Sex & Bacon

Why does passion fade in marriage, and what can you actually do about it? 💔 In this episode of the Sex & Bacon Podcast, host Sarah sits down with Dr. Diane Mueller, a leading sexologist, educator, and doctor, to break down why sex often dwindles in long-term relationships and how couples can reignite desire, intimacy, and connection. You’ll learn: ✅ The difference between “normal” vs. “common” sex patterns in marriage ✅ How male vs. female arousal cycles really work (and why that matters) ✅ The role of hormones, stress, and habits in your sex drive ✅ Why communication is the missing link for most couples ✅ Practical tools to reignite intimacy and keep passion alive Dr. Mueller also shares free resources to help couples deepen intimacy: 👉 Take the Libido Quiz: https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-code/ 👉 Explore her Lube Guide: https://mylibidodoc.com/lube-guide/  Whether you’re married, dating, or simply curious about sexual wellness, this conversation will give you real tools to understand desire, strengthen communication, and make sex better with time, not worse. #SexAndBaconPodcast #IntimacyTips #Sexologist #MarriageAdvice We get into:  00:00 Intro 00:30 Understanding Sexology and Its Importance 03:19 Common Issues in Long-Term Relationships 04:31 Distinguishing Between Normal and Common 05:09 The Impact of Testosterone Levels 07:14 Healthy Relationships and Sexual Frequency 11:06 The Female Arousal Cycle 17:14 Communication and Intimacy Tools 18:09 Anatomy and Pleasure Zones 20:58 Enhancing Intimacy with Vibrators 23:31 Addressing Low Sex Drive 26:23 Creating Bougie Sex Nights 27:30 The Connection Between Pleasure and Presence 28:23 Understanding Hormones and Feedback Loops 29:43 Reigniting Desire in Long-Term Relationships 31:55 Overcoming Awkwardness in Physical Intimacy 33:08 The Power of Dopamine in Relationships 35:02 Flirting and Building Anticipation 37:02 Adapting to Changes in Sexual Needs 39:26 The Importance of Communication in Intimacy 39:53 The Role of Lube and Safe Practices 45:24 Embracing Humor and Playfulness in Sex 47:27 Emotional Intimacy and Healing Through Touch 50:52 Final Thoughts and Resources for Couples Connect with Diane X: https://x.com/natureisnude?lang=en  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/natureisalwaysnude  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfWNwoCl4f4WMHpagB2KQsw  Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/  Personal website: https://drdianemueller.com/   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if the very thing you’ve been taught to cover up… is the medicine you’ve been searching for? In this intimate and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Kerry Kott, licensed physician of Chinese medicine, herbalist, and host of the Naked to Human podcast, for a raw conversation about nudity as healing. Together, they unpack how the simple act of being naked can transform shame, trauma, and body image into self-acceptance, confidence, and liberation. From exploring nudity in nature, to the power of yoni sunning and grounding, Kerry shares her journey of moving beyond sexualization and judgment into wholeness and connection. They dive into why women carry so much shame about their bodies, how retreat spaces create safety and freedom, and why getting naked with intention can be one of the most profound healing experiences available. Whether you’ve struggled with body image, experienced trauma, or just want to feel more at home in your own skin, this episode will challenge your conditioning and invite you to reimagine what’s possible when you let go of the shame, and the clothes. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How nudity became Kerry’s medicine after years in Chinese medicine & herbalism Why shame and judgment around our naked bodies run so deep The difference between nudity, sexuality, and sensual energy Healing trauma, body image, and self-judgment through nudity The power of retreats: women coming together naked in safe, intentional spaces How nature, grounding, and yoni sunning support physical and emotional healing What really happens when women drop comparison and judgment together Navigating nudist spaces vs. sexualized spaces (and how to tell the difference) Why seeing real bodies dismantles perfection myths and Instagram illusions Creating safe practices to explore nudity at home, in nature, or with community If you’ve ever felt uncomfortable in your own skin, or wondered what it might be like to experience freedom without shame, this conversation will open your eyes to nudity as a pathway back home to yourself. #SexAndBacon #KerryKott #NudityAsMedicine #BodyImageHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #NudityAndNature #GroundingPractice #YoniSunning #SelfAcceptance #NudistRetreats #FeminineLiberation #SexPositive #ChineseMedicineHealing We get into:  00:00 Intro 03:00 Shame, safety, and why our bodies feel “wrong” naked 07:00 How nudity and sexuality became collapsed in our culture 10:00 Nudist retreats, naturist communities & misconceptions 13:00 Kerry’s first transformative experience of being topless in a non-sexual space 14:00 Women, trauma, and body image struggles in naked spaces 18:00 Why being naked together heals more than therapy sometimes can 19:00 The science & energetics of nudity in nature (grounding, elements, cellular healing) 23:00 Yoni sunning: what it is, why it’s powerful, and how women experience it 28:00 Inside Kerry’s retreats—what to expect, how they create safety 31:00 Menstruation, free bleeding, and deshaming our bodies 35:00 Why cycles matter for energy & retreat experiences 39:00 The power of intentional containers and boundaries 43:00 Body comparison, perfection myths & real-life naked bodies 50:00 Boudoir shoots, photography, and how images distort reality 55:00 Kerry’s invitation: creating safe space to explore nudity at home Connect with Kerry X: https://x.com/natureisnude?lang=en  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natureisalwaysnude/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/natureisalwaysnude  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KerryKott  Website: https://kerrykott.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if the relationship model you’ve been taught your whole life… isn’t the only way to love? In this eye-opening and deeply educational episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with sexuality educator, researcher, and author Jim Fleckenstein for a no-BS conversation about polyamory, swinging, open relationships, and the many forms of consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years in the field, Jim shares the research, real-life experiences, and hard truths that challenge everything you think you know about love, sex, and commitment. From breaking down the different types of non-monogamous relationships to busting seven of the biggest myths people still believe, Jim pulls back the curtain on what makes these relationships thrive—and where they fail. They explore the role of communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in creating healthy dynamics, plus why jealousy might not be the deal-breaker you think it is. Whether you’re monogamous, curious about opening your relationship, or already exploring non-monogamy, this conversation will give you the language, insights, and confidence to navigate love on your own terms—without shame. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The difference between swinging, polyamory, and open relationships Why consensual non-monogamy is more common than you think How society stigmatizes non-monogamy—and why that’s changing The surprising research on relationship satisfaction in non-monogamous couples Understanding boundaries, agreements, and emotional safety Why women are often the ones initiating open relationships The truth about jealousy and how to manage it Common myths that keep people from exploring alternative relationship models What makes a non-monogamous relationship healthy, sustainable, and fulfilling How to talk to therapists, friends, and family about your relationship choices If you’ve ever wondered what it’s really like to live, love, and thrive outside of monogamy, hit play, this episode might just change how you see relationships forever. #SexAndBacon #JimFleckenstein #PolyamoryExplained #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingingLifestyle #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipMyths #EthicalNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #PolyamoryTips #HealthyRelationships #SexPositive #AlternativeRelationships #LoveOnYourTerms We get into:  00:00 Intro 02:52 Jim's Journey into Non-Monogamy 04:57 Research on Non-Monogamy 13:51 Types of Non-Monogamous Relationships 14:31 Swinging and Polyamory Explained 19:04 Open Relationships and Their Challenges 23:44 The Intersection of Kink and Non-Monogamy 25:23 Addressing Stigmas and Misconceptions 35:06 Seven Common Myths About Non-Monogamy 43:57 Debunking Relationship Duration Myths 44:38 Intimacy as a Measure of Relationship Health 46:44 Generational Shifts in Relationship Norms 47:14 Authenticity in Relationships 48:47 Non-Monogamy and Jealousy 52:42 Therapy vs. Coaching for Relationship Challenges 54:26 Nine Polyamory Myths Debunked 58:35 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 01:02:49 Inclusivity in the Polyamory Community 01:16:47 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Jim X: https://x.com/JimFleckenstein  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/affirmativeintimacy  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jim-fleckenstein-6936681/  Website: https://www.affirmativeintimacy.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if the thing you’re most afraid of… is the very key to your healing? In this powerful, raw, and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Mistress Mia Payne—owner of Pain With Purpose—for a deep dive into the healing side of BDSM. Together, they explore how kink can be a therapeutic tool for trauma recovery, emotional release, empowerment, and reconnecting with the body after pain. From confronting abuse triggers in a collar to understanding the difference between consensual pain and trauma reenactment, this conversation peels back the layers on what it really means to reclaim power through intentional BDSM. Mia shares the science behind “cellular memory,” the unexpected link between kink and spirituality, and how her clients—many of them high-powered men and trauma survivors—have transformed their lives through her work. Whether you’re kink-curious, healing from trauma, or just ready to ditch shame and explore your full self—this episode offers a radically safe space to reimagine what power, submission, and self-trust can look like. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How trauma lives in the body—and why kink can help release it The difference between abuse and consensual BDSM (and why consent is everything) What “titration” is and how it helps retrain your nervous system safely Why dominant men often crave submission—and what it reveals emotionally Using pain as a spiritual tool for rites of passage, transformation, and clarity The psychology of humiliation, degradation, and praise in therapeutic sessions What submissives really get out of being “controlled”—and it’s not what you think How Mistress Mia’s clients overcame anxiety, depression, and trauma (and yes, one got off antidepressants!) Why shame is the true block to pleasure—and how to leave it at the door Hit play if you’re ready to heal your body, your beliefs, and your boundaries—one consensual, empowered session at a time. #SexAndBacon #MistressMiaPayne #BDSMHealing #TraumaRecovery #KinkTherapy #PainWithPurpose #RitesOfPassage #DominatrixWisdom #EmotionalRelease #ShameFreeLiving #FemininePower #SafeKink #SexPositiveHealing #AlternativeTherapy We get into:  00:00 Intro 04:48 Understanding the Healing Benefits of BDSM 08:12 Rites of Passage and Spiritual Practices 11:08 Client Experiences and Transformations 17:02 Tools and Techniques in BDSM 22:03 The Therapeutic Impact of BDSM 29:31 Introduction to Therapeutic BDSM 30:17 Challenges and Misconceptions 31:00 Coming Out and Acceptance 32:47 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth 37:03 Session Costs and Customization 40:19 Boundaries and Limits 44:22 Client Relationships and Communication Connect with Mia Payne Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke  Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if your biggest heartbreaks, failures, and messy breakdowns weren’t the end of your story—but the beginning of your magic? In this bold, beautiful, and brutally honest episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Michelle Burke—author of Hot Mess Magic—for a heart-opening conversation about owning your chaos, finding power in your pain, and learning how to rise without needing to be "put together" first. From losing her dad and grandma within weeks to screaming grief into the sand on a frozen Jersey beach, Michelle shares the raw truth behind what it means to discover the magic in your mess. They explore what “dark feminine energy” really looks like (spoiler: it’s not about manipulation—it’s about unapologetic power), why emotional availability in dating starts with self-honesty, and how sitting in discomfort is the only way to truly heal. If you've ever felt like a disaster in lipstick—or worried you’re too broken to find love, success, or peace—this one’s your reminder that messy doesn’t mean unworthy. It means you’re mid-alchemy. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What “dark feminine energy” really means—and how to embody it with confidence Why your mess might be your greatest teacher (and how to reframe your pain) The truth about emotional unavailability—his, and yours Releasing rage and grief through physical movement, not emotional bypassing How to date with power—even if your life feels like a chaotic dumpster fire The magic of mirror work, solo dates, and becoming the love you seek Setting boundaries, letting go of friendships, and outgrowing your old self Why vulnerability is the portal to deeper connection, healing, and community 🎧 Hit play if you're tired of pretending you're fine, and ready to feel powerful because of your mess—not in spite of it. #SexAndBacon #HotMessMagic #DarkFeminineEnergy #HealingEra #FeelYourFeelings #SelfWorthJourney #DatingWhileHealing #EmotionalAvailability #ReclaimYourPower #MessyHealing #UnfilteredFeminine #PersonalAlchemy We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:02 What is “dark feminine energy,” really? 02:25 Why women put others first—and how to stop 03:56 The birth of Hot Mess Magic and the story behind the book 07:13 Finding magic during grief, chaos, and emotional breakdowns 09:04 “Show me the truth”—the mantra that changed everything 10:56 Don’t bypass the pain: feel it, but don’t become it 12:00 Rage, grief, and kickboxing as therapy 14:52 What emotionally unavailable actually looks like in men (and women) 17:32 Dating during a hot mess—what to do, what not to 18:56 Becoming the love you want: solo dates, mirror notes, and self-devotion 21:34 Letting go of people you’ve outgrown—and the guilt that comes with it 24:26 You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with 25:42 Learning to receive instead of chasing in relationships 26:55 The art of not settling—and how to hold your standards 28:44 What kind of man are you actually calling in? 29:51 The masks we wear—and how isolation keeps us stuck 31:00 Releasing shame around money, failure, and public messiness 33:02 The power of safe community, storytelling, and permission 34:44 Final thoughts: give yourself permission to want more—and go for it Connect with Michelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke  Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com   

What if everything you believed about love, sex, and marriage was built on shame—and it nearly destroyed you? In this raw, rebellious, and soul-awakening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Carolee and Britton—former devout Mormons turned sexual freedom seekers—for an unfiltered conversation about unlearning religious programming, healing from infidelity, and discovering the power of sex magic. They dive into how growing up Mormon created deep repression, guilt, and silence around sexuality—and how it all came to a head in their marriage through betrayal, disconnection, and years of internalized shame. But instead of falling apart, Carolee and Britton chose the path of radical self-responsibility, spiritual awakening, and shadow work (with a few smashed picture frames and moonlit rituals along the way). From smashing purity culture to manifesting their dream home mid-orgasm, this episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules—and reclaiming your body, your voice, and your pleasure. 🔥 This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt broken by belief systems, but still dreamed of rising whole. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How religious shame shapes our sexuality—and what it takes to unlearn it The silent toll of purity culture on women’s bodies, desire, and confidence Infidelity, emotional immaturity, and the deeper wounds underneath cheating Why healing together sometimes means burning everything down first What “sex magic” actually is—and how it can transform your life The power of psychedelic medicine, astrology, and conscious co-creation How Carolee and Britton rebuilt a marriage on truth, not tradition 🎧 Hit play if you’ve ever questioned the beliefs you were raised with—or wanted a relationship that’s wildly more aligned, embodied, and soul-fueled. #SexAndBacon #DeconstructingReligion #SexualLiberation #MormonDeconstruction #InfidelityRecovery #SexMagic #HealingTogether #ConsciousRelationships #ShadowWork #DivineFeminine #MarriageRebirth #ReclaimYourPower #UnlearnAndRebuild We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:52 Growing Up Mormon 03:55 Sexual Repression and Infidelity 04:25 Carol Lee's Perspective on Sexual Shame 10:56 Early Marriage Challenges 25:56 Infidelity and Its Impact 34:32 Therapy and Healing 38:29 Leaving the Mormon Church 42:52 Magic Reenters Our Lives 43:04 Emotional Healing and Sound Therapy 43:36 The Journey of Reeducation 45:33 Facing Betrayal and Healing 47:13 Rage and Release Rituals 51:51 Redefining Relationships 56:59 Sex Magic and Manifestation 01:07:44 Overcoming Judgment and Shame 01:17:54 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Britton and Carolee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themagicalstoryofus/  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7aiuVvWeplDXFJOmTFpwqc TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicalstoryofus  Website: https://themagicalstoryofus.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if every guy you dated turned out to be a walking red flag—disguised as Prince Charming? In this hilarious, unfiltered, and deeply relatable episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Steph V—author and host of Dating Dicks—to unravel the art of dating emotionally unavailable men, how we ignore red flags on purpose, and why we sometimes mistake chaos for chemistry. Steph shares jaw-dropping stories (one involves being ditched at a party... for her own guest), outrageous moments of heartbreak, and the hard-won wisdom that comes from being a self-proclaimed “serial dictator.” Together, Sarah and Steph explore why women stay, what keeps us hooked, and how to break free from toxic patterns that feel way too familiar. This isn’t just girl talk—it’s a deep dive into self-worth, healing, and learning to spot the dicks before they ruin your mascara. 💥 If you've ever fallen for potential instead of reality—or if you’re just here for the wildly entertaining stories—you’re going to love this one. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Why smart, self-aware women keep dating emotional toddlers The truth about “fixing him” (and why it never works) How we confuse comfort with compatibility Learning to balance heart and logic in relationships Spotting red flags early—and actually listening to them Navigating dating apps without losing your damn mind Why Steph launched Dating Dicks—and how it’s helping women heal through humor 🎧 Subscribe, share, and don’t forget: you deserve the dick, not the dicks. #DatingPodcast #ToxicRelationships #SexAndBacon #DatingDicks #DatingRedFlags #FunnyDatingStories #FemaleEmpowerment #EmotionalUnavailability #DatingDisasters #WomenSupportingWomen We get into:  00:00 Introduction  02:02 Crazy Dating Stories: The Christmas Party Incident 05:19 Another Dick Story: The Boutique Birthday 11:17 Patterns and Lessons in Dating 15:11 Heart vs. Logic in Relationships 21:56 Navigating Online Dating 23:04 The Vulnerability of Online Profiles 24:11 Strategies for Online Dating Success 25:41 Exploring Offline Dating Options 30:25 Speed Dating Experiences 36:01 Catfish Encounters 42:30 Sharing Stories and Building Community Connect with Steph Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdicks_inc/  Book: https://shorturl.at/AnjI9 Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dating-dicks--6495398  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

What if the person you trusted most turned out to be living a double life? In this gripping, raw, and deeply courageous episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Amanda Quick—author of The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—to unravel the unthinkable: what happens when the man you married, the father of your children, is arrested for trying to purchase underage girls. Amanda shares her story with jaw-dropping honesty, walking us through the emotional rollercoaster of betrayal, trauma bonding, courtroom battles, and reclaiming her voice after years of manipulation and gaslighting. This isn’t just true crime—it’s a masterclass in resilience, motherhood, and choosing yourself when the world expects you to stay quiet. 💥 If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, felt stuck in a toxic relationship, or needed proof that healing is possible—this episode is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What it’s really like to discover your partner’s darkest secrets The truth about trauma bonding—and why it’s so hard to leave How Amanda fought a high-conflict custody battle against a convicted sex offender Why the system often fails survivors—and how she found loopholes to protect her kids The emotional toll of keeping the family together at all costs How one psychic session changed everything Reclaiming identity, sexuality, and joy after betrayal Why Amanda wrote The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—and what she wants every woman to know We get into:  00:00 Introduction  00:47 The Night Everything Changed 01:52 The Shocking Arrest 03:36 Unraveling the Truth 07:14 The Aftermath and Legal Battles 11:42 Struggling with Reality 17:07 A New Beginning 26:34 Custody and Conflict 36:49 Signs of Danger 37:59 Reporting the Incident 40:27 The Rock Bottom Moment 42:06 Seeking Unconventional Help 48:15 A Renewed Sense of Purpose 51:14 Legal Battles and Final Decisions 53:30 Life After the Divorce 57:30 Healing and Moving Forward 01:12:55 Raising Awareness and Final Thoughts Connect with Amanda Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaquickhealing/  TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXSgN-AqMzk  https://www.thesextraffickerswife.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

Is reading smut mental cheating? Or is it the secret weapon to a more empowered, pleasure-filled life? In this juicy, no-holds-barred episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with erotica author and podcaster Ruan Willow to explore the world of erotic romance, female desire, and why stories that turn women on are about so much more than sex. From reclaiming "dirty" words to using fiction as foreplay, Ruan breaks down how smut, sensual stories, and sex-positive conversations can actually heal shame, unlock confidence, and transform relationships. Whether you're new to erotic lit or a longtime lover of open-door romance, this episode is a spicy invitation to rethink what turns you on—and why that’s more powerful than you’ve been told. 💥 If you've ever felt guilty for what you like, or wondered if you're "too much"—this one is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Why reading smut isn’t mental cheating—and might actually save your sex life The difference between porn and erotic romance (and why women crave the latter) How erotica helps women reclaim pleasure, power, and their own damn fantasies The healing power of fiction for trauma, shame, and even religious conditioning What most men misunderstand about women’s desires Why sexual empowerment is mental health, period Consent, kink, and the truth about ethical non-monogamy Ruan’s top writing tips—and how her characters lead the story (and the sex) We get into:  00:00 Introduction  00:50 Ruan Willow's Journey into Erotic Romance 01:55 Debunking Myths About Erotic Romance 04:32 Writing Explicit Content: Challenges and Creativity 16:01 The Healing Power of Erotic Literature 21:51 Exploring Pseudo Incest in Literature 23:40 Family Reactions to Writing Romance 24:19 Diving into the 'Oh Fuck Yeah' Podcast 27:48 Impact of Podcasting on Writing 28:54 Writing About Non-Monogamous Relationships 32:54 Upcoming Erotic Romance Projects 35:06 Normalizing Sexual Conversations 39:21 Connecting with Fans and Final Thoughts Connect with Ruan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillowauthor/  X: https://x.com/ruanwillow?lang=en  Podcast: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/oh-fck-yeah-with-ruan-willow-1592675  Books: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

Most men think they’ve got sex all figured out… but what if that confidence is exactly what’s keeping them from mind-blowing connection? In this candid and wildly eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah is joined by Dallas Bluth, founder of Black Box Dating, to explore why so many men misunderstand what truly turns women on—and how they can flip the script for good. From porn culture and rushed foreplay to emotional unavailability and outdated masculinity myths, this convo dives into the core of male sexuality, desire, and how to create actual intimacy (that leads to the hottest sex of your life). 💥 If you’ve ever thought “I’m doing everything right… so why isn’t it working?” — this one’s for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The biggest mistakes men make in bed Why slowing down changes everything What women actually mean when they say they need to feel safe The #1 mindset shift that makes sex hotter How porn rewires expectations and performance The real role of emotional intimacy in physical pleasure Tangible ways men can step into secure, grounded masculinity We get into:  00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:58 Defining Really Hot Sex 02:14 Male vs. Female Perspectives on Sex 02:40 Understanding Male Sexuality 06:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection 16:27 Foreplay in Relationships 20:38 Acts of Service and Masculinity 34:19 Setting Standards in Relationships 46:20 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships 48:18 Desensitization and Addiction 49:47 Emotional and Sexual Escalation 50:42 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy 55:06 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships 58:18 Challenges in Married Life 01:01:32 Reigniting Passion in Long-Term Relationships 01:04:40 The Role of Masculine Energy 01:16:25 Creating Lighthearted and Carefree Experiences 01:26:59 Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Dallas Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dallas.bluth/ Website: https://dallasbluth.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I sit down with the always unfiltered Darby for a rollercoaster ride through dating disasters, sexual awakenings, and the spiritual side of swearing off men—temporarily. We talk throuples, field apps, hat-fishing, giant dicks (that miss the G-spot), and the kind of kissing that makes you question if you even like the person. And then—curveball—Sarah shares her very real journey of trying celibacy… for six months. Kind of. Maybe. We’ll check back in 30 days. Get ready for big laughs, bigger truths, and the kind of late-night convo you’d only have with your best friend and a half-empty glass of wine. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Too Much Dick, Not Enough Spark Why bigger isn’t always better and why chemistry matters more than checkboxes (even if the checkbox is “deep radio voice”). Sensuality > Shits & Giggles Sarah shares her first real experience with a couple—and what it taught her about connection, boundaries, and how much is too much pleasure in one night. When Your Gut Says “No,” but Your Hormones Say “Let’s Go” Why we sometimes ignore our instincts when someone checks all the right boxes—except the emotional availability one. Six Months of Celibacy (Allegedly) Sarah swears off dating and sex for six months to heal, set boundaries, and get clear… but can she make it past day 30 without sexting someone in a cowboy hat? Red Flags & Witches From “build-a-boy” fantasies to sending money to witches (yep, that happened), we go there—and back again. Plus, what dating app culture really says about where we are emotionally. Sisterhood Over Situationships Through the mess and the magic, Sarah proves one thing: real friendship is what holds you when the bed’s cold and the heart’s hurting. We get into:  00:00 Intro 00:25 Dating Woes and Celibacy Challenge 01:14 The Cowboy Chronicles 02:29 Exploring Throuples and New Dating Adventures 04:17 The Throuple Experience 08:49 New Connections and Insecurities 14:05 Navigating Relationship Red Flags 20:04 Warnings and Red Flags 21:04 Realization and Self-Reflection 23:32 Intimacy and Relationship Benchmarks 27:22 Commitment to a Dating Hiatus 31:51 Challenges and Support 40:36 Final Thoughts and Cheers Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I’m joined by the vibrant and soulfully wise Shay Moore—a licensed marriage and family therapist with a love for all things messy, magical, and real when it comes to relationships. Together, we dive deep into the labyrinth of modern love, friendships, dating dilemmas, and the wild ride of being a woman who’s trying to figure it all out without losing herself in the process. Shay brings raw honesty and therapeutic insight as we unpack the complexities of love, the importance of female friendships, and why your girlfriends really are your soulmates (even if they cook you dinner instead of sending flowers). 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Love in Shambles – From Studying It to Living It Shay shares her journey from being single and skeptical to becoming a therapist helping others navigate love—even when her own heart was still learning. Hyper-Independent Women & The Vulnerability Conundrum Why opening up feels like peeling your own skin off—and how we can soften without falling apart. Dating in the Digital Age – Why Is This So F*cking Hard? We talk about ghosting, texting anxiety, and whether being a "pen pal" counts as connection. Spoiler: it doesn’t. Friends Who Love Us Too Hard How our besties can sometimes project their own pain into our dating lives—and how to tell when it’s advice or overprotection talking. Sisterhood is Sacred Shay opens up about her own heartbreaks, the friends who walked beside her, and why adult female friendships are the real love story of your life. Healing Through Sisterhood, Honesty, & Hugs From seven-second hugs to "rotting on the couch" dates, we explore the power of being seen, held, and loved by other women—no filter, no judgment. We get into:  00:00 Intro 02:16 The Struggles of Modern Relationships 04:33 Navigating Dating Expectations 09:30 The Role of Friends in Relationship Advice 16:43 Mental Health and Relationship Breakdowns 18:03 Red Flags and Emotional Availability 23:14 The Tall Man Dilemma 23:37 Emotional Availability in Relationships 24:41 The Importance of Open Communication 28:16 Supporting Friends Through Breakups 31:49 Love Languages in Friendships 33:36 The Value of Female Friendships 42:15 Unapologetically You 48:19 Final Thoughts and Advice Connect with Shay Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shifthappenswithshay/  Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2413290/episodes/16781737-the-power-of-vulnerability-how-being-real-strengthens-relationships Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com   

In this episode of Sex&Bacon, I’m joined by the incredibly brave Katey Rickert for a raw, unfiltered conversation about healing after sexual assault, reclaiming power, and the long, winding road of recovery. Katey opens up about her personal story—one that is heart-wrenching, courageous, and deeply human. Together, we unpack the dark aftermath of trauma, the complexities of consent, and how writing, movement, and connection helped her return home to herself. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Surviving the Unthinkable – The Story Behind the Blog Katey shares how her blog was born from a place of pain, resilience, and healing—writing her way through trauma, shame, and the reclamation of her body and voice. Disassociation, PTSD & the Aftermath of Assault What really happens to the body and mind during and after sexual trauma—and why it’s not as simple as “fight or flight.” Why Survivors Stay Silent – And Why That Needs to Change From shame to broken systems, Katey breaks down the reasons behind the silence of so many survivors—and what happened when she finally reported her assault 8 years later. The Broken Justice System – One Call, No Justice Despite a recorded confession, her rapist walked free. Katey details the gut-wrenching failures of the legal system and why so many survivors don’t come forward. The Road to Recovery – Yoga, Therapy & Radical Reconnection Katey dives into how years of therapy, recovery, and somatic healing helped her finally feel safe again—in her body, in relationships, and in her truth. From Trauma to Empowerment – Reclaiming Sexuality on Her Own Terms How she transformed her pain into power, explored her sensuality through photography and writing, and ultimately found healing in conscious, connected love. We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:37 The Impact of Sexual Assault 03:35 Exploring Sexuality and OF 07:15 The Lifestyle Lounge Experience 10:11 The Assault Incident 19:41 Aftermath and Reporting 26:36 Travis County's Sexual Assault Case Backlog 27:55 Dissociation During Assault 32:44 Struggles with Intimacy 33:42 Seeking Help and Recovery 40:24 The Importance of Support Systems 44:35 The Broken System and Reporting Challenges 47:31 Empowerment Through Sharing 49:36 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Katey https://www.lamalaloba.com/ (password is kateybea) Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah Davis joins me for a no-holds-barred conversation about dating today—from navigating the wild world of dating apps to uncovering what we truly want in a partner. We get real about expectations, self-sabotage, and why so many of us keep attracting the same type of relationships. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Dating Over 40: Navigating the Chaos – Why dating later in life comes with new challenges, and how to embrace it with confidence and clarity. 🛑 Breaking the Cycle of Settling – Why so many women feel pressure to “just take what they can get” in relationships—and why that’s a hard NO. 💡 Attraction & Energy: What Are You Really Looking For? – How Sarah shifted her mindset from a “type” to deeper compatibility (and what that changed in her dating life). 🎭 Men, Women & The Dating App Struggle – The stark differences between dating men vs. women, and why dating apps often feel like a game of luck. 🔥 Red Flags, Green Flags & Wild Stories – From accidental blind dates to the infamous overnight bag incident—Sarah shares the good, the bad, and the in between. 💡 Manifesting the Right Relationship – The power of getting crystal clear on what you want in a partner—and how the universe might just deliver. We get into:  00:00 Intro 04:54 Sarah's Journey: From Marriage to Bisexuality 07:59 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships 14:26 Dating Dynamics: Men vs. Women 19:42 Worst Date Stories and Lessons Learned 27:50 Importance of Personality in Attraction 33:07 Challenges of Finding Genuine Connections 35:07 Being Upfront About Relationship Goals 35:43 Funny Dating Story: The Wrong Sarah 38:40 Setting Boundaries and Honoring Yourself 44:44 The Scarcity Mindset in Dating Over 40 52:22 Manifesting the Right Partner Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships. From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming. 🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here’s how to identify self-sabotage in action. 💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life. 🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers. 🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it’s the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want. 🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it. We get into:  00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help Connect with Minh-Thu LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/higher-alignment-consulting/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555613204811 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higheralignmentconsulting/  https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we’re kicking off a brand-new series—The Dating Circle! Host Sarah introduces us to two incredible women, Jess and Tina, as they embark on their dating journeys, sharing all the juicy details, awkward encounters, and hard-earned lessons along the way. From navigating dating apps and ghosting to defining what they’re really looking for in a partner, this candid conversation is filled with laughs, surprises, and some hard truths about modern dating. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💘 Dating in the Digital Age: Jess and Tina open up about their experiences with Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating—why some platforms work better than others and what really goes on behind the scenes of online dating. 💔 The Struggles of Modern Romance: From ghosting to awkward first dates, the ladies spill their worst dating experiences—including one that involved a surprise LARPing confession! 💡 What Women Really Want: Confidence, ambition, and emotional intelligence—Jess and Tina break down the qualities that matter most when looking for a partner. 🔥 Who Should Make the First Move? Should men take the lead in planning dates, or is it a mutual effort? The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, effort, and setting the tone for a relationship. 📌 The Homework Assignment: Jess and Tina have two weeks to find and go on a date—who will they meet, and how will it go? Stay tuned for the next episode to find out! We get into:  00:00 Introduction to the Dating Circle Series 01:30 Meet Jess: A Journey Through Divorce and Dating 03:35 Meet Tina: Single Mom Navigating the Dating World 04:45 Dating Apps: Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating 07:44 The Challenges of Online Dating 13:45 Worst Date Stories: Tina's Experience 19:05 Worst Date Stories: Jess's Experience 26:40 The Oven Thermometer Gift 27:43 Debating Dating Expenses 28:33 Splitting the Bill on Dates 32:13 Worst Date Stories 39:17 Online Dating Realities 43:35 What Women Want in a Man 49:49 Dating Homework Assignment Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of the Sex & Bacon podcast, I’m joined by Corey Ossum, an addiction recovery coach, emcee, and construction professional, who shares his journey of transformation.  Corey opens up about his struggles with addiction, the pivotal moments that inspired change, and how he’s now helping others navigate their recovery paths. From the importance of redefining one’s legacy to finding joy and purpose after addiction, Corey’s story is both raw and inspiring. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Rewriting Your Narrative: Corey shares the story of legally changing his last name to “Awesome” to leave behind a legacy of positivity and empowerment, emphasizing the importance of creating your own path in life. Hitting Rock Bottom: A sobering experience at the U.S. border marked a turning point in Corey’s life, motivating him to confront his addictions and commit to lasting change. The Power of Passion: Corey discusses how his love for emceeing bodybuilding shows became a driving force for his sobriety, illustrating the impact of having a meaningful purpose. Healing Through Coaching: Now an addiction recovery coach, Corey uses his experiences to guide others through a six-week program that focuses on physical, mental, and spiritual growth. Sobriety and Relationships: Corey reflects on how his addiction affected his relationships and how sobriety has redefined his connections with himself and others. We get into:  00:00 Introduction  07:45 Addiction Journey  12:13 Hitting Rock Bottom 18:25 Recovery and Reflection 20:13 Dating and Relationships 26:05 The Booty Blow Job Shot 26:54 From Pool Boy to Party Scene 28:11 The Cycle of Partying and Relationships 29:23 Struggles with Addiction and Sobriety 31:45 Finding Passion in Emceeing 36:29 Building a Coaching Business 41:01 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Social Media Challenges 46:17 Helping Others Through Personal Experience 51:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Connect with Corey Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theossumlife/  To learn more about Corey’s coaching program or to book a consultation, visit his Instagram page and access his booking link through the bio.   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com   

Have you ever wondered how a change in persona could reignite the spark in your relationship? In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, I’m joined by  Katie Runyan, founder of Faithful Fling and a roleplay sex expert.  Katie shares her journey into roleplay, starting with a bold experiment in her own marriage that evolved into a successful venture helping couples reignite their connection through creative roleplay scenarios. Katie explains how roleplay can break monotonous routines, enhance intimacy, and keep monogamy exciting while providing listeners with tips and resources to explore their own fantasies safely within their relationships. We get into:  00:00 Introduction 00:04 Meet Katie Runyan: Roleplay Expert 01:29 The Birth of Faithful Fling 05:00 Exploring Roleplay Scenarios 07:19 Overcoming Vulnerability and Rejection 09:34 Starting Your Roleplay Journey 19:15 Popular Roleplay Scenarios 30:52 Transform Your Room with Minimalistic Art 31:36 Roleplay Date Essentials: Tips and Tricks 33:50 Keeping Monogamy Hot with Roleplay 35:43 Workshops and Webinars for Overcoming Insecurities 39:13 The Importance of Emotional Security in Roleplay 40:04 Creating a Sensual Atmosphere 41:07 Personal Consultations and Future Goals 42:16 The Power of Roleplay in Relationships 50:28 Embracing Sensuality and Confidence 57:37 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Connect with Katie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/faithfulfling/  https://www.faithfulfling.com/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Andrew Daniel joins me to talk about sexual polarity, holistic sex, and emotional vulnerability from a man's perspective. Andrew helps us navigate important issues on men's perceptions of masculinity, societal expectations of gender roles, and the influence of these elements on personal relationships. He highlights the significance of emotional maturity and self-awareness as key to creating genuine intimacy and having a fulfilling sex life. Andrew suggests that by embracing vulnerability, men can enhance every facet of their life, from relationships to professional success. Andrew Daniel is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization. We get into:  [0:00] Intro [2:48] Why men comes to him for help [7:32] Why men do not feel supported in embracing the masculine and feminine [16:21] Intimacy is more than just sex [21:53] Battle of the sexes [24:19] Making someone's pleasure your pleasure [28:12] Revisiting our north american views on sex and intimacy vs. other countries [36:51] When your body is at odds with your brain [38:50] Developing self awareness [45:46] What is sexual polarity [52:21] Control and safety [56:59] Tips for men to start being introspective with themselves and their experiences Connect with Andrew https://andrewdaniel.org     Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we talk all about the taboo subject of talking about money in relationships. My guest, Marci Grossman, highlights how financial stress is a significant contributor to a couple's sex life disruption. Marci discusses the importance of being financially literate to avoid money-related issues in relationships.  The conversation also focuses on the impact of financial responsibility in relationships, addressing key factors like communication about earnings, debt, retirement, and savings. We also talk about the importance of having open conversations about financial expectations and circumstances when dating or entering a relationship, and how to manage finances responsibly whenever there's a major shift in life (like losing a job).  Marci Grossman is a CPA with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and businesses with financial matters. She has worked in public, private, and non-profit accounting. Her passion is helping people to improve their relationship with money.  We get into:  [0:00] Intro [2:43] My own experience in my marriage surrounding money [6:15] The conversations about money that need to be had before marriage, and Marci's experience in her own marriage [10:20] Should we put money together or keep it separate? [12:40] Why do people avoid conversations about money while dating [14:20] Are there money deal breakers in a relationship? [18:35] The problems that finances can cause [20:05] Mental health struggles with financial burdens [25:50] Tips for couples to start to look at their finances and set themselves up to be in a better position [27:15] How much to save for an emergency and retirement [33:10] The generational differences between our parents and us Connect with Marci Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/money.marci/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MoneyMarci/  Links: https://www.moneymarci.com/links  www.moneymarci.com    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com