School Of Thoughts! {Habel}

Irrespective of any issue that comes up within your circles,the ability of one to be incontrol of self,not to overreact or even loose it but rather stay calm and in control of his or her emotions allows them to steer the whole situation devoid of anger or any emotion that might affect the situation.

1. Why did you meet them or them you. 2. What you are doing(improved each other. 3. When the season(a break,a break up, or a done deal and you remain in touch but not as before)

Complaining, comparing, and carping are things that steal our joy,we need to watch these 3 and we shall get to enjoy what we have right before us!

Being able to truly start a growth process beyond: delayed debts,issues,or even people who have hurt us,it's a first step to think of the delay it causes and the need to let it,them,those go...

When we reach out and the other parties are not willing or responding to it:one day, it will come to an end, and there will be no more of the reach out or meet up!

It's the number of times we have made promises to people only not to fulfil them.Making them stay,wait,be glad to be, and even camp on our side only for one not to come through,making them end in hurt,pain and confusion only because we lied from the beginning or did not speak the truth as it is,or even were excited at the moment.

The ability to pour into any form of relationship what we want back so as to help it grow!

Everything has a time/period set for it (scheduled), and it is always for a reason(appointment).. if we all do understand this,then our need to complain or wallow in a particular thing will easily come to an end.

When we do have conversations,what is the intention behind it? What is the take away? How does it I.pact or leave us as participants.We thought it wise not to always be casual about it,but rather be intetional of the extract of the moment shared.

They are always used as a dip-stick to our human relations.and why not learn more about ourselves to improve our own characters!

Life happenings are always about these two angles Event:What we are doing now,what is happening,what we are dealing with as it is lased with emotions and we may just think of it as a one thing of the moment.Yet it might have great repercussions way after. Process: is to be able to think it through,plan,convene,organize, and even think of the after-math!

This is an analogy of the pet lines/ropes/chains, and we compare it to relationships where we think we can equally control people in our lives.if we are not careful we get hurt when they don't comply to our expectations of the translation of how the relationship should be.We think we can control,command and demand how they should react...

This is any point in life that out of our self: there's a voice out of what will fun your ego and inclinations to change your acts for better.Despite ourselves being co fortaleza in our skin,we need a voice of reason thus the calling out! A person who can tell you the truth bluntly or even politely but a wrong or mistake or even misbehaviour in our actions to be called to correction.

At times, we get to maintain a certain group of people around us and we get comfortable in them,despite needing a different view on a particular matter.It has lead many astray missing out on need by settling on what is comfort,making us loose even on important things in life.If we check on our socials and move away from our familiar grounds we shall always find knowledge,understanding and wisdom applicable for the new levels we arr walking in to and the changes that come with seasons.

This is actually an ironic header because it's being able to learn how to hold one back in the midst of a conversation not to spill,over share and layer self questioning of "how best did I represent myself in that setting?"

This is a 'social shelf life':where we need to be cognisant of the fact that seasons change,and our stay in a particular relationship(friendships) are bound to have twist,turns and sometimes end.Having turmoil and distance created and with such recognitions we shall stop struggling to fix what has been passed by its time encouraged to accept the situation and allow it to go!

The ability of one,recognising a particular habit,action, or even style that makes one worse as a person.As soon as it affects the ones around you,you might needto learn how to stop yourself from further spiral down the hole.

This is a matter of changing the status quo.it calls for being intentional of the same thing/situation and one needs a change.Breaking the egg is having to give something up and it starts by noticing the gaps,deciding to make the choices and actualy not doubting the decisions one makes! Which leads to the 3 panels of observing this:personal,third parties and communities/enviroments we are in.

That which we tend to enjoy so much might hinder us from experience more,in new spaces introduced to us.The autonomy that we so much enjoy,sometimes might be interrupted by instructions and a different order all together and we allow it to pass us by because we are okay "jailed" in our now and if not careful afraid of the unknown!

Ego is not bad, but Egotism makes it all dark and obnoxious.. Have a listen!