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Author: Janice Formichella
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Want to add more flavor to the relationship you have with yourself? With others? Do you want to do it in a way that is just your own? This podcast is your chance to connect with an entire community of people who feel the same way.
Join host Janice Formichella for weekly chats about dating, healthy relationships and communication, secure attachment, solo living, a dash of non-monogamy, and of course, sex.
Each juicy episode is backed by research, humor, practical advice, and tips you can use to add plenty of flavor to your life, no matter what your relationship status.
Join host Janice Formichella for weekly chats about dating, healthy relationships and communication, secure attachment, solo living, a dash of non-monogamy, and of course, sex.
Each juicy episode is backed by research, humor, practical advice, and tips you can use to add plenty of flavor to your life, no matter what your relationship status.
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Touch, taste, sound, smell, hearing…each of our five senses can be used for sexy purposes. That is what I am chatting about this week with Arya concierge specialist and fellow kinkster Athena Gayle. Explore new things with your partner! Get your own Arya box here.In this ultra-juicy, ultra sensational episode Athena Gayle and I cover: -What is sensation play? -What is sensory deprivation (and why Athena loves it!)?-Different toys to use to stimulate each of the five senses-Ice cream blow jobs-And MORE! What else do you want Athena and I to explore in future episodes? Let us know below. Follow Athena on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/athena_gayle/ And hit me up on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/janiceformichella/ Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
The cycle that some anxious people find themselves in is REAL. Dead-end relationships with people who can’t meet their needs. People who aren’t there for them emotionally. People who run away instead of meeting them where they are. People who suck them dry. BUT WHY?Want to support my work? Head to Patron and buy me a glass of wine here. That’s what attachment coach Ashley Kaylor and I are back to talk about this week. We are continuing our series on using knowledge about our attachment styles to *transform* us. Go show Ashley some podcast love! Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.com💙🤍🖤Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Be a better lover - to yourself and others. Welcome to the Erotic Blueprints™.👄Learning about your Erotic Blueprint and the Erotic Blueprints™ of your partners (and even friends) is one way to expand your opportunities for pleasure and connect more fully with others. ⭐⭐⭐ What is your Erotic Blueprint type? Take the quiz here. In this edition of our Erotic Blueprints™ exploration Erotic Priestess initiate Patty Alfonso and me, Sex and the Solo Girl podcast host Janice Formichella discuss the “Sensual” Blueprint, which just happens to be my own Erotic Blueprint. Get access to *videos* of each of the episodes in the series on my YouTube channel! Subscribe at Janice Formichella. ⭐⭐⭐ *Please please go show Patty Alfonso some podcast love! Check out her work on her website here: https://www.pattyalfonso.com/ And follow her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/thepattyalfonso/
Be a better lover - to yourself and others. Welcome to Sex and the Solo Girl’s five-part series on the Erotic Blueprints™.What is your Erotic Blueprint? Take the quiz here.Learning about your Erotic Blueprint and the Erotic Blueprints™ of your partners (and even friends) is one way to expand your opportunities for pleasure and connect more fully with others. 🎥👉 Get access to the entire series on my YouTube channel here. In this sensual series, Erotic Priestess initiate Patty Alfonso and I explore each of the Erotic Blueprint types one by one. In this edition we explore the “Energetic” Blueprint. Have you ever head of energetic orgasms? Patty is going to tell us all about them. Patty also walks us through a grounding practice to help us get in touch with our own Energetic side. Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
I hope you will enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes from 2024. It’s time to have some sexy fun! Have you ever been curious about trying something hot in or out of the bedroom that is not considered “vanilla?” Do you already do something that is? Let’s talk about it! In this episode my soul sister Jessie Maree and I are getting kinky. We cover: -The top searched for kink in 2024 -Our favorite kinks-The difference between a kink and a fetish-Auralism, bondage, choking, cuckolding, electrostimulation, golden showers, and MORE-Getting started with kinkMore sassy episodes with Jessie: The anal sex chronicles #1The anal sex chronicles #2Want to learn more about macrophilia? Check out this Cosmo article.Resource discussed in this episode: Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Do you avoid dating “avoidants?” Do you struggle with avoidant attachment and want to be more understood? This week’s episode is for both of you! Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.Yay! I am having a great “attachment nerds” chat today with colleague and — certified attachment coach Ashley Kaylor about all things related to the dismissive/avoidant “type.” We break it down! A few things we cover: -The characteristics of dismissive/avoidant attachment behavior -Some “causes” of avoidant attachment -Navigating dating someone who with dismissive/avoidant attachment tendencies -Overcoming dismissive/avoidant attachment -Myths and misconceptions about “avoidants” Go show Ashley some podcast love! Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.comWant to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? I hope you will join me to use the remaining weeks as a chance to educate yourself, spread awareness, advocate, and create visibility for this often under-discussed societal issue. Domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence, battering, or spouse abuse) is a pattern of abusive behavior used in a relationship to gain control and power over an intimate partner. It happens to everyone across race, gender, socioeconomic status, education, and sexual orientation.Every minute, roughly 20 people are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States.Every year in the United States, more than 10 million women and men become victims of domestic violence. More women lose their lives to intimate partner violence than any other means. In the U.S. alone, more than 55 percent of murdered women are killed in relation to intimate partner violence. Nearly one million women have been shot by an intimate partner and have survived.Nearly 1 in 10 women (9.4%) in the US have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime.It is a persistent issue that finds victims feeling powerless and without means of support or escape. Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender at rates of 77% for women ages 18 to 24, 76% for ages 25 to 34, and 81% for ages 35 to 49.Domestic violence continues to go unnoticed by many because it is underreported with only 52% of victims reporting the crime to the police in 2019.What you can do this month to support victims and survivors: Educate yourself. Read up on the issue.Share what you learn with others. Post on social media. Be brave. Be bold. Learn about what to do if someone comes to you for support. I will drop a separate mini-sode on this issue. Make a donation to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. You can visit them at https://ncadv.org/ and using the link in the show notes. Don’t just consume true crime for entertainment. A lot of the stories portrayed in our favorite documentaries and podcasts are sad examples of the terror that a lot of women around the country are faced with daily. Share what you consume and talk about the content and the stories with friends and on social media. Again, be brave. Commit to sharing content on the topic all year long. Thank you for listening. Please keep following my podcasts as I will be dropping more content through the month.
Dating? We’ve got you covered! In this edition of Dating Q&A Brian Dunn and I answer: -I want to experiment sexually but my background is mostly vanilla. How do I approach people I’m dating about it?-Can you develop feelings over text messaging alone? -He won’t FaceTime with me - is that weird? Do you have a dating, sex, or relationship question? Put it in the comments or hit me up on my website: JaniceFormichella.com Brian DunnPlease go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunWant to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Always be learning! In this fun, FUN rewind one of my besties and I chat about the relationship lessons we learned in the year prior to recording. EACH - EVERY relationship and breakup teaches us something……….IF we let them. In this classic episode Jessie Maree and I chat about the lessons: Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.Actions always mean more than words. It’s okay to take a break or re-calibrate. Take relationships slow! It is OKAY to end things.Don’t date someone’s potential. Single is awesome! It is CRUCIAL to maintain your support network no matter what your relationship status. Enjoy! Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDo you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Close your eyes and think about something sexy. What comes to mind? I have a few things…and so does my girl Kelsey. This week we are giving you an intimate look inside of our deepest desires. Get your very own Arya box! Connect with a live concierge here. From frontier woman to corseted princess to sugar baby to fairy to exhibitionist we talk about it all - and more. Do you want to support my fantasies? Go over and buy me a glass of wine on Patreon. Sex and the Solo Girl episodes mentioned:-Leaving an unhealthy relationship -Sex-related injuries-Sex outdoors xxoxoxoxoWant to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
An interview with June Lovejoy: Japan adult video idol, porn industry standards advocate, musician, and all around sweetheart. AND - eeeeeek! Sex and the Solo Girl appears before a live audience for the first time! Broadcasting on behalf of the upcoming AltLife Expo (info and DISCOUNT CODE below) from Ecchi Expo Denver 2025 I had the honor to interview June and chat about: -Meeting Japanese vs. American fans-The art of giving gifts to porn stars-June’s dragon dildo gift from a Denver fan (who was also in the audience)-Porn industry standards - especially Japanese vs. AmericanTune in! And please make sure to give Sex and the Solo Girl a follow on your favorite podcast platform so you don’t miss my next live show. Attend the very first AltLife Expo and get 15% off your ticket! Click here and use code SOLOGIRL. Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup
Bend over! This episode is all about pleasure, pain, and paddling. Get your very own Arya box! Connect with a live concierge here. Let’s talk about spanking! And let’s do it with kink-enthusiast, sex copywriter, Arya concierge, and friend Athena Gale. We cover: -What is impact play? -Types of impact/spanking-Why Athena loves to be spanked-What types of paddles we each own-The Map of Slap-Spanking safety -How I discovered I like to be spanked PLUS - my own very personal and very naughty recent spanking story. Go show Athena some podcast love! Follow her on IG at athena_gale. Want to support my work? Head to Patron and buy me a glass of wine here.
Book a free first secure dating coaching session here. Stripping isn’t just for professional strippers to do at the club. This week I chat with my friend Elana Love about her unlikely career as a stripper and how we can all embody “stripper energy.” (And guess what? Elana is an ex-Mormon just like me!)We discuss: -Elana’s experience leaving the Mormon church. -Her first night as a professional stripper. -The art of the strip tease.-Twerking. -Embodying “stripper energy.” -Building body confidence. -Becoming a professional stripper. -Practical tips for feeling sexy day in and day out, in and outside of your home. ✨✨Go find Elana and subscribe to her Only Fans! Head to her website, ElanaLove.com. ✨Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDo you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Welcome to another edition of Dating Q&A with Brian and Janice. Today we cover:-”All the men I date want to be exclusive before I’m ready - how do I move forward with dating?”-She “friend zoned” me even though I did everything right.” Can you relate? Push play and get our advice. We are here to help! Want to support my work? Become a patron HERE. Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunI want to connect with you!Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaWant to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
What is cock worship? And why do some people crave the opportunity to worship a cock? Well…we are about to answer those questions and everything else you never knew you wanted to know about the topic. Today Jessie and I get down and dirty and talk about: -The meaning of cock/body worship-Why we each enjoy “cock worship” -Planning a good cock worship ceremony -Dirty talk-Deep throating-Ongoing/daily cock worship And of course - a juicy look into our own sex lives. 👉👉Please go show Jessie some love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareecoAnd check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/. Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDo you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Can you be erotic and innocent at the same time? Erotic Priestess initiate Patty Alfonso thinks you can, and that embracing the two at the same time will open portals for pleasure and connection that you never knew existed. This is a juicy conversation. We cover: -The importance of pleasure-Why sexual pleasure is the perfect portal for personal growth-Expanding the mainstream definition of eroticism -The Erotic Blueprints™PLUS - Patty’s touch-free, energetic orgasms ⭐⭐⭐ *Please please go show Patty Alfonso some podcast love! Check out her work on her website here: https://www.pattyalfonso.com/ And follow her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/thepattyalfonso/ 💙🤍🖤Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: JaniceFormichella.com and my IG: @janiceformichellaDownload The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup 💙🤍🖤Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
We all want to have our desires met in bed. But how do we get there? What is our role in making sure we experience pleasure with others? I am thrilled to be offering another bonus episode straight from the feed of The One Podcast with Gina Catherine. This time we talk about asking for what you want in bed. We offer a bunch of baby step/beginner tips all the way to advanced. And of course while sharing our own stories and recent experiences. ⭐⭐⭐ *Please please go show Gina Catherine some podcast love! Follow her on IG at GinaCatherine_Listen to The One podcast on Spotify here or wherever you listen to podcastsLearn more about her work on her website: https://www.ginacatherine.love/Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup Hit me up on IG: @janiceformichellaCheck out my work: JaniceFormichella.com I want to connect with you! Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Welcome to another edition of Dating Q&A with Brian and Janice. Today we cover:-”All the men I date want to be exclusive before I’m ready - how do I move forward with dating?”-She “friend zoned” me even though I did everything right.” Can you relate? Push play and get our advice. We are here to help! Want to support my work? Become a patron HERE. Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdun
Masturbation…I’m guessing the word alone elicits some sort of reaction, right? Well get ready to feel some feels, because this week that’s what Dr. Darrel Ray and I are talking all about! You hear that right - make sure you push play for this educational and well…gratifying episode. Want to schedule a free consultation to discuss my coaching services? Get direct access to my calendar here. Want to connect with Dr. Darrel Ray? Find him on LinkedIn here.Learn more about Recovering From Religion, Dr. Ray’s nonprofit support network for people transitioning from religion here. My favorite quote from the episode: “If you don’t use your mutual sexuality you will lose your mutual sexuality.” ~Dr. Darrel Ray Hit me up on IG: @janiceformichellaCheck out my work: JaniceFormichella.com I want to connect with you! Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.
Dating? We’ve got you covered! In this edition of Dating Q&A Brian Dunn and I answer: -Am I weird if I don’t desire a serious relationship? -Are women attracted to married men? -HELP! He has bad hygiene - what should I do? And PSSSTTT—I have some personal experiences to inform each of the dating quandaries in this episode. More than I ever wanted to admit! Hit me up on IG: @janiceformichellaCheck out my work: JaniceFormichella.com I want to connect with you! Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 💙🤍🖤Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.





fantastic show- I recommend this one to anyone who likes learning new things, thinking about relationships in unconventional ways, and who like their conversations SPICY! 🔥