Self Kindness with Pete

This episode: Fear is a crap motivator.  When I feel fear, I rarely want to then go after what I think needs to get done.  And fear as a motivator is almost always for something that I didn’t want to do in the first place or isn’t satisfying.  Then why do I use it?  Because other people used it on me to motivate me to do what they wanted me to do.  So, I witnessed from those experiences that it was a powerful motivator…for doing things I didn’t want to do.And in doing so, losing my own personal connection to it being motivated by other things like fun, joy, interest, vitality, ie: good feelings.I find that I’m better motivated when I can find the aspects of that task that I DO want, that I DO resonate with.  And I can always find those things.  So fear is not necessary even for the things I find I must do.I’m making it a point to prove to myself that in every part of my life, there is a better, more sustainable, more effective motivator than fear.I am making it my dominant intention to first go find the feeling I believe this “thing” will bring me in the having or doing of it.  Then I go about connecting to that feeling first, allowing my actions to then be motivated by the feeling and the desire to stay in that feeling.    FOR DECEMBER SPECIALS RATES TO ALL MY PROGRAMS: email me at  peterksibley(AT)gmail(DOT)com More Self Kindness:SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!Weekly calls to cultivate a deep connection with feeling good and inspired about your own inner narrative!Plus a private podcast and website filled with resources1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

What do you do when you're feeling squeezed in your life?  The overwhelm, the too much and not enough time feeling, not seeing anything joyful on the horizon...In this episode I talk about:1st thing - Get out of the "trash compactor!"2nd thing - Understand what the contrast in your life is growing within you!  (spoiler - it's better than you think!)Drama happens b/c your brain loves to chew on things, so you can use this awareness to give your brain better things to chew on, things that serve you, things that delight you, that make your world more peaceful, more joyfulThis will point to the underlying thoughts: Do you believe you are worthy of your life unfolding in a beautiful, good way?You can act powerfully from a place of inspiration & desire - rather than from stress and worryAre you willing to allow yourself to feel good in this moment?  Let's try it out!More Self Kindness:SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

How to move from where you are right now, ie: how you're feeling and what you're thinking...TOArriving at where you want to be, ie: feeling better, thinking more capable, confident, connected thoughts!We want to be feeling better: more lightness, more powerful, more capable, more worthy, etcIt's much more straight forward than you might think, it just takes being dedicated to noticing where you are, and having the desire to feel better.I give the example of how to use this process with money.I also question if fear or worry is necessary to be more successful.SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Every want you have is because you believe in the having of it you will FEEL better.What happens if you go to FEEL better first?Redefining old definitions that no longer serve you.Choosing to "grow" without suffering.How are you choosing?  Is it by default?  Fear-based?Today we explore two (2) ways to choose with intention:1 - Choosing thoughts that FEEL a little bit better2 - Choosing to FEEL a better feeling and moving to that "vibrational" feeling inside of you.SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Are you allowing good into your life?  It happens moment by moment.How to make small shifts to experience RELIEF and how that adds up to a good life, a great life!Allowing things to be good and letting good into your life, bc we are so well trained to look for and expect things might good poorly.Instead we can focus on piling appreciation upon appreciation.Speaking to another who is in a challenging space w/o adding momentum to their challengesBeing an energetic and vibrational beings.How my good mood affected another.SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Allowing the feeling of relief, enjoyment and grounding as a result of self kindness right in this moment, is something you can do intentionally.By putting attention on any emotion you help to create space and dissipate the intensity.What if you lived the belief that, "All of me makes sense!"This is the difference between indifference VS independent, being intentional with experiencing inner self kindnessSELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Life is a journey that happens RIGHT NOW!Are you enjoying the journey?  Do you LOVE the journey as it unfolds?There are two (2) simple questions you can as in any moment, if you ask these questions, your life will radically shift!1 - How am I doing right now?2 - Do I want/ desire to reach for something different or reach for a little better feeling right now?  OR am I willing to continue to feel this "good" feeling?In this episode we unpack how to do this, in your life.How to reach for a better feeling...Can you see that each challenge is here to grow your ability to bring yourself into a feeling that YOU desire?I give a real life example of how I did this with a client who was facing many challenges.What to do when the thought comes in, "Is this appropriate?"  Meaning, "What will other people think?" - this is using other people's opinions to give up permission.What will other people think if you're happy even when there are challenges?Life is benevolent - do we live that way?Begin living Unconditionally today!  Here's how:SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Ready to expand your capacity to FEEL better?  YES!New intentional thoughts have the power to create big shifts in our lives.However, the mind has a lot of momentum with the old, default thoughts.So in this episode I share how to begin incorporating the NEW thoughts (as I share and teach it weekly with my Self Story group members www.petesibley.com/story)New thoughts like, "I can handle this." "All of me makes sense."Witnessing your emotions NOT a representation of who you are as a person, but, as indicators of if you are aligned or resisting that higher, expanded version of yourself.  We're talking about moving from one feeling towards a "better" one and how to stay with them w/o defaulting back to the old patterns. SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

How can we deliberately choose feeling good more often, without the conditions of our lives needing to change?Ask yourself what are you choosing in the moment, in this episode I discuss each of these choices:Truth or Feeling GoodGo it Alone or With the Divine Past/ Future or Present MomentVictim or HeroAgainst me or For MeCondition or UnconditionalGain or lossThe quality of your life tomorrow is based upon the decisions you make today.March 23rd - Allowing Happiness - In person workshop in Carmel, CAclick here for all the details!!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callSELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!sign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

There is wisdom and knowing that ever human is born with.Stress, worry and negative emotions are indicators of whether or not you are connecting to this within YOU.In this episode I share a way I help clients to connect with this wisdom.You are telling the story, make it a great one!FREEBIES!!   click HERE 15 minute life coaching session & downloadable journaling workbook  1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callSELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!sign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

We ALL were built to feel good - it's why we don't like feeling bad, and yetwe seem to believe it's more responsible to feel bad more of the time than feel good!!WHAAA??!!!Once upon a time you told a beautiful story about yourself, it's time to begin telling it again!!this episode I talk about:HOW TO allow more feeling good by following the simple guidance of what hurts and what doesn'tHOW TO remember your power with telling your story**NEW SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

True self confidence is allowing good and joy into your life EVEN WHILE circumstances look they way that they do.Maybe the situation has been challenging, but YOU can allow in good regardless, And when that is TOP PRIORITY in your life, things change dramaticallytoday's example is around allowing in more abundance, but allowing in good can be applied to all of life's situations.Every circumstance is positively affected by utilizing this natural ability**NEW SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

In this episode I share a clip from a recent live talk I gave.What happens when you experience your power?What happens when you begin to believe a different and more empowering story about yourself?In this episode I share two stories that are very different but point to the same truth:You are the narrator in your life - don't like the story?  you can change it - and these stories tell you how!!Tell it with more delight for you!  more joy, more worthiness, more ease ;-)**NEW SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me heredon't forget to rate and comment on the show - let's create a world wide conversation that includes self acceptance and self kindness

The way you feel does not have to be a result of what you see.And in fact, the way you feel can radically affect what you see.What would your life look like if you were free from worry, uncertainty and even shame?That's living in the unconditional and it's so much easier than you think, in fact it's who you are!!**NEW SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness EffectPowerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months or one year, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Self Trust is KEY to creating a beautiful and sustained life that FEELs like it's working for you.Self Trust is locked in, through the action of BEING that which you desire, in the moment.If you made it your top priority every moment to deliberately feel better, then you would experience life in a new way.  As something that is here for you to create a life of your choosing.Today's episode gives a first hand account of how to begin reestablishing your inner trust with yourself - which leads to self compassion, self confidence, and so much more!**NEW SELF STORY group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect100 Days or 6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

You are capable of shifting your self story each moment.  It is less about the zero to hero journey and more about the beautiful unfolding legacy you're creating!It IS possible to be more deliberate about feeling good and joy in your life.My new group program, Self Story, has been specifically designed to help you master those skills and DO just that (or I could say BE that!)Just a few days remaining to become a Founding Member with lifetime access!!  (Or sign up for 1:1 coaching in the month of January to get the added bonus of the group program!!)Quote from the show: "The only thing that makes the difference in the way you feel right now is the thought that you are thinking right now. It doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got; there are joyful people with no money, and there are unhappy people with lots of money. How you feel is about how you are allowing the Source that is You to flow. So when we talk about the Art of Allowing, we’re talking about the art of living; about the art of thriving; about the art of clarity. We’re talking about the art of being who you really are."  Abraham-HicksNEW group program info: www.petesibley.com/story.  for all the details! 1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect100 Days or 6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in the next 100 Days or 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

We tell ourselves stories all the time, the one we are most obsessed with is our OWN story.all about: How things are working (or aren't working) in our lives.How things are going, stories about how we look and why.Stories about about our families, our career, other people, the world, etc, etcIn this episode I unpack exactly how being more deliberate about your narration is such a game changer.This is coming from experience my friend, so you won't want to miss this one.1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness newsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me hereNEW group program info: www.petesibley.com/story

We're going there today!   What is behind this thing we call LIFE and even better,How do you directly connect, inform and co-create with it.Welcome to the Greatest Journey of Your Life!This might be too far out there for you, but come along if you're ready!!1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness NewsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

We've been taught that we need certain conditions to happen before we can feel a specific way.This episode is all about FEELING what you want first, outside of conditionsWhat if you just felt good first - and then went about addressing the conditions of your life?Or peace, or joy....FIRST!How much more powerfully would you meet the conditions of your life?1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness NewsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here

Letting go of the blocks we’ve put up How we’re telling the story, that’s what we can let go of and see things rapidly change in our livesThe biggest take away from today's episode:  Letting go of the belief that there is something outside you that you need to learn, understand, adapt, get - that will “complete you”Every tool, skill, experience that I’ve been through has really only ever revealed one thing: I already know this, I’m already tapped in, I am what I’ve been looking for all along.1:1 Life Coaching - Living the Self Kindness Effect6 months of powerful one to one coachinga 1:1 coaching program built upon your unique needs and desired resultsImagine your life in 6 months, letting go of the blocks & living as a powerful creator for the life you WANT.Click Here to schedule your FREE  consultation callsign up HERE for the Self Kindness NewsletterClick here to sign upInstagram: follow me here