior with a new one that feels better for both us and our children. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

In this episode I share why I dislike the umbrella term “connection over correction” and why I think it’s doing parents who are really trying a disservice.  I share what it looks like to use connection as a tool and how to connect to yourself so that you can connect to your children. I hope you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you are trying and not failing after listening to this episode.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

“When I’m in a relationship with his behaviors there is less for me to see and love and adore and protect. But when I put that down, it opens my eyes to all the things that make him special, unique that I love and want to protect in him!” - Amanda Doyle, We Can Do Hard Things This quote hit me hard. It reminded me of the years I had invested into removing unwanted behavior and how I was exclusively focused on the behavior, not the child in front of me. In this episode I talk about how we can begin to separate the behavior from our child. And steps we can take as their safe caregiver to understand their behavior more clearly and how we can get curious and connect with them in order to fall back in love and connection with our child vs. focus only on their behavior.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

I made a post a few weeks ago about my son negotiating with me in the pool for more pool time. I walked through the scenario and shared THE WIN of how he held his end of the agreement EVEN THOUGH he had an impulse to jump back in.  Since that post I’ve received 100s of messages from mostly men talking about how I should have solved that problem with physical violence against my son. They got dark. Very dark. And in this episode I address that.  The comments show a society of adult men who were not taught how to deal with frustration. Men who were not taught how to deal with the discomfort from another person’s perspective. And a generation of men who were taught that if they don’t get their way, if someone pushes back even slightly, that the way to maintain your position of power is violence.  In this episode I share why it is so important to teach all children how to deal with frustration but specifically our sons. Who are being raised with the same outdated tropes that it’s not manly to cry, to feel, to have emotions.  This has to end.  If you would like to work with me and join me in my mission to support the next generation in a better way, please reach out to me.  Either connect on Instagram @ ResponseABLEparenting  Or email me: becky@responseableparenting.com I look forward to supporting you and your family in a healthier way.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Teaching our kids the ways of the world from value based boundaries vs. consequences and yelling is NOT easy. In fact, it’s way harder. But it is worth every bit of effort.  In this episode I share a personal story of watching my son understand the boundaries and how he put it into practice while playing a game with his brother.  My hope in sharing this is to give you a beacon of hope. This is a moment I will hold onto forever as I remember that this part of him is alive and well inside, I just need to nurture it more and continue giving him the opportunity to practice.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.  https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

Hey mama, do you have a strong willed kid? Are you curious if they’re defiant, have a behavioral disorder, or are just here on this planet to make your life miserable?! I get it, I’ve been parenting a strong willed child for 7+ years now and I know the roller coaster that it is.  In this episode I break down the 5 key markers I’ve noticed with strong-willed kids. I have a feeling you’ll recognize several of these with your own kiddo.  I also invite you to take a look at The Strong-Willed Language inside of The ResponseABLE Parenting Community. In this ongoing series I will break down the ways to connect, communicate and support yourself and your strong-willed child so that we can stop the screaming matches, reduce the power struggles and actually enjoy having the time with these amazing kids! I cannot wait to see you there and support you further! You can join the community below and head right to the Strong-Willed Language section! Don’t forget to use your code PODCAST for $10 off your first month.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids. Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I am so excited to share this interview with you. Rachel Marie Martin is an author, entrepreneur, speaker and mom to SEVEN yes you heard me SEVEN children!! She shares her story of how she felt lost in motherhood, a pivotal moment in her life where she chose to prioritize herself and how she’s been able to move through life even when people questioned her because she trusted that spark.  I invite you to listen and see yourself in her story. You can find Rachel at FindingJoy.net  On Instagram @finding_Joy And Facebook https://www.facebook.com/findingjoyblog Rachel's Book GET YOUR SPARK BACK comes out 8/27/24 everywhere books are sold! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids. Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Back to school is upon us! If you have a stage 5 clinger like I do, this can be a hard moment for both them and you. This morning I had to fight back some tears as well and put on a sturdy face so I could support my son on his first day in a new school and new grade.  In this episode I share how to help your children feel more safety inside during this transition. I also share a few rituals that have helped me in the past and ways to stay grounded as the parent.  I wish you all the best of luck as we all head back to school! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids. Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

In this episode I piggyback off of Episode 47 which talks about our low self worth loops as parents. This episode talks about that inner feeling, that inner knowing that you have to shed an old belief system in order to truly step into the parent that you want to be.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

I am so excited to share this episode with you! I do a deep dive into what my community looks like! I share the 5 stages inside the community and what you could expect from each stage. I share that no matter where you start, there is no shame, no expectations of how fast you grow or how you “perform” inside this community. The community group is my baby :) I have designed this space to give you endless opportunities for growth and support. A place where you can feel seen, feel heard and understood maybe for the first time in your parenting journey. So that you can shed the parts of parenthood that do not serve you and truly step into your path. A path that feels joyful, simple, less triggering, less chaotic, less guilt ridden.  The beauty of this community is right now - it’s in its infancy. YOU get to shape the content and the direction! YOU share with me what's going on, what you need, where you’re frustrated or struggling and I will build the path for you to follow so that you can move through this without as much struggle, pain and confusion.  I truly cannot wait to connect with you and take your parenting journey even deeper!  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

I have said many times that threats, bribes, consequences and punishments don’t work very well. And I get A LOT of feedback (nice way to say nasty comments 😉) in my feed about how these are necessary to teach our kids how to be “real world ready.” And how else are they going to learn how to act appropriately if they don’t have punishments when they act out of turn? This episode addresses just that!  I share in this episode how I’ve been able to remove threats, bribes, punishments and imposed consequences AND how I’ve been able to teach the lessons, instill the values and teach my kids how to act appropriately without all of that!  I share my system of value based boundaries and how our “bubble” gets bigger and smaller based on their abilities to live inside these values.  It’s a shame-free framework that works so well and I’m excited to share this with you!  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community  BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I share a vulnerable moment in time for me in this episode. My oldest son and I are not jiving and the frustration is level 10 what seems like most of the day…and most days. I can do all the work in the world and sometimes it’s a simple visual that helps me in moments of conflict, chaos and challenge.  We often find ourselves facing two paths in parenting. One is so incredibly easy to take because we’ve been there so so so many times. It’s easy because our neural pathways are strong and deep and the pattern has been repeated so many times. But it doesn’t feel right and many times we are simply at a crossroads, unsure of how to handle the situation.  This episode is about that crossroads.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is currently closed. Subscribe to the podcast and stay tuned for the next time the doors open :) BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  

I love this episode not just for the really simple visual to help calm us down in a moment of mom rage but because the visual was brought to me by my late son Jackson. In this episode I walk you through a grounding visual that will help settle you in the heat of the moment and remind you of what your goal is on this responsive parenting journey.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is currently closed. Subscribe to the podcast and stay tuned for the next time the doors open :) BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

In this episode you get to hear from Play Therapist Kimberly Bartlett. We talk about effective play strategies to really engage your kids in a different way. She shares simple and actionable tips that will help you in the most challenging moments with your kids.  Kimberly Bartlett is a dedicated professional in the field of play therapy, holding the titles of Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor™ and Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker. As the owner of Evergreen Play Therapy in Seattle, she channels her passion into utilizing Integrative Play Therapy techniques to facilitate transformative change and growth in children and families. Through this approach, she creates a nurturing space where healing, self-expression, and skill development thrive. I’m excited for you to take a listen and get to know Kimberly! If this podcast speaks to you, please email me becky@responseableparenting.com , share with me what's going on for you and we can get on a call together to see what coaching could look like for you.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping!  Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling  This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is currently closed. Subscribe to the podcast and stay tuned for the next time the doors open :) BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5