Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal response and learn a simple but powerful reframe that can transform these vulnerable moments into opportunities for deeper intimacy. This insight completely changed how Shannon […]
Want to make your spouse smile more, without grand gestures or big talks? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the surprisingly simple trick that shifted the tone in our own marriage (and no, it’s not what you think). You’ll hear how this one small change can create big happiness […]
If you’re feeling stuck or wondering if your marriage therapy is even working, this is the episode where we break down the hidden signs of progress most couples miss, share why slow growth is often the best kind, and reveal what to do if things feel stagnant. Don’t give up too soon—tune in and discover […]
Ever wonder what truly creates the deepest connection in a relationship? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack the one practice that can completely transform how you and your spouse relate to each other. Drawing from my twenty years as a marriage therapist and thirty two years from our own […]
If you’re not careful, comparison can creep in and quietly start sabotaging your relationship. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I dive into how measuring your relationship against yourself can erode trust, intimacy, and connection. Find out why comparison is more toxic than you think, how to stop it in its […]
Are you in the middle of a marriage separation? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about the one thing that’s pushing your spouse further away—and how to rebuild attraction the right way. Even though some of our suggestions are counterintuitive, we’ll show you how to focus on becoming the […]
Feeling dismissed when you try to share your emotions with your husband? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack why your husband thinks your feelings are the “wrong” feelings—and, more importantly, how the two of you can bridge the gap. Our hope is that we can help you turn frustration […]
Does your wife just want to vent, but you can’t resist jumping in to fix things? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I tackle why your ‘helpful’ solutions might be backfiring—and what to do instead. Discover the surprising secret to truly supporting your wife, strengthening your connection, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. […]
Is your marriage feeling more like a battleground than a partnership? On this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the six simple steps that helped us rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover joy in our relationship. If your marriage feels stuck, we hope this episode offers a roadmap to lasting change.
“Do you and your spouse struggle to tackle challenges as a team? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Paul & Shannon share how they’ve learned to align their strengths and overcome ‘me versus you’ mindsets in their marriage. Discover the simple strategies that helped them turn conflict into collaboration—and how you can too!”
If you’re a husband that struggles to emotionally connect with your wife, you’re going to want to download our 7 Magic Questions for Husbands. These questions will help you find the right words at the right time so your wife will feel loved and cared for.
It’s been a little bit since our last podcast episode, but… we’re back. In this episode, we delve into the complexities of intimacy, marriage expectations, and what might really be behind a wife’s lack of desire. Listen in as we offer surprising insights and actionable steps that could save a struggling marriage—and even reignite the […]
Once again, I’ve been an imperfect husband. Unknowingly, over the last several months, I’ve been doing something that has made my wife feel unloved and unimportant. In today’s podcast, you’ll hear us work through the issue together, and see what it looks like to get reconnected again.
Sometimes, my wife comes up with some CRAZY dreams and ideas. It’s in those moments that my true character as her husband is revealed. On today’s podcast, you’ll hear about Shannon’s latest “adventure” and what a joy it was being her biggest cheerleader (minus the pom poms).
Want to work on having a happier marriage while enjoying the beautiful blue waters and white sandy beaches of the Caribbean? Listen in on the conversations from the couples who went on our 2024 Secure Marriage Cruise and hear how their marriages have changed for the better.
Ever had to make a decision which is guaranteed to make at least one person angry, and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to get out of it? On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll give you crystal clear instructions on what to do if your friend tells you they’re having an affair, […]
What are you supposed to think (or do)when you’ve told your husband for years that you want to be celebrated on your birthday, and he still completely forgets or does lame last-minute things? That’s what we’re tackling on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. P.S. We’re also taking a painful walk down memory lane […]
Do you know how to get emotionally reconnected after a fight? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll walk you through the secret recipe you need to know that will make your wife’s heart melt with love and affection.
We understand that you get frustrated with your wife and kids at times. But losing control and blowing up on your family does damage that can last for years. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at why losing your temper is actually causing more problems than it’s solving, and the two […]
If you spend a lot of time beating yourself up internally, chances are you’re pretty critical of everyone else around you, including your spouse. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re exploring how shame becomes a toxic element in your relationship and why it’s important to become the healthiest version of yourself.