Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast

Many men are quickly labeled “sex addicts,” but that label often misses the deeper issue: an intimacy disorder rooted in the need for validation, connection, and belonging. In this episode we are joined by friend and fellow Recovery Coach Rodney Vaughan for an honest, nuanced conversation about love addiction—and how it differs from (and overlaps with) pornography and sex addiction.We unpack how love addiction shows up in real life—constant romantic pursuits, exaggerated emotional dependence on women, affairs, flirtation, and an inability to be alone—while avoiding shallow, behavior-only explanations that leave men stuck.In this episode we cover:The difference between porn addiction and love addictionHow dopamine, fantasy, and validation function differently in eachWhy male loneliness and lack of male affirmation fuel addictive cyclesThe role of recovery groups and deep male friendships in real healingIf you’ve quit porn but still feel restless, emotionally dependent, or constantly chasing connection, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually leads to change.Get Started NowDownload the Free Quit Porn Quick-Start Guide to identify your patterns, understand your triggers, and take your first concrete steps toward freedom:👉 https://rscky.com/quickstartConnect with UsCoaching, resources, and next steps: https://rscky.comFree Online Community: https://rscky.com/communityIf this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs it—and follow the show so you don’t miss future conversations.

Recovery from porn and sexual brokenness is brutal work. If you try to grind your way through it without joy, you’re going to burn out. In this fourth and final part of our community series, Michael and Nick unpack celebration as the fuel that keeps you going in the long haul of recovery.They dig into how God actually designed us to be sustained by goodness, joy, and shared life with other people—not just white-knuckling sobriety alone. You’ll hear how biblical celebration, Sabbath rhythms, and simple shared meals can become anchors of hope in what is often the hardest thing you’ve ever done.Resources & links:📘 Free Quickstart Guide: rscky.com/quickstart🌐 Learn more about coaching and groups: rscky.com📲 Follow on Instagram:Michael – @mikekamberNick – @nickwbudaIf this episode was helpful, follow the show, leave a rating or review, and share it with someone who’s in the trenches of recovery. It really does help more people find the podcast.

When porn blows up a marriage, the spouse’s world doesn’t just wobble—it shatters. In this conversation, Michael sits down with Lindsey Blair, a betrayal-trauma coach, to spell out what spouses actually experience after discovery or disclosure, what “safety” looks like in real life, and how couples can rebuild trust without gaslighting, rushing, or bypassing pain. If you’re a wife feeling “crazy” or a husband who doesn’t get why this hurts so much, this one’s for you.About our guest — Lindsey BlairBetrayal-trauma coach who works with wives navigating the aftermath of a partner’s sexual acting out and pornography use. Empathetic, practical, and anchored in Christian soul care.We talk aboutWhat betrayal trauma is (and isn’t): the violation of trust inside an attachment relationshipDiscovery vs. disclosure and why both are disorientingWhy wives often feel shock, fear, anger, grief, and like they’re “going crazy”—and why that response makes senseHow processing pain over and over is normal (not nagging)What “safety” actually means in early recovery and how to rebuild itWhy husbands must drop defensiveness and show up with humility + curiosityThe difference between supporting healing vs. trying to fix your spouse“Betrayal blindness” (Michelle Mays) and giving yourself permission to name harmA Christian frame: James 1 and building endurance/resilience without minimizing painResources mentionedThe Relational Soul (Plass & Cofield)Concept of “betrayal blindness” (Michelle Mays)CrossPoint Ministry Soul Care NetworkConnect with LindseyEmail: lindseymblair79@gmail.comScheduler: Book time with LindseyWork with Michael / Restoration Soul CareDownload the Reclaim Quick-Start Guide to quit porn and rebuild trust: rscky.comCoaching, groups, and resources: rscky.comDM Michael or Nick on Instagram @mikekamber @nickwbudaIf this episode helped, share it with someone who needs it and leave a review. Don’t do it alone. Get help, get honest, and take the next step today.

You do take up space in people’s lives. You do “bother” your spouse. Good. Do it on purpose and do it with love!This episode dives into what it actually means to care for others in community—especially in recovery. Michael and Nick unpack how love isn’t just a feeling, but a choice to seek another’s good at your own expense. They talk about why presence matters more than fixing, how to receive love before trying to give it, and why isolation always kills growth. It’s an honest look at how real connection—spiritual, emotional, and physical—is built one intentional act of care at a time.In this episode we coverFour kinds of love (fast + useful): phileo (friendship), storge (family allegiance), eros (passion; notably not used in the NT as a verb), agape (God’s self-giving love)Agape made concrete: John 13–17; “no greater love” = your good at my expensePresence > fixing: why texting isn’t enough, why a phone call is better, and why in-person is best (“borrow the calm”)Bearing burdens without controlling outcomes: Gal. 6:2 as the gut-check for real careReceiving before giving: if you can’t receive love, you’ll have nothing real to offer (Luke 7:36–50)Emotional presence for men: what it looks like to sit with anger, sadness, fear—without fixing or fleeingCompassion as an anchoring emotion: Jesus with the Samaritan woman (John 4); attunement before adviceStop the “pornified” quick fix: community is cultivated, not hacked—take the first small step and stayLinks & resourcesFree Quick Start Guide: rscky.com/quickstartCoaching / Next Step: rscky.comInstagram: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda DM “FREEDOM” on IG to get connected.If you’re new hereStuck in isolation? Start small. Show up somewhere this week. Ask one person for coffee. Say, “I don’t need you to fix anything—just be with me.”

How to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and deep biblical insight to a conversation that bridges faith, neuroscience, and emotional healing.They explore:Why shame never leads to true change—and how vulnerability does.The connection between neuroscience and spiritual transformation.Why both men and women are impacted by today’s pornified culture.How cognitive and biblical truth align in the process of healing.Practical steps to take every thought captive and retrain your brain.If you’ve struggled with pornography, shame, or unwanted sexual behavior, this conversation will give you hope and a clear path toward freedom.🎧 Listen now and remember: Don’t do this alone.🔗 Resources & Links:Restoration Soul Care – Coaching, groups, and resources for recoveryEvery Thought Captive – Kyle IdlemanThe Quit Porn Quick Start Guide - Michael Kamber Follow Michael on Instagram: @mikekamberFollow Nick: @nickwbuda

Rejection stings for a day. Regret owns you for years.If you’re tired of hiding, this episode hands you the lens—and the guts—to choose freedom.Episode SummaryShort, punchy solo from Michael on the trade-off we all face: the short-term pain of rejection vs. the long-term weight of regret—especially in porn recovery and relational healing. We hit shame (healthy vs. toxic), integrity vs. approval, and why connection—not white-knuckling—is the exit ramp.What You’ll LearnHow fear of exposure (toxic shame) keeps you stuck and isolatedWhy “avoid rejection” is secretly building lifetime regretIntegrity vs. approval: the real cost of playing it safeA simple way to reframe rejection as feedback (not a verdict)Practical prompts to move toward honest, connected relationships todayReflection PromptsWhere are you currently avoiding rejection?Which relationships are honest and safe vs. image-managed?What single conversation would move you toward integrity today?If nothing changes, what regret are you building a year from now?Free Resource (Start Here)Quit Porn Quick Start Guide — frameworks and practices Michael uses with clients: rscky.com/quickstartWork With UsCoaching & inquiries: rscky.comIG: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda

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Tired of check-ins that change nothing? Rethink accountability as a posture of growth, not a shame report.Most guys treat accountability like a shame-based check-in: “Did you look at porn this week?” The problem? Shame can’t fuel long-term recovery—it only drives you back into isolation. In this episode, Michael and Nick reframe accountability as a posture of ownership and growth, not just a software report or weekly interrogation.We unpack why shame-based motivation fails, what real accountability looks like, and how to start inviting others into your journey in a way that builds honesty, safety, and lasting change.ResourcesLearn more and join the email list: rscky.comInstagram: @mikekamber | @nickwbudaInterested in free online groups? Fill out the contact form at rscky.com and mention “online groups.”

Loneliness isn’t weakness—it’s a signal that you were made for connection. It shows up as heaviness in the body, withdrawal in the mind, and the ache of not being known. Scripture makes it clear: loneliness isn’t sin; it was present even in Eden before the fall. The danger is when we ignore it—turning to isolation, porn, or surface-level distractions that only deepen the ache. But when we name it, loneliness can lead us toward intimacy with God and others. The invitation is simple: reach out, be honest, and remember—you don’t have to do this alone. 👉 Grab the free 5 Triggers Guide at rscky.com

Honesty + Vulnerability + Risk = TRUSTMost guys stuck in porn live in self-deception: “I can quit anytime,” “No one has to know.” That lie keeps you isolated. In Part 1 of our Community Series, Michael and Nick break down why trust is the foundation of real recovery and how to build it with three ingredients: Honesty, Vulnerability, and Risk.You’ll also get a simple tool—the 4D Check-In (Head • Heart • Body • Spirit)—that you can use this week with a trusted friend. Community won’t just happen on its own; you need to schedule it, guard it, and show up.Don’t do this alone. For resources and coaching, visit rscky.com. Connect with us on Instagram: @mikekamber | @nickwbuda.

👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide hereShame doesn’t just say you messed up—it says you are the mess. It fuels secrecy, isolation, and addiction. But it’s not the voice of God.In This EpisodeThe difference between guilt and shame.How shame shows up in your body and relationships.The core need underneath shame: belonging.What Scripture shows us about God’s response to shame.Why shame never leads to transformation.👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide here

Ready for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com.Fear isn’t weakness. It’s not the enemy. It’s a signal—and most of the time, it’s pointing to what you care most about. But if you don’t face it, it will run your life in the background, driving you right back to porn. In this episode, we expose the real fear beneath the urge and give you a better way to respond.🔥 What You’ll Hear:Why fear is actually trying to protect you—not paralyze youHow porn becomes a way to avoid emotional riskThe difference between real danger and perceived threatThe childhood root of “if I feel afraid, I’m not safe”The cost of spiritual bypassing and false peaceHow fear drives control, performance, and numbingA better way to respond to fear with curiosity and courage🛠️ Practical Takeaways:Recognize fear as a signal, not an enemyTrace what your body does when fear shows upJournal the “What if…” stories running your anxietyPractice naming your fear instead of shaming itUse your breath to calm your nervous system before respondingRemember: Bravery is not the absence of fear—it’s showing up anywayShare this episode with someone who’s tired of letting fear call the shots.Ready for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com or connect with Michael on Instagram: @mikekamber

Michael and Nick unpack the three biggest mistakes they made trying to quit porn—self-managing in isolation, hiding behind half-truths, and relying only on filters. They share how those approaches failed and why real recovery requires honesty, safe relationships, and a whole-person approach to healing.Visit rscky.com for more help and resources

Download the Free Guide HereAnger isn’t the enemy—it’s a messenger. In this episode, we unpack the truth about anger: where it comes from, what it’s trying to protect, and how most men either explode, implode, or numb it out. You’ll learn why anger is actually a signal that something important is being threatened—and how to respond with power instead of destruction. We look at how Jesus expressed righteous anger and why yours doesn’t have to be sinful either. If you’ve ever been told to just “calm down” or “be nice,” this one’s for you.Download the Free Guide Here

For more help and practical resources, visit rscky.comMost men trying to quit porn are looking for a quick fix. But the real battle isn’t about white-knuckling willpower—it’s about facing toxic shame and self-contempt head-on. In this episode, Michael and Nick dig into the difference between guilt, shame, and toxic shame, and why so many men live trapped in cycles of self-hatred without even realizing it.We share raw personal stories of confession, grace, and what it actually looks like to move from isolation into healing relationships. We unpack Genesis 3, the prodigal son, and the scandalous grace of God that clothes us in something far better than our own fig leaves.You’ll learn:The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame.Why self-contempt keeps you stuck in addiction.How courage, humility, and safe relationships break the cycle.Practical steps to begin opening up without crushing your spouse.If you’ve ever felt like you deserve punishment, struggle to receive grace, or can’t shake the voice of self-hatred, this conversation is for you.

Download the Guide HereMost of us avoid sadness like the plague. We numb it, bury it, or try to outrun it — and in the process, we cut ourselves off from what it’s trying to tell us. In this first episode of our Triggers Guide series, Michael and Nick unpack why sadness isn’t a weakness to “get over” but a vital signal pointing to loss, love, and connection.You’ll hear how avoiding sadness fuels addictive cycles, why Jesus’ invitation to “mourn with those who mourn” is a path to healing, and practical ways to sit with sorrow without drowning in it.If you’ve been told to “man up” and push through, this conversation will help you slow down, name what’s been lost, and discover the freedom that comes when you actually let yourself feel.What you’ll learn in this episode:How sadness works as a relational signal, not just an emotionWhy shutting down sadness leads to anger, numbness, or acting outSimple practices for engaging grief in a healthy, God-centered wayDownload the Guide Here

If you’re stuck in the cycle of porn use and tired of white-knuckling your way through recovery, this episode gives you a clear, gospel-centered path forward.Michael & Nick unpack 4 powerful principles from Scripture to help you break free from pornography:Redeemed – You are not your past. Christ has given you a new identity.Replacement – Real change means putting off the old self and putting on the new (Eph. 4:20-24).Resolute – Porn can’t have even a hint of space in your life (Eph. 5:3-7).Reliant – You need God’s armor to fight this battle, not just willpower (Eph. 6:10-13).This episode is for Christian men ready to reclaim integrity, restore wholeness, and actually win the war for sexual purity.👇 Listen now and take the next step.Links & Resources:🔗 Book your free recovery consult: rscky.com📲 Follow Michael & Nick on Instagram: @mikekamber @nickwbuda @restorationsoulcare🎙 Subscribe for weekly content on porn recovery, emotional health, and spiritual formation.

You say you want to quit porn. But do you really?In this episode, Michael and Nick get honest about the brutal truth most guys avoid: you’re not stuck because you’re weak — you’re stuck because you haven’t fully committed. You’re still trying to manage the behavior instead of surrendering it.We dig into:Why “trying” is a dangerous mindsetThe real (unspoken) reasons guys stay attached to pornWhat actual commitment looks like in recoveryHow to spot when you’re still bargaining with the behaviorA direct challenge to stop half-assing your healingThis one’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s tired of the cycle and ready to draw a real line in the sand.Connect with us: @mikekamber @nickwbuda @restorationsoulcare

If prayer alone could fix your porn problem, it would’ve worked by now. But for most men, prayer becomes another way to avoid the deeper emotional and relational work required for real freedom.In this episode, we expose how spiritual bypassing keeps you stuck—and what it actually looks like to partner with God in your healing instead of outsourcing it to Him.We walk through:Why “giving it to God” often just means avoiding your painHow real prayer rewires your brain—if it’s honestWhat emotionally honest, healing prayer actually sounds likeWhy you can’t do this alone (even with God on your side)How to start praying with your full, unfiltered selfIf you’ve been praying for years but still struggling with porn, this episode will help you confront the truth—and start healing from it.🔗 Resources MentionedFree Emotional Triggers Guide — Learn how to identify and work with your internal cues instead of escaping themBook a Free Call — If you’re tired of trying to fix this alone, let’s talk about what actual support looks like👥 Connect With UsInstagram: @mikekamber @nickwbudaWebsite: rscky.com

Hosts: Michael Kamber & Nick Buda🚨 What You’ll Learn:Real strategies to break free from porn addictionHow to build emotional strength without numbing outTools to reconnect with your body, your story, and your faithWhy most men stay stuck—and how to get unstuck for good🧠 Key Takeaways:Feelings are not the enemyThey’re signals pointing to what you actually need.Sobriety ≠ healingTrue freedom comes when you stop managing symptoms and start addressing the root.Your cravings are cluesWhat you run to reveals what’s missing. Learn to pay attention.📘 Free Resources:Emotional Triggers Guide → https://www.rscky.com/5-emotional-triggersPrivate Recovery Community → https://www.rscky.com/discordBook a Call → https://www.rscky.com/getstarted🔥 Connect with Michael & Nick:Instagram → @mikekamber | @nickwbudaYouTube → @michaelRSCWebsite → rscky.com⚠️ Disclaimer:This podcast tackles real issues—addiction, trauma, faith, and recovery. It’s raw, honest, and not for the faint of heart.