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Get the insights you need to see, understand, and make good decisions and changes to manage the difficult, toxic–often disturbing–relationships with the people Dr. Shaler calls Hijackals®!
The Relationship Help Show: Move From Pain to Power - offers the insights, strategies, and skills you need to recognize what's really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Relentlessly difficult people and relationships in can cause you to constantly second-guess yourself and question your sanity.
Get relationship advice directly from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Learn from her expert guests. Each one has a very unique voice on solving relationship problems with particularly difficult people
Are these relationship issues on your mind? This show has answers!
- Are you with a Hijackal? Free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, Hijackals.com
- Want to know how your relationship can shift and you can grow closer?
- Or, need to know if it's time to leave?
- Need insights into troubling behavior patterns?
- Want to deepen your emotional intimacy?
- Need to distance yourself from toxic people?
- Can't communicate...or someone won't?
- Trying to figure out what's your problem and what is theirs?
- Does every conversation quickly become an argument?
- Have you been discarded by a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal?
- Are you with one? Or, leaving one?
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2Sometimes they are hard to see... they don't really look red, or they're not very big... But don't ignore them. This quick episode will identify major red flags you NEED to pay attention to.
Aside from the co-parenting, there are other details its important to say mindful and aware of when divorcing a Hijackal and you share children. Protecting your children's emotional and mental health needs to be top of the list in this process.
What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex
Recognizing when a Hijackal is trying to control you - especially when you feel like it's "normal" - is an important skill to getting your personal power and sense of self BACK.
This archive audio is from Dr. Shaler's Dec 12/2016 Facebook Live video - which you can also watch here: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor/videos/1108716749241004/
There are big, sometimes scary and nerve-wracking, steps involved in divorcing anyone. Going through that opposite a Hijackal can be even more treacherous. You need to have all the information... and all the strategies... at your fingertips. Watch for more installments of this feature.
Accepting responsibility for allowing drama to continue in your life is the first step to putting an END to it. The patterns and persistence of drama and manipulation in a relationship are not hard to spot. What can be hard is deciding where your boundary is, and holding it strong. Listen in and learn about expressing your boundaries in effective ways.
Where is the line between simply being strict or rigid, and being abusive? It can be a very fuzzy line, and it's important to be able to recognize it so you can protect yourself from it. And if you've already experienced it, taking your life back from it. Abuse is about power. In all instances. It's not ok.
Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives. When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a person who does not respect them, you leave yourself open to a world of potential pain. In this segment we discuss how and why we end up giving up boundaries, and what we need to do to reset and STICK to them.
Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse. Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO. For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too close to black others.
Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Dr. Christine Baumgartner
Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes??
Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.
High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.
Are you experiencing verbal abuse in your relationship? Not sure? Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help for an in depth interview with Patricia Evans, a specialist in verbal abuse.
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