Set To Learn

Recorded before the insurrection, Tanya and Derek continue to speculate about the future of Covid, get upset at Christians around the election, and talk about what they think they should have done differently in past relationships.If you want to get in contact with us, add us on Instagram at @settolearn and slide into our DMs!

We finally dig into our new house and some things we’ve learned around buying and getting started in it, as well as some election talk because it’s kind of a big deal right now.If you want to get in contact with us, add us on Instagram at @settolearn and slide into our DMs!

Heyyyyy possum episode! Took forever to get this one out because of other life circumstances, but hopefully we can get you more sweet sweet podcast episodes soon!

More COVID-19 stuff, Black Lives Matter, Rainee learns knock knock jokes and Derek almost buys a gun. 😳

We are well into COVID-19 arriving in the US, and so Derek and Tanya are talking about it’s changed life so far. You can download coloring pages at [themast.net](https://themast.net)!

Tanya and Derek are going house-hunting, Derek asserts things about Tanya’s mental makeup, and at the very end they talk about Twilight Eclipse! Also, they have absolutely no idea the coronavirus is gonna be a thing in the US at this point, so enjoy absolutely no discussion about that whatsoever!We dive RIGHT into follow up:From Jesse, pacemakers are probably fine with dog fences as long as you’re about 12” awayThe correlation of alcohol consumption to cancer has been overstatedDerek succeeded at the NJ bureaucracy with nothing but dad jokesWe’re actually going to try to buy a new house!Stuff we learnedDerek:How much sugar is in a thingThere are people that absolutely don’t fidget at allHaving a list of 1-2 hour projects is great for productivityTanya:She’s not insane because “the call of the void” is a normal thingRainee:Pain and wanting to be someone elseAaaaaaand Derek thinks Tanya totally has ADHD. Tanya is in denial, and thus convo ensues.After that, it’s pretty much just the Eclipse review at the end.Thanks as always for listening! You can visit the show site at settolearn.com!

Kids don't follow directions very well, Derek shares about what ADHD actually is, and Tanya researches cancer the entire episode.We learn things about Covergirl live, during the episode, and Tanya muses about how tragic it is that the world doesn't get to hear Derek read books to kids, then we jump right into things we've learned:Derek:Soap bubbles make a sound when they popAtlas now has opinions, not just needsWe could pay off our house this yearTanya:Pacemakers somehow interact poorly with invisible dog fencesThe depth of the silliness of the English languageSpeaking out your parenting insecurities to others is a good thingSide tangents taken during the things we've learned segment includes:Like a million references to CovergirlThe Dream PodcastTanya doesn't think she's young enough to say boujee and litDerek rants about people not talking about financesDerek is the guy at work that uses big wordsAlcohol consumption increases your risk for cancer?Derek delves into the bureaucratic debacle that his New Jersey license has becomeThen for main topic, Derek talks about ADHD, what it is, what it looks like for him, etc. Check out How To ADHD on YouTube if you have ADHD and/or want to learn more about it.Hit us up on Instagram (instagram.com/settolearn if you want to ask us questions for the show!

Turns out we might be pacifist, we talk about new year resolutions, and Derek reviews New Moon!We talk about Martin Luther’s ribs a little bit before we go into...Things we learned:DerekThe new oven smokes like crazy if anything gets on the bottom of itChildren at Murry’s age need constant and gentle redirectionTanyaShe might be pacifist!There’s still some things that she’s working through from earlier in lifeNo matter what you learned in parenting, you have to constantly relearn the same thingsRainee:What “hesitated” meansMurryHe’s so much more conversational nowThen we talk about New Year’s resolutions and how we use themes, rather than resolutions. Tanya’s word for last year was Grace, but doesn’t have one for this year yet. Derek’s word last year was Survive, and this year’s is Grow.Finally, after the credits, we talk about Derek’s first experience watching Twilight: New Moon!

After we talk about Christmas, Derek talks a bit about why he hasn’t been wearing his Apple Watch, before going right into what we’ve learned:Derek:ADHDBeing spontaneous with datesWant to learn about avoiding spammy textsDiscovered that 3rd parties to 3rd parties to healthcare existTanya:Essential oils and other wellness stuffThe line between people-pleasing and appropriate caution with kid noise in churchRainee:Became a ChristianTaylor Swift is realThanks again for listening to the show! Here’s to a great new year!

Derek watches Twilight, Tanya witnesses Derek pass out (unrelated), Kanye gets saved, and Halloween thoughts!Highlights:Life stuff - Murry’s still teething hard, and Addie is doing her baby thing of needing to be held all the time, but despite life being full, life is pretty good!Follow up - It’s really funny when children cry into a kazoo. Also, people agree that eating mold is bad and gross. Geez, you’re all wimps.Derek watches Twilight, first movie - He thinks it’s an awesome premise, poorly executed in parts, but otherwise enjoyed it!Things we learned:Derek successfully got a flu shot on his own, but passed out HARD on a blood draw, totally freaking out a phlebotomistKanye is probably a Christian now and you should listen to his new albumTriggers, a book about being levelheaded in parenting, is really good and you should read it!Derek passed a New Jersey electrical test on his first tryApparently jumping off a roof doesn’t end in instant death, but definitely ends in day-later-whole-body-painTanya’s a bit insecure about what people will think of her parenting style, including things about unschooling, like kids not learning to read til they’re 12It’s not a weakness to care about people. NO REGRETS ON THE CULT EPISODE, Y’HEAR???Then the rest of the episode is our thoughts on Halloween! We reference a Pubcast episode in there, too.We’d love to hear your thoughts about the show! Find and message us on Instagram or send us a voice message!

The first real podcast recorded after Atlas is born, Tanya and Derek discuss how life has been going since. While they sound sleepy and delirious at 8:30 PM. Follow Up: Thanks to Jazmynn and Colin for sending in questions for the unschooling episode! Voice messages link: speakpipe.com/settolearn What we've been learning: Derek's been going on a caffeine sabbatical. Tanya's realizing that people forget she's sassy, since she's been so under the weather up until recently. Derek loves Lincoln Log messes. Tanya feels weird about not being able to give to people when people give to her. Rainee doesn't like boys, just daddies. Tanya learned that Derek ate just a very very tiny amount of mold, it's not a big deal, okay? Love you guys. Thanks for listening. I know we aren't very regular recently, but we still love doing this and are so grateful to you for joining in on our lil show. ❤️

A summary of the last nine months, recorded three days before giving birth. This is us at the lowest we’ve ever been. “To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Atlas finally enters our world. We talk about Atlas' birth story, both Tanya and Derek's sides, as well as our feelings surrounding the event. Basically, we're super jazzed. 😍😍😍 We also talk briefly about what we were experiencing the several days prior to her arrival, but we'll save that for last episode. Talk to us at instagram.com/settolearn or leave us a voice message at talk.settolearn.com!

It’s the unschooling episode! We also talk about our Canada vacation, Derek rants about a musical, and Tanya is still pregnant. The previous show notes author has been sacked due to their snark and how long it took them to write show notes. We start off talking about how our Canada vacation went, and slowly transition to stuff we learned: Rainee learned about gutting fish We all learned about transitioning into vacation Tanya talked Rainee through what spanking is It takes a long time to paint cabinetry Tanya’s realizing how much this pregnancy has changed how she thinks and functions Tangent: Derek talks about electrical licenses and tests Derek’s learned to like stainless steel straws Tanya’s learned that Derek has few opinions, but those he does have are surprisingly strong and surprising. Tangent: 7 Brides for 7 Brothers Then we get into our main topic this week, which is finally the unschooling episode! We lay down the primer of what unschooling is and how you should think about it, as well as answer a few questions. Resources mentioned: BoyinaBand videos: Don't Stay In School You don't legally have to go to school. Changing Education Paradigms by Ken Robinson (RSA Animate version) Pam Laricchia LivingJoyfully.ca (website) Exploring Unschooling (podcast) We'd love to hear your feedback! Message us on Instagram or leave us a voicemail

Really, most of this is about Derek’s vasectomy, and why! If you have feedback or questions, you can contact Derek and Tanya on Instagram or send a voice message at settolearn.com/talk!

Tanya learns about whiskey barrel cribs, Derek learns about 80s vasectomy videos, and you learn about free-range parenting. We join our “heroes” just in time for you to hear them eating ice cream you can’t have. Mmm, doesn’t that make you feel special. Anyway, Tanya’s still pregnant. Not much changing there anytime soon. They’ve learned a few things, not surprising when it’s been about a month an a half since recording the last episode. 😳 Derek learned: How to curl hair He doesn’t drink a lot of water because of facial hair (if you want to embarrass him, tell him about your competent beard-drinking here) He is 180 pounds Vasectomy videos from the 80s are still being used Rainee feels empathy for video game characters Lots around his new work truck! Tanya learned: Whiskey barrels are the proto-crib How to view her struggles as her children’s strengths How to tip! Here is the part of the show where they beg you to be involved, dear listener. So I’m contractually obligated to point you to either DM them on Instagram or the voice messaging thingy at settolearn.com/talk. Tanya then presents her research/thoughts/ramblings on free-range parenting, motivated by a Stuff You Should Know episode and an old article by Lenore Skenazy. Pan-millennial ftw. It’ll all pan out in the end.

Podcasting on vacation, our heroes talk about the baby’s gender and name, and rant about colleges! The NICE thing about these guys getting farther and farther between episodes is that I don’t have to do these summaries as often. After some pointless banter and threats of breaking into people’s houses, D&T reveal they’re having a baby girl, and (SPOILERS) her name is Atlas Shrugged. I mean, Mouth Agape. Erm, Atlas Agape. Friggin hippies. And then we can’t escape it any longer as they go into what they’ve learned: Derek learned: He’s much more motivated to be up early when he knows the kids get up after 6:30 About mustache wax Their coffee pot doesn’t stop brewing when he takes the carafe out Why tile feels colder than carpet Tanya learned: She can read the ultrasound pretty sensibly now! About placing appropriate blame when she lets people make her overstep her boundaries with work To remember expectations are silly in this stage of life Then Derek goes off on college fraud and uses it as a soapbox for decrying college in general. Send all hate mail today o the Instagram or yell at him at settolearn.com/talk.

Still in the throes of pregnancy and hyperemesis gravidarum, we still manage to talk about a bunch of stuff we’ve learned recently, including natural consequences, Thomas the Tank Engine, and vaccinations! Oh look, they made it out with another episode before the heat-death of the universe. Way to be punctual. Derek jumps in right away with an adorable Rainee recording, and Tanya talks about some feedback to last time’s sin nature episode. They also let you know to give them questions for a future unschooling episode, either on Instagram or via voice message at settolearn.com/talk. As for things they’ve learned: Tanya’s still learning that natural consequences are a...unpleasant... Derek learned Rainee thinks that he sleeps on the couch Here there really isn’t anything they learned (Tanya’s breaking the rules again) but something something mommy punched daddy playfully and ohhhhhh the toddler accountability Derek learned Tanya is extremely opposed to the mutton chop Derek’s learning about how good Thomas the Tank Engine is (lol, wut) (Here lies an Umbrella Academy diversion) Tanya’s learned some things around the vaxxiverse Derek’s apparently into an open-world game Tanya’s been learning about the Emerson’s sensory tendencies and gives a primer on ASMR And that’s all you get! So sorry you had to listen to an episode less than an hour long, guess you’ll have to get your jollies somewhere else. Have you tried lightly flogging yourself?

Boy, has it been a week. Also, we talk about sin nature! Yep, they’re still pregnant, and Tanya’s still very sick. And also everyone else in the family got sick. Which made everything worse. Really, this whole part is very gross and depressing. For follow up, Derek decided it was worth mentioning the coincidental release of all of Steven Universe on iTunes with the release of an STL episode. Also, they learned that, go figure, there’s no discovered differences in function among sperm. Yay science. Learning: Tanya learned how caffeine works, Derek learned that poop incidents make one very aware at night, Tanya learned that you need a lot of heat to kill bacteria Derek throws in something that may or may not be true about germ clouds and shoes And Derek learned that he’s still a bad person, and that the gospel is sweet. To shorten up the rambling. And prepare your tomatoes for the main topic (timestamp: 20:39), where Derek and Tanya talk about their perspectives on the sin nature of children. Some resources they talk about: Jesus the Gentle Parent GotQuestions.org Llamas with Hats St. Patrick’s Bad Analogies Feel free to let them know your very strong feelings either with your voice through their voice message system or with your text words via DM on Instagram! If you’re wondering what happened to the Twitter, it’s still there! You can use it, but you can pretty much count on them not paying attention. That IV lady story is pretty cute, “stick” around for that.

We have our wonderful sister Elisa on this week to talk together about how singles and married people can connect and why they should be friends with each other. Plus, Elisa lets us know her secret method for determining baby genders! Ohhhhhhh boy. Strap in, folks. This thing is like, two and a half hours. This is why Derek and Tanya never have guests, sheesh. So Tanya's sister Elisa comes along for the ride this week. After Elisa gets the obligatory fan-service out of the way, they...well, they get coffee and tea, and talk about cat cafes, and... You know what, let's just skip the pleasantries and go WHAT THEY LEARRRRRRNED: Elisa learned how to change a blower motor Tanya learned that given enough isolation, she will talk the ear off the first person she comes in contact with Derek learned that newspapers are not relevant for kids any more Elisa learned that passports are generally not good 6 months before they expire Then, main topic time! This week, the experts on being married meet the expert on being single. Things not to say to singles and marrieds Why should you have single or married friends? How can you love each other best? Miscellaneous listener questions, wrapping it all up. Though the "miscellaneous" refers to the questions, not the listener. It was one listener. Let's not get all confused about this and assume these people have more listeners than they actually have. And of course, Elisa's baby guessing formula. Don't try this at home, kids. Congratulations on making it through. As a reward, Derek and Tanya offer two methods of further wasting your time, by giving your opinion by voice message or though DM on Instagram.