What if being emotionally unavailable in your marriage isn't a character flaw but a survival pattern you learned as a boy? I sit down with Jay Tibbs, a relationship coach who knows what it's like to be emotionally shut down and what it takes to crack open. Jay breaks down the "realm of existence" most men are completely blind to, not because they're weak, but because they were trained out of it. From boyhood, we learn that emotions are dangerous, that feeling makes you less of a man. But h...
What would you actually have to face if you couldn't reach for your phone for the next eight days? Every time something gets uncomfortable, a tense moment with your wife, an emotion you don't want to feel, or just the weight of your own thoughts you grab your phone. You turn on the TV. You find a distraction. You've built an entire life around avoiding the hard stuff, and it's making you weaker by the day. Alessandro brings on Hamid Ebadi, a counselor and silent retreat facilitator who strips...
Did your wife's tone this morning feel like a punch to the gut? What if the problem isn't her, but the boy patterns you're still running? Alessandro breaks down the four boy behaviors that silently wreck marriages and keep men stuck in patterns they learned decades ago. These aren't surface-level habits. They're the deep-seated reactions that make you defensive, seeking attention, or quietly hoping she'll just handle your emotions for you. Alessandro pulls from Dr. Arne Rubenstein's boy...
What if trying so hard to be a "good man" is actually turning you into the worst version of yourself? Alessandro sits down with wellness coach Mikah Jones to unpack a pattern wrecking modern men: the fear of being perceived as a "bad man." Not bad like your father was. Bad in any way that might disappoint the women in your life. This fear keeps you trapped. You say yes when you mean no. You walk on eggshells. You lose your backbone one compromise at a time. Mikah reveals why most men measure ...
In this episode, she breaks down the concept of relationship intelligence: the emotional skills most of us were never taught. We talk childhood patterns, emotional manipulation vs leadership, and why love alone won’t hold a relationship together. This is a clear, practical conversation for anyone ready to lead in love instead of survive it. Connect with Railey: https://bio.site/raileymolinario https://www.instagram.com/raileymolinario ⬛️ Free emails to fix your marriage: 👉 https:/...
Dr. Scott Brennan is an Olympic gold medallist and former emergency doctor who became a stay-at-home dad. In this conversation, we talk about: The male mentor who changed his life The vow he made at his coach’s coffin How he anchored himself under extreme pressure What emotional regulation looks like when everything’s on the line How he dealt with public failure and deep personal disappointment And the decision every man faces the one that could cost you your family This episode is honest, gr...
Andy Grant, host of the popular men's health podcast "Real Men Feel" joins me on STFUAL to talk about his story, feelings and energy. Check out Andy's website here: https://theandygrant.com/ 👉 Explore Men's Coaching with a Free 15 Minute Call 👉 Kill Your Defensiveness with my Comprehensive Workshop 👉 Heal from Burnout with my 5 Module Audio Course 👉 Apply for the Retreat of a Lifetime with the Better Husband Retreat WhatsApp: +3...
This episode is the why behind the viral post that hit 3.5 million views in 48 hours. I break down all 20 habits—line by line—with the deeper truths behind each one. These aren't just catchy phrases. They're blind spots that quietly weaken men every day. From avoiding conflict to waiting for permission, I explain how these patterns form, what they cost you in your relationship, and how to shift them—without becoming a cartoon version of “alpha.” If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t...
What if the real crisis in men’s mental health isn’t illness—but disconnection? In this episode, I sit down with Xavier Rousset, a filmmaker and advocate whose life was changed by psychedelics. We talk about the stigma surrounding drugs, the rise of depression and anxiety, and why the current mental health system only reacts once men hit rock bottom. This is a powerful conversation about healing, connection, and the potential of psilocybin to help men reflect, reset, and return to what matter...
What happens when being smart isn’t enough? In this episode, I sit down with Roy Wang, a man who could always figure things out intellectually but struggled when it came to emotional connection and conflict. We talk about what it really means to be emotionally mature, especially in relationships, and how high-functioning men often avoid vulnerability by staying stuck in logic. This is a raw conversation about control, defensiveness, emotional shutdown, and how to finally break free from the m...
In this solo episode, I go headfirst into one of the most damaging lies we've been fed: that masculinity and femininity no longer exist. That we're all the same. That difference is dangerous. But it’s not sameness that creates attraction. It’s polarity. It’s not neutrality that gives us strength. It’s clarity. I talk about what happens when we erase the masculine and feminine—and what gets lost when men stop being men and women can’t relax into being women. If you've ever felt like you're doi...
What if your biggest blind spot isn’t your trauma—it’s your temperament? In this episode, we sit down with Corbin Billings, the speaker and messenger behind the Personality Color Matrix, a mind-blowing framework that unpacks your emotional coding using six colour energies: three warmth-based, three strength-based. Corbin didn't invent this model—his mom did after decades in family crisis counseling. But he's taken it next level, helping thousands see through their emotional blind spots a...
In this episode, I sit down with Phillip Schmadluk—coach, psychology grad, and one of the deepest thinkers I know—to talk about the ego traps that keep men stuck, and the power of surrender that sets us free. We dive into what it really means to “understand yourself and the world around you”—not as a self-help cliché, but as a radical act of presence, curiosity, and honest-as-fuck introspection. From mushroom trips to mirror neurons, from head noise to heart truth—this one’s a journey. We e...
Most men think they have a mindset problem. What they really have is an emotional backlog. 🧠 In this episode, I sit down with Jarrah Volpe—a trauma-informed somatic therapist and men's work facilitator—for a raw conversation on why the body breaks down when we refuse to feel. Jarrah shares his personal story of unravelling decades of masculine conditioning—how the pain he ignored showed up in his body, and what finally cracked him open. His journey isn’t just relatable—it’s a mirror. We unpac...
In this episode, I sit down with Jillian Scott—host of the Hungry for Love podcast—to talk about emotional eating, shame spirals, and why so many men soothe their pain with food, porn, alcohol, or endless scrolling. We unpack what it really means to break the cycle—not by chasing discipline, but by learning to listen to what your emotions are actually asking for. Jillian shares powerful insights about hunger, self-soothing, unmet childhood needs, and the emotional weight men carry in silence....
In this episode, I sit down with Sean Carey—author of A Single Dad’s Comeback—to talk about what happens when you hit rock bottom and realise no one is coming to pull you out. Sean shares his story of surviving an emotionally destructive marriage, rebuilding his identity after losing everything, and the hard-won 6-step path he developed to reclaim his clarity, resilience, and self-respect. This conversation is raw, grounded, and brutally honest. We go into fatherhood, addiction, taking radic...
Most men aren’t numb—they’re emotionally untrained. In this episode, I sit down with Morteza Chalak—a men’s coach who works with guys caught in resentment, nice guy patterns, and self-abandonment inside their relationships. We talk about why most men trade truth for sex, collapse their boundaries to “keep the peace,” and end up feeling disrespected, unmotivated, or secretly angry. Morteza shares powerful frameworks for leading without control, setting boundaries without drama, and rebuilding ...
Most men aren’t numb—they’re emotionally untrained. In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Matthew Lowe to unpack the condition most men have never heard of—but live with daily: alexithymia—the inability to name what you’re feeling. We talk about why men explode, go quiet, avoid intimacy, or numb themselves with food, porn, anger, or withdrawal—and how emotional language isn’t weakness, it’s the first step toward real power. Matthew shares metaphors, stories, and tools to help ...
What actually happens when a group of men commit to meeting every week? In this episode, I sit down with Wouter van de Velde—my co-host of the Mallorca Men’s Club—to unpack the biggest surprises, lessons, and breakthroughs we’ve seen from running our weekly men’s group. Whether you’re thinking about starting your own men’s circle, or just want to understand the power of this kind of space, we walk through 10 clear, actionable steps for creating a group that actually works. If you’ve ever felt...
What if your biggest business mistake isn’t the strategy, the offer, or the audience… but your state? Tristan Rushworth isn’t just another startup mentor. He’s a man who’s seen how most entrepreneurs burn out—not because they lack tools, but because they never learned how to regulate their nervous system, manage comparison, or stay connected to what they actually want. In this episode, we go deep into the emotional and energetic cost of building something big. You’ll learn how to build a bu...