Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

Delving Into the Sexual RevolutionIn this lively chat, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sam Feldman, the very engaging and funny author of 'Hookups, Hiccups and Happenstances.' We delved into the juicy bits of the sexual revolution, shared a few personal tales about intimacy, and had a good old chinwag about why communication is absolutely vital for keeping long-term relationships ticking along.Sam shared some cracking insights from his own life, including how health can sometimes be a bit of a party pooper when it comes to sexuality, and the sheer joy of date nights. He cheekily reminded us that age is just a number—definitely not a barrier to having a right good time in the bedroom or beyond!Takeaways:* The sexual revolution brought significant changes in women's empowerment (both good & bad)!* Personal experiences shape the narratives in erotic literature.* Health challenges can impact sexual intimacy but can be adapted to.* Ethical non-monogamy was practiced before the term existed.* Date nights can enhance connection and intimacy in relationships - no matter what your age!Chapters00:00 The Sexual Revolution: A Historical Perspective06:03 Personal Experiences and Ethical Non-Monogamy12:08 Maintaining Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships17:50 Adapting to Change: Health and Sexuality24:05 The Importance of Communication and ConnectionSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To pledge your support, help keep this going and for me to spend more time promoting the joys of sex and intimacy for older adults, consider becoming a paid subscriber. A little goes a long way.Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances is a collection of erotic short stories that capture the spirit of the era when attitudes toward sex were being redefined. Set in the wild, libertine world of the 60s and 70s, Sam’s stories follow the character of Butch, a man admired by both men and women for his unapologetic embrace of sexual freedom. The book explores encounters that celebrate human desire, autonomy, and mutual pleasure, offering a refreshing and boundary-pushing perspective on relationships.You can buy it here.Find Sam on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sam.l.feldman Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

One question that often comes up is how to make dating easier for men and women seeking serious relationships.From my experience, finding a man who wants regular sex and understands female anatomy is far less challenging than finding one who desires a deep, meaningful connection beyond just physical intimacy.I’ve been a virtual Facebook friend of Shakti Sundari for several years. During that time, I’ve watched her navigate relationships with men who were clearly incompatible, trying to make things work despite the odds. After taking a break due to family responsibilities, she moved to Glastonbury and settled into the community, which required some adjustment.Recently, over the past three months, she’s been documenting her reengagement with dating on her Facebook profile. She expresses a desire to flirt, have fun, and eventually find a proper adult relationship. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading her long, detailed posts. Shakti has a wonderful curiosity and an open energy. Unlike many women I’ve spoken to who find the online dating scene disheartening and have given up, I can sense that Shakti is still in the process of figuring it all out and wants to help others to find the ‘conscious connection’ they are seeking too.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber to receive sexy stories and sex toy reviews, helping me to support more older people to have pleasurable sex.While she’s still navigating all of this, and being an educator for a significant period of time, teaching tantra, amongst other disciplines, she has decided to hold a series of workshops to offer women and men, during separate events, the opportunity to share their thoughts on the dating world, their experiences and with the hope of gaining more clarity in themselves and their online profiles in how they express themselves and what they are seeking in a partner.She’s offering two online introductory events in January (more if there's demand): on Wed, Jan 15th & Sat, Jan 18th, 2025Both will follow the same format. There'll be a maximum of 20 participants per session. Every woman is warmly welcomeGathering #1When: Wednesday, 15th January, 7-9pmWhere: Online via zoomRegistration: £11 via this PayPal link (please select friends & family payment option):https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/shaktisundarilove/11You can find all the information about the Conscious Dating Collective Workshops here: Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this chat, I had the pleasure of speaking with Sydney Zwicker about the many aspects of pelvic health, especially for women. We explored the emotional and physical connections tied to pelvic health and why women often seek support. It was fascinating to discuss the importance of addressing both physical issues and emotional trauma.Sydney shared her holistic approach to healing, which includes various bodywork techniques and the vital role of creating a safe space for women to reconnect with their bodies. We also touched on men’s experiences, the significance of communication in intimacy, and the need to rethink societal narratives around menopause and women’s health. * Pelvic health discussions are vital for women of all ages.* Emotional stories are intertwined with physical health.* Women often seek help for physical pain, emotional trauma, or spiritual disconnection.* Healing requires addressing both physical and emotional aspects.* Techniques include bodywork, visualization, and somatic coaching.* Men also experience pelvic health issues and need support.* Intimacy can exist without sexuality, focusing on connection.Sound Bites* "You can't separate a woman from her story."* "The body is not out to get us."* "There's no shame in the healing process."* "Men need this work too."* "Intimacy doesn't have to involve sexuality."* "Communication is a practice."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Pelvic Health Conversations01:23 Understanding Pelvic Health and Emotional Connection02:36 Pain Points and Reasons for Seeking Help04:31 The Interplay of Physical and Emotional Health06:30 Techniques for Healing and Body Awareness08:11 Expanding the Scope: Working with Men10:45 The Importance of Emotional Maturity in Healing12:12 Navigating Touch and Intimacy15:40 The Need for Non-Sexual Intimacy18:00 Communication and Intimacy in Relationships21:45 The Role of Elders and Wisdom in Sexuality24:28 Menopause: A Rite of Passage27:56 Reframing the Narrative Around Menopause30:22 The Purpose of Menopause in Evolution32:22 The Dangers of Medical Interventions35:54 The Importance of Body Awareness and Educationhttps://www.zwickerhealingarts.com/https://www.instagram.com/zwickerhealingartsSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I had the pleasure of chatting with Bel de Lorenzo about something intriguing: vaginal gymnastics or pompoir training, as it’s sometimes called. This practice isn’t just about fun; it’s all about enhancing pelvic floor strength and boosting sexual pleasure. And the best news is you don’t need to be an Olympiad or have any special skills to become an expert.We dove into why understanding the pelvic floor is so important and explored various techniques and exercises that anyone can try, no matter their starting point. Bel highlighted that training can be not only beneficial but also enjoyable—who knew working on your pelvic floor could be so engaging?We also touched on the importance of rest and recovery in any training regimen and discussed how tools and toys can elevate the experience. It was a fascinating conversation, full of insights that can help boost libido, confidence, and overall well-being. You’ll find a discount code at the end for Bel’s Vaginal Gymnastics programme. I’m curious to try it myself and will be filling you in on how my training goes!Key Takeaways* There's always something new to learn about sex.* Vaginal gymnastics can enhance dexterity and pleasure.* Kegel exercises are just the beginning of pelvic floor training.* Using fingers can help understand pelvic floor movements better.* A strong pelvic floor can alleviate incontinence issues.* Training can lead to heightened sensitivity and pleasure during sex.* You can start pelvic floor training at any age or fitness level.* Rest and recovery are crucial for muscle growth and strength.* Training can enhance libido and sexual confidence.* Making training fun is essential for consistency.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Vaginal Gymnastics05:58 Exploring Techniques and Exercises12:12 Benefits Beyond Pleasure18:05 The Connection Between Sensation and Training24:10 Enhancing Libido and Confidence29:54 Conclusion and Program Detailswww.gohddess.comCoupon code SA4S gets them 25% off on the program, it is a one-time fee for life.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gohddessReddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/pompoir/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@goh.ddess Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Sexologist Chris Hands and I met a few months ago but the recording was mangled, so it was great to catch up with him again and talk about the intricate dynamics of men's groups which Chris has run for several years and the pervasive influence of toxic masculinity. Our discussion delved into the cultural perspectives on sexuality, particularly among older individuals, and how these attitudes shape our experiences.We explored the role of dance as a profound means of connection, highlighting the benefits of practices such as Biodanza and Five Rhythms in fostering intimacy and vulnerability within the realm of dating. It became clear that modern relationships are rife with complexities, especially given the disconnection many individuals, particularly men, experience in today's society.The impact of the pandemic on our social connections cannot be overstated, as it has prompted a significant redefinition of relationships in later life. We addressed the challenges posed by societal norms in dating, emphasising the emotional dynamics at play. Ultimately, as with most of my conversations with experts, it’s all about learning how to communicate within relationships and the importance of sharing perspectives without attributing blame or anger.takeaways* Men's groups have evolved but often become negative.* Toxic masculinity is pervasive and affects relationships.* Cultural differences influence perceptions of sexuality.* Dance can create physical connections and intimacy.* Biodanza offers a unique way to connect with others.* Vulnerability in dating is increasingly challenging.* Older individuals often withdraw from discussions about sexuality.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation.* Creating a supportive community is essential for connection.* Engaging in group activities can help bridge gaps in understanding. Many men feel disconnected and lonely in today's society.* The pandemic has exacerbated feelings of isolation and anxiety.* Older adults are redefining what relationships look like for them.* There is a growing desire for non-traditional relationship structures.* Both men and women are seeking companionship without the constraints of traditional dating.* Emotional dynamics in relationships require time and understanding to develop.* Societal expectations often hinder genuine connections between people.* Communication is key to navigating relationship challenges.Sound Bites* "Let's just rewrite the rule book."* "Men often just want to fix things."* "I don't do drama anymore."Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background02:54 Men's Groups and Their Evolution05:56 The Impact of Toxic Masculinity08:59 Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality11:54 The Role of Dance in Connection15:08 Exploring Biodanza and Five Rhythms18:11 Navigating Vulnerability in Dating21:45 The Disconnect in Modern Relationships24:06 The Impact of the Pandemic on Social Connections27:02 Redefining Relationships in Later Life29:56 Challenging Societal Norms in Dating33:09 Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Relationshipshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-hands-health2fit Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

It seems obvious, but rarely discussed, is the relationship between how our parents conceive us and how this can significantly influence our sexual energy and development. This topic is important, as it highlights the deep-rooted connections between our childhood experiences and adult intimacy. And yet, I suspect for most of us, considering our parent’s role in how we approach our sexuality is yet another one of those topics that may bring up shame or resentment or a myriad of emotions, which help to suppress feelings of sexual desire or longing.The Influence of Parents on Sexual EnergyIt’s fascinating to consider how shame and guilt from parents can disrupt a child’s natural arousal and sexual development. These early impressions can create patterns that affect relationships later in life. Certain life stages are critical for developing a healthy understanding of sexuality, and disruptions during these times can have lasting effects.Communication in RelationshipsOne of the pressing issues we discussed is the lack of communication about sexual needs within relationships. Partners often carry imprints from childhood, yet they may not fully understand how these affect their intimacy. As we noted, “The partner does not know what your imprints are,” emphasizing the need for open dialogue about desires and experiences.Physiological Changes and Body AwarenessPhysiological changes that occur in both women and men can also alter sexual experiences. Understanding these changes is essential for fostering intimacy. Body awareness plays a crucial role in sexual health; grounding therapy, for instance, helps individuals connect their energy flow with their sexuality. “Grounding is down to earth sexuality,” we agreed, highlighting its importance in enhancing intimate connections.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Navigating Survival BehaviorsWe touched on how survival behaviors from childhood can hinder adult relationships. These ingrained patterns can manifest as barriers to intimacy, making it essential to recognize and address them. “When women close their vagina, men close their heart,” we noted, illustrating how emotional and physical barriers are intertwined.Releasing Stress for Improved IntimacyLastly, we discussed how releasing stress through body awareness can significantly improve intimacy. By cultivating a greater understanding of our bodies and recognizing the impact of childhood experiences, we can pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.https://www.rodeparel.nl/https://www.facebook.com/maya.kerstan.3 Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I was incredibly flattered when Joan Price, who wrote the first book about sex over 60, Naked at Our Age, got in touch about coming on the show to publicise the recently relaunched and expanded edition of the award-winning, Sex After Grief: Navigating your Sexuality after Losing your Beloved.Joan Price is a true trailblazer in the world of senior sexuality and I am very much following in her footsteps when it comes to tackling the taboos around sex in later life. During our conversation, Joan shared her inspiring journey into writing about senior sexuality, and why she has reworked her latest book, bravely tackling the challenges of navigating grief and intimacy. She offered some fantastic advice for anyone looking to embrace their sexuality and explore new relationships after a loss. We emphasised how crucial it is to have honest conversations about our desires, boundaries, and the exciting possibilities of reinventing our sexuality later in life. She will definitely be coming back onto Sex Advice for Seniors in the New Year!Here are some key takeaways from our conversation:* Grief can deeply affect our sexual desires and relationships, but it doesn’t have to define them.* The pandemic has changed how we grieve and connect with others.* Clear communication about what we want and need in new relationships is essential.* Older people can discover new and fulfilling ways to explore their sexuality after the death of a partner.* Talking about death can actually help ease guilt for those left behind.* Approaching dating as a fun experiment rather than a heavy commitment can take the pressure off.Here’s a quick rundown of the chapters we covered:00:00 - Introduction to Senior Sexuality06:00 - Navigating Grief and Sexuality11:55 - Understanding Sexual Urges After Loss17:55 - Communicating Desires and Boundaries24:01 - Reinventing Sexuality in Later Life30:07 - Dating in the Modern Agehttps://www.joanprice.com* Newly updated: Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved* Author of award-winning Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex* Now on BlueSky https://bsky.app/profile/joanprice.bsky.social* For senior sex news and views, subscribe to Joan’s newsletter: https://witty-feather-67285.myflodesk.com/sun5wbx417 Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Holly’s journey began in a poverty-stricken family in Delaware, where she became the first in her extended family to attend college, earning a full scholarship to Liberty University. After graduating with a degree in Biblical Studies and receiving the Horatio Alger scholarship, she initially aspired to be a missionary but later navigated a 20-year marriage that ended amicably. Embracing various roles, Holly found her true passion in empowering women and fostering communities that combat loneliness. Through social media, she helps women navigate relationships and promotes self-love, drawing from her extensive personal growth journey. Now living on a farm near Charlotte, North Carolina, she leads a women’s group called Soul Sisters, connecting women in support and sisterhood.Navigating Love and Self-Discovery: An Empowering JourneyIf you follow relationship and dating coaches on any of the social media platforms, then you’ll have come across @Hope with Holly, who delivers straight talking, b******t-free advice, mainly based on her own experience from a restrictive upbringing in a Christian cult to the often chaotic world of modern dating. Holly’s experiences are a testament to the complexities of love, intimacy, and self-discovery, and I could have talked to her for hours! From Restriction to LiberationHolly’s background undeniably shaped her views on sex and relationships. She experienced sex for the first time on the first night of her wedding. Growing up in a cult environment, she faced strict limitations that impacted her understanding of intimacy and it was fascinating to hear how she has transformed those early lessons into a journey of exploration and empowerment that has led her to become the superstar she is today. The Role of Emotional IntelligenceOne of the most striking points Holly made was about the critical importance of emotional intelligence in dating. Relationships are not just about chemistry; they require a deep understanding of oneself and one’s partner. Communication about sexual preferences is essential for building fulfilling connections. “You can teach a good man to be a good lover,” she reminded us, highlighting the importance of sharing desires openly.The Dating App DilemmaWe also discussed the wild west world of dating apps. While they can sometimes feel like a “dumpster fire,” they also offer opportunities for connection - once you know what you want. Holly shared her very amusing anecdotes, navigating the ups and downs with these platforms, and highlighting the need for patience, resilience and, above all, knowing what you want and sticking to your guns until you find a suitable partner.Friendship as a FoundationWe touched on the idea that friendship can serve as a strong foundation for romantic relationships. Situationships, while often complicated, can provide valuable insights into compatibility and what we truly desire in a partner. Compromise, as Holly emphasised, is key to navigating these particular types of relationships.Redefining Societal ExpectationsThroughout our conversation, we acknowledged how societal expectations can limit personal happiness. Women, in particular, should feel empowered to express their desires and understand what they want in relationships. Physical connection is essential for emotional well-being, and for Holly, that meant holding off on intimacy until she had established a genuine connection with her partner. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Hope with Holly05:55 Exploring Sexual Awakening and Education11:54 Finding Emotional Connection in Relationships18:04 Building a Relationship from Friendship28:11 The Journey of Self-Discovery35:06 The Importance of Physical Connection42:47 Empowerment and Hope in Self-DiscoverySex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. I can’t keep going without your help to pay for all the work that goes into this, including software subscriptions, editing, and time.You can also schedule a 1:1 call with her on her website:https://stan.store/HopeWithHollyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@hopewithhollyhttps://www.instagram.com/hope_with_holly/https://www.facebook.com/HopeWithHollyCoach/http://www.youtube.com/@hopewithholly Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In a recent conversation, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ena Xena, an orgasmic human design coach, and we delved into the fascinating intersection of human design principles and intimacy. Ena’s insights opened up a whole new perspective on how we can enhance our relationships, particularly for those of us over 50.Understanding Human DesignEna introduced the concept of an “orgasmic human design coach.” This unique approach merges intimacy advice with the principles of human design, allowing individuals to better understand their sexual energy and intimacy needs. Each person’s human design chart reveals both conscious and unconscious aspects, providing a roadmap for personal and relational growth.Enhancing RelationshipsOne of the key takeaways from our discussion was how understanding human design can improve relationship dynamics and decision-making. Ena explained that analysing intimacy and compatibility through human design connection charts can reveal valuable insights about how partners interact and support each other’s needs.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.The Importance of Sexual EnergyWe emphasised that sexual energy is vital for our well-being and should be nurtured throughout life. Ena noted, “We create a third being in a relationship,” highlighting how couples can cultivate a shared energy that enhances their connection. Regular dates and intentional time together are crucial for maintaining the health of a relationship. “Don’t take each other for granted,” she advised, a reminder that intentionality matters.Workshops and Self-DevelopmentEna offers a variety of workshops and courses designed to help individuals explore their sexual energy and enhance relational well-being. She articulated how self-development is essential for sustaining long-term relationships. By investing in personal growth, partners can keep their connections vibrant and fulfilling.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Orgasmic Human Design Coaching03:09 Understanding Human Design and Its Impact05:58 The Connection Between Human Design and Intimacy09:05 Integrating Orgasmic Therapy with Human Design11:55 The Importance of Sexual Energy in Relationships14:54 Creating a Nurturing Relationship17:55 Tools for Sustaining Long-Term Relationships21:02 Workshops and Courses Offered by Ena XenaYou can find Ena Xena here:https://openwing.weebly.com/A big THANK YOU to all my subscribers, both paid and unpaid. When I first started this 2 1/2 years ago, I never could have imagined I would now be speaking on panels with academics talking about sexual health in older adults, being asked to participate in TV programmes about Sex over 60. However, most of this kind of work is completely unpaid. I don’t like to put my posts behind a paywall because I’m a great believer that good sex shouldn’t be something you have to pay for to learn about although I get that’s the Substack business model. However, it does take considerable time out of my day to participate in all the activities at which I am being asked to contribute, and that’s where your paid subscription comes in. The more money I can generate from this Substack and brand collaborations, the more time I can focus on Sex Advice for Seniors.Your £4.99/month or £49.99/year can help me to reach more people who may be wondering how to go about having pleasurable sex in later life. Suzanne Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In every episode, I learn something new and in this conversation with pelvic floor physiotherapist (yup, it’s a thing) Amanda Olson and I talk about pelvic health, especially for women navigating menopause and beyond. It’s a topic that often lurks in the shadows, but it’s about time we confront many of the issues that arise from having a weak pelvic floor that go beyond incontinence!Understanding Pelvic Health and Intimate RosePelvic health is a vital part of overall well-being, affecting individuals of all genders and ages. Many people don’t realise how impactful pelvic issues can be, but Amanda’s insights about her company, Intimate Rose, and why she started it, were enlightening. They’ve crafted tools like vaginal dilators and pelvic wands that empower people to take charge of their health.The Importance of Vaginal DilatorsAmanda shared a gem of wisdom: “If you don’t use it, you can lose it.” Vaginal dilators help maintain the elasticity and mobility of vaginal tissue, which is crucial, especially during menopause when our bodies undergo significant changes.Navigating Menopause and Pelvic Floor ChangesMenopause can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions and physical shifts. It’s a time of transformation, and understanding the changes in pelvic floor health is essential. We talked about how many women are unaware of the resources available to them, which is why education is so vital.The Role of Psychological Factors in Pelvic HealthWe also explored the psychological side of pelvic health. Our bodies can develop deep guarding reflexes due to pain or trauma, making it even more challenging to navigate these issues. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are valid—“It’s a true issue, and they’re not crazy,” Amanda said.Addressing Sexual Health Post-CancerFor those who have faced cancer treatments, the impact on sexual health can be profound. It’s never too late to address these concerns, and tools like dilators can play a crucial role in restoring quality of life.Empowerment and Quality of Life for SeniorsThe overarching message from our discussion was one of empowerment. Quality of life can significantly improve with proper pelvic care, and it’s essential for everyone to feel equipped to manage their health. “These are all quality of life issues,” we agreed, emphasising the importance of proper lubrication for comfortable experiences.Check out the full range of products here.Chapters00:00 Understanding Pelvic Health and Intimate Rose02:57 The Importance of Vaginal Dilators05:48 Navigating Menopause and Pelvic Floor Changes09:08 The Role of Psychological Factors in Pelvic Health11:50 Personal Stories and the Impact of Accidents14:49 Addressing Sexual Health Post-Cancer18:10 The Functionality of Pelvic Health Tools20:48 Misdiagnosis and the Need for Awareness24:03 The Path to Pelvic Health Care26:52 Empowerment and Quality of Life for SeniorsWhere to find Intimate Rose:https://www.intimaterose.com/https://www.facebook.com/IntimateRosehttps://www.instagram.com/intimaterose/Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. Your subscription not only pays for my bread and butter sandwiches, but goes towards helping to normalise the conversation around sexual pleasure in later life. For only £4.99/month or £49.99/year you can support me to spend more time talking on panels, chasing down guests, writing articles, making videos and spreading the word about how to enjoy sex when you’re older! Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In my recent conversation with Marina Gerner, author of ‘The Vagina Business’ we delved into the fascinating and rapidly evolving field of FemTech, a sector dedicated to harnessing technology to enhance women's health. As anyone with a vagina will tell you, trying to raise investment for their business, whether in the world of female health or otherwise, there are myriad challenges such entrepreneurs face.It's disheartening to see how societal taboos surrounding women's health can hinder investment and innovation, but hardly surprising, as most investors are men. Marina and I discussed the need to break down these barriers and foster greater awareness and education about women's health issues. This is crucial not just for entrepreneurs but for all of us who care about improving women's health outcomes.We also touched on significant topics like menopause and sexual health in older age. These are often overlooked areas that deserve much more attention in discussions and the marketplace. The regulatory hurdles that complicate introducing new products only add to the complexity of the landscape, making it even more vital that we advocate for change.Marina's book, The Vagina Business, serves as an essential guide through the innovations and challenges within this space. She has done a tremendous job of showcasing the range of products and services being developed and the challenges these founders face in bringing them to market. It underscores the urgent need for support and solutions prioritising women's health. I left with the hope that many of these products eventually see the light of day with their ability to transform female health and are not simply left on the page.You can find out more and buy Marina’s book here.Website: https://www.marinagerner.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marinagerner/Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I’ve been looking forward to this conversation for a couple of months, since coming across Stella Fosse on Substack. A rarity in the world of romance and erotic writing, Stella has a unique perspective, writing for and about older adults. We discuss the challenges and biases in the publishing industry, the importance of representation, and the evolving landscape of self-publishing. Stella shares her journey into writing, the differences between erotica and romance, and the significance of community and social media in building an audience. Our conversation highlights the joy of writing as a form of play and the potential for older characters to inspire readers.Takeaways* The publishing industry often favours younger characters in romance and erotica.* Older women writing erotica can challenge societal norms and stereotypes.* Self-publishing has opened new avenues for authors to share their work.* Erotica focuses on sexuality, while romance centres on character development and relationships.* Diversity in romance writing is still a work in progress.* Marketing for indie authors requires a different approach than traditional publishing.* Social media is crucial for building an audience and credibility.* Writing can be a playful exploration of fantasies and desires.* Community support among writers enhances the creative process.* Older characters in romance can provide relatable role models for readers.Gift Yourself or Others a Subscription to Sex Advice for Seniors This Christmas!As the holiday season approaches, consider giving the gift of knowledge and open conversation about sexuality in later life. Subscribing to Sex Advice for Seniors supports the destigmatisation of these important discussions and highlights the incredible individuals I've interviewed who share this passion. Join us in fostering a more open dialogue about sex and ageing!Chapters00:00 Introduction to Erotic Writing for Older Audiences02:54 The Journey into Writing Erotica05:49 Breaking Age Stereotypes in Romance09:06 The Evolution of Publishing and Self-Publishing12:10 Understanding the Differences: Erotica vs. Romance14:54 Diversity and Representation in Romance Writing17:52 Marketing Strategies for Indie Authors21:02 The Role of Social Media in Building an Audience24:04 The Creative Process of Writing Erotica27:06 Exploring Fantasies Through Writing29:59 The Importance of Community in Writing33:01 Conclusion and Future AspirationsWebsite:  www.stellafosse.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/StellaFosseAuthor/Twitter: stellafosseLinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/stellafosseInstagram:  @stella.fosseCheck out Stella’s Books and Stories:https://stellafosse.com/stella-fosses-books-stories/Write & Sell a Well-Seasoned Romance:Launch Your Author Adventure in Late-Life RomanceVampires of a Certain Age:Five Hundred Years of LovingBrilliant Charming B*****d:Getting Rich is the Best RevengeThe Erotic Pandemic Ball:  Tales of Love in LockdownAphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this conversation, Indigo Stray Conger and I discuss the complexities of opening up relationships, particularly for those in long-term partnerships. We explore the spectrum of ethical non-monogamy, emphasising the importance of communication, understanding emotional dynamics, and navigating the challenges of swinging and polyamory. The discussion also highlights the significance of finding supportive communities and the potential for personal growth and exploration of sexuality later in life.takeaways* Ethical non-monogamy can mean different things to different people.* Communication is crucial when discussing opening up a relationship.* It's important to be on the same page about what opening up means.* Emotions can complicate agreements about non-monogamy.* Work with a coach or therapist experienced in non-monogamy.* Take time to discuss and explore feelings before jumping in.* Workshops can provide a safe space to explore sexuality.* Older adults can still explore their sexual selves.* Finding communities for non-monogamy can be challenging.* It's never too late to have these conversations.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy03:00 Understanding the Spectrum of Opening Relationships05:57 Communication: The Key to Successful Non-Monogamy08:59 Navigating Emotions in Open Relationships11:56 The Challenges of Swinging and Polyamory14:49 Exploring Individual Interests in Relationships17:59 Finding Communities for Non-Monogamy20:51 Starting the Conversation About Opening Up23:58 Final Thoughts on Exploring Sexuality Later in LifeHere's the link to Indigo’s Choosing Therapy article on open relationships and how to talk with your partner if you want to open up: What Is an Open Relationship?You can find Indigo Stray Conger here:milehighpsychotherapy.com Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of 'Sex Advice for Seniors', I had the pleasure of chatting with sexologist Heather Howard about the challenges faced by individuals with mobility issues in experiencing sexual pleasure. How do you find the ideal, comfortable position to be intimate with your partner after a hip or knee replacement? How can you transition from perhaps a lifetime of having sex in a position that hits all the right spots to finding a new position that does the same?We discuss the importance of understanding ergonomic adjustments, the psychological impacts of mobility limitations, and the differences in sexual desire and identity across genders. Because I always encourage my guests to offer practical advice, Heather shares sexual positions for those recovering from surgery and emphasises the significance of mental flexibility in navigating sexual function. This conversation especially highlighted for me the need for accessible resources and open communication about sexuality, especially when your body parts aren’t working like they used to!If you’re feeling generous and want to show your appreciation for the work involved in creating this podcast, promoting it and, more generally, helping older people to have a happier, healthier, more fulfilling sex life, consider becoming a subscriber.Takeaways* Mobility issues can significantly impact sexual experiences.* Ergo Erotics provides resources for pleasurable comfort.* Common mobility issues include hip and knee pain and pelvic pain.* Psychological factors play a crucial role in sexual motivation.* Sexual identity is often tied to physical capability.* Mental flexibility can enhance sexual function post-injury.* Gender differences affect how individuals approach sexuality.* Practical adjustments can help maintain sexual intimacy after surgery.* Ergonomics in sexual activity can lead to sustainable pleasure.* Open communication about sexuality is essential for health providers.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Mobility and Sexuality Challenges03:07 Understanding ErgoErotics and Its Purpose06:05 Common Mobility Issues Affecting Sexuality09:01 Psychological Impact of Mobility Challenges on Sexuality11:59 Navigating Sexuality After Major Health Changes15:09 Gender Differences in Sexual Desire and Identity18:02 Practical Tips for Sexual Positions Post-Surgery20:48 The Role of Ergonomics in Sexual Comfort23:57 Exploring Tools and Aids for Enhanced Sexual Experience26:59 Conclusion and Resources for Further SupportThis episode is sponsored by Higher Nature - creators of the Rekindle supplement, which launched today! Nature's sexiest plant-powered blend, Rekindle, has been created to rekindle your passion. I’m currently testing this all-natural libido enhancer, which does what it says on the tin. :) Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this conversation, I enjoyed speaking with tantric teacher Rahasya to explore the intricate world of tantra and sacred sexuality. We delved into our personal journeys, cleared up some misconceptions surrounding tantra, and discussed its relevance for older adults. Together, we navigated the emotional complexities of sexual relationships, emphasising the importance of commitment on spiritual paths and the potential dangers of dabbling in tantra without proper guidance. Our discussion highlighted the necessity for a deeper understanding and respect for the practices involved in tantra, showcasing its transformative power when approached with seriousness and intention.Takeaways* I began my journey into sacred sexuality over two decades ago.* Awakening is just the beginning of a spiritual path, not the end.* Tantra is often misunderstood and misrepresented in modern culture.* The emotional side of tantra can be dangerous if not approached correctly.* Many enter tantra for superficial reasons, but true seekers discover deeper meaning.* Supporting older adults in their sexual journeys can lead to profound healing.* Past experiences significantly impact one’s sexual expression and intimacy.* Dabbling in tantra without commitment can lead to negative experiences.* True spiritual paths require a level of commitment that many may not be prepared for.* The serious seeker must navigate the difficult and often uncomfortable path of spiritual growth.Sound Bites* "I completed my journey of sexuality by 40."* "Awakening is really the beginning of a path."* "Tantra is about learning from spiritual communities."Chapters* 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Sexuality* 02:59 The Journey of a Tantric Teacher* 05:56 Understanding Tantra: Beyond the Misconceptions* 09:11 The Role of Tantra in Relationships* 11:46 Supporting Older Adults in Their Sexual Journeys* 14:55 The Impact of Past Experiences on Sexuality* 17:57 The Dangers of Dabbling in Tantra* 21:00 The Commitment Required for Spiritual Paths* 23:58 Conclusion: The Path of the Serious Seeker Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Judson Brandeis to delve into the often-taboo topic of men's sexual health. We tackle critical issues like erectile dysfunction and testosterone replacement therapy, exploring how these challenges impact not just physical well-being but also mental and emotional health as men age.Our conversation sheds light on the vital role of blood flow and innovative treatments available for men over 60. We also confront the stigma that surrounds discussions of sexual health, emphasising the urgent need for awareness and education in this area.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. Your subscription enables me to spend more time researching and speaking with my guests, promoting good sexual health for older adults and the cost of my recording software, editing, and other miscellaneous expenses.Key Takeaways:- Many men seek help for erectile dysfunction and testosterone replacement.- Testosterone can revitalise physical, mental, and sexual vitality.- Ageing often brings erectile dysfunction, which can affect confidence and relationships.- Medications like Viagra and Cialis are both safe and effective for treating erectile dysfunction.- Nitric oxide boosters can enhance the efficacy of these medications.- Healthy blood flow is crucial for sexual function and overall wellness.- Embracing the changes that come with ageing is key to proactive health management.- There is a significant stigma surrounding sexual health discussions, particularly for older men.- Men should also be informed about women's health issues linked to sexual wellness.- Open dialogue about sexual health can foster better outcomes for everyone involved.Sound Bites:- "Men's sexual health often gets brushed under the carpet."- "Testosterone can ignite your libido."- "Viagra and Cialis are nothing short of miraculous."Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Men's Sexual Health02:55 Understanding Testosterone and Its Impact05:58 The Role of Erectile Dysfunction Treatments09:01 The Psychological Aspects of ED12:00 Navigating Ageing and Sexual Health15:12 Innovative Treatments and Therapies18:07 The Importance of Blood Flow21:05 Addressing Stigmas in Sexual Health24:07 The Connection Between Heart Health and ED26:55 Final Thoughts on Sexual WellnessJoin us for an enlightening discussion that aims to break down barriers and promote healthier conversations around men's sexual health.https://brandeismd.com/Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Do you consider sex like a McDonald’s burger or a Michelin-starred meal? Do you know the difference and what part tantra plays in how we connect with our partner(s)?I’ve interviewed several tantra practitioners over the years; each has a different take. In this episode, Janice Lee delves into the world of Tantra, exploring its true essence as she understands it beyond the clichés often associated with it. Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. Your support means I can spend more time researching and speaking with my guests, promoting good sexual health for older adults and for the cost of my recording software, editing and the other subscriptions I need to keep this show on the road!We discuss the importance of intimacy in sexual relationships, practical tips for reviving passion in long-term partnerships, and the significance of understanding one's own arousal. Janice shares her journey into Tantra and the misconceptions surrounding it, emphasising that genuine connection and intimacy are essential in modern dating.Sound Bites* "Tantra is about intimacy, not just sex."* "Sex has become kind of like fast food."* "It's about being playful and in the moment."Chapters00:00 Exploring the Essence of Tantra04:51 Reviving Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships09:50 Understanding Arousal and Communication14:59 The Journey to Authentic Sexuality20:11 Breaking Down Misconceptions About Tantra25:02 Finding Genuine Connection in Modern DatingYou can find Janice Lee (Jaylala) - Heart and Soul Tantra - here:Janice’s Booking CalendarBio.Link/Jaylala & Social MediaJanice’s YouTube ChannelBoundary Bliss On-line Course Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In a recent post, I wrote about self-exploration and how little many women know and understand their anatomy, especially when it comes to sexual pleasure. This week’s podcast is an interview with Michelle Germey, a Yoni therapist, about the importance of understanding female anatomy, the challenges women face regarding body confidence and sexual health, and the impact of ageing on sexual desire. We discuss the need for open communication about sexual issues, the role of clinical sexologists, and the resources available for women seeking help. The conversation emphasises the importance of self-exploration, acceptance of bodily changes, and the normalisation of diverse vulva appearances. Michelle shares insights on enhancing intimacy and pleasure, even as one ages, and the significance of scheduling intimacy in busy lives.Takeaways* The term 'Yoni' refers to female reproductive organs and embodies femininity.* Understanding one's anatomy is crucial for sexual health and confidence.* There is no 'normal' appearance for vulvas; diversity should be celebrated.* Ageing can lead to changes in sexual desire and physical response.* Communication about sexual health is essential for maintaining intimacy.* Accessing sexual health services can be challenging, especially for women.* Clinical sexologists play a vital role in addressing sexual health issues.* Women often experience shame around their sexuality and bodies.* Self-exploration and understanding personal pleasure are important.* Scheduling intimacy can help maintain a fulfilling sexual life.Sound Bites* "I wanted to specialize in female biomedical issues."* "The Yoni is those female organs of the womb."* "There is no normal; it's just what it is."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Yoni Therapy02:50 Understanding the Yoni and Female Anatomy06:04 Body Confidence and Normalizing Vulva Diversity08:55 Ageing, Sexual Desire, and Changes in the Body11:59 Communication and Overcoming Sexual Shame14:47 Accessing Sexual Health Services and Support18:09 The Role of Clinical Sexologists21:01 Exploring Female Sexuality and Pleasure23:46 Scheduling Intimacy and Finding Pleasure26:52 Resources for Sexual Health and TherapySex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. Your support means I can spend more time researching and speaking with my guests, promoting good sexual health for older adults and for the cost of my recording software, editing and the other subscriptions I need to keep this show on the road!https://www.cosrt.org.uk/search-members/You can find Psychosexual Services on the NHS here. Not all regions offer these services.Exampleshttps://slam.nhs.uk/service-detail/service/psychosexual-service-114/https://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/our-services/psychosexual-clinic Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode, I interviewed Susan Bratton, an intimacy advisor, wellness expert, author of numerous books about sex and relationships, and veritable powerhouse with 44 programs, gifts, and subscriptions. A topic that comes up time and time again here is how to communicate with one’s partner or anyone with whom you intend to be intimate about your sexual desires. This is where Susan’s concept of a sexual soulmate pact comes in, which we discussed in this episode. We explored the significance of open communication and the benefits of ageless sexuality. Susan explained that a sexual soulmate pact is an agreement between partners to openly discuss their needs, desires, and boundaries throughout their intimacy journey. This pact fosters ongoing communication and encourages partners to express themselves without fear of judgment. We also discussed the idea of a sex life bucket list, which can help couples explore new experiences and keep their sex life exciting.Takeaways* A sexual soulmate pact is an agreement between partners to openly discuss their needs, desires, and boundaries before, during, and after intimacy.* Open communication is key to maintaining a satisfying and fulfilling sex life.* Ageless sexuality is possible, and sex can continue to improve and bring joy throughout life.* A sex life bucket list can help couples explore new experiences and keep their sex life exciting.Sound Bites* "I've written 44 books and one of the books that I've written is called Sexual Soulmates, the six essentials for connected sex."* "The sexual soulmate pact takes care of two big problems: 'I don't know what I want' and 'I don't want to say anything because I don't want my partner to feel like they've done something wrong.'"* "The sexual soulmate pact is the antidote to the monotony of monogamy."Chapters00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Susan Bratton03:05 The Concept of a Sexual Soulmate Pact08:02 Addressing Communication Challenges18:44 The Antidote to the Monotony of Monogamy23:58 Desire: Safety, Security, Novelty, and Variety33:12 Sexual Confidence and General ConfidenceYou can find Susan at:SusanBratton.comBetterLover.comDownload your FREE Sexual Soulmate Pact here Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What is your sexual birthright and can you say, with 100% honesty, that you are able to fully embrace your sexual self without shame, embarrassment or fear? That’s the topic of this week’s discussion with one of my oldest guests, Galen Fous, a sex therapist and educator. During our conversation, we discussed the role of kink and the erotic in maintaining an active sex life, even with physical limitations. Galen encourages couples to have open and honest conversations about their desires and to explore the vast territory of pleasure beyond traditional friction sex. He also highlights the healing and empowering aspects of reclaiming one's sexuality.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Takeaways* Explore your authentic sexuality and embrace your sexual birthright.* Engage in open and honest conversations with your partner about your desires and fantasies.* Move beyond traditional friction sex and explore the vast territory of pleasure available to you.* Reclaim your sexuality and heal any past wounds or traumas.* Embrace the opportunity to deepen intimacy and connection with your partner through sexual exploration.Sound Bites* "I'm still having sex at least three times a week and I'm talking about sex that is in the range of three to five hours per session."* "This is the great time of life. You know, this is your time to have the freedom to pursue what interests you and what excites you. And sex can certainly be a big part of that."* "To be honest, it's a very complicated at this stage when we have decades of indoctrination and programming and beliefs and stories and judgments and experience painful experiences and all those things now have are a big, those are all tangled up with your authentic sexual expression."Chapters00:00 Introduction and Unique Perspective03:12. Maintaining an Active Sex Life in Later Life08:45. Embracing Freedom and Pursuing Sexual Pleasure11:36. Untangling Beliefs and Programming18:15. Moving Beyond Friction Sex26:07. Exploring the Vast Territory of Pleasure31:51. The Importance of Honesty and Courage34:37Conclusion and Invitation for Further ConversationsFind Galen at : https://GalenFous.comSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe