Seduce Me Again

So you want to re-seduce your partner. That’s a good plan. Now just  exactly how are you going to go about doing that?  If money was no  object, then you could fly them some place fantastic for a wonderful  dinner and the have them fall into your arms thanking you for the best  night of their life. Ok, now let’s get back to reality. You not only  have limited financial resources, but also limited time and probably a  whole other bunch of limitations. So what are you going to do?  Well  guess what, one of your most powerful seduction tools is waiting for you  to make use of it. It’s free, you’ve used it in the past, and with a  little time and attention it could play a major role in your next  seduction – kissing.  

When we are trying to seduce our partner once again, we often have a  goal in mind. We’ll know that we’ve been successful in seducing them if  we can find a way to get them into bed. Fantastic – I like having a  clearly stated goal just as much as the next person.  Umm, however, there  may be a problem here. The problem pops up when you think that the way  that you see the world is the same way that your partner sees the world.  In order to seduce them, they have to eventually want to be seduced. In  order to get them into bed, they eventually want to get into bed.  What  are you going to do if they don’t see the world the way that you do?

So shall we talk about your sex life?  I don’t mean to get to personal,  but how is it going? Lots of us can think back to when our relationship  with our partner was new and we have very pleasant memories of having  sex with them – the first time, the first time that we did something  new, the first time we did it in a new place, etc.  However, then things  changed.  

Ah, the bed. So much promise is contained by it when we go to bed each  evening; however, how often is that promise fulfilled?  Consider my  situation just a while ago. I found that when my wife and I were going  to bed, we’d both do the normal evening toiletry stuff and then we’d  crawl into bed on our own sides, perhaps read for a bit, then turn the  lights off and the evening was over.  Nice, but not what I’d really call  intimate.  

When I think about sex, I think about things like cuddling, kissing,  stroking and the intertwining of body parts. There always seems to be a  soft light glowing on the scene that I’m picturing and pleasant music  playing in the background. This is what sex is to me.  However, I’m  willing to admit that perhaps I’m missing a part (perhaps a big part) of  the overall picture. I’ve read about those ladies who get paid to tie  up and abuse guys and I’ve always sorta wondered what was going on there  – do people really like this stuff?  Lately I’ve started to realize that  there might be a middle ground here that could be interesting to me –  sexual power dynamics.