Scar Tissue

In this raw and honest conversation, I’m breaking down what it really takes to grow and succeed in business today. The conversation includes essential insights on branding, consistency, and how to manage your emotional landscape as a leader. Whether you're grappling with how to scale, building a personal brand, or wondering how to show up authentically, this episode is packed with actionable advice. I also touch on why grief and entrepreneurship are intertwined, and how facing the tough moments of life can be the catalyst for the next level of success. If you’re ready to take your brand to the next level in 2026, this episode is for you.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:The importance of consistency in branding (and why it’s about more than just colors and fonts)Why relationships are a major catalyst for growth in businessHow to create a brand that’s trustworthy and reliable for the long-termWhy every founder needs to go “all in” — even when it’s uncomfortableHow to navigate the emotional ups and downs that come with building a businessThe secret to mastering your brand’s message — and the content that drives itWhy you can't wait for the "perfect" moment to build your businessHow to lead yourself through growth — and why seeking out the "burn" is essential for progressThe difference between boundaries and avoidance, and how to set them without weaponizing them Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

 This conversation takes you behind the curtain of Scar Tissue, the creative process, the vulnerability, the strategy, and the soul work. We break down what makes a launch successful, why your “triggers are your teachers,” and how to stop taking everything so personally (especially in business). From ghosting to growth, this is an honest look at what it means to build, lead, and love in real time.In this episode, you’ll learn:What it’s really like to publish a deeply personal bookHow to move through fear, resistance, and vulnerabilityThe business side of a launch and what most people get wrongWhy your triggers are your teachers and how to use them for growthThe relationship between leadership, ego, and worthinessThe difference between people-pleasing and authentic compassionHow to balance masculine and feminine energy in business and relationshipsWhy creativity requires space  and how to actually make itConnect with Me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugoleckiIf you loved this episode, share it with someone who needs a reminder that business, relationships, and healing are all connected. And don’t forget to rate and review Scar Tissue, it helps us reach more people who need these conversations.  Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

This conversation is a masterclass in reshaping your inner operating system so health, wealth, and connection become your lifestyle, not another to-do. Gary shares how childhood coping patterns fueled success and burnout, why you can never have your way into being, and the simple reframes that brought his family closer than ever. We walk through his three pillars, the mentors who changed his life, and the prompt that can unlock your deepest relationship patterns in minutes. If you have ever felt stuck between ambition and intimacy, this is your invitation to build both. In this episode, you’ll learn:How to stop “shoulding” on yourself and shift from external validation to inner alignmentThe being, doing, having sequence and why most entrepreneurs run it backwardHealth as a lifestyle: metabolism reset, sleep quality, and energy that powers your businessWealth that runs on rails: what a virtual family office is and how it simplifies decisionsConnection beyond gifts and getaways: practices that create safety, intimacy, and funA two-question writing exercise that reveals your core relationship blueprintWhy "what" is in the way is the way, and how to use resistance as your teacher Connect with Gary Kadi:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gary.kadi/ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue creating meaningful content. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki  Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this heartfelt and deeply honest conversation, Mike and I unpack the layers of grief, identity, and ego that come with reinvention. We explore how grief isn’t just about death; it’s about every place in life where expectation and reality don’t align. From navigating a major career pivot to learning how to release control, this conversation is about the power of witnessing your own transformation without bypassing the pain that comes with it.In this episode, you’ll learn:What “chosen grief” really means and why we all experience itHow to let go of who you thought you’d be and make space for who you’re becomingThe difference between toxic positivity and true emotional supportWhy grief can exist even when we “get what we want”How to find purpose and peace after endings in business or lifeThe link between ego death, humility, and sustainable growth Connect with Mike Michalowicz:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikemichalowicz/     If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue creating meaningful content. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this episode, you’ll hear:How grief has influenced my business and life in unexpected waysThe truth behind the "soft girl era" and how to show up authentically without pressureNavigating the balance between masculine and feminine energy in business and lifeThe importance of embracing discomfort and being true to yourselfWhy you shouldn’t put your joy on pause, no matter where you’re at in lifeThis episode is packed with insights about being unapologetically you, navigating life’s hardest moments, and how to continue building something powerful even when things feel uncertain.This conversation with Angie Lee is incredibly special to me. We dive deep into the impact of grief and how it’s led both of us to transform in ways we never expected. I open up about my own journey of personal and professional growth, the importance of doing the work, and how I finally started to embrace my authentic self. Together, we explore the messy middle, the space between where we were and where we’re going and how to navigate that discomfort.  Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this conversation, Jilly and I dive deep into how the energy of water mirrors so much of our inner wisdom in business and life. Jilly shares her experience of building a seven-figure business, healing from trauma, and stepping into her feminine power while navigating the world of high-performing entrepreneurship. We talk about the importance of boundaries, the energy of the sacral chakra, and why truly understanding your body is key to finding alignment and success in everything you do.In this episode, you’ll learn:How to embrace your feminine energy while leading in businessThe concept of “water codes” and how water holds memory in our bodiesHow Jilly’s journey of celibacy helped her tap into deeper creative energyThe power of vulnerability and how it fuels personal and professional growthWhy slowing down can actually speed up your successHow to stay in alignment with your values and discern when to push forward or restConnect with Jilly:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/waterheiress/?hl=en• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/waterheiress/• Website: https://msha.ke/waterheiressIf you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue creating meaningful content.Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

Emily Ford opens up about the challenges of navigating life and business when you’re in the messy middle, that period of uncertainty and transition. She shares how her life changed when she left a seven-figure business to explore what truly lit her up, and how she faced the discomfort of building something new. From trusting the process to breaking down personal limitations, Emily's story is an inspiring example of surrendering to your true calling.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why the messy middle is a necessary part of growthHow to let go of limiting beliefs and break down internal barriersThe importance of creating from a place of authenticityHow to trust the process and embrace discomfort on your journeyWhy branding isn’t just about what you do… it’s about who you areHow to combine both masculine and feminine energy in businessConnect with Emily Ford:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsemily/?hl=en• Website: https://meetemilyford.com/If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue creating impactful content.Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this episode, Daniel G. shares how he built a high-energy personal brand, embracing his true self along the way. He gets real about the highs and lows of entrepreneurship and why building a brand based on validation doesn’t work. If you’ve ever wondered how to grow your brand without waiting for permission or struggling to figure out who you’re really serving, Daniel’s insights will speak to you. This episode is for anyone ready to take action and show up consistently, even when it feels hard.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why showing up consistently, even when no one’s watching, is key to building your brandHow to embrace your true voice and stop waiting for validationThe importance of knowing exactly who you’re serving and how to attract themWhy building your brand around approval won’t get you farDaniel’s story of going from DJing to sales training and brand buildingHow to stay true to yourself while scaling your brandConnect with Daniel G:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielg/?hl=en• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DanielGShow• Website: https://thesalesgamebook.com/If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who needs to hear it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue creating content that makes an impact.Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

This episode is a behind-the-scenes look at how to scale your income and influence while keeping your mission at the center. Chris shares the turning point that changed his trajectory, the truth about masterminds and how to make them worth it, and the steps to plant seeds for opportunities that may not bloom for years. Whether you are just starting your business or leading a multi-million dollar company, you will walk away with new ways to think about possibility, money, and legacy. Connect with Chris Harder:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswharder/• Podcast: https://chrisharder.me/podcast/ Scar Tissue Secret Access Link:👉 https://speakingofmelissa.com/mcm#section-r8vbMb8E_z5This is your private invitation into the Mentor Collective Mastermind, the coaching program Chris and I partner on. It’s the only place I coach marketing now, and it’s designed to help you scale your business with clarity, strategy, and support.If you enjoyed this episode, please share it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps spread this mission and message to more listeners.  Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

This episode dives deep into the balance between doing our best and doing the work, reflecting on Melissa’s personal growth and grief journey. Melissa shares valuable insights on overcoming challenges, setting boundaries, seeking support, and finding joy in the journey. Whether you’re navigating grief or striving for personal growth, this episode offers universal lessons and actionable advice to help you stand in your power. Highlights: • [0:09] Introduction: Melissa welcomes listeners and reflects on the journey. Emphasizing the importance of showing up and opening up to new possibilities.• [1:02] Episode Theme: The episode focuses on understanding the balance between doing our best and putting in the necessary work, questioning if doing our best is enough.• [2:19] Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing: Melissa revisits previous discussions about toxic positivity and the need for balance between effort and self-compassion.• [3:15] Starting the Podcast: Melissa shares her initial struggles with starting the podcast, highlighting the emotional and energetic challenges she faced and the support she received from her podcast editor.• [4:13] Doing Our Best vs. Complacency: Melissa explores the fine line between doing our best and using it as an excuse for complacency or avoiding necessary growth.• [5:47] Enabling vs. Empowering: The importance of recognizing when we are enabling ourselves versus empowering ourselves to grow and develop.• [7:00] Physical and Emotional Fitness: Drawing parallels between physical exercise and emotional growth, Melissa discusses the need to push beyond comfort zones without burning out.• [8:11] Seeking Support: The value of coaches, mentors, and advisors in helping us see our blind spots and grow our capacity to do our best.• [9:28] Accumulating Wins: Encouraging listeners to focus on small wins and incremental progress to build momentum and avoid overwhelm.• [10:19] Reflection and Growth: Emphasizing the need to reflect on our efforts, embrace our journey, and find joy in the process, even during challenging times.• [11:44] Setting Boundaries: Melissa advises on setting boundaries with others and being compassionate with ourselves to protect our energy and ensure personal growth.• [12:31] Closing Thoughts: Melissa expresses gratitude for the listeners’ support, encourages feedback and episode requests, and highlights the importance of rating and reviewing the podcast to spread Leyden’s light. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this episode of “Scar Tissue,” Melissa Dlugolecki sits down with her friend and fellow entrepreneur, Alex White. Alex shares his journey of personal growth, the importance of authenticity, and how aligning your actions with your values can lead to a fulfilling life. They dive deep into the significance of taking action, learning from mistakes, and the various forms of capital we build through our experiences. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will inspire you to live a life true to yourself. Introduction:• Host Melissa Dlugolecki introduces the podcast, emphasizing the power within our pain and scars.• The goal is to leverage these experiences to create massive impact and live authentically.• Guest Introduction:• Melissa welcomes Alex White, a thought leader, serial entrepreneur, and lifelong learner.• Highlights of Alex’s background and their four-year friendship.• Discussion Topics:• The power of putting yourself in challenging environments.• Importance of authenticity in personal and professional relationships.• Alex’s journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a successful entrepreneur.• The role of sports, music, and theater in Alex’s personal development.• Transition from self-help consumption to taking actionable steps.• Aligning actions with values and the importance of personal responsibility.• Navigating the fear of failure and embracing mistakes as learning opportunities.• The concept of ‘experience capital’ and how to leverage it.• Values at different life stages and aligning them with actions.• The significance of evolving values and the impact on personal growth.• Key Takeaways:• Living authentically and staying true to your values is crucial.• Embrace failures as part of the journey to mastery.• Continuous personal development and aligning actions with values lead to success.• Building strong, meaningful relationships enriches both personal and professional life.• Call to Action:• Reflect on and define your core values.• Align your actions with your values to reduce stress and increase fulfillment.• Take intentional steps towards personal growth and development.• Conclusion:• Melissa expresses gratitude to Alex for sharing his wisdom and experiences.• Encourages listeners to tune into future episodes for more insights and inspiration. Key Quotes:1. “Authenticity over everything.”2. “People are afraid to take accountability and then take action because they know they’ll be responsible for whatever comes next and that’s scary.”3. “Failure is not the definition of that end result. It is part of the process.”4. “We are worthy of everything, but entitled to nothing. It is up to us to create it and to create from a place of love, opportunity, possibility, and authenticity.” Timestamps and Highlights:• [0:00] Introduction• Melissa welcomes listeners to the podcast and introduces her guest, Alex White.• [1:16] Meeting Alex White• Alex White is introduced as an entrepreneur, father, and lifelong learner.• Melissa shares how they met through a mutual community.• [2:08] The Power of Environment• Discussing the importance of putting yourself in environments where you can connect with like-minded people.• [3:25] Alex’s Background• Alex shares his upbringing, involvement in sports, and early life experiences.• [4:42] Starting a Training Business• How Alex’s journey led him to start a training business and focus on mental and emotional skills.• [6:02] The Endless Loop of Self-Help• Alex and Melissa discuss the trap of consuming self-help content without taking action.• [7:00] Taking Responsibility• The shift that occurs when you take accountability for your own thoughts and actions.• [8:03] Lessons or Wins• Embracing the philosophy that every experience is either a lesson or a win.• [10:03] Mastery Through Failure• Understanding that the path to mastery involves learning from failures.• [12:23] Different Types of Capital• Melissa and Alex discuss relationship, financial, time, and experience capital.• [15:04] Aligning Actions with Values• The importance of aligning your actions with your values to reduce stress and anxiety.• [18:04] Alex’s Current Values• Alex shares his top values: family, personal development, and impact.• [20:19] Finding Friction to Identify Values• How identifying areas of friction in your life can help clarify your values.• [22:24] Defining Your Values• The importance of defining what your values mean and how they show up in your life.• [27:28] Living a Not Normal Life• Embracing a life that is not dictated by societal norms.• [28:12] Knowing When to Stop• Alex shares his approach to stopping things that don’t work, regardless of external expectations.• [30:05] Trusting Yourself and the Process• Building self-trust and distinguishing between intuition and ego.• [33:15] Reflecting on Your Life’s Data Points• An exercise to identify and learn from the high and low points in your life.• [37:00] Evolving and Letting Others Evolve• Giving yourself and others the space to grow and change.• [39:08] Creating New Content and Learning from Mistakes• Encouraging listeners to take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them. Action Steps:• Write Down Your Values: Identify and write down your core values. Reflect on what they mean and how they show up in your life.• Evaluate Your Highs and Lows: Draw a timeline of your life and note the high and low points. Reflect on what led to these points and what you learned from them.• Take Action: Stop consuming self-help content passively. Start taking actionable steps towards your goals. Connect with Alex White:• Instagram: @howstrongisstrong• YouTube: How Strong is Strong• Company: Peak Human Performance Final Thoughts:Melissa emphasizes the importance of putting yourself in environments that foster growth and making meaningful, expansive relationships. She encourages listeners to take action, embrace their journey, and not be afraid of making mistakes.Rate and Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please share it and take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Your support helps spread this valuable content to more listeners. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

Episode Highlights:• 00:00:00 - Scar Tissue introduction• 00:02:06 - Melissa reflects on the personal and medical challenges faced during her daughter Leyden’s illness.• 00:17:01 - The pivotal moments that transformed Melissa’s grief into motivation for personal and professional success.• 00:25:18 - Discussion on guilt, grief, and the power of taking radical responsibility for one’s healing.• 00:34:02 - Melissa shares the impact of holistic health on her grief journey and the transition into entrepreneurship.• 00:38:01 - Insights into how grief can be leveraged for personal growth and service to others.• 00:50:18 - Melissa emphasizes the importance of community and individual responsibility in the healing process. About the Podcast:“Scar Tissue” explores the lessons learned from overcoming significant life challenges. Hosted by Melissa Dugalecki, each episode encourages listeners to turn their hardships into opportunities for personal and communal growth. Meet the Host: Melissa Dugalecki integrates her personal experiences of loss into a broader narrative of empowerment and resilience, inspiring her audience to embrace life’s trials with courage and authenticity. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this deeply moving episode of “Scar Tissue,” host Melissa Dlugolecki explores the profound journey of grief and transformation with Dr. Aimie Apigian. Through their discussion, they delve into the complexities of grief, the power of self-love, and the transformative impact of personal tragedy on professional and personal growth. Highlights:• 00:00 - Introduction to the podcast’s theme of transforming pain into growth.• 01:17 - Dr. Aimie Apigian welcomes Melissa, who shares her unique and difficult journey of losing a child and how it has shaped her approach to life and coaching.• 02:34 - Insight into Melissa’s background and the tragic loss that redefined her life’s path.• 07:00 - An in-depth look at Necrotizing Enterocolitis (NEC), the disease that affected Melissa’s daughter, and its impact on her family.• 10:18 - How personal loss intertwines with professional endeavors, transforming Melissa’s approach to business coaching.• 20:04 - The pivotal role of personal mission in navigating life’s toughest challenges.• 27:31 - Discussion on the relationship between grief, love, and the journey of healing.• 33:27 - How to support others in their grief without imposing one’s own processes or timelines.• 49:00 - Closing reflections on the power of personal stories in fostering understanding and growth. About the Podcast:“Scar Tissue” is a podcast dedicated to uncovering the strength and resilience within all of us, as shared through the personal stories of those who have faced significant challenges. Hosted by Melissa Dlugolecki, each episode is a testament to the transformative power of facing our scars and using them as a catalyst for personal growth. Meet the Host:Melissa Dlugolecki is more than just the host of “Scar Tissue”; she is a beacon of hope for many. Through her podcast, she shares her journey from the depths of grief to finding her mission in empowering others. Her story and the stories she brings to light inspire listeners to embrace their own struggles with courage and to find the transformative power within their scars. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this inspiring episode of “Scar Tissue,” host Melissa Dugalecki introduces Lauren Courtney, an enigmatic figure whose life transcends traditional labels. From her beginnings in corporate America to becoming a spiritual guide and healer, Lauren shares her transformative journey of embracing her multifaceted identity and the profound lessons learned from navigating significant personal loss. Highlights:• [00:00] Introduction to the episode.• 00:01:17 - Introduction to Lauren Courtney, discussing her unique blend of talents and the difficulty of labeling her expansive role.• 00:02:19 - Lauren shares her philosophy that everything she does is a form of art, whether it’s healing, cooking, or creating visual art.• 00:03:04 - Discussion on the importance of living a life that is not ‘normal’ and embracing paths that defy conventional labels.• 00:05:00 - Lauren talks about her transition from a structured corporate role to pursuing a life aligned with her passions as a holistic health coach and spiritual advisor.• 00:07:04 - Exploring how personal loss catalyzed a deeper spiritual awakening and shift in career path.• 00:10:26 - Addressing the complex emotions of grief and guilt, and how to move forward authentically.• 00:14:18 - The value of personal responsibility and gratitude in personal growth and healing.• 00:23:03 - Navigating the ‘shadow’ aspects within spiritual and healing communities.• 00:31:00 - Conversations around toxic femininity and masculinity, and the personal work required to navigate these energies.• 00:41:36 - How listeners can connect with Lauren and learn from her experiences and teachings. About the Podcast:Scar Tissue is a podcast that delves deep into the challenges of life, offering listeners transformative insights and stories of resilience. Hosted by Melissa Dugalecki, each episode invites you to explore personal growth and self-realization through the lens of those who have faced their scars and emerged stronger. Meet the Host:Melissa Dugalecki shares her journey from grief to empowerment, weaving her personal losses into her professional life as a coach and mentor. Her stories of overcoming adversity and embracing authenticity inspire listeners to face their own challenges with courage and integrity. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

00:00:00 - Introduction to the episode and a brief recap of the concepts of leveraging pain as a tool for personal and communal growth. 00:01:30 - Melissa recounts the painful yet transformative experiences following her daughter Layden’s death, focusing on overcoming the feelings of punishment and unworthiness. 00:02:35 - Discussion on building the muscle of self-trust and focusing on one’s mission without external validation. 00:04:46 - Erik delves into the universal battle between our rational and irrational thoughts, emphasizing the importance of nurturing the ‘angel’ voice to combat the often louder, negative ‘devil’ voice. 00:08:44 - Strategies for maintaining a positive outlook, the benefits of physical activity on mental clarity, and the importance of establishing routines that encourage positive decision-making. 00:11:18 - Addressing the toxic impact of victim mentality and entitlement, and how these can hinder personal and professional growth. 00:19:43 - Closing thoughts on the power of owning your journey, disregarding the naysayers, and the importance of personal accountability in achieving dreams. About the Podcast:Scar Tissue is your go-to podcast for stories and discussions that dive deep into the ways we can use our most challenging experiences to forge our paths and live authentically. Join Melissa Dugalecki as she and her guests uncover the strength buried in the scars we carry. Meet the Host:Melissa Dugalecki is more than just the voice behind the podcast; she is a beacon of resilience who has turned profound personal loss into a platform for transformative growth and empowerment. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to embrace their path with courage and authenticity, reminding us that growth often comes from our deepest challenges. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

00:00:00 - Introduction to the podcast philosophy of transforming pain into power.00:01:13 - Melissa introduces Eric Rock, highlighting his journey and impact as an entrepreneur and mentor.00:02:01 - Eric discusses his approach to life and business, emphasizing the importance of personal branding and authenticity.00:03:39 - Conversation on how past experiences shape entrepreneurial spirit and the value of starting with a personal mission.00:04:22 - Discussion on the value of hindsight and the advantages of learning from others’ experiences.00:05:58 - Eric talks about the limitations of traditional education systems and the benefits of alternative learning paths.00:06:51 - Eric shares a story about mentoring a young entrepreneur, demonstrating the impact of early exposure to business and high-level thinking.00:09:17 - Melissa and Eric delve into how their personal histories influenced their career paths and the concept of “should” in life decisions.00:10:16 - Discussion on turning adverse circumstances into sources of strength and mission.00:11:39 - Eric explains his motivational mindset stemming from childhood challenges and the concept of “the burn” as described by his mentors.00:14:12 - The importance of not over-protecting children from challenges to build resilience.00:16:09 - Comparisons drawn between personal struggles and the story of Cinderella, emphasizing the value of hardship in character development.00:17:35 - The metaphor of muscle growth through resistance as a parallel to personal development.00:18:32 - Eric criticizes the culture of comfort and lack of challenge in modern life, advocating for high standards and personal growth.00:22:36 - Discussion on the necessity of hard work and efficiency in achieving success.00:23:33 - Melissa and Eric discuss the concept of “living rare” and the pitfalls of seeking shortcuts in life.00:26:37 - A critique of generational wealth and the importance of earning one’s success.00:28:15 - Eric emphasizes the detrimental effects of poor diet on performance and mindset.00:31:33 - Melissa relates her experience with hunger and its metaphorical significance in terms of patience and resisting immediate gratification.00:33:42 - Eric and Melissa discuss the pervasive negative effects of the food industry and advocate for a mindset of performance and health.00:37:06 - The discussion highlights the critical role of health in overall life success and the importance of making informed choices.00:39:18 - Personal reflections on age, health, and societal expectations about physical appearance and capability.00:41:07 - Closing remarks, emphasizing the podcast’s philosophy and inviting listeners to engage further with the content. This episode is rich with insights on personal development, the interplay of health and success, and the profound impact of one’s upbringing and mindset on their life trajectory. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this deeply personal episode of “Scar Tissue,” Melissa Dlugolecki and guest Gerard Adams delve into the transformative power of storytelling, the importance of embracing authenticity, and the challenges and rewards of personal growth. Gerard shares his journey from a young entrepreneur to a beacon of change for others, emphasizing the critical role of authentic expression in both personal and professional success. The conversation also explores the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies and gender roles, highlighting how these forces shape personal identities and interactions in the modern world. Melissa and Gerard discuss the importance of recognizing and honoring these energies to foster a balanced life and healthier relationships, challenging traditional gender roles and advocating for a deeper understanding of one’s authentic self. Highlights:• 00:01:14 - Reflects on her upbringing in Massachusetts, exploring how her environment shaped her early life choices and challenges.• 00:02:50 - Discusses breaking norms during her college years, revealing her early desires to act against societal expectations.• 00:04:18 - Shares the struggle of finding her identity post-college and the transition from seeking external validation to internal growth.• 00:05:48 - Talks about the dichotomy of caring for people versus pursuing monetary goals, and how her career decisions were influenced by her values.• 00:06:43 - Explores the evolution of her understanding of responsibility—from societal expectations to a deeper, personal sense of duty to herself and the world.• 00:10:15 - Opens up about her role as a coach and mentor, emphasizing the honor and privilege of helping others realize their potential.• 00:13:45 - Dives into the concept of doing ‘inner work’ and the importance of confronting personal challenges with honesty and resilience.• 00:16:18 - Announces a new virtual training program designed to help individuals level up their lives through authentic branding and mindset strategies.• 00:20:26 - Reflects on the life-changing decisions she has made, like moving to Tulum, and how these experiences taught her the value of surrender and presence.• 00:28:00 - Gerard and Melissa discuss the intricate balance of masculine and feminine energies, the redefining of traditional gender roles, and how these elements influence personal development and interpersonal relationships. About the Podcast:Scar Tissue is designed for listeners who are navigating life’s challenges and looking for deep, transformative insights. Each episode, hosted by Melissa Dlugolecki, explores the raw and often unspoken realities of grief, loss, and healing, with a focus on how to turn pain into purpose and scars into strength. Meet the Host:Melissa Dlugolecki shares not only her professional journey but also the profound personal losses that have shaped her approach to life and work. From a grieving mother to a successful entrepreneur and coach, Melissa’s story is a testament to the power of resilience and the human capacity to find happiness, regardless of circumstances. Connect with Melissa:• Melissa’s Website• Join the conversation on InstagramThis episode provides listeners with a raw and honest look at the struggles and triumphs of embracing one’s path, underscoring the message that true growth often comes from the most challenging experiences. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

In this deeply personal episode of "Scar Tissue," Melissa Dlugolecki shares her journey from rule-following high achiever to a life coach who embraces authenticity over convention. From her challenges with anxiety and people-pleasing as a young student in Massachusetts to confronting her identity and finding purpose beyond societal expectations, Melissa discusses the powerful life lessons she has learned about responsibility, authenticity, and living life on one's own terms.Highlights:00:01:14 - Reflects on her upbringing in Massachusetts, exploring how her environment shaped her early life choices and challenges.00:02:50 - Discusses breaking norms during her college years, revealing her early desires to act against societal expectations.00:04:18 - Shares the struggle of finding her identity post-college and the transition from seeking external validation to internal growth.00:05:48 - Talks about the dichotomy of caring for people versus pursuing monetary goals, and how her career decisions were influenced by her values.00:06:43 - Explores the evolution of her understanding of responsibility—from societal expectations to a deeper, personal sense of duty to herself and the world.00:10:15 - Opens up about her role as a coach and mentor, emphasizing the honor and privilege of helping others realize their potential.00:13:45 - Dives into the concept of doing 'inner work' and the importance of confronting personal challenges with honesty and resilience.00:16:18 - Announces a new virtual training program designed to help individuals level up their lives through authentic branding and mindset strategies.00:20:26 - Reflects on the life-changing decisions she has made, like moving to Tulum, and how these experiences taught her the value of surrender and presence.About the Podcast:Scar Tissue is designed for listeners who are navigating life's challenges and looking for deep, transformative insights. Melissa brings her personal experiences and professional expertise to each episode, aiming to empower listeners to embrace their scars, understand their pain, and harness their experiences to live a fulfilling and authentic life.Meet the Host:Melissa Dlugolecki shares not only her professional journey but also the profound personal losses that have shaped her approach to life and work. From a grieving mother to a successful entrepreneur and coach, Melissa's story is a testament to the power of resilience and the human capacity to find happiness, regardless of circumstances.Connect with Melissa:Melissa’s Website Join the conversation on Instagram This episode provides listeners with a raw and honest look at the struggles and triumphs of embracing one's path, underscoring the message that true growth often comes from the most challenging experiences. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

Melissa was already crying at the start of this episode. When she first lost her daughter, Leyden, she could barely leave the house, let alone get to a grief counselor’s office. But that is what she did. And that grief counselor is the special guest today, Kendra Allen.Melissa was a puddle at Kendra’s office in the beginning. But everyone deserves to have a space held for them. And Kendra allowed that space for Melissa. And what Melissa thinks is powerful is not only the tools in which she was taught the ways that widened her understanding of grief but the space that Kendra fostered. Melissa’s goal today is to inform you and educate you on the many aspects of grief that aren't spoken about and allow you to have a lens into the version of Melissa that could barely show up. As Melissa is publishing a book and hosting a podcast, the public sees a version of her that is much more healed. But Kendra is one of the only people who witnessed her at her rawest. Melissa started this episode crying and uncertain how the conversation would go. But she was brave and moved forward. Melissa and Kendra speak on many things. Disenfranchised loss. Miscarriages and infertility. Why the second year after a loss is often more challenging. And much more. No matter where you are on your grief journey, this episode will provide a space to learn and be heard. Whether or not you do the grief work, you’re moving forward. So why not do the work?Highlights1:20 - Meeting someone during the rawest time of grief4:25 - The mindset to survive the early stages of grief6:33 - Kendra predicts Melissa's future8:16 - Expanding the scope of grief10:12 - Separating yourself from your grief journey12:30 - Exposing disenfranchised loss15:21 - Choose your hard17:41 - Grief doesn't change a person24:04 - The hidden opportunities of grief28:00 - Exploring secondary losses34:55 - One of the hardest grief lessons to learn39:19 - What is ambiguous loss?43:35 - The four tasks of grief47:43 - The #1 resistance to healing52:45 - The difference between letting go and integrating58:25 - Creating positive outcomes in therapyResourcesWhat’s your Grief websiteWhat’s your Grief on InstagramAbout the podcastGrief and Guts is for anyone navigating:Bereaved parentsAging parentsDivorceEmpty nestFertility journeyJob lossRelationship endingMovingThe loss of sense of selfThe loss of life envisionedMeet the hostWhen Melissa Dlugolecki lost her daughter, Leyden, in a case termed a catastrophe, she didn't want to live...never mind love life, again.As a bereaved mother, when Melissa lost my daughter, Leyden, she never thought she would be happy again. Melissa felt guilty when she started to smile.​As a former educator, Melissa felt trapped by the politics, paperwork, and constricting schedule of the education system.Yet after building a 7-figure business, traveling the world, launching a podcast, writing a book (more to come), and coaching thousands of individuals, she has found one thing to be true for all of us…We have the power to create our own happiness, regardless of circumstances. And there are certain processes and strategies effective in doing so.It’s not just a “think positive” method or a “go harder” approach. I intertwine a dance of intangibles around our energy management with tangibles such as action steps, communication strategies, and ways to feel our best.Growth isn't always forward progress. It's messy. It's hard. But it is worth it. And while you work your way to whatever goal you are pursuing, just keep showing up. Life is too short to feel stuck.Connect with MelissaLearn more at Melissa’s websiteJoin the conversation on InstagramCreditsThe podcast was edited and mixed by Andrew at 51 features. Connect at andrew {at} 51features {dot} com. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki

Melissa is proud to bring back to the show Mike Michalowicz. Mike has supported Melissa in multiple ways over the years and is helping her bring her book to the world (very soon!). In this episode, Mike and Melissa explore how grief can act as a form of connection. They examine the true purpose behind their writing and how success can be the opposite of what's best for you. This episode is an understanding and loving exploration of grief. Mike and Melissa examine how we compound grief, how to support others' grieving, and the true normalcy of the grief we experience. You will leave this conversation feeling more supportive of yourself and how better to support those around you. Mike Michalowicz is the entrepreneur behind three multimillion-dollar companies and is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest book, Get Different. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and regularly travels the globe as an entrepreneurial advocate. Highlights1:14 - How Melissa's story landed her a unique book deal4:05 - Mike navigates his rock-bottom moment9:51 - Pitfalls of ranking your success and grief12:35 - Qualifiers to be a successful and helpful coach18:08 - How to identify coaches that can help you22:21 - Why do we resist the places we're meant to go?26:45 - The ways we compound grief35:09 - Embracing your experience of grief41:19 - Forgiveness as the ultimate form of relief47:09 - The perils of positivity51:36 - The normalcy of grief56:52 - Connecting with MikeConnect with MikeVisit his websiteGet the free toolsRead his booksListen to his podcastLearn more about MikeMike is the creator of Profit First, which is used by hundreds of thousands of companies across the globe to drive profit. He is the creator of Clockwork, a powerful method to make any business run on automatic. In his 2020 release Fix This Next, Mike details the strategy businesses can use to determine what to do, and in what order, to ensure healthy, fast, permanent growth (and avoid debilitating distractions). His latest book, Get Different, will give you the tools to stand out in any market.Today, Mike leads two new multi-million-dollar ventures, as he tests his latest business research for his books. He is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and a business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Mike is a popular main-stage keynote speaker on innovative entrepreneurial topics; and is the author of Get Different, Fix This Next, Clockwork, Profit First, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and The Toilet Paper Entrepreneur.Fabled author, Simon Sinek deemed Mike Michalowicz “…the top contender for the patron saint of entrepreneurs.”About the podcastGrief and Guts is for anyone navigating:Bereaved parentsAging parentsDivorceEmpty nestFertility journeyJob lossRelationship endingMovingThe loss of sense of selfThe loss of life envisionedMeet the hostWhen Melissa Dlugolecki lost her daughter Leyden, in a case termed a catastrophe, she didn't want to live...never mind love life, again.As a bereaved mother, when Melissa lost my daughter Leyden, she never thought she would be happy again. Melissa felt guilty when she started to smile.​As a former educator, Melissa felt trapped by the politics, paperwork, and constricting schedule of the education system.Yet after building a 7-figure business, traveling the world, launching a podcast, writing a book (more to come), and coaching thousands of individuals, she has found one thing to be true for all of us…We have the power to create our own happiness, regardless of circumstances. And there are certain processes and strategies effective in doing so.It’s not just a “think positive” method or a “go harder” approach. I intertwine a dance of intangibles around our energy management with tangibles such as action steps, communication strategies, and ways to feel our best.Growth isn't always forward progress. It's messy. It's hard. But it is worth it. And while you work your way to whatever goal you are pursuing, just keep showing up. Life is too short to feel stuck.Connect with MelissaLearn more at Melissa’s websiteJoin the conversation on InstagramCreditsThe podcast was edited and mixed by Andrew at 51 features. Connect at andrew {at} 51features {dot} com. Catch up with me on socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissadlugolecki/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.dlugoleckiLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-dlugolecki-b24988141/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissadlugoleckiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaDlugolecki