Secret Habit

Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

S3E7: Mother Wounds - The Hidden Root To Your Porn Addiction

The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbationWhy?Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around oneWhen men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voiceI talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠⁠ today!In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound:- How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain- Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain- 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to beLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠today!If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

09-10
21:30

S3E6: How To Bring Your Wounds To Jesus

Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it?You may know what to do, but how?Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next stepsI talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today!In this episode. I talk about:- Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding- Bringing your wounds to Jesus- Developing your prayer life- Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewingFor more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learningLooking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the ⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsLooking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

08-11
09:55

S3E5: Depression, Marriage and Recovery

Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ...We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in herAnd about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once.How did Helena overcome depression without pills?How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free?This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hopeMay out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for youIts time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage!Looking for more?Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in ChristJoin the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today!Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per dayMORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus

07-28
45:21

S3E4: Quitting Porn 101

Theres one challenge guys run into everytime when trying to quit porn, overcome masturbation and put and end to any sexual strugglesIt is not what you would expect... its focusing on the task at hand more than the purpose aheadI am a huge fan of seeing outcomes and experiences over the task itself.This can be a huge help to create more hope, optimism, faith and desire to do hard things any god recovery requiresA lot of guys do need help with these things though, its not EASY, even if its simpleIF you do need help, for $2 a day, you can join us in the DeepClean Inner CircleA place of Godly Brotherhood built on a Proven Content and Coaching model that has helped over 1500 guysLearn more about Inner Circle HereIn todays episode, you'll learn about:- Why a mission is so important- Why outcome focused is better than task focused- My powerful Mission Statement template- How to apply Mission Statements into your life for maximum effectivenessIf you want more info on our approach at DeepClean before joining DeepClean Inner CircleMake sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settingsIf you're really on the fence of what to do next, heres my free 90 day porn survival guide, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

06-19
09:23

S3E3: [Pt.3] My Porn Recovery Freedom Framework - Experiencing Lasting Freedom

The final step in this framework is focused on freedom, but more honestly, its about confidence, integrity and longevity. This is really what guys want… they want to LIVE their lives without the bondage of “what if I slip again” or “what if I get tempted”ENOUGH with this crap… freedom doesnt talk like this, and I want to explain to you HOW to get free. Its not about time, its about resolving root pain and finding completion in your heart - sure this takes time, but time is not the main factor.You need a guide for this, hands down. I would love to be that guide if you want to consider working with meIf you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Not ready to book a call yet? No problem - Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here for more info⁠⁠⁠⁠In this part 3 episode, I am going to talk all about freedom and the ways to develop healthy confidence.What works Finding clarity on the reasons for the root issues, not just the root issues themselvesResolving the root pain behind the unmet needs and woundsFinding completion with painful relationships Renewing the mind and restoring your identity in ChristWhat does not workFocusing on the present and seeing re occurring problems as part of lifeSeeing on going issues as your thorn in the fleshAssuming that the past is forgiven so there's no need to do any work with your childhoodGetting stuck in the busy cycle of recoveryConceptsReverse Engineering - finding clarity in why XYZ arouses youForgivenessSoul TiesRedefining Core MotivationsInner Child WorkApplicationLocate - seeing the boy inside of youLearn - understanding what's at the heart of your on going struggles with pornographyLead - Going from what feels true to what is trueJesus - Re-experiencing life through a new lens with JesusNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: ⁠⁠⁠Click Here for more info⁠⁠⁠3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

05-07
24:32

S3E2: [Pt.2] My Porn Recovery Freedom Framework - Achieving Solid Sobriety

Its insane how many guys think that awareness is what changes your life… I was stuck in that mindset for a long time and it really kept me stuck… I knew my struggles but I didnt know what to do with themIn this episode, I will lay out the framework for you to get SUPER clear on the real problems and then get SUPER clear on what to do about them based off of what the problems are revealing about your heart.I am excited about this episode guys, this content is some of the best I have ever come by and I am really proud of the work we do with DeepClean… it took me many years to understand this concept and now you can figure it out with me in just 20 mins, thats pretty cool!If you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Not ready yet? Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: ⁠⁠⁠Click Here for more info⁠⁠⁠Heres what ill be sharing in this part 2 episode all about becoming emotionally mature and achieving solid sobrietyWhat worksBecoming emotionally aware THEN using that awareness to change the way you actWhat doesn't workDefining your emotions and expecting life to change because you now know how you feelConceptUtilize Trigger Digger, Trigger Template and Journaling to grow in awarenessQuick insight on each oneDefine your red zone plan - triggers, fear response, tendenciesUnderstand your longings/needs - main needs of humans and 4 ways to get them metCreate a green zone plan focused on what and how will help you experience what you need - proactive and reactiveApplication with exampleRed ZoneTrigger: Fear of rejectionResponse: Submit and freezeTendencies: people please, overeat, judge others, internal anger, avoidance of conflict, futility towards relationshipsNeedsSafety, vulnerability, support, predictability, hope, reassurance, curiosityGreen ZoneWhat can helpBible, prayer walks, calling a friend, spotify playlist, having a bath, meeting with mentor, throwing rocks by the water, hugging my wifeWho can helpWife, friend, mentor, God, sister, brotherWhen did I feel it beforeConflict with mom was resolved, safee to fail with wife, exposed by friend with love, invited into fellowship with church groupNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: ⁠⁠Click Here for more info⁠⁠3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

05-05
17:28

S3E1: [Pt.1] My Porn Recovery Freedom Framework - Gaining Clarity On the Real Problem

In this episode and 3 part series, I am going to show you the SIMPLE way to do recovery effectively. I have seen thai help hundreds of guys overcome porn, masturbation, and sex addiction and I want to share it with you in a bite size versionI have been free nearly 8 years from porn, masturbation and sex and iv spent 10 000 + hours refining this process. I hope you will glean from it so you can have everything and more in the next few years of your recoveryIf you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Not ready to do that? Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: Click Here for more infoHere’s what I talk about in this part 1 episode on Gaining PerspectiveWho/WhereThe Gospel - Scripture, Holy SpiritMentorsPeers/SpottersDisagree’ersWHYWe need to get out of our own head and feelings start to see and know what is true, factual and provenLet this dictate how you choose, feel and liveNASIn knowledge and understanding, you will grow in confidence… ASSURE yourself in the salvation story, Gods character and His promises for youFind a spiritual father - glean from experienceFind a discipleship partner - sharpen one anotherFind a resource that is focused on scripture, facts and has proven results… NOT MORE HYPE or surface stuffNEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program: ⁠Click Here for more info⁠3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

05-02
15:20

S2E35: Trigger Diggers: The Real Reason You're Triggered To Watch Porn

We're a month into 2025, how are you doing with your triggers and temptations? In this episode, I want to ensure you dont just run away from your temptations, I want you to understand them, face them and overcome them We just launched DeepClean Signature 2.0 and its FIRE - you will learn much more about in this episode. If you're ready to book a call with our team, you can learnj how you can work 1:1 with Shawn Bonneteau: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today, we will talk about: - How Emotions and Sexuality Are Connected - What Triggers and Temptation Tell Us - How To Create a Trigger Template - How to Ask Great Questions About Our Temptations and Triggers - How To Get To The Bottom Of Why you're Triggered - Defining Core Lies - Getting Needs Met - Pursuing Real Recovery These topics are fundamental to recovery. Guys in DeepClean are getting incredible results from just these 2 videos in our new course. If you want to take your recovery to the next level, theres no better time to take the next step, Heres a few ways for you take that next step 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Credit to DeepClean and Sathiya Sam & Pure Desires Arousal Template

02-06
15:53

S2E34: No More White Knuckling: 4 Ways To Go Through The Pain Of Change

Hey man, 2025 is fast approaching, but that doesnt mean you cant still make the most of 2024! In this episode I share some thoughts on how you can focus on generosity in this season and get yourself set up for success by enrolling in DeepClean If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ This episode was inspired by a nudge from the Lord to stand firm in my calling as a father one morning. Since then, I started to think about how we need to go from compassion, to leadership to firmness In this episode, you will learn all about the ways to change, but even more, the ways to go through the pain that comes with change 1. Speaking to the man with language that conveys strength and boldness 2. Focusing on 30 day increments to experience the blessing of change/sobriety from porn 3. Creating task focused mission statements to snap yourself out of the dopamine spiral and into the truth 4. Emotional Regulation to ensure you have the bedrock of recovery rock solid If you need help with any of these steps, dont delay getting in touch. I know these concepts can be difficult to apply on your own, not to say you MUST get 1:1 coaching, but to say, you really need to be honest with yourself and how probable it is that you can do this without the right help If you feel ready to explore coaching, book a call, it costs you nothing and could cause you to gain everything https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

11-14
16:30

S2E33: How Learning Czech Has Made My Coaching 100x Better

Learning the Czech Language has made me so aware of what guys need when healing from porn addiction... they need clarity, simplicity and spotted reps. They don't need more discipline or harder work, they need more guidance! If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, ill share about my journey of learning Czech and how its improved my coaching 100x over Ill go into details about why the DeepClean system is so incredibly powerful, even more than I knew before learning a language If you feel helpless, lost, or stuck when it comes to quitting porn and overcoming sexual brokenness, then this episode is definitely for you! Book a call to work with me: https://secrethabit.ca/call

10-30
15:09

S2E31: Missing Link Between Self Awareness & Lasting Freedom: 3 Steps To Lead Your Feelings, Thoughts & Desires

This is Episode 100 of the SH podcast! Bring on the fireworks!! Im so excited to bring this REALLY IMPORTANT word for such a milestone episode If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Iv been UBER convinced lately that guys need to grow in leadership... I did and I still do, and that's after 7 years of freedom from porn addiction! Here are a few of my recent convictions: - Leadership is a non-negotiable - leadership is difficult and rarely taught/understood - leadership is built on empathy and strength - Iv missed out on ensuring guys feel fully equipped in the step of leadership - Anytime someone is stuck after growing in self awareness it always comes down to a lack of leadership Here are some of the biggest challenges I see with clients recently: - Moving from self-awareness to daily AND life long change - How to live in TRUTH when what FEELS TRUE is so powerful - Leading themselves aka, renewing their minds  Here is what I want to explain, explore, and coach you on today: - Where guys are struggling to lead (with examples) - Defining their inner child feelings, thoughts, and needs  - Role-playing leadership to ensure you are fully equipped - my 3 step formula - Learning about the boy within - my 3 step template - Separating what feels true from what really is true through love and STRENGTH *For more content on inner child work, you can check out other episodes on the POD, but for now, check out some of the resources linked here, they will get you on the right track. * Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bonus Resources: Betrayal Trauma Coaches (Affiliated with DeepClean) Lila Pisor - book a call Stacey Oliver - book a call

08-01
24:36

S2E30: Rethinking Accountability: What We Can Learn From a Simple Question Changes Everything

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Most people struggle to feel momentum in their Christian walk. This leads to low self esteem, dull confidence and lukewarm living... which leads guys to relapsing with porn. Not a fun cycle to be in! One of the biggest reasons I see for this is that we dont know how to truly sharpen one another (Scripture says that iron sharpens iron) Most people are "great" at giving advice, but the advice is actually harmful, or unhelpful at best... We focus way to much on the surface problem and neglect peoples deep pain We must start asking questions that get to the heat of the issue King Artaxerxis in Nehemiah 2 is a great example of what we call curiosity in the recovery world. He asks Nehemiah a wonderful question to get below the surface, and then further, he asks how he can help RATHER than assuming his advice is what he needs I also dive ito some paradigm shifts when it comes to discipleship, accountability and friendship These are some AWESOME tips on how to develop a healthier life which leads to quitting porn and growing in sexual integrity Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠

05-06
13:51

S2E9: Why I Moved To Czech and Joined DeepClean

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ I am answering the BIG questions today - why did I move to Czech? why did I join DeepClean? Why did I stop coaching with Secret Habit? Do I miss Canada? Am I staying in Czech? And so many more! Helena and I moved to Czech back on May 30th from Canada. I joined DeepClean on June 8th and since then, its been quite the God story. However, it goes much further back, and thats what I want to share about today If you're ready to quit porn in the next 120 days, book your free strategy call with us, we would love to help you find out the best next steps with DeepClean! * www.secrethabit.ca/call If you want to know more about DeepClean before booking a call, grab a free copy of "The Last Relapse"

04-26
21:02

S2E12: Stop Using Cute Words To Describe Your Porn Addiction

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ Do you do what most people do: Calling their porn addiction a "sin issue" or a "lust problem"? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to get real and challenge the weak sauce language we so often use as Christians. I want to help you add some weight to your words to enhance your conviction to change. This is a vital message to those who want to build bigger "muscles" in their journey to freedom from porn and sexual integrity Get ready to learn about: - The difference between weak and strong language - How to say things for what they are - Being brutally honest - Growing your conviction while quitting porn Ready to do something about your porn addiction FOR REAL? * Book your call with our team today and get started on our 4 month porn recovery program Extra resource: "The Last Relapse" book by Sathiya Sam. Grab your free copy today

04-26
10:14

S2E13: Outsmart Your Sexual Temptations With This Porn Recovery Tool

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ Sexual temptation is powerful... Most people are like a deer in headlights when sexually tempted. No matter the trigger, its almost as if you go on auto pilot and do things you never thought you would do... sound about right? If so, then this recovery life hack is 100% for you In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to uncover the #1 reason mature adults make childish decisions in the face of temptation. Get ready to learn about: - What happens when you go into fight, flight freeze - Why its so hard to make good decisions when sexually tempted - What is really triggering you before you watch porn - Why "prayer and read your bible more" doesn't work - Whats going on in the brain when you get sexually tempted or emotionally triggered - How to hold the power and overcome triggers and temptations no matter when they come Grab our 90 day survival guide when quitting porn (bottom of the blog page) DOWNLOAD IT FOR FREE We're opening up some slots f you're ready to quit porn but need a coach, system and community to help you do it - book your free call now and join us at DeepClean - the all in one porn recovery system for Christian men

04-26
14:33

S2E14: Stop Saying You're Bored, Its Killing Your Recovery

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ So often I hear guys telling me "boredom" is the problem in their life. They tell me that they use pornography when they're bored. Maybe you can relate? Maybe you have kids who say this? Maybe a friend? I want to open your eyes to what boredom really is. In this episode, I (Shawn Bonneteau) will push back on this common suggestion as to why people watch porn and masturbate and offer some deeper insights Get ready to learn about: - What boredom is below the surface - What is really driving your porn addiction - How to reframe the way you label your feelings - The holistic approach to being a healthy human being I mention a great resource in this episode, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci. Its a GREAT read that offers a ton of application steps to help you overcome sex addiction and other immature coping mechanisms Looking for a deeper drive? Ready to commit to the process of quitting porn for good? Book a private strategy call and join DeepClean, the all in one porn recovery system for christian men

04-26
10:41

S2E28: The ONLY WAY Spiritual Disciplines Work

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, Shawn is going to get really real about the ONLY thing that leads to a healthy routine of spiritual disciplines. Stop trying to work harder, do more, comdemn yourself... its not working! Start with the posture of heart THAN work from that. Get ready to learn about the very dichotomy we all live in and how to choose truth, love and joy Jesus wants you to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin... however, He doesnt want you to think the work he already did has to be done again! Its time to change your heart and mind so you can change the very way you live each and every day Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out ⁠⁠secrethabit.ca⁠⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

04-22
11:49

S2E27: Stuck Making Immature Decisions? Heres How To Separate Your Past From Present & Get Free From Porn Addiction

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to talk to you about triangulation, enmeshment and the process of getting out of what seems so stuck! If you seem to make immature decisions more than you would like to admit, then stick around and learn what it means to unmesh from your past Shawn has a personal testimony of overcoming these challenges and shares candidly about his own journey to growing in maturity, compassion and integrity This is at the heart of what it means to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin... If you feel stuck and dont know how to fix it, this is the right place for you Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out ⁠secrethabit.ca⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

04-20
13:09

S2E26: Porn Genres Reveal The Pathway To Healing; How To Renew Your Faulty Neuro-Connections

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/call/ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing In this episode, get ready to learn from Shawn Bonneteau about something that may shock you... How the types of porn you watch can actually reveal the very thing that needs healing... Its true, check out how And thats not all... Learn how your brain has created neuro connections that have become so engrained that you've become a slave to them Ill offer you a few key next steps to ensure you can apply what you learned and have some major breakthroughs This is what it takes to get free from porn addiction, overcome masturbation and outgrow sexual sin Do you need some direction on what to do next? Check out secrethabit.ca to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

04-18
13:39

S2E25: Leading The Boy Within: 4 Steps To Effective Inner Child Recovery

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ Inner Child Work has become one of the most effective approaches to healing addiction, trauma or past pain. I absolutely love it when it comes to helping men quit porn and overcome sex addiction... It's been so successful that im doubling down on it today and doing an episode to share about the 4 steps I now teach. On top of the 4 steps, I want to really unpack the most important on going step - leading the boy. Without this step being an on going habit, you will never get to the place where you have power over the trauma... you will always be a victim to the inner child getting activated, and thats no fun! If you're ready to GET FREE FROM PORN and you think inner child work is the best way for you to get there, ⁠book a call with our team at DeepClean.⁠ Extra resources: In episode 50 I share about the 9 steps to inner child work and in episode 59 I walk guys through a step by step exercise to apply the inner child approach These are AMAZING episodes, please listen to them. However, this info here will help you boil it down even more and get the absolute best out of your inner child practice. In this episode you learn about the nervous system. I do a deeper dive on this in ep 60 - all about fight, flight, freeze and finding safety in your day to day life. Get your free copy of my E-Book: The 4 Stages of Overcoming Porn Withdrawal Symptoms Tune in and submit your questions to the Unleash The Man Within Podcast with Shawn Bonneteau and Sathiya Sam

03-13
27:04

Pelham Flowerdew

Shawn and Helena are a refreshing and inspiring couple to let into your eardrums. You won't find anything like this anywhere else!

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