Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥 Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025 “Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?”  “What are the most common relationship issues?” “Where is the best place to find relationship advice?” It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges.  Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common (06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution (12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners  (16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever (23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship (33:01) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here 💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥 Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you. 👉Save Your Seat! “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Help! Why is my relationship so boring?” “How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?” Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner. In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up.  You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner  (07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love (11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you (20:18) Great relationships take hard work (31:02) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  “Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?” “How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?” “Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?” “What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?” Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring. If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing (15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it (21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do (29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it (39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?” “What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?” “How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?” “What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?” What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love. This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts (07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected (13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window (19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight (26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof (40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?” “Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?” “How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?” Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time. You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025 (05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business) (06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart (11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything (21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t) (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Where did the thrill go?”  “How to bring back the passion we once had?” “What are the keys to a passionate relationship?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive. Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love (03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality (04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak (08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz) (12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again (16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "Where did the passion go in my marriage?" "How do I reboot my relationship?" "How can we work on our marriage?" "Which online course helps couples the most?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now. Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away). If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it (04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated” (06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership (08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment (10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts) (14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months (17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "My partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today. What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship. Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading (04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love (06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck) (10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength (18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire (25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship (29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa) (36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership (39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "Partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment. Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong? With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk (04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are (10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience (17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed (26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away (35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone (38:12) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “How can I spice things up with my hubby?” “Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?” “How do I make my relationship more adventurous?” When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them. This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart.  Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to hello@drcherylfraser.com for a chance to win a cool prize! Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them (07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder (11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us  (16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction  (21:56) Today’s LoveByte Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Is my misery all in my head?” “Why can’t I focus on the positives?” “How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?” How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made? This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us.  Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment (14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma (26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare (33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it (48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Can meditation make me a better lover?” “Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?” “Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago (05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal  (10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all (22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction (36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all (38:46) Today’s LoveByte  Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto: eSense The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?” “How do I learn to love my spouse again?” “Why is marriage so much work?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49) We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54) The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33) Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57) Today’s LoveByte (33:14) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Recommended by Dr. Cheryl: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?” “How can I be more understanding with my spouse?” “What makes long term love so hard?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.   Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06) Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15) To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (24:31) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?” “How do I schedule sex with my partner?” “What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are biochemical reasons that our desire wanes as we age (03:57) Married sex is scheduled sex (05:47) The key to scheduled sex is creating the right environment for intimacy (10:12) When we're non-sexual, we're missing out on a very profound part of being alive (16:37) Today’s LoveByte (25:11) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here. Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!” “We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?” “Why am I never in the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Responsive desire starts with a sensual encounter (03:44) Intimacy is the communication base of any romantic relationship (07:42) To start your sexual drive, you’ve got to warm up your erotic engine first (13:44) Don’t wait around for the mood to hit you—make it a date (23:42) Today’s LoveByte (29:16) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Is long term sexual attraction a myth?” “How can I be more attracted to my partner?” “Why does my sex life slow down the older I get?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fifth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I encourage you to think back to you and your honey’s discovery of each other’s bodies, your hearts, your erotic pleasure… Do you still experience those same feelings? Or have those butterflies disappeared over the years?  Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret to reignite the BIG spark with your sweetheart.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My own sexual relationship with myself began with… an electric Snoopy toothbrush! (04:49) Menopause can cause radical changes to your sex life (09:11) 30 to 40% of couples are not making love at all (16:43) When we rely on spontaneous desire, our sex life is in trouble (20:36) You need to design a sex life that works for you (29:32) Today’s LoveByte (31:40) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?” “Why are divorce rates so high?” “How do I overcome conflict with my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships. Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03) Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51) Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21) There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53) Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34) Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?” “We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?” “How can we argue without fighting?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. “I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?”  If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all.  Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50) Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30) How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30) We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34) Today’s LoveByte (27:42) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?” “Why am I so scared to commit?” “How do I revive my commitment to my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true… How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18) If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07) The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13) Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32) Commitment is a choice (24:37) Today’s LoveByte (33:18) Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.   Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube