As humans trying to keep up with the lightning-fast pace of the modern world, many of us often feel overwhelmed. It may be in a certain area of life --  like health, work, family, or current events -- and commonly, it’s all of the above all at once. In this episode, we share what overwhelm is and how to take small steps to break through it, including reading your body’s warning signs, calming your nervous system, and using “on-ramps” to move yourself forward.  -- Links: Ep. 44: Pressing the Reset Button (on actions to complete the stress cycle) Resources: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené Brown Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Amelia and Emily Nagoski -- Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD virtually: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

We bring in our husbands, Brian and Darren (a.k.a. The Dudes) to discuss our love languages and how they show up in our relationships. Gary Chapman published the book “The 5 Love Languages” over 30 years ago. Since then, the concept of “love languages” have become an enduring part of our pop culture lexicon, beyond the original five from the book. People talk about their love languages being tacos or travel or solitude in an empty house. What are your love languages, and has knowing them helped you in your relationships (of all kinds)? Tell us at podcast@semitogether.com. ----- Resources: Take The 5 Love Languages Quiz Scary Mommy: The Creator Of The 5 Love Languages Is A Homophobe And This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things TED: Your Favorite Person’s Love Language: How to Tell, and How to Use It The Gottman Institute: “Invest in Your Emotional Bank Account” Reductress: How to Say Your Love Languages Is Gifts Without Sounding Like a French Child Prince ----- Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD virtually: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

It feels important right now to figure out how to navigate the major stressors in our lives and move forward even when we’re struggling. Some of the people close to us are going through hard times right now, like infertility, serious illness, and loss of a loved one. It makes sense that as we get older, the more illness and loss we experience, but it doesn’t make it any easier. We’ve been coping by reading books about finding hope, beauty, and meaning in the midst of pain. We wanted to share the takeaways that we’ve found most helpful, and how they've carried each of us through adversity. Note that we talk about dealing with difficult experiences such as illness, grief, and loss, so you may want to listen with headphones around young kids. If you’re going through something tough right now, we hope this conversation can be a support to you, but if it’s triggering in any way, feel free to skip this one. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

We’ve always been amused by the holiday song that begins, “So this is Christmas,” because of its ambivalent vibe, like, “Welp, I guess this is happening.” But this opening line actually captures how we feel about the start of 2023.. In this episode, we talk about framing our intentions for the new year at a time when we’re both dealing with some big challenges and not feeling 100% peppy. However you’re feeling about the new year -- excited, apprehensive, optimistic, overwhelmed, or a blend of emotions -- is  okay. You get to decide how to start this new year the way that’s right for you and feel what you feel about it, no matter what anyone else is doing. How are you approaching 2023? Tell us at podcast@semitogether.com. Previous New Year’s episodes: Ep. 62: Start the New Year with a Vision Ep. 47: Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021! Ep. 37: Reimagining Our 2020 Goals Ep. 29: 20 for 2020 Goals Ep. 7: Tighten Up and Lighten Up Ep. 2: How to Stick with Resolutions & Goals Resources: Imprint App Anxiety RX, by Dr. Russ Kennedy ----- Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD virtually: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

The holidays can be A LOT, especially when we’ve been in survival mode -- as many of us have been since the pandemic started. This has been a challenging year for us: Gill has been managing her cancer diagnosis and treatment, while Melia has been building her coaching business and moving to New York with her family. There’s a lot of cultural pressure to make the holidays “the most wonderful time of the year,” but WE get to decide what our holidays look like. To lower stress and overwhelm and boost joy and connection, we start by zeroing in on what matters most to us. When our priority and intention is clear, we can let the rest go. A few questions to ask yourself when considering baking cookies, buying gifts, going to holiday events, etc.: Do I want to do this? If I want to do this, what do I want from the experience? What matters most to me? How does it affect my body budget (deposits/withdrawals), and how do I plan to stay fueled? Tell us: What are your intentions for this holiday season? What are you choosing to do and not to do? Email us at podcast@semitogether.com or send us a voice memo. ----- Resources: Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids, by Mona Delahooke Anxiety RX: A New Prescription for Anxiety Relief from the Doctor Who Created It., by Russell Kennedy, M.D. The Tapping Solution (EFT Tapping Meditation app) ----- Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

A lot of us are going through major transitions right now: moving to new locations, changing jobs or relationship status, having kids, or going through losses or health challenges. Many of us are shifting into a new phase in our lives or re-evaluating our priorities due to the pandemic. The bittersweet nature of many of these transitions has been on our minds lately for a variety of reasons. Melia and her family just moved from Jackson, MS to the Albany, NY area, away from many people and places they love. We recorded this episode together in person at our childhood home in Sonoma, CA, before our parents put the house on the market and move closer to us both. We draw upon Susan Cain’s beautiful book, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, as we cope with feelings of grief for what’s ending mixed with anticipation for what’s ahead. We share how we are embracing the bittersweet and, as always, feel it all. When do you tend to feel bittersweet? What are some ways that embracing bittersweetness helps you through transitions? Tell us at podcast@semitogether.com. Resources: Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, by Susan Cain Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené Brown Unlocking Us podcast: Brené with Susan Cain on How Sorrow & Longing Make Us Whole, Part 1 Unlocking Us podcast: Brené with Susan Cain on How Sorrow & Longing Make Us Whole, Part 2 Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Our upbringing, culture, and traumatic experiences can disconnect us from our emotions and intuition. Many of us get stuck in our minds and stop noticing the pain or discomfort in our bodies, so we miss signals that are crucial to our well-being. In this episode, we discuss why feeling your emotions matters and how to do it. We share practices that are teaching us to feel it all, and which you can use to do the same. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Wellllll 🤬🤬🤬 Sometimes things don’t go as planned. You realize that a situation is out of your control, there’s nothing you can do about it, and it just plain sucks. This episode is unfortunately inspired by recent real-life events. We were supposed to meet in D.C. this month for some much-needed sister time, but the universe/ pandemic had other plans. One of our coping mechanisms is thinking, “It’s all content,” when things don’t go our way. In that spirit, we share five strategies to help you deal with disappointment when reality falls short of your expectations. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: www.semitogether.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Resources: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown Unlocking Us podcast: Comparative Suffering, the 50/50 Myth, and Settling the Ball Episode 44: Pressing the Reset Button  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

If you’ve heard us refer to our Enneagram types in previous episodes (Melia is a 1, Gill is a 7) and wondered what the heck we were talking about, or if you are familiar with the Enneagram framework and want to learn more, this episode is for you! We talk to our dear friend Alicia Ross, a certified Enneagram coach who is starting a new Enneagram training and coaching business this summer. The pandemic has brought out the worst in most of us at some point – the way we act when we’re overwhelmed and scared. As challenging as this period is, it’s also an opportunity to look at why we do the things we do, even when we know they don’t serve us. Alicia shares: How the Enneagram personality system can help us understand these patterns, give us more compassion for ourselves and other people, and open up the space to make a different choice. Descriptions of the 9 Enneagram types in this context, highlighting what causes stress for each type, and how each can find more balance, peace, sanity, and connection. For reference, we’ve included timestamps for each type: Overview of the Enneagram: What is it, how it’s useful, and how it differs from other personality systems -  4:48 Type One, The Reformer - 22:59 Type Two, The Helper - 33:29 Type Three, The Achiever - 43:06 Type Four, The Individualist - 52:41 Type Five, The Investigator - 61:11 Type Six, The Loyalist - 70:17 Type Seven, The Enthusiast - 76:36 Type Eight, The Challenger - 86:20 Type Nine, The Peacemaker - 95:11 Learn more about Alicia Ross and her Enneagram workshops and coaching: https://www.enneagramgrowthpath.com/ Read more about each type on the Enneagram Institute website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com Ryan O’Neal’s Sleeping at Last album of moving songs about Enneagram type: https://open.spotify.com/album/1R3C4VebWmWXFlbTSnnLql?si=WJstRap5SlKS0cwrFVeLaA Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

When we think about setting boundaries, many of us focus on external boundaries: the limits we set with other people around our time, physical space, privacy, etc. But internal boundaries – those we need to protect our inner worlds from outside influences – are just as important, and often more difficult to set and hold. In this episode, we discuss what it looks like to have healthy internal boundaries that nurture our self-trust and confidence, and help us take responsibility for our actions and well-being. In our Get It Together / Got It Together segment, we each share the internal boundaries we want to strengthen, and the ones that we've done the work to establish. Let us know how you manage your own internal boundaries. Which limits feel strong, and which are you still working on? Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Heads up that this episode contains swearing. Let’s revisit The F**k It List! We recorded an episode on this topic back in February 2021, a year into the pandemic, when we were reevaluating our priorities and deciding how we want to spend our precious time and energy going forward. Making a F**k It List is a fun and liberating exercise. Think of it as the anti-Bucket List. Instead of “Things to do before you die,” it’s “Things to stop doing so you can fully live.” The F**k It List can also be an alternative to short-term goal lists or resolutions. It’s a list of things that we may have done out of obligation, or optics, or in service of goals we used to have, but we are consciously letting go of, because we get to decide. Tell us what's on your own F**k It List at podcast@semitogether.com. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

As National Poetry Month begins, we discuss the power of poetry to express emotion, read some of our favorite poems, and share what they mean to us. Become a patron of the podcast on Patreon (linked below) and read a couple of poems we’ve written that are close to our hearts. Gill gives a health update and thanks our people for all of their loving support. Melia reveals what is helping her sleep better after many restless nights. We’d love to hear your favorite poems and the role that reading or writing poetry has played in your life. Email us or send a voice memo to podcast@semitogether.com. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who coaches adults with ADHD to get things done in ways that work for our wild, creative brains: www.risingspiralcoaching.com. Poems that have special meaning for us: Ithaka, by C.P. Cavafy [love is more thicker than forget], by e.e. Cummings Sonnet XVII, by Pablo Neruda  The Dream Keeper, by Langston Hughes The Guest House, by Rumi Singsong, by Rita Dove The Thing Is, by Ellen Bass Phenomenal Woman, by Maya Angelou Those Winter Sundays, by Robert Hayden We Shake With Joy, by Mary Oliver Don’t Hesitate, by Mary Oliver This Be the Verse, by Philip Larkin The Hill We Climb, by Amanda Gorman Rollercoaster, by Jasmine Gardosi Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver Love Poem, by John Frederick Nims [i carry your heart with me(i carry it in], by e.e. Cummings [in Just-] by e.e. Cummings “Milkshake” poem from the movie Before Sunrise --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Heads up that we talk about some serious personal health issues in this episode with a good bit of emotion and swearing. If any of this is too much for you right now, feel free to skip this episode, read the summary in the forthcoming show notes or come back to it later. In this episode, we discuss how to show up for people in tough times, such as serious illness, loss, or other challenges they’re going through. When people we care about are hurting, we often want to do something to help but aren’t sure how. Gill graciously shares her own recent health challenges, speaking about them publicly for the first time, to share what’s been helpful and not-so-helpful to her so far. Keep in mind that some of these are her personal preferences, but others will likely be universal. Let us know at podcast@semitogether.com what’s been helpful when you or loved ones have gone through tough times. See the show notes for a summary of the episode and ways to support Gill if you’d like to do so. Resources & links: Gill's CaringBridge page Episode 39: Dodging the Second Arrow Anticancer: A New Way of Life, by David Servan-Schreiber Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Dr. Kristin Neff Radical Acceptance, by Tara Brach Burnout: The secret to solving the stress cycle, by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski Heart Advice for Difficult Times, by Pema Chödrön Welcoming the Unwelcome: Wholehearted Living in a Brokenhearted World, by Pema Chödrön Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most, by Greg McKeown Noodle the Pug on Instagram Focusmate Unlocking Us podcast: Brené Brown on FFTs Find Semi-Together on the web: https://semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

We imagine that we’re not the only ones going through intense ups and downs right now, with the ongoing pandemic and winter weather. We’ve really been feeling the need to have things to look forward to, as well as everyday highlights we can count on, so in this episode we talk about Building Joy & Meaning into Every Day.  We share the activities that bring each of us joy and meaning, with tips for intentionally making them part of our daily schedules, and what we’re looking forward to -- getting inventive when the list is too thin. We encourage you to borrow from our lists and tell us what’s on yours. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

It’s been a wild ride during pandemic times, with many opportunities (welcome or not!) for us to practice the strategies we talk about on this podcast. Managing relationships in a new way -- with coworkers or friends, your family of origin or chosen family -- has been important but often challenging, especially when quarantining together at length. Our husbands, Brian and Darren, are back for their third guest appearance on the podcast to talk with us about the biggest challenges, lessons learned, and silver linings during the nearly two years of the pandemic. We discuss the resources and outlets that have kept us (relatively) sane, and what we’d like to carry into the new normal, whenever it emerges. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com. Resources: Previous Semi-Together eps with Brian and Darren: Ep. 8: The Dudes, Ep. 21: Personality Types in Relationships & Life Drs. John & Julie Gottman, relationship researchers & therapists: The Gottman Institute, 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Brene Brown’s Unlocking Us eps: FFTs, comparative suffering, Esther Perel  Glennon Doyle on “TV time” during the pandemic Elizabeth Gilbert on Facing Fear with Compassion  Corpen, Brian’s craft gin distillery in Barcelona --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Happy New Year! We recorded this episode on the last day of 2021 (together in person, yay!!). Our topic is Start the New Year with a Vision – which is especially timely as we’re ringing in 2022, but you can do this any time you want to reflect on and reset your goals and intentions. In this episode, we: Share a 2021 Get It Together / Got It Together roundup Discuss why having a vision helps set an intentional course for the new year and beyond Share guiding questions to think about + ideas for creating your vision in a relaxed and enjoyable way Talk about why we love making vision collages to start the new year Share which goals and intentions made it to our own vision collages Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Resources Semi-Together Ep. 5: Prioritizing What Matters, Part I Semi-Together Ep. 6: Prioritizing What Matters, Part II Who The F*ck Am I To Be A Coach?!: A Warrior's Guide to Building a Wildly Successful Coaching Business From the Inside Out by Megan Jo Wilson Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen by Dan Heath Jack Canfield: 21 Ways to Make Your Vision Board More Powerful Jesse J. Anderson, ADHD Creative: @jessejanderson on Twitter --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

As the busyness of the holiday season ramps up, we're feeling the need to simplify our tasks. We’ll talk about how we’re doing with the holiday hustle, then share tips for shrinking your list down to the things that really matter to you. By letting the rest go, you’ll feel calmer and have more quality time with your loved ones. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Links Ep. 46: All Vibes Welcome for the Holidays Neck support / anti-snoring pillow Kokoon earbuds Ep. 46: All Vibes Welcome for the Holidays I Rewatched Love, Actually and Am Here to Ruin It for All of You (Lindy West, Jezebel) No, Love, Actually Isn’t Problematic (Dana Schwartz, Bustle) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Today’s episode is a little different. We often mention our dear friend Katie, who has transformed herself over the years from a melancholy teenager into a contented adult. After healing past traumas and learning to practice radical acceptance through years of therapy, she became a therapist herself. Now she helps her clients make the same kinds of positive changes in their lives. When Katie visited Jackson this summer, Melia insisted that she share her secrets, the practices that help her find happiness within herself, in the here and now. She tells us how cognitive-behavioral techniques -- choosing our thoughts and actions -- can change not only our feelings in the moment, but also our overall sense of happiness and fulfillment. We hope that you’ll find these takeaways especially helpful during this busy holiday season, when our many commitments can feel less than jolly. You can contact Katie via podcast@semitogether.com, and she is taking new clients based in California and Minnesota, via teletherapy. What resonates with you in this conversation? In which ways have you evolved since you were a teenager? Let us know via the email above or send us a voice memo. Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Resources from this ep: Awareness, by Anthony de Mello The Unplanned Career: How to Turn Curiosity Into Opportunity, by Kathleen Mitchell When Things Fall Apart, by Pema Chodron Man’s Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl Feeling Good, by David Burns Grit, by Angela Duckworth Eckhart Tolle Byron Katie The Curiosity-Driven Life: Elizabeth Gilbert on Oprah’s Super-Soul Conversations --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Perfectionism is a recurring theme of Semi-Together – and the root of many of the things we struggle with, as we learn to show up authentically and treat ourselves with compassion. We went back and listened to Episode 25: Perfectionism & Self-Compassion, which we released almost exactly two years ago, to see where we’ve evolved and where we’re still growing. We share: A quick review of what perfectionism is and why it’s harmful A rising spiral framework to help you evaluate how you dealt with perfectionism in your life in the past, how you deal with it now, and how you hope to in the future Practices that have helped us heal perfectionism – and others backed by research Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a no-charge Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Referenced in the ep: Episode 25: Perfectionism & Self-Compassion Kristen Neff’s Self-Compassion Break Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristen Neff The Gifts of Imperfection & Unlocking Us podcast by Brené Brown  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message

Buckle up: it’s Halloween season, and we’re talking about fear! Fear is a primitive emotion that evolved to protect us from real threats, but it can also hold us back from taking risks that would likely benefit us. We discuss: How fear affects our brains and bodies – keeping us safe from short-term threats but causing harm in an ongoing state What scared us as kids and what scares us now – both the tangible and the existential Why the content we consumed as kids in the ‘80s was legit terrifying Strategies for dealing with intangible fears that aren’t actually life-threatening How do you deal with things that scare you? What advice about fear would you like to share? * Content warning: In this episode, we talk about our fears as kids and adults, including scary media at about a PG-13 level. We also touch on some deeper existential fears. If these things may be triggering for you, feel free to skip this episode or parts of it. Toward the end, we talk about how to deal with fear, which we all need to do in some way, and we hope those takeaways are helpful.  Find us on the web for show notes and extras: https://www.semitogether.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/semitogether Facebook: https://facebook.com/semitogether Subscribe to our e-newsletter for episode roundups, tips to steal + extras: https://www.subscribepage.com/semitogether Become a patron of the podcast and access bonuses and extras: https://www.patreon.com/semitogether Book a free Discovery Call with Melia, who is coaching self-critics and perfectionists, including adults with ADHD: www.risingspiralcoaching.com  Referenced in this episode: Your Fear is Boring (Elizabeth Gilbert) “Face Your Fears” music video (Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert Untamed by Glennon Doyle Find research and writing about fear linked from the episode page on our website. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/semi-together/message