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UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMITTABLE! Half the folks in the USA with HIV cannot pass on the virus. Wut? PrEPducator and sex-positive HIV counselor Raul Quintero (@rq_rude) shares mind-blowing updated research and enlightening new info about prevention and treatment of HIV today.  TOPICS: Dating someone with HIV, miracle pills, getting a prescription for PrEP / Truvada, PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis), body fluids, stigmas, myths, fears, outdated info about HIV transmission, hope and compassion, WHO (World Health Organization) and CDC, hilarious STI testing swab techniques and more.   For more resources, checkout aidsmap.com, benryan.net and poz.com for accurate HIV information. Join Sandra at Patreon.com/sexnerdsandra for bonus episodes and more!

THERAPY! MASCULINITY! GENDER! Dave Ross, comedian and former co-host of the show, shares what it was like being the co-host of this sex podcast for 100 episodes. It's an episode about closure and reflection on a working relationship. It gets deep. It gets honest. Team Fun gets real.    Join Sandra at Patreon.com/sexnerdsandra for bonus episodes and more!

SEXY GIFS! SEX TRAFFICKING! THIS PODCAST IS BACK! Online platforms are kicking off adult content. Tumblr just banned porn and erotic images. Looking at freedom of speech, public health concerns, sex-positive access to self-affirming imagery and sex worker rights, Lady Cheeky and Sandra explore the implications of the just implemented Tumblr Porn Ban. ~~~ Lady Cheeky is the Famous Alter Ego of sex educator, activist, speaker and author Elle Chase. Signup for her newsletter at ElleChase.com to find out more about  Pickup Elle's “NSFW Totally Naughty Coloring Book” and “The #NSFW Totally Curvy Coloring Book” at SheVibe.com. Pickup her popular book, “Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower your Sex Life,” available at your favorite bookseller. ~~ This episode is literally made possible by Patrons like you. Support the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast at Patreon.com/join/SexNerdSandra

FUN WITH BRAINWASHING! Meet Miss Holly, a kinky pioneer using clicker training for sexual happiness. Turns out methods used to train dogs, parrots and dolphins can help humans develop deeper, happier relationships. TOPICS: Consensual brainwashing, Chris Pratt in Jurassic World, people-pleasers, pleasure, brain chemicals, dog vs human training, Dom/sub relationship training, domestication fetish, "positive punishment" vs "positive reinforcement" vs "negative punishment" vs "negative reinforcement," sex magic, ASMR whisper tingles, triad polyamory, kinky marriage, oral sex communication, dangers, and achieving goals. PLUS training concepts like triggers, cold shaping, marks, rewards, the 3 fail rule and coming on command.

ARE YOU ON TEAM FUN? Author, podcaster and feminist troublemaker Jaclyn Friedman helps Sandra as they splash around the murky waters of consent. Going beyond no-means-no, they examine issues in heterosexual context, showing how to move from awkward to confident and from clunky to kind. TOPICS: The sex-positive movement vs the anti-sexual-violence movement, unscrewing masculinity/media/sex ed, sexual liberation, romance, body language, making it sexy, bad sex vs violence, affirmative/enthusiastic consent, sex scripts, consent apps, coerced experiences, thinking ethically vs legally, body sovereignty, gender, unpacking old trauma, playing Gotcha, the rules, drugs and alcohol impairment vs taking the edge off, which questions are rapey and how to violate our very own boundaries!

WHIPPING AMERICA BACK INTO SHAPE! Mistress Tara Indiana (Den of Iniquity) shares what 25 years of domination could do for America, with a hearty look at politics, sex and the middle-aged white men. TOPICS: Plural of "Dominatrix," female supremacy, Trump's micropenis, kink-positive politics and so much more!

BREAST ORGASMS! Tantra, sex and relationship expert Psalm Isadora is the star of "Cougar Club" on Playboy TV. She enlightens Sandra on confident seduction, growing up conservative, finding Tantra in India, shooting a reality TV show, owning her eroticism and dating young men.

CAN SCIENCE MAKE YOU SEXIER? Behind-the-scenes audio of a fantastic interview from the Sex Nerd Sandra Fusion TV special, "The Search for Sexy." Dr David Frederick of Chapman University shares immediately useful love life skills culled from attraction research. Let's make the world a better place to date! TOPICS: Muscles, value, idiosyncratic preferences, online dating, kindness, confidence, creating intrigue, danger, falling in love, limerence, increasing arousal, unexpected reward, playing hard to get, sparking connection, honest and dishonest signaling, direct or innocuous pickup lines, high status signaling, breasts vs bottoms, waist-to-hip ratio, ovulating stripper research, humor, paradox of choice, online photos, and more! Checkout the Fusion TV special "The Search for Sexy" hosted by Sex Nerd Sandra on YouTube! Online dating? Let Sex Nerd Sandra tune-up your dating profile! Click Here to checkout her new project, PROFILE PUNCH-UP! For serious. do your profile right and they come to you.

RACE PLAY! A great night continued as "The Perverted Negress" Mollena talks about what to do when "some of edge play is 'this is so f***ed up I've got to try it'" and her husband Herr Meister (Mr. Master) gets up to share how he moved to America to follow his dream. TOPICS: Racially-motivated scenes, feeling drawn vs repulsed, when to try the thing, choosing the right partner, role-play, Master and slave, Torah, collaring ceremony, dreaming to have a submissive, accepting yourself, "real slavery and suppression vs consensual love in this way," "Playing Well with Others," "Sound of Music." AUDIENCE Q&A: Asexuality in kink, edutainment, sharing fantasy with a partner, flogging catharsis and getting into the scene.

PLAYING WITH FEAR! Recorded live at NYC's Union Hall, "writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller & Award-Winning Executive Pervert" Mollena Lee Williams-Haas shares a fun kinky guessing game, taboos and empowering ways to explore your boundaries.

FEMALE EJACULATION! Amy Jo Goddard, sex coach and author of "Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence" is back on the show sharing how each of us can regain our voice, stand in our power and come home to ourselves! TOPICS: Feelings, approaching the Big Round Ball, sexual empowerment, regaining your voice, reframing stories, sexual epiphanies, coming home to yourself, agency, consciously single, people-pleasing tendencies, leaving yourself, core sexual creative energy, asexuality, archetypes, anatomy geek-out on female ejaculation, "New View of a Woman's Body," lousy g-spot research, fantasizing, truck stop train, orgasm, and what it means to be a Woman on Fire!

WHITE GUILT! Three all-star members of WOCSHN (Women of Color Sexual Health Network) break down what racial justice is and what the heck race has to do with sex. TOPICS: Diverse sex educators, community, black men in swinging, stereotypes, objectification, assumptions based on what people think you are, micro aggressions, sexualization and academia, defining racial justice, invalidating Grace Jones, all lives matter vs black lives matter, not seeing color, "embedded, systematic white supremacy," light skinned privilege, invisible lab coat, fetishization, home ownership, intersections of privilege, anti-racist storytelling, shame & guilt, the spicy Latina, lingerie and toy colors, interracial dating, Pokemon, learning your history, messed up medical studies, internalized self hate and how we step into the world.

ORGY DOME! Anal sex innovator, author and director Tristan Taormino shares hilarious stories and mishaps of over a decade of teaching butt stuff to America. BUT FIRST: Comedian Andy Wood talks their shared observations at the sexy ATTOL Burning Man camp. TOPICS: Acid, panic attack, sex machine doula, The Tristan, man bag of sex toys, how "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" came to be, research, prostates & g-spots, Halcyon pink camp, kayak sex, early anal adopter, 2nd edition, butt bondage, secret plugs, a fisting love story, one finger oracle, double-layer lubing, position show-and-tell and an audience Q & A!

ASMR WHISPER BONUS! Sexologist, founder of The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health and aspiring death doula Megan Andelloux's brain has a problem and now this sex & death nerd is turning her interests inward. TOPICS: Lipstick for blowjobs, brain damage, primary progressive aphasia vs early Alzheimers vs dementia vs mild cognitive impairment vs frontal temporal lobe disorder (FTD), telling someone bad news, orgasms, sex at end of life, anticipatory grief, anger, confusion, bitterness, floods of emotion, stepping away from work, changes in brain and behavior, overactive sex drive research, inhibition, spasms, masturbation, sex with a partner, support group sex talk, hyper sexual vs absent filters, sadness, Death Salon, Art of Dying, hope, boredom vs loneliness, invisible disability, cancer vs dementia, loved ones changing, loss of who you are, how to be supportive, mindfulness, sending short loving emails, staying connected, consent & dementia, PTSD, calming blanket, restraints.

SEX SCIENCE! CON DRAMA! Sandra checks in with Nerdist Sciene Editor Kyle Hill about some bizarre behavior she witnessed at Wonder Con. TOPICS: Sex research, coercion, speaking up for yourself, depression, anal sex, feminism, equality, sex parties and introvert tendencies! Kyle Hill is a science writer and communicator based in Los Angeles, California. He received his bachelors of science in civil and environmental engineering from Marquette University, and his masters of arts in communication from the same university in 2013. In 2013, he started writing for Scientific American, finding a niche in the intersection of science and pop culture. Since then, his nerdy work has been published in WIRED, Popular Science, Slate, The Boston Globe, Nautilus, io9, and BuzzFeed. He has appeared as an expert on Fox News, Al Jazeera America, and Huffington Post Live, held writing positions at Nature Education and Discover Magazine, and has worked as a TV science correspondent for Al Jazeera America. In 2013, he was named one of the 20 science communicators to follow by WIRED magazine. His goal as a science communicator is to use pop culture to teach science in a fun and digestible way. Kyle is currently the Science Editor of Nerdist Industries.

FUN WITH GUILT & SHAME! Dishing their discoveries from folks from Evangelical America, documentary producers Matt Barber and Brittany Machado share how a culture of purity might effect marriage, orientation, virginity and our concepts of self. Watch the film Give Me Sex Jesus! So good!

IS MY SEX NORMAL?! Sandra explores the mind of therapist and thought leader Dr. Chris Donaghue as they flip through his new book, Sex Outside the Lines where he challenges norms in psychology and the media. TOPICS: Wounded diversity, Non-conformity, health on the outside, asymmetrical hair, passing, expected cheating, ignoring your desires, denial, waiting till marriage, watching partner have sex, Jada Pinkett Smith, jealousy, sex as a tool for learning, sexual fascists, cis gender disorder, sexism, flirting, asking for kisses, honoring your turn-ons, expanding arousal, systemic and institutional racism, valuing sex, orientation and more!!!

Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. BUT FIRST! Elle Chase and Sandra discuss the sexy of Magic Mike XXL, Scandal, Sense8,  TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more!

Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more!